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    Default Major approach anxiety issues

    Today on Sunday night I went on a bus towards the city, it was mostly empty there were two opportunities where HB7 girls were sitting alone, I wanted to go up direct and say "hey you look cute, had to come say hello". But aa stopped me, I was literally on the edge of my seat. The rest of the day I felt like utter crap. Even suicidal. I've got to get this fixed ASAP or i'll be forever alone.

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    Default Re: Major approach anxiety issues

    Relax, Liquid. Read my thread on aa again. The bus is not a place to start approaching because it's not an open environment where you can tell a girl she looks cute and then walk away. Choose a certain spot and get used to being there before opening direct. Of course, when you're over your AA you don't need to get accustomed to places you'd like to approach in any more.

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    Default Re: Major approach anxiety issues

    i have the same problem too man u just gotta be less nervous and take it easy man

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    Default Re: Major approach anxiety issues

    Hey buddy,

    First of all the bus is not the only place to Approach, it encounts for about 0.00000001% of all the places to approach a girl.

    Secondly, you can still give it a try . But to approach someone, you need to approach with an air of you don't give a shit. Say hi, bring something up to begin with, but dude, don't let it tear you down. You are stronger than this. Here is a post I made recently, give it some thought http://www.puaforums.com/how-approac...html#post41660

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    Work hard, Play hard players! Oh and Man up, girls like men.

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    Default Re: Major approach anxiety issues

    Quote Originally Posted by Virgil View Post
    Relax, Liquid. Read my thread on aa again. The bus is not a place to start approaching because it's not an open environment where you can tell a girl she looks cute and then walk away. Choose a certain spot and get used to being there before opening direct. Of course, when you're over your AA you don't need to get accustomed to places you'd like to approach in any more.
    Ok. I will try Starbucks next.

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    Default Re: Major approach anxiety issues

    Quote Originally Posted by Finchy View Post
    Hey buddy,

    First of all the bus is not the only place to Approach, it encounts for about 0.00000001% of all the places to approach a girl.

    Secondly, you can still give it a try . But to approach someone, you need to approach with an air of you don't give a sh1t. Say hi, bring something up to begin with, but dude, don't let it tear you down. You are stronger than this. Here is a post I made recently, give it some thought http://www.puaforums.com/how-approac...html#post41660

    Finchy x
    Yeah, I don't know. It's completely irrational, I just watched a seminar on why it's irrational fear, but that itself doesn't stop it from coming.

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    Default Re: Major approach anxiety issues

    Ya don't think about the outcome much, just find commonalities and use a situational opener, heck comment on her glasses or whatever. Sure the bus isn't a pickup 'hotspot', but it can be done, and it has been done.
    Not tryin to sound like I'm boastin, but I was pickin up girls on the bus years ago, before I even heard of the game, or heard of a pua.
    At least 3 instances I can remember, usually when I was going to and fro work, or school. I picked up a girl I had super aa seeing, but simply asked her when the next bus is coming one day, and it turned into a great convo. She was like HB9, ended up being a real down to earth girl!
    Just look for an ioi, make small talk and attract/qualify her first. It's 'no big deal', just try to have fun and see where it goes man

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    Default Re: Major approach anxiety issues

    Quote Originally Posted by Infrared View Post
    Ya don't think about the outcome much, just find commonalities and use a situational opener, heck comment on her glasses or whatever. Sure the bus isn't a pickup 'hotspot', but it can be done, and it has been done.
    Not tryin to sound like I'm boastin, but I was pickin up girls on the bus years ago, before I even heard of the game, or heard of a pua.
    At least 3 instances I can remember, usually when I was going to and fro work, or school. I picked up a girl I had super aa seeing, but simply asked her when the next bus is coming one day, and it turned into a great convo. She was like HB9, ended up being a real down to earth girl!
    Just look for an ioi, make small talk and attract/qualify her first. It's 'no big deal', just try to have fun and see where it goes man
    Lol, you must be a good looker or something, because HB9's usually just look down when passing by. They have probably the biggest bitch shields. I don't get IOI's much. The few sets that I have opened with opinion openers, just go right back to their talk after a 'yes' or 'no'.

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    Default Re: Major approach anxiety issues

    Ah well what can I say, just keep at it man. I still say stick with small-talk, and don't seek approval. Also if u have a tendency for the 'googly eyes', look forward and blink once in awhile just to throw that out there haha, were all just guys we can't always help it ha.

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    Default Re: Major approach anxiety issues

    I sometimes have aa as well, but I always just say something even if I'm to nervous to hit in her...,


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