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    Sihiyung is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Lightbulb I've drilled my feet to the ground

    all my life from when i was in second grade with a "girlfriend" to my most recent girlfriend i had in 11th grade i never really initiated relationships with girls, i always was too nervous about how know when to go in, the girls basically came on to me so i acted on it. well im now a freshman in college, and i just cant seem to talk to women, im attractive and they all think it, but im just too scared to say anything because of fear of being laughed at for trying to be flirty and sweet. ill get opportunities to change that, but i dont know how. but im tired of sittin around in ignorance, now that i've had this epiphany i really hope i can move foreward.

    anyone wanna throw some pointers this way?

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    Default Re: I've drilled my feet to the ground

    Face your fears
    You are a freshman in college so you have an endless opportunity to chat with girls.
    Work out small steps for how to be more social and interact with girls and the fear will fade away.
    Shyness is not a thing in itself, it is merely a lack of practice at being confident.

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    Default Re: I've drilled my feet to the ground

    Quote Originally Posted by Centre View Post
    Face your fears
    You are a freshman in college so you have an endless opportunity to chat with girls.
    Work out small steps for how to be more social and interact with girls and the fear will fade away.
    Shyness is not a thing in itself, it is merely a lack of practice at being confident.
    Any idea how you can work up your confidence? I'm never confident enough to talk to women for a long time.. I always seem to run out of chat content.

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    Default Re: I've drilled my feet to the ground

    Like other have said, build up your confidence and get over your fear. Another thing, you don't need to be sweet to all the girls. Show them that you can be sweet, but save the gestures for the special ones that earn it.

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    Default Re: I've drilled my feet to the ground

    im jealous, i wish i could go back to my college years haha. man its alot of fun.

    But if you are afraid to initiate why dont you just join alot of clubs etc where there will be lots of girls. Little by little you will have to have some interactions with them and with each interaction you will improve and get better and increase your confidence.

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    Default Re: I've drilled my feet to the ground

    You just have to keep practice being social. Think of confidence being like fitness...up have to keep exercising it to maintain it.
    As for where to start...you can start small. E.g. talk to the person behind the till, ask them if its been busy and go from there

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    Skeptikill is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: I've drilled my feet to the ground

    Talk to all sorts of people. Often i chat to girls even though i have no interest in them physically. Its all in good fun and socialable. I talk to guys and dont focus all my energies on just girls. Being all round socialable is a great skill. I went out last week with a group of people (i met one of them a month ago in a different country) and at the end of the night they all loved me (both guys and girls). I was in super fun and just having fun and talkign with everyone.

    I would read some content (just like on this site) and put yourself in every single opportunity to meet new people and socialise! the more people you know the more options you have and more exposure.

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    Default Re: I've drilled my feet to the ground

    Try the Stylelife 30 Day Challenge in the book "Rules of the Game". It'll walk you through getting through your greatest fears.

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    Default Re: I've drilled my feet to the ground

    It's simple but takes courage. Have the balls to approach, talk with her, eventually ask her out, then eventually try to escalate things physically. The more experience you get at doing this the less anxiety you'll have because you begin to realize that you can handle these situations. A lot of approaches with women are really mundane and you'll quickly realize it and stop making such a big deal about it.


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