I have a problem. When I'm talking to girls I can be funny, charming, and witty but what always happens is I appear like I am flirting, trying to hard, and then blow the attraction because it looks like I'm trying to get them. How do I create attraction like this, be fun, and smile and stuff but then not seem like I'm trying to pick them up. As soon as they know you're trying to flirt with them, the games over, right? Please get back to me as soon as you can. Later.