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    Default Not sure how to open her

    Ok so there's this cute girl in one of my university classes. For the past two classes I've sat about three seats down from her, although the other seats were open. I was going to approach but I saw that she had taken up 2 chairs with her bags and whatnot so I figured she wanted to be left alone. Some things I've noticed: I think she's noticed be glancing at her. Occasionally I'll look over at her and then look away and a few seconds later I can see her adjusting her hair out of the corner of my eye, I've heard if girls react after you look at them it's a good thing, but maybe that just applies to eye contact. I've tried seeing if she ever glances at me when I walk past, doesn't seem like it. Anyways I was thinking of approaching like this:
    sitting down where she normally does and getting to class before her (she sits in the same area each class). Or should I approach after she sits down to show confidence? Also I have two options when I ask for her number: say I'm organizing a study group and i'll text/call her with details. Or just ask for her number without a reason. And should I ask for her number the first time I talk to her, do I look weak not approaching before? Thanks

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    Default Re: Not sure how to open her

    Come in after she has already sat down, sit near her (next to her if possible, if the class is spread out sit with 1 seat in between, just make it look natural). Best openers are situational, ask her about the homework or something class related. Then crack a joke about it. If you had a really easy HW assignment be like "yeah it took me all night!". The key is to SMILE and be light-hearted about it, what you say doesn't really matter as long as your energy is positive. After that, boom you're in. Keep shooting the sh1t with her or just wait until class is over. Convo can be class-related at first but the goal is to branch out from there. The class is your baseline. From there more conversation topics open up. "Why are you taking this class? Oh, you want to be a doctor? I could never be a doctor! I wanna be a competitive eater!" Like that.

    Don't put so much pressure on the first encounter. Even if all you exchange is two sentences, and she walks out before you have a chance to talk to her again, you'll still see her the next day. At that point a simple "how's it going?" will be appropriate. And then proceed from there as outlined above. The key is to have positive energy and be funny and light-hearted. You don't even have to flirt initially. Just show her you're a fun guy to be around. Later you start escalating/flirting and feel her out based on how she responds. Don't wait too long but you definitely don't have to flirt on the first day or two.

    Do not ask for her number the first day. If she's in your class you don't need it. Once you start "feeling it" with her then ask for her number. Tell her you wanna see her outside of class. And dude don't treat this like such a damn challenge, you're just psyching yourself out. Been there, done that. There's no need for canned openers or any game at this point. Just start talking to her, be fun, get to know her, escalate. Good luck man.

    /noob advice but hope it helps.

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    Default Re: Not sure how to open her

    Thanks for the advice but I'll only see her in class twice, is there a way to speed it up a bit?

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    Default Re: Not sure how to open her

    I'm very AFC not a PUA so I already felt bad giving advice here, but since nobody else seems to be responding I'll give my 2 cents again.

    Do everything I said, just converse, probably force the conversation a little more. Don't just leave it at 1 thing, keep talking/asking her questions. That is assuming she appears open to converse with you. Stay positive and fun. Shut up during class if you must but definitely walk with her after you get out. When she's about to split tell her you'd like to see her outside of class sometime, ask for the #. Make sure you weren't just talking random bullsh1t about the class, that won't work, try to be fun, get her smiling/laughing. Make sure the conversation wasn't just like 30 seconds. Do that getting the # won't be too difficult. But beyond that it will get tougher. Good luck.

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    Default Re: Not sure how to open her

    She came like 20 mins late today and I was already sitting down with seats around me open, she chose to sit in front of me and she didn't hold the door for me or anything when she walked out so I figured she doesn't care how I perceive her. However in class I did see her looking backwards in my direction when I guy got up to leave I thought nothing of it because she was probably just looking at the guy and not me but when I was looking at the prof in front of me I noticed she was looking my way so I looked at her out of the corner of my eye and she quickly looked again, she I give it another chance and approach Thursday (last shot) or just let it go?

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    Default Re: Not sure how to open her

    Dude, GO for it! It doesn't matter what she thinks of you, if you wanna talk to her, talk to her. Sure it helps if she's already interested but it's NOT necessary. She WILL be interested once you show her that you're a confident, fun, and overall awesome dude.

    You have nothing to lose here. You may never see her again. Good luck man!


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