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    Default Is this an invitation?

    When a girl says she's bored via text or FB chat can it be assumed this is an invitation for you to come over. When HB6 or 7s message me they often start with "hey whats up im so bored right now!" which comes off as needy but HB9 or 10s still still it in conversation usually when they want to do hang out or further the conversation. Can I always assume they say this to gain a certain response from me, and how should I respond to this?
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    Default Re: Is this an invitation?

    Generally when that happens, I'll reply with something such as:


    You: "How Bored?"


    *she'll give some reply that usually gives you a better idea of what's going on*


    Here is a chance to give yourself some dhv...


    You: "Ahh, yeah a bunch of us were gonna go [INSERT DHV ACTIVITY HERE] an hour ago but plans fell through"


    *Her response*


    You: "Hey, you should come over"




    Don't chat on IM too much. Keep it short and simple, and don't reply instantly. Usually when girls tell you they're bored, it means they want to hang out. Keep in mind they could have texted/IM'd that to multiple guys.

    THING IS... You kept your convo short, down to the point, time-spaced your replies (DHV), and even gave yourself an upper hand with extra DHV in the conversation. Who knows what the other guys respond with hahaha.
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    Default Re: Is this an invitation?

    It could come off as an invitation but it can also be a test for the following: 1. She wants to see if you have a life. It is more attractive if you say "I'm going (somewhere) like a bbq, a club, party, etc." in other words, you're telling her you don't have time to be bored. A guy who is also bored will immediately say "Me too. Come over!" 2. She wants to see if you are interested in her. Obviously if you are interested you'll try to entertain her or invite her somewhere and as soon as you do, she'll say "Oh Joe just called, gotta go!" and you'll look like a tool. I've had MANY girls hit me up say they are bored. What am I? Your entertainment clown that you call when you're bored? Hell no. I always say, "I thought you'd be having fun as much as me. Today is a damn good day." With that I let her know I have a busy fun life and if she likes it SHE will try to join me, which will make her the chaser. NEVER tell her you're bored too. Remember ONLY BORING PEOPLE GET BORED. The best of luck bro. I hope it helps your game.

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    Default Re: Is this an invitation?

    Being the go-to person when a girl is bored is not the best place to be. It basically means if something comes up you are no longer part of any plans she MIGHT have had with you. Of course this is generally speaking and not taking into account your current relationship level. Anyways you probably want her contacting you to invite you somewhere rather than when she's bored. So your response would have to come from the frame of you're the Prize.

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    Default Re: Is this an invitation?

    Hey Yolo


    this is definitely an invitation for you to have a conversation with a woman BUT I would be wary here of 'fake flirts'. Your question reminds me of a blog I wrote recently on women who are commonly known as 'cock teases'.

    Flirting for women simply gains wanted attention and assurance: and I think that's what's happening here when the women invite you to chat. A lot of them are probably not looking for things to move in a sexual direction, but they do want to be 'entertained' whilst they're 'bored'.

    I'm not saying cut them off, or don't reply, but be careful about how much time you devote to them and where the relationship is heading: if it towards the friend zone STAY CLEAR

    Good luck

    Marni


    Quote Originally Posted by Yolo007 View Post
    When a girl says she's bored via text or FB chat can it be assumed this is an invitation for you to come over. When HB6 or 7s message me they often start with "hey whats up im so bored right now!" which comes off as needy but HB9 or 10s still still it in conversation usually when they want to do hang out or further the conversation. Can I always assume they say this to gain a certain response from me, and how should I respond to this?

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    Default Re: Is this an invitation?

    I wouldn't take an "im bored" as an invitation as i hear it all the time, even with friends that i have no intention of getting intimate with. Its just something that girls say.


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