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    Default Asking a girl out by email

    I'm 20 and in community college. There is this girl in one of my classes who I was planning on asking out, but I can tell she dropped the class. I probably should have done it sooner, but she always went towards the bathroom after class, so I wasn't going to follow her.

    I have her email because we did a project in a group of 4; I'm wondering if it would be weird to email her and ask her out saying I had planned on it. I'm somewhat shy, I don't know if I created any attraction; we didn't talk all that much, but I figure I don't have anything to lose. It's pretty certain that I will never see her again, and I'm graduating in a month.

    I'm probably going to do it either way, but I just want some feedback.

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    Default Re: Asking a girl out by email

    Okay, whatever you do, DO NOT ask her out by e-mail. Nobody checks it and even if she does, it's a cowardly and weird way to ask a girl out. Let's see what would be a better option.

    If you didn't talk much and don't know if you created any attraction, you probably didn't. Now usually, in a school/work environment, you could go indirect by talking to her to create attraction, dhv and ultimately ask her out. You'd have to go indirect because going direct can really come back at you in a professional/school environment. But since you didn't create any attraction when you met and you're graduating in a month, I think you should go direct. You have nothing to lose like you said.

    Walk up to her and just be like 'hey, we did that project together. How are you? Listen, I think you're very (cure, beautiful, fun, whatever. Just pick something sincere. You have to actually mean it). So I want to go get a drink tonight at (place) around (time)'. Make it something like that. You can change it to make it sound better or more sincere but that's the general idea.

    If she says yes, great. If she says no, just move on. And do not take her to the movies and/or dinner. Don't spend more money on her than a drink or two. Don't bring presents or flowers.

    Good luck!

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    ghostrider91 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Asking a girl out by email

    Normally I would do that. The reason I am asking this question, which I guess I should have made more clear, is that she dropped the class so I don't have the benefit of seeing her in person. All I have is her e-mail.

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    Default Re: Asking a girl out by email

    Ok so you dont have much choice but to send her an email then. I would start an email conversation going, use one of the online dating oppeners of the forum here. Dont just go straight for the date.

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    Default Re: Asking a girl out by email

    Start off with a simple email saying 'hey missed you in class, how is it going?'. If she communicates back ok move to a less formal chat program like msn chat etc. While chatting first time ask for her number. If you get her number maybe send her a text saying 'enjoy chatting with you, goodnight sweet dreams' later in the evening. If she replies 'goodnight sweetdreams too' or 'I also enjoyed chatting' she is likely attracted. If she doesn't use any chat programs ask for her number via email. Wait a day or two then text her 'may I call you?'. Call her up and asked her out.


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