The power of Music
Ever heard of a lawyer, plumber, sales assistant or even a bouncer with true groupies? No. Ever heard of rock star with groupies? Of course! Goes with the territory!
Ok part of this thread is boastful part of it I hope will help you all out there.*
I play in 2 full time bands and another band as a side project. It's not my profession. It's a hobby, although I earn some cash from it. I also do art occasionally in my sparetime, mostly painting and sculpture. My profession (which is quite good) and my artistic talents all pale into insignificance compared with music when it comes to attracting girls.
I never learnt music to pickup girls and most gigs I hardly talk to that many girls because I have gear to pack up end of the night and I'm playing while others are mingling - but being the frontman of the band is an exceptionally powerful thing. I have always known this but I was acutely reminded of it's power today and why I thought should share.
This week I tried contacting some girls from an online dating site I had not used before. It doesn't mention anywhere on my profile I play music, just that im into it. I wrote to a couple of girls and a few wrote to me. Just as it would be in reverse, the girls chasing me I was less interested in. Go figure. A lot of the 'to be or not to be' happened almost straight away confirming my thoughts that you have to make a good first impression.*
One girl I wrote to though was particularly hard work from the get go. She was a HB9 and I knew she was confident of her looks not only by her battery of good happy photos but the style in which they were done. I used my hard assed superbabe tactics on her. No success. She would not write anything more than one word for anything I wrote. I kept my cool, didn't say too much either and didn't write to her for a few days. In fact I assumed by her behavior she was already getting on well with someone else she was so distant, so I didn't want to become another drag in her inbox.*
Today though I wanted to see how powerful being in a band was upfront, as usually I reveal that to someone important much later on, like as a surprise on a date. I messaged her 'btw I play in a couple of bands in town, you should come check us out sometime'. I was not going to waste my time asking this girl out or even for a number based on her lack luster replies. Immediately she messages back 'sounds interesting, I want to come!'
Wow I went from single word sporadic messages like 'oh' to exclamation marks, 'interesting' and 'I want'. In fact she actually said 'i want to come' I messaged the other girls the same thing and they followed suit with replies coming in like fan mail. The nerdier girls started feverishly shoeing symptoms of not being cool enough, the hotter girls suddenly were asking me the questions. I hadn't even played a note! I could have been lying for all they knew! Of course I could follow up with any technical question they asked but it just reconfirmed how important what you do is for a girl and it's not all about money, magical joke openers, mind tricks or muscles - it's also about your ability to entertain and be technically good at something. What is your Social Status? What are you good at? What real tricks can you do? Flaunt it.
A musician is doing something very sensual and primordial by getting up in front of an audience - it's the ultimate in fun, confident and even risky leadership. Rock n roll is the ultimately in 'i don't give a fark attitude'. That simple. You could be a DJ, a rapper, a violinist it's all entertainment as long as it has brilliance and attitude - the cooler the better. I've never been that smart, that good looking, that rich and probably not that funny - but through my talents and creativity I have at least become cool. It's the best of all, like a gangly teenage girl that blossoms unexpectedly into a beautiful woman.
I recommend learning an instrument or something to do with entertainment and using it to your advantage. I recommend using music as a way to switch on woman even if you don't play anything and I highly recommend learning how to be cool because most of us are cooler than we probably think. Be confident and be cool. Always be closing.