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    Default Asking a girl's name

    I approached a girl who was painting in the park, we had a conversation, I built rapport, she was interested in me as she gave me some IOIs but when I asked her name she said Why do you want to know my name? it was a Sh1t Test I assume but I hanged and didn't have anything to say as I wasn't direct yet and failed. she obviously didn't gave me her number either.
    whats the best way to handle this sh1t test and also use it to for transition into more direct conversation.

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    Default Re: Asking a girl's name

    You could have just said like 'so I know what to call you, of course', but really you should have opened direct if that was the way you wanted to go. You avoid so many little problems if you've made your interest clear.

    For handling this specific test and transitioning into direct: 'Well I came over here to talk to you because I thought you looked absolutely stunning and I wanted to know if I liked your name as well'. It also throws in a little qualifier ('I wanted to know if I liked your name as well'). You can replace 'absolutely stunning' by anything you truly think of her.

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    Default Re: Asking a girl's name

    Quote Originally Posted by Virgil View Post
    You could have just said like 'so I know what to call you, of course', but really you should have opened direct if that was the way you wanted to go. You avoid so many little problems if you've made your interest clear.

    For handling this specific test and transitioning into direct: 'Well I came over here to talk to you because I thought you looked absolutely stunning and I wanted to know if I liked your name as well'. It also throws in a little qualifier ('I wanted to know if I liked your name as well'). You can replace 'absolutely stunning' by anything you truly think of her.
    Thanks, that should do it

    BTW I don't know why I fail every time that I open directly the only way I can get a girl's number is through opinion openers and building rapport and comfort and then start from friend zone and go up to boyfriend! maybe its my looks or delivery that needs improvement.

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    Default Re: Asking a girl's name

    Quote Originally Posted by dgmortal View Post
    I approached a girl who was painting in the park, we had a conversation, I built rapport, she was interested in me as she gave me some IOIs but when I asked her name she said Why do you want to know my name? it was a Sh1t Test I assume but I hanged and didn't have anything to say as I wasn't direct yet and failed. she obviously didn't gave me her number either.
    whats the best way to handle this sh1t test and also use it to for transition into more direct conversation.
    Virgil is the man, his advice is solid. I tend to use a slightly different approach to these type of sh1t tests because it allows me to build value and defeat the shit test. Take the objection to the ridiculous.

    Her: Why do you want to know my name?

    You: Alt 1: (Sly Grin) Aww, I'm sorry. Your parents gave you some messed up name and you have to be sure people kind of like you before you share. it's ok, Bertha. It's okay I grew up with a kid named iggy, I feel your pain, Ursula.

    You Alt 2: (Sly Grin) So, I can tell my mama I talked to a girl...Finally. Me, my mom, and grandma are gonna facebook stalk you and figure out if you would make pretty grandbabies.

    Just make it ridiculous enough so she will get the joke, this works wonders.

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    Default Re: Asking a girl's name

    Quote Originally Posted by dgmortal View Post
    Thanks, that should do it

    BTW I don't know why I fail every time that I open directly the only way I can get a girl's number is through opinion openers and building rapport and comfort and then start from friend zone and go up to boyfriend! maybe its my looks or delivery that needs improvement.
    Most likely your delivery. Remember that you have to be absolutely confident in yourself. Look her straight into the eye and smile as you deliver the opener. Keep a lot of eye contact while communicating and never look to the ground. Speak with a low, confident voice. Stand up straight like a man and don't keep your arms in front of you. Just have fun while you're talking to her. Girls pick up your "vibe" instantly so they know if you're nervous or anything. They also pick up on incongruency. So if you open with confident eye contact, but speak fast with a high voice, they feel something is wrong and they find that creepy. Everything you communicate has to fit together.

    This might be a nice thread for you to read.


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    Virgil is the man, his advice is solid.
    Hearing that from an MPUA like you just makes me smile

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    Quote Originally Posted by Suave Kino View Post
    Virgil is the man, his advice is solid. I tend to use a slightly different approach to these type of sh1t tests because it allows me to build value and defeat the Sh1t Test. Take the objection to the ridiculous.

    Her: Why do you want to know my name?

    You: Alt 1: (Sly Grin) Aww, I'm sorry. Your parents gave you some messed up name and you have to be sure people kind of like you before you share. it's ok, Bertha. It's okay I grew up with a kid named iggy, I feel your pain, Ursula.

    You Alt 2: (Sly Grin) So, I can tell my mama I talked to a girl...Finally. Me, my mom, and grandma are gonna facebook stalk you and figure out if you would make pretty grandbabies.

    Just make it ridiculous enough so she will get the joke, this works wonders.
    Yeah, I think that's what the girls want to hear!

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    Default Re: Asking a girl's name

    Quote Originally Posted by Virgil View Post
    Most likely your delivery. Remember that you have to be absolutely confident in yourself. Look her straight into the eye and smile as you deliver the opener. Keep a lot of eye contact while communicating and never look to the ground. Speak with a low, confident voice. Stand up straight like a man and don't keep your arms in front of you. Just have fun while you're talking to her. Girls pick up your "vibe" instantly so they know if you're nervous or anything. They also pick up on incongruency. So if you open with confident eye contact, but speak fast with a high voice, they feel something is wrong and they find that creepy. Everything you communicate has to fit together.

    This might be a nice thread for you to read.
    Thanks, I'm reading it, great guide, needs a lot practice though.


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