One of my buddies introduced me to "The Game" a couple of years ago, then it never struck a chord with me. I also thought I didn't have any problems when it comes to meeting women back then either.
Just to paint a picture -
I'm a good looking, fit guy, 20 years old. I have killer style, I'm a Sales Consultant at a high-end shoe store downtown Vancouver, I do a bit of personal shopping for some of my clients. I'm told by pretty much everyone I meet that I am mature for my age. I'm set-up with a nice place downtown. I'm waiting on applications to UBC & SFU. I've never had a steady girlfriend, but a lot of extended flings, almost all of them being girls I have worked with or been in some sort of social day environment with. Talking to and getting to new people normally isn't a problem at all, hence my job. But just the other day I realized that I have problems approaching women, in certain situations.
Last Thursday, I went out to club here in Vancouver called Mirage. Thursday's there are basically cheap student nights, $3 beer & $2 shots, no cover. I had heard nothing but good things about the place from my friends. A buddy of mine was down to go out, he had been raving about the place for months. We got there, and I became too chickensh1t to approach any women, I decided to get hammered and relax a bit. After calming my nerves, I went to the dancefloor, and within a couple minutes it turned into a good nite. I ended up danced with bunch of different girls, I even had one girl literally grab me and pulled me away from the girl I was dancing with so she could have me. Problem was, I could dance and whatever but really couldn't strike up a conversation at all. The nite ended with me being drunk mess, and making an ass of myself after approaching a girl that I used to go to high school with. I felt sh1tty about it because it I felt like I let down my wing, I ended up just being a downer for most of the nite.
The next day I thought about the whole situation, tried to figure out what my problem was. I just really don't know how to strike up with a complete stranger, who is obviously attractive. Maybe there is a bit of pedestal problem there that can be easily taken care of, but I'm not sure on how to introduce myself, and then develop some sort of repoire. I wouldn't call this a confidence issue, I am happy with myself except in this one department. I just don't know where to start I guess.
Any and all suggestions, reading material, coaching is appreciated.
I want to take on this challenge head-on.