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    Default First insult encountered. my purple shirt.

    So I'll just jump in here. new to Game, but learning a lot and it's a VERY exciting process in the past 2 weeks.

    Last night I had my first REAL BAFC moment, completely failing a Sh1t Test, and then not escaping in a cool way. It went like this...

    Was hanging out with my buddy/wing (we're new and alternating for each other throughout this journey so far) he invited a girl who he n-closed the night before, and she invited her best friend and that friend's sister. All 3 were 8's & a 9.

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    I'm alone with the 9 and 8... the sisters. Somehow the conversation escalated into the 9 negging/sh1t testing me by answering one of my teases, "...Alright. Whatever Mr. purple shirt...". I realize that I should've ignored the comment, but it so happens that I've gotten 2 similar negative comments about this "purple shirt" before from girls on dating sites (negging doesn't work so much for hot girls online), so it made my hamster spin... and I choked on having a decent alpha response for it. (Meanwhile I was very aware that the 9 had a boyfriend, she was a bitter about having her "girls night" being taken over by these two guys, and she was getting increasingly drunk and confrontational, at an alarming rate. She was a b1tch on a mission. And for the record, my last girlfriend was an incredibly fashion-oriented model, who said I looked great in that shirt... and I agree.)

    Anyway, so I immediately asked her "Ok, what in your opinion is inherently wrong with a guy who wears a purple shirt?"

    She replied, "It reminds me of Barney. It's like.."

    I cut her off with a hand up and said, "Ok, clearly your opinion doesn't matter because you're a child." and I turned to the sister (target) to ask "What about you? What's your opinion of a guy in a purple shirt?" I thought in the moment that I was doing well showing my disinterest in the 9's opinion. She replied, "I don't know... now I can't stop thinking of barney.."

    I made a bored face while I left her finish the sentence and then I said, "I'll let you two finish this conversation. I'm going to find someone more interesting to talk to." And I strutted away, noting the look of surprise on both of their faces. In the moment this felt really GOOD to do, (and incredibly ballsy for me personally. I would NEVER do sh1t like that before reading about Game) but I found out later that they said to my buddy "We scared off your friend because we were making fun of his shirt"...

    Thus, my friend and I agreed... I totally failed the sh1t test, and made an AFC out of myself. Although I number closed the sister in a VERY impromptu and non-conventional way later.... it didn't feel like a total win... it felt lucky.

    I'd love some opinions that little situation. I was thinking about it today, and other than just ignoring or insulting right back, I couldn't think of any really great comebacks to that particular insult on my clothing. Also, the 9 tried to create a nickname for me when I eventually returned "Oh hey, Purple." I shrugged it off and it didn't stick, even after she said it a couple times, but it still bugged the living sh1t out of me.

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    Default Re: First insult encountered. my purple shirt.

    There are three ways to deal with such tests:

    1. Ignore it
    2. Laugh about it
    3. Tease her back in a jokingly way

    You did some things well, though. Not showing too much interest in a very hot girl, willingness to walk away and that you don't give a fark. So the Number Close wasn't about luck - in fact, remember that nothing is about luck.

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    Default Re: First insult encountered. my purple shirt.

    Fastidious,, the most effective technique I have found to deal with insults is to takethe insult to the ridiculous. This will dhv you while simultaneously dlv the person insulting you.

    For example, some one calls you gay.

    You say I'm not just gay, I'm super gay, I'm so gay I can't even walk straight.

    Your purple shirt reminds me of barney

    You, hell yes, I wasn't sure whether to wear my barney shirt or my big bird yellow shirt with the feathers but it looks like I made the right choice.

    This makes you seem ultra confident and alpha and 95% of the time people will buckle.

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    Default Re: First insult encountered. my purple shirt.

    Great answer by Virgil.

    I want to add that this is something you can practice with your friends. Ask them to neg you on things that are your hot buttons. Things you might be sensitive about.

    Practice numbing yourself to the insults. Respond in those three ways "without" feeling the sting of the insult.

    I think that chic noticed the purple shirt thing bothered you so she kept it up.

    With that being said, you did a GREAT JOB. Why? Because you pushed through some limits. You tried things you never tried before.

    Well done, mate.


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    Default Re: First insult encountered. my purple shirt.

    Seems like you had a very strong reaction which can be dlv. I recommend looking into Frame Control. It's a good way to take control of a situation very quickly and sometimes it allows you to completely ignore a woman's insult because it isn't worth your time addressing. Frame Control would give you the classic "Is she always like this" or "You can dress her up, but can't take her out." Limitless ways to gain the frame back.

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    Default Re: First insult encountered. my purple shirt.

    Awesome answers! It makes me feel chumpy now knowing that I was so confused with finding a good reaction to that after it happened. I still have a lot of growing to do. Frame control is definitely my alley. For me right now its, Step 1: confidence, and Step 2: logistics. I have yet to read any real flaming in this forum, which is pretty rare and amazing. Mutual pats on the back go a long way. I really appreciate it.

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    Default Re: First insult encountered. my purple shirt.

    My thoughts are keep the shirt, use the shirt, internalize...the shirt! This shirt is obviously a great opener, either for you or a HB. It's like Mystery's furry top hat. Use it. Learn to make peace with it and realize it can be used to your advantage, it's a prop. I'm sure the guy's here can suggest how you can incorporate it with openers, how you could dhv with this shirt as your prop. In reality its just a shirt, it's you who is the prize. What do you think? Good luck, and positive vibes. Ciao, FauxPas.

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    Default Re: First insult encountered. my purple shirt.

    I would like some thoughts about using that insult for the purple shirt to take it even further and saying something like

    'I have the bad habit of wearing it in bed/when having sex , so you'll just have to learn to like it' - in a funny/cocky way..

    Or at least something close to that that maybe could make the convo more sexual fast.

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    Default Re: First insult encountered. my purple shirt.

    Quote Originally Posted by almighty99 View Post
    I would like some thoughts about using that insult for the purple shirt to take it even further and saying something like

    'I have the bad habit of wearing it in bed/when having sex , so you'll just have to learn to like it' - in a funny/cocky way..

    Or at least something close to that that maybe could make the convo more sexual fast.
    And you'll have it. Click here.


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