So I’ve seen quite a number of guys now who in their posts say they asked her this or they asked her that. Though there is nothing wrong with asking, there is something to be said about statements.
In The Game, Juggler advocates the use of statements. I get told by women frequently that as men try to build rapport, they are actually interrogating the sh1t out of them. It’s a nonstop questionnaire, and it goes beyond the rapport building stage. Let me use a few different examples:
[Texting]“Hey, want to get a bite to eat with me before class?”
“Yeah, sure. Where were you thinking?”
“I don’t know, what would you like?”
You may think you are doing well here, and you could be, but you could also be doing a lot better.
“Get lunch with me before class. 12:00 at The Rialto.”
“Ok, I’ll be a few minutes late.”
What the difference here? You are leading. You are making decisions and taking out a lot of Fluff that doesn’t need to be there. I promise you that the majority of women would rather go to a terrible restaurant and eat food they don’t like than have to choose the venue themselves. Even if the place sucks at least you get a funny story out of it. Here are a few more examples similar to this genre (These being especially applicable to texting.):
“Hey, what are you doing tonight? Want to watch a movie?”
“We’re watching a movie tonight, just you and me.”
“Would you like to come over?”
“I want you to go down on me.”
“Go down on me.” [Not text, obviously lol]
A mistake often made in conversation is the assumption that you have to continue asking her questions in order for her to respond. Stop thinking this way. If you say a statement, she will feel compelled to reply with a similar one. Example:
“How old are you?”
That was bad.
The latter warrants a response. By stating your age she will feel the need to do the same. Next.
“How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?”
“I took an hour long shower this morning. It was awesome.”
Starting to see what I’m getting at?
[Side note] Before I do this last one, let me mention it is important to become a good story teller. Women love stories, and it has its perks. I’ll explain in just a second.
“So what do you like to do in your free time? Are you into sports?”
“I’ve got a funny story for you. A couple years ago my friend Bobby and I went to state dance to support my little sister…”
This may be the best one here. Instead of asking questions you tell a story, and in this story you get the opportunity to do many things. Display your interests. Show yourself as a fluent communicator. Bring up family values (sister.) Make her laugh (the story ends with a punch line.)
Alpha up. Use less questions and more statements. Peace.