Re: Blow up big time. Is it possible to get her back?
Yolo007, it's true that it's more difficult, but I normally get their inner value really soon based on their reaction to negs (and calibrate accordingly) so that's not a big problem. Also, if I get their inner value and external value, why should I not try to pick her up? If it's not the same, I should act according to their inner value (except for physical negs as they have a more negative value).
20Nation, I have 0 experience at making 'bridges' like that. But I see how this problem would have been completely avoided if I made it. Then the phone number/facebook would become merely an irrelevant instrument for something settled. Thank you for your advice, and I will do now what I always do. I'll do the opposite and then learn how to calibrate. I'll try not asking for the number of some girls but instead saying to meet up tomorrow/2 days after. There's a lot to learn, do you know any good resource for this?
Also, I think it was implied in your question but I will say explicitly what I think, all the value you have gained in the interaction fades out really fast after this is over and you start to become just one more of her list, even if you made it much better than others at the approach. So there's no chance of getting all the value you gained later on. If you talk to her too soon you are needed and the later you talk to her the less value she thinks you have. For my case, I think it also had a great importance the lack of comfort which would have made her to know me better.
My English is probably not completely right and you might need an extra effort to figure out what I actually meant. Also I'm not a pro, but I keep practicing and learning almost every day.