learning to become a leader

one of the skills mentioned over and over again by PUAs is we need to become a leader. We need to be able to lead the girl we want because not only is this attractive, it allows you to have the inititive to close her. However there are those of us who arent firm what we want (I'm one prime example of this) and making choices could be tough as well.

The reason for this is because I'm always worried about the outcome,

eg: what if I win over this guy's gf and he comes back chasing me with a knife?

what would happen to this dude now that I'v stolen his gf away from him?

Should i kiss the girl?

Where should I suggest dinner on our date?

'The worst possible thing a girl could do is blow you off'. These are wise words from a PUA but its not so easy to donif you've already made substantial investments into a girl.

How can we become better leaders knowing that decisions can sometimes be fldifficult to make? How can we not worry about being blown off when we can potentially lose all that we've invested?

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Recommended books:
Conquer Your Campus by Mark Redman

come on man, you're killing me

Don't even think of this stuff. Seriously.

YES


Wherever you feel like eating.

Stop making so much of an investment in one girl. Like investing, learn to diversify.

Killer advise Bill, but I don't haveto tell you that!

So many guys invest soooo much in a girl. If she ain't the girl of your dreams, or the only one you can envision ever being with, (and if she is.. I'm sorry I have no advise in that arena), all interations should be "test" and "response" with the useless chit chat and pander kept to a minimum. some expiremental fields call it "test" and "check" check meaning not "check if it works" because thats what the "test" is, check meaning check mark, the response had responded.

Probe: Response

Test?: Check mark

Test: Response.

See what works, see what don't work. if it works you've found VALUABLE info. What she likes, what she'll do, what WORKS.

If you get a "fail" could mean one of two things, could mean that particular test/ stimuli will not work in this encounter/ scenario/ specimen, and you have to go on to other expirement/ test scenarios to find more

~OR~

could mean, you've blown it. either this was one big ass hurdle/ pop-quiz of a "test" (you like farkin?) and the chick cannot respond (positively) and you've blown all chances/ your cover at reeling her in or this has been the last in a long string of minor "test" attempts and you're drawing dead. You've lost value/ esteem to the chick, and the chick at this point, if unamiable toward your advances and challenges, is free to go. I sometimes give them a shrug and a wink and a "psh, I tried." or a "your loss." making them A. Feel like maybe they did miss their chance at *something* and come around or B. Know that you're "not some child to be toyed with" (famous last words of Geronimo), and that you wont be seen wasting your time pandering to some bombshell who don't even know how to follow a guys que...in short, they don't have to like you, if they fake it, they get a "check"

this of course, is for a target rich environment when you're screenign a high number of quality chicks in the least amount of time. Helps to make the 'test' lighthearted and comedic and not to piss off too large of a group, but VERY light negs work great for the primary test (of HOT girls only), or if the chick is in the 5-8.5 range, maybe some good ol fashioned reverse psycology self depricating humor. Anykind of small talk/ opener that gains an in from which to start test/checkin away.

Hope I didn't do more damage than good Always remember scenario, speciman, stimuli; Subject to change, not valid with other offers or discounts

k. it wasn't Geronimo... Having trouble finding which famous chief was bayonetted and shot while in captivity after being taunted by guards.... research fails me.. but not Geronimo..