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    Default Re: HELP! How do I approach college girls?

    Quote Originally Posted by johnnybob62 View Post
    I REALLY need help guys, im 18 in college and ive never even kissed a girl/had a girlfriend. im not looking for a girlfriend i am just looking to play the field a little bit and get out there to get experience. how do i stop imagining that everything il say would be creepy?


    Since you’ve got some Approach Anxiety I’d urge you to go out to a local cologne shop not to buy anything just to get you used to talking to women members of staff for advice on a product, for example,


    You: Hi, I'm looking for a certain type of cologne that smells of citrus is more for a night out kind of use than the day time, do you have any suggestions?

    She'll stick around and have a bit of a flirt with you, she'll recommend colognes, she'll probably say this one is absolutely amazing...



    Basically it's getting you used to talking to women without worrying you’re creepy, and the best thing is you'll not be shot down as you're asking relevant questions that pertain to her job so she'll be more than willing to help.

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    Default Re: HELP! How do I approach college girls?

    Quote Originally Posted by DLM24 View Post


    Since you’ve got some Approach Anxiety I’d urge you to go out to a local cologne shop not to buy anything just to get you used to talking to women members of staff for advice on a product, for example,


    You: Hi, I'm looking for a certain type of cologne that smells of citrus is more for a night out kind of use than the day time, do you have any suggestions?

    She'll stick around and have a bit of a flirt with you, she'll recommend colognes, she'll probably say this one is absolutely amazing...



    Basically it's getting you used to talking to women without worrying you’re creepy, and the best thing is you'll not be shot down as you're asking relevant questions that pertain to her job so she'll be more than willing to help.
    the nearest mall to me is 1.5 hours away, my college is in the middle of nowhere. any other suggestions? what can i ask a random girl that doesnt make me look stupid? not the time cause everyone has a phone

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    Default Re: HELP! How do I approach college girls?

    They’ll be something in your local area that allows you to go in where you can speak to someone.

    For example maybe a student library asking for a certain book, while they’re looking for it have a general chat.

    Or while getting your hair cut ask the hairdresser (if she's a woman) ‘do you think I’d suit my head shaved?’ it’s a genuine question.


    Or maybe try your local shop you frequent get familiar with the teller, I’ve used this one just last week, a local supermarket I was in around 2am, I’m no good with self-service part so I went to the sole teller, I told her break times was over and gave her a wink/smile, I noticed a little tattoo she had one her hand so I commented on it, we got talking about tattoos how she loves original pieces, I told her how I design tattoos, I got her name didn’t go for her the number, I generally wasn’t trying to score her, but for them 5 minutes I was there I probably made her night.

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    Default Re: HELP! How do I approach college girls?

    Hey johnnybob62,

    Have you made any approaches since your first post on 22 March? There have been a few responses to this posting all with good advice. Have you used it?

    I posted a few exercises on a seperate thread - did you do them?

    Unless you make an approach, nothing is going to happen. Not a single thing!

    You need to approach. If you approach like a creep, you'll come across creepy. If you approach with confidence you'll make an impression.

    In The Vibe, Bill actually recommends aiming to get rejected your first approach to warm up. Approach! Approach! Approach!

    Don't have a care in the world. the truth is Approach Anxiety never truly goes away. There is no magic cure. You need to flex this "muscle" again and agian and again.

    Don't wait another moment. Approach today. Don't post in a months time for more advice. If you start approaching today, your post in a month will be about you interactions with girls not about being creepy. Approaching girls is not creepy. It is the way the world works. Girls expect it and are attracted to confident approaches.

    rs5096

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    Default Re: HELP! How do I approach college girls?

    do you guys have any tutorials or conversations i cn read/memorize to use? since i am starting off i think that would be best then once i get more comfortable i can move on to coming up with my own things. i dont want to be the average guy that asks "where are you from, whats your major" etc. I want to attract a girl in the conversation so shell be thinking about me for the rest of the day, HOW DO I DO THIS!? I need examples, please.

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    Default Re: HELP! How do I approach college girls?

    your in college right? why don't you talk to your proffessors a little? you can answer/ask some questions during class and it will give you instant social proof and confidence, as long as the questions/answers are relevant and don't make you look like a moron. it has worked for me and i already am at the point where i flirt with my phsycology teacher in front of a class of on hundred people without even breaking a sweat. sometimes i even get laughs out of the crowd to make things even more awesome. though be warned you will be seen as outgoing and people will approach you wanting to get to know you better

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    Default Re: HELP! How do I approach college girls?

    Quote Originally Posted by rs5096 View Post
    Hey johnnybob62,

    You're having a problem with what's called the "transition" i.e. how do you transition from an opener to a normal conversation?

    To be honest, openers are far less important than the transition. You can basically open the conversation with anything e.g. "Hey, do you do karate? I'm sure I saw you at my karate class last week." Lame, but it will prompt a response. (This is just an example; use your own relevant opener).

    So in this example she say's "no, I don't do Karate." Don’t let the conversation die. Transition here:

    You can say " so weird, really looked like you, but I'm glad it wasn't coz that chick was struggling with kicks to the...well you know where..."

    Smile

    Then ask, "So if you don't do karate, what do you do for fun?"

    Now the point is be genuinely curious as to what she answers. Let's say she says, "I like dancing", don't ask another question, rather make a statement, something like "yeah I can see that, you look like a free spirited person and dancing definitely brings the expression and emotion out. I once saw Lord of the Dance and Michael Flatly was brilliant. Irish Tap is amazing. What type of dance are you into?

    See: you make a related statement and only then ask another question. Don't interview her. It should be 80% statements 20% questions with a genuine curiosity about the girl and her answers. Girls also are emotional rather than factual, so bare this in mind when you converse.

    Hope this helps
    rs5096
    This is some good stuff rs5096. Thanks for a quality reply. This is the main area that I struggle with as well. Once I can get past this transition and into a good conversation, I'm usually golden. I like the statement/question comment. That's something that I can easily remember.

    Rando

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    Default Re: HELP! How do I approach college girls?

    Hey dude,
    Ive been known on other forums as peel and if you search my posts Ive made hundreds on the same or similar topic and have about 2-3 years of experience after you. Right now Im a junior in college with still regretably huge chickening out fears. I still feel the same way which is why Im reading your thread. Ive in total only approached a handful after hours of walking around chickening out.
    Today I broke that habit by approaching two different sets indirectly. (see my new thread for details)
    Heres what I learned: Some will think of you as the creepiest weirdo ever. Some will be fine. Some things you can say that will make it not weird but you will have to LIE YOUR A$$ OFF. For instance: saying you already met at a party and give extensive details on a made up party etc. I dont like this.
    My conclusion for now is its worth plowing through a few girls thinking you are a creep to getting to one that doesnt since you made a semi-decent opener.
    But yes I need advice too on this. I hate lying or being fake as it makes me feel horrible inside. And I skimmed through cyc and I dont like social circle gaming I dont like having a bunch of fake friends and acting like a fake jock.

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    Default Re: HELP! How do I approach college girls?

    Quote Originally Posted by peel View Post
    Today I broke that habit by approaching two different sets indirectly. (see my new thread for details)
    Heres what I learned: Some will think of you as the creepiest weirdo ever. Some will be fine. Some things you can say that will make it not weird but you will have to LIE YOUR A$$ OFF. For instance: saying you already met at a party and give extensive details on a made up party etc. I dont like this.
    My conclusion for now is its worth plowing through a few girls thinking you are a creep to getting to one that doesnt since you made a semi-decent opener.
    But yes I need advice too on this. I hate lying or being fake as it makes me feel horrible inside. And I skimmed through cyc and I dont like social circle gaming I dont like having a bunch of fake friends and acting like a fake jock.
    You don't have to lie or be creepy. Believe it or not, you really can just walk up and start talking. I opened a girl at a coffee shop today with a bunch of books strewn out across the table, making it impossible for anyone to sit down with her. She looked busy. I went up anyway, cause I was legitimately curious what she was doing. I laughed a little and said "There's no way you have that much homework on the first week." She looked up, a surprised and a little embarrassed, as if I'd just caught her doing something she shouldn't. She said "actually, I'm just writing up my schedule for the next few weeks." I asked if I could sit with her and she cleared the table for me.

    The only secret to talking to people is this...be genuine. You don't have to lie, in fact you should avoid it at all costs. It'll bite you in the ass later. Find things about her that interest you, and you're golden.

    As for opening, it really doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it. Rs5096 nailed it. The attitude makes the opener. Go into it with confidence and you'll be fine
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    Default Re: HELP! How do I approach college girls?

    can u give me a tease compliment and sorry my topic is not related I'm new here plss help me plsss


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