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    SwimShim7 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Question Need Help With Getting Opened

    I consider myself a very green AFC even though I've been in and out of the PUA space through a number of years. Typically in relationships I would just drop any pick-up related habits and restart after each one (which was dumb for a number of reasons). I'm a relatively attractive, tall guy, but I have a lot to work on in terms of early game (opens and attraction w/o strong social proof already).

    That being said, I've been opened by 2-4 girls on a number of occasions where I was showing off a lot of social proof from generating a lot of interest with friends and other sets I would open just in the interest of getting the night going. When I screw up a typical set starting at the open, it's fairly obvious to me where I've farked up.

    However, when I get opened, it's always such a jumble of states and semi-sh1t tests that I usually either completely blow the set out (hands in the face, shocked looks, etc) or totally botch transitioning the interest. I think I may also be laying on a bit too much sarcasm in my general interaction.

    I've always done well building comfort and escalating in the later stages, but somehow the early steps have always been a challenge for me. Is it easy to accidentally cross from "cocky funny" to "sarcastic ass" -- and how often can you recover from that sort of slip up? I'm sure a large part of it just comes from more interactions, but any small tweaks from people with similar experiences would be great. Thanks!

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    Default Re: Need Help With Getting Opened

    I've said it before and I'll say again, if you're just waiting to be opened then you're just settling for the scraps. Granted some of those "scraps" may be good looking but you should be actively improving your odds by doing your own approaching and opening and not just waiting around to get lucky from the occasional chick opening you.

    As far as moving from being cocky/funny to the negative side of a sarcastic ass, I've personally had to work on this myself. It's fun to be humorous around chicks and flirt with the occasional tease thrown in. I'd caution you on not overdoing it with cracking jokes at her expense. Basically consider her self-esteem. If you're running your mouth and it's making her feel self-conscious or that you're not being considerate about her social considerations (like how she looks around the people that are around you two like her friends), then I'd knock that crap off.

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    SwimShim7 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need Help With Getting Opened

    I definitely need to open a lot more. A LOT more. I've been trying to hold off on using canned material, but I tend to blank out a lot after the "Hi." More valuable to just crash and burn repeatedly or practice later steps getting by on canned opens?

    I tend to get caught up in all the strong body-language and "alpha-ing" that it probably pushes out sarcasm instead of flirting.

    Thanks again for your advice.


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