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    Default Kino's How to Handle an Insult

    Look guys, if you are doing the right thing and challenging social norms you are going to get called out on occasion. How you handle it can make all the difference in going home with her or going home alone.

    Let’s look at an insult for what it really is. It’s an attempted value exchange. Somebody, is in effect attempting to lower your value while raising theirs. There are three possible outcomes. 1. Your value gets lowered. 2. Your value remains unchanged. 3. Your value increases. That’s right your value can increase when an insult is directed at you.

    The grenade attached to the HB8 you want to score disses on your purple shirt.
    You can A. lower you value buy acknowledging her comment therefore giving it life.

    Grenade: “That’s an awfully purple shirt for a guy don’t you think? It kinda reminds me of Barney.”
    PUA: “Well, I was told I look good in purple. HB8 Don’t you like my purple shirt”

    The problem is now you are chasing the frame validating the power of her comment over you. This is a major, dlv.

    You can try B. Ignore the comment and keep your value relatively the same.

    Grenade: “That’s an awfully purple shirt for a guy don’t you think? It kinda reminds me of Barney.”
    PUA: Ignore, pause…“Hey HB8, have you ever been to Maloney brew pub, downtown? ”

    This is better than option A because you aren’t feeding the beast so to speak. She threw the insult out there and you are effectively starving it to death. The frame hasn’t changed so your value remains stagnate. This isn’t necessarily bad, but you sir are a PUA, you can can do better.

    You can try C. You can pwn that chick and look like a freaking boss alpha.

    Grenade: “That’s an awfully purple shirt for a guy don’t you think? It kinda reminds me of Barney.”
    PUA: Hell, yeah. You just made my night. I wanted a shirt that showed my love for Barney and this was the biggest purple-est shirt I could find. My big bird yellow shirt with authentic real big bird feathers is sexy too, (playfully eyeing HB8) but tonight I wanted the world to know..(singing in a playfully sexy R&B style directly at HB8)I love you and you love me, we’re a happy family, with a great big hug and a kiss from me to you (end in a full on prince/ ginuwine/jodeci action now).

    Examaple 2: Grenade, you are dressed pretty well, are you gay?
    PUA: I'm not gay...I super gay. I'm so gay I can't even see straight. My ringtone is it's raining men and I love all the twilight movies, I'm team Jacob. So miss I'm not gay..(gay lisp) I'm thuper gay.


    If you take it to the ridiculous and make it a bigger better joke than they did, your value increases in the exchange and theirs lowers. Not only were you not affected...because you have big alpha balls you were merely amused at the attempt from such a petty little creature. Try it, you’ll thank me for it. It works everytime. Take it, ramp it up, and make it your own and crush them.

    Shout out to Fastidious for the inspiration to post this technique.

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    Default Re: Kino's How to Handle and Insult

    They say something isn't said until you've said it 1000 times. And you better think of a different way to say it each time. Well Suave Kino, I like the way you said it. Very nice.

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    Default Re: Kino's How to Handle and Insult

    Great stuff, Kino. I've tried this in-field when an AMOG tried to rag on me. Worked a charm. Thanks, man.

    £: GeMiNi :&

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    Default Re: Kino's How to Handle and Insult

    I used the gay example a couple of days ago, and it made the girls laugh. In combination with social proof (getting to know their guy friend and build rapport with him in a heartbeat) I really noticed their interest in me increased. Great stuff as usual, Kino.

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    Default Re: Kino's How to Handle and Insult

    Thanks, Gemini and Virgil. You guys make my time spent here worthwhile. When you use my techniques and have success with them it truly brings me joy.

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    Default Re: Kino's How to Handle an Insult

    Kino I love you man. Because your thuper gay. Haha, I loved this thread.

    Finchy x
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    Default Re: Kino's How to Handle an Insult

    Kino excellent post, the ability to dhv via insult is DYNAMIC bro.

    I had kind of learned to go along a similar route when a chick is ball-busting. I usually say something like, "..yeah? You could be an organ donor since you're already so heartless" (with a grin of course)
    --Works as a neg also, or they'll play upset.
    ---I follow it up with something like, "Won't hold it against you though" or "No worries, I'll still get to know you"

    Usually works.

    Again, thanks for a great post.
    Substance. Finesse.

    BlameStevie.

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    Default Re: Kino's How to Handle an Insult

    Well, Kino, you can smile a bit more then lol, because you're club game post really helped me a lot too. My usual game is best in bars and other night venues (I haven't tackled direct day game yet) that are quieter, because, conversationally, my game is pretty solid so far, just gotta get past some barriers. But I often get dragged to a club by friends Im out with (same will happen tonight lol). And before that post I struggled in clubs because conversation just can't happen to a large extent. It's all body language etc and there are always many guys more attractive than myself there so I was always daunted and my game suffered. But, since reading your club game post, I knock them out of the water with mega confidence, social proof and, unlike most of them, having the balls to just go for it.

    Keep up the good stuff .

    £: GeMiNi :&

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    Default Re: Kino's How to Handle an Insult

    Kino, you're the best. Thanks to you I now take every insult to the ridiculous and everyone loves it, girls and guys alike.

    Now I need to go buy a purple shirt...
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    Default Re: Kino's How to Handle an Insult

    Haha.. I'm glad my chump moves inspired a lesson in keeping on your toes. That shirt has now has a "secret weapon" vibe when I see it in the closet. I'm anxiously awaiting the next girl to poke fun


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