Alpha Male

Becoming an Alpha Male.

You can spot him in the crowd within seconds of entering the room: He is the guy every other man wants to be like. He just naturally knows how to flirt with all the women he interacts with. He is the guy who knows how to attract women in his sleep. He usually doesn't even need to go on dating sites, so maybe the one thing he can't provide for you regarding women is online dating advice. But that's OK.

He is an alpha male.

He may not be the most attractive man in the room -- and often he isn't, but he sure knows what to say to women. He doesn't use magic like a magician, but he finds a subtle way to demonstrate a few magic tricks to attract women in the room.

Watch carefully: everyone follows this man's lead. If he wants to move the party outdoors, everyone readily agrees. If he wants to turn off the hip hop music and put in a movie, no one argues. If he wants to take the hottest woman home with him, he barely lifts his eyebrow. In essence, he is the leader of the pack. He is usually so good with women, he has no interest in bragging or posting a field report showing off his conquests, but he may purely to help other guys.

If you want to be like this guy, you don't have to be the smartest man in the room either.

What you must be is fully in tune with the rest of the pack -- in other words, you need to be able to read everyone's body language like it was second nature. You need to know what women want. You need to have enough self esteem so people know you are genuine. You need to really, truly like the other people around you. All of these traits will help you become this guy.

One way to learn how to become that alpha male is to have enough common sense and self esteem to take control of a situation. This doesn't mean being bossy, it just means gently leading others. Just like in the animal or human kingdom -- it is about being the dominant person in the room or forest.

Sometimes, mainly among animals this spot is claimed by force, but humans can do the same by using our intellect. To become this guy, you must first work on becoming the best man you can be: physically, emotionally, mentally and so on. This means paying attention to your body and seeking some proven health and fitness advice from guys who are in shape and have the body type you want to achieve.

Look at the pickup artist and the alpha male and their similarities. A really, good pickup artist demonstrate the same qualities. The cheesy wanna be pickup artists? Not so much.

Common traits you might want to cultivate to become this guy or to learn how to pickup women include: being the center of attention, being comfortable in your own skin, knowing funny pickup lines, not caring what other people say or do and acting very relaxed and at ease in nearly any situation. Much of this can be achieved through reflection and reading some of the more recommended self improvement books that are out there.

You can look at online dating advice, but what will really help you is to find a local wingman. It is super important to find a member of your same gender who will help teach you how to attract members of the opposite sex.

This is a buddy who won't mind you having success and will help you meet women in social situations. When trying to find the perfect wingman, you might want to ask him to give you some field reports first, to show he knows what he's doing and can help you become an alpha male.