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    Default NEED help with a girl i work with..

    Okay i need a little help here guys

    Just started working at a resort got my eyes on this girl

    I have obviously talk to her, joked around a bit but dont know what to do from here?

    I do have confidants just no game!

    (just to let u know she has a bf who she does seem to really care for
    I do feel like she has a slight interested in me, she seems like a girl that needs a good laugh and someone fun , which dont think i really am.)

    we have a lot of parties living and working here so there's a good chance to hook up with her just need to get to that stage.. i haven't done anything bad or embarrassing where this cant happen

    last party i went to she kept asking me to go , and when i was leaving she kept txting me to stay .. obviously i was flirting with here and joking around but dont think it was enough.

    so i need some help on stuff to say or something to do ...dont think i can do it all on my own

    I pretty much need to flirt with her a lot make her laugh at work so when i see her out side work i can really get this going

    i just don't know where to from here, what kind of things can i do to get her interested.

    some suggestion on some material or how i can hang out with her, which im afraid when i do i got nothing to talk about.

    at this point im willing to try any advice and try anything new . i already know if something bad happens not end of the world.. i need to improve this part of my life a lot..

    and would like some helps please!!

    cheers guy

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    Default Re: NEED help with a girl i work with..

    Hi this is my 1st post.

    One thing to consider in dating people you work with is what happens if you do get her and you break up and then have to work together again. If it doesn't work out there could be some bad Tension.

    That consideration can help you establish whether you want a relationship with her or just a fling and may also calm some of those infactuation nerves. She may also be in the same situation already having a boyfriend - is he a long term friend and they are not so close anymore? Is he somewhere else not in contact so she is essentially free? Is she looking for a new boyfriend or also just a fling? These are all questions you can subtley ask her too.

    If she is asking you out to parties or asking you to stay at parties she is keen. Thats what you now need to do - ask her out/take initiative. It doesn't matter whether its a quick lunch or full on dinner - you are commanding the next move and expressing interest. You could also ask her out during or after the party 'hey you wanna get out of here and go for a walk on the beach'. If it's a resort there must be some sort of nice landscape you can go for a walk and chat more. Gives you more privacy. That could become your 'date'. She seems fairly forward so I would let her do most of the talking especially if you are not sure what to say. Girls love to talk about themselves. If she is unhappy with her current boyfriend she will love to have you as a pair of ears listening. You don't have to say much just ask questions and listen. 'Have you worked at other resorts? What do you look for in a man?' 'Do you think this is a romantic place?' 'where did you get that dress, it fits you well you look very elegant and seductive in it'. Touch her gently when your talking/flirting. A brush on the side of her hip or thigh. let her know your physically interested. If she yaps on about the boyfriend wait until she says something bad about him and then tell her to put him on ice and find something new and exciting. You don't have to say anything negative about the boyfriend, just seed that you are her future and he is the past. You have the better genes she wants to breed with haha.

    Use the resort where your working as a way to introduce conversations about dreams, destiny, paradise, wealth etc. 'wow such a beautiful sunset...this place is so romantic I'm going to have to kiss you'

    You already know her reasonably well so you probably can bypass multiple dates and head straight for a kiss. Take her near a water feature, the beach, a cliff, somewhere romantic. Pull out a coin from your pocket and suggest you each throw a coin into the water (or whatever landscape feature) and make a wish (remember you may have already spoken about dreams, destiny, paradise etc). Ask her what she wished for. It doesn't matter her answer.... your answer is...lean over and kiss her. Man Ive used that lots of times and it has always worked. If a girl actually follows you somewhere romantic and private she has already opened up the gate. The coin trick is kinda cheesy but they usually can't refuse and gives you a reason to move in for the kiss. It's also highly symbolic. Coin = wealth = power and stability - being a good provider and successful male. Giving the coin away = charity, honesty, compassion - might even buy me shoes and handbags. Wishing for a dream = having ambition, having deep emotional thoughts, possibly sharing the same dreams as her for the future = planning.

    If a girl kisses you, you basically have her in the bag (as long as you are a good kisser) so I tend to work towards kissing or being intimate with a girl as soon as I can rather than having the whole sex and endless conversation elephant tied to my shoulders. Kissing is hard in public environments and at parties so try take her somewhere intimate and private. She will more likely open up in those environments too. If she is kind of wild then take her somewhere private but exciting I.e. do something a little daring with her. Once you have kissed, usually everything flows well from there because next time you see her you can be physically intimate straight away without rubbish conversation.

    So your main game plan is to ask her out. Either on a date or at the next party. Keep it spontaneous. Aim for a kiss and the rest will follow.

    Hope this helps.


    Quote Originally Posted by christianh758 View Post
    Okay i need a little help here guys

    Just started working at a resort got my eyes on this girl

    I have obviously talk to her, joked around a bit but dont know what to do from here?

    I do have confidants just no game!

    (just to let u know she has a bf who she does seem to really care for
    I do feel like she has a slight interested in me, she seems like a girl that needs a good laugh and someone fun , which dont think i really am.)

    we have a lot of parties living and working here so there's a good chance to hook up with her just need to get to that stage.. i haven't done anything bad or embarrassing where this cant happen

    last party i went to she kept asking me to go , and when i was leaving she kept txting me to stay .. obviously i was flirting with here and joking around but dont think it was enough.

    so i need some help on stuff to say or something to do ...dont think i can do it all on my own

    I pretty much need to flirt with her a lot make her laugh at work so when i see her out side work i can really get this going

    i just don't know where to from here, what kind of things can i do to get her interested.

    some suggestion on some material or how i can hang out with her, which im afraid when i do i got nothing to talk about.

    at this point im willing to try any advice and try anything new . i already know if something bad happens not end of the world.. i need to improve this part of my life a lot..

    and would like some helps please!!

    cheers guy

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    Default Re: NEED help with a girl i work with..

    Honestly thanks for the advice .. first thing i should point out its not a big deal weather i date her and something goes wrong as in a few months she will b going to school n i will not see her again for a while.. i may not even be working here by that time.. also her current bf i think is a thing as he lives off island is never around.

    i kinda jsut wanna have a thing with her for the summer ..and i think thats all she would want as well..

    i do know her but i no its def not at that stage where i can just kiss her

    i do feel like tho she has a tiny bit of interest which is def a start ( trying to be as positive as i can )

    i already know im not the funniest person and dont always got a lot to talk about which is my problem ... i afraid if i get her out with me to a private place that im going to run out of things to talk about or just say something stupid.. then it becomes awkward

    pretty much iv had luck in the past and i wanna be in a situation that i created took control and picked up the girl not the opposite..

    she is working tomorrow so i will def go down and see her
    and when im flirting with her im going to try to be more physical

    im just scared to go for a kiss , iv never done it before like that, i feel like i need to be a bit more flirty with her n physical before i just attempt that

    ahhh im trying not to stress about it but im at a point in my life where i need to take control especially in this situation before i see her walk away with someone else...

    oh man ... so thanks for the advice .. she will be at work tomorrow and i will be going down and talking to her as she wants me fix something on her phone.... any advice on something i should say or do lol... my whole life iv relied on luck to work for me which has actually been surprising well but im not proud of that i wanna do it my self

    ... ( i am nervous to kiss her but i guess at this point i got nothing to loose, i just need it to be the rght time or something like that )??

    by the way any thing suggestion on material i could read or anything for more confidence?

    sorry for this post my thoughts r every where

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    Default Re: NEED help with a girl i work with..

    Well you don't kiss her straight away, ask her out 1st because so far she is the only one who has done that. If you don't have much time together seize the day and go for it because as you said you have nothing to loose. Don't worry about running out of things to say. Ask her simple question that get her talking. What do most women like to talk about? Themselves. Ask her about her family. Ask her about where she likes to shop. Does like like trying clothes on in front of the mirror? What is her favourite perfume? What perfume is she wearing now? Can I smell? Lean into her neck to smell. She will talk loads if you ask her questions. I've had lengthy conversations with girls without hardly saying a thing. At the end they will say how wonderful it is to talk to me! In the right situation you can also use your shyness to your advantage. It is possible to use being quiet as a tactic if you can work it towards them caring or nurturing you. You don't want to come across as weak, just tap into the empathy that women naturally have.

    The main thing is to take some initiative and ask her out or ask her to do something with you. The kiss can come later and an island is so romantic the chances of her refusing are limited and even if she rejects she will at least know you are confident in trying to get what you want.

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    Default Re: NEED help with a girl i work with..

    Well you don't kiss her straight away, ask her out 1st because so far she is the only one who has done that. If you don't have much time together seize the day and go for it because as you said you have nothing to loose. Don't worry about running out of things to say. Ask her simple question that get her talking. What do most women like to talk about? Themselves. Ask her about her family. Ask her about where she likes to shop. Does like like trying clothes on in front of the mirror? What is her favourite perfume? What perfume is she wearing now? Can I smell? Lean into her neck to smell. She will talk loads if you ask her questions. I've had lengthy conversations with girls without hardly saying a thing. At the end they will say how wonderful it is to talk to me! In the right situation you can also use your shyness to your advantage. It is possible to use being quiet as a tactic if you can work it towards them caring or nurturing you. You don't want to come across as weak, just tap into the empathy that women naturally have.

    The main thing is to take some initiative and ask her out or ask her to do something with you. The kiss can come later and an island is so romantic the chances of her refusing are limited and even if she rejects she will at least know you are confident in trying to get what you want.

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    Default Re: NEED help with a girl i work with..

    Well if she's leaving the job and you don't plan to stay then go for it. And if the bf situation is shaky then that's good for you. Its important you qualify her. Flirting alone will not get her into bed. Use false disqualifiers. All the things that will pull her in. As long as you're the one that pushes away before she does.

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    Default Re: NEED help with a girl i work with..

    havent checkd this in a while beeen busy with me gf lol.. everything worked out good, been dating for 2 weeks, this girl is awesome , pretty happy with her, just hope i can keep her interested! any one got any ideas of some fun things i can do with her?? cheers guy

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    A zoo can be easily turned into a fun simple adventure.


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