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    Default Just To much - I am overdoing evertyhing

    Hi guys, as the title says i think I'm over extending this game pua techniques. at least when I've been drinking i go around negging all the time makes me look like a douche bag! i know i gotta change it. anyways this pua thing feels like its to much for me i love that i can help and i love being around people and be social skilled and get ladies. but really I've been everything without myself lately and I don't even get the cool girls. my looks ain't bad according to me at least and my friends. but still i dont get the girls attention... can someone help me what could be wrong could it be my style my way to do things am i overdoing " the game " ? please help thanks

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    Default Re: Just To much!

    What exactly have you been studying from lately. Or are you just trial and error?

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    Default Re: Just To much!

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    What exactly have you been studying from lately. Or are you just trial and error?
    im a newbie at pua. but ive read the game
    mostly take shit from there but i overdo negging as fck! but im to scared to be friendzoned so i get kinda mean... seen gambler and sasha daygame aswell

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    Default Re: Just To much!

    Without proper direction or anyone more experienced telling you your sticking points then I can see how you feel you aren't progressive and are frustrated. First I'd like to take the opportunity to clear up the definition of negging. Its is in simple definition, "noticing she is not perfect." It is NOT an insult and along the same lines as teasing but not directly. A neg would be something like picking an "eye booger" off her face while continuing your conversation. Or asking if her hair is real and saying it still looks nice. A neg should always be followed by an unrelated subject otherwise you run the risk of her reacting to it and it won't be pretty. What most guys do is teasing which is inherently different. Its playful banter and you WANT her to react directly to your teasing in some places.

    Now maybe it would be a good start just fleshing out a little bit more about your typical night out and we can try to pick your sticking points and what you should work on.

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    Default Re: Just To much!

    Hey Erixzon,

    It sounds like you know what you gotta change. Stop negging. you're scared etc. Sounds too me like you have a million thoughts running through your head at once.

    Best thing to do is to chunck your goals down, just to take a little bit of the pressure off. I recommend reading the Power of Now just to get out of your own head and quieten all the noise down.

    Hope this helps
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    Default Re: Just To much!

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Without proper direction or anyone more experienced telling you your sticking points then I can see how you feel you aren't progressive and are frustrated. First I'd like to take the opportunity to clear up the definition of negging. Its is in simple definition, "noticing she is not perfect." It is NOT an insult and along the same lines as teasing but not directly. A neg would be something like picking an "eye booger" off her face while continuing your conversation. Or asking if her hair is real and saying it still looks nice. A neg should always be followed by an unrelated subject otherwise you run the risk of her reacting to it and it won't be pretty. What most guys do is teasing which is inherently different. Its playful banter and you WANT her to react directly to your teasing in some places.

    Now maybe it would be a good start just fleshing out a little bit more about your typical night out and we can try to pick your sticking points and what you should work on.
    we can start with last night we were a bunch of people around 30 people haning by a lake. drinking beer having a good time. so i ran a little late there but my awesome friends came to meet me half way so no big deal. but what one good pua said to me was that dont go late u wont fit into the party in the same way as if u were in time. night goes on. and i have a friend that is short not much muscles nothing special u know he hooks up with some girl idk rly. and im tall more muscles u know what im saying? and what i got that night was goodbye kisses... so i came and my last crush stands there with her new " boyfriend" but she and i used to hang out until she friend zoned me i told her to fark off and we cant be friends. after 2 months she begged me to be her friend again and i was like ok very doubtful. as ive been friendzoned 3 times by my biggest crush(es) ive been so scared of being to nice and act like a friend you know. anyway she stands there and i dont even give her a look. after a while we talked abit and i was mean as fark but she took it as a joke. convo like this
    me: oh hey little girl what are u doing here? are u even drinking ?
    she: haha very funny yes i am!
    me: oh lol thats sweet what uve been drinking a glass of xide and ur drunk ?
    she: lol no 2 bottles and im not drunk!
    me: and how are u doing with the guys now First u text with me then with my friend then with thatt guys and then with this guy. have u even met them?! i guess u are scared of meeting irl ( she actually texted with all these guys saying she likes them )
    she: just laughing abit and says no no no! i do not just text them bla bla etc.
    i went off and later i just se her going away with her guy.
    then another girl that cheerleads i told her pfft cheerleading is just unsucceded dancers and taht she reminded me of a penguin and shit! in after hand when i think of what im doing here i think im a total fark face! really like im so afraid of friendzoned that i almost become enemies with girls! and i dont rly see this as messing around i think its to overextended! i just want to be a chill dude that brings fun where i walk. i think i think to much haha and not being myself. but then it also feels like my looks are bad but ive never understood why? if u could help me out here i would be so glad man! you dont know wtf i do cause im so angry at this, i stood punching a farking rock and woke up all bleedy and shit!

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    Default Re: Just To much!

    Lol you will be fine my friend. Trust me. Well one thing I noticed is something you just admitted. You are trying so hard to stay out of the friendzone that you are not getting in with any of the women. As far as I'm concerned a man is not in the friend zone until she talks about her guy issues or you cuddle in bed but don't do anything. Anything before that it's just plausible deniability. If she says it again just smile and say ok. Because regardless you are going to escalate with her and attract her. Attraction isn't a choice remember. So the first thing id suggest is change your Mindset into believing that every woman wants you and interpret everything they say to you as hitting on you. Always assume attraction. Try not to verbalize it since you may come across as cocky. Just keep it as a dark little secret all to yourself.

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    Default Re: Just To much!

    Hey Erixzon, FauxPas here. I would suggest going back and reading the Game again, and when your done... why not read it again! I think reading it, and reading it, will help you get into the PUA zone. Keeps you focused on becoming a PUA, and a better man. You could actually use any PUA book you enjoy. I would also suggest you pace yourself when out partying. Pace your alcohol, pace your weed or whatever. You don't want your Game to be sloppy. Just like you'd want to do a good job for your boss, do a good job for yourself. In a way PUA is a job for you. Sure there is a lot to remember and do, but as time goes by you will become proficient in it. It will become second nature. I myself am not proficient with it...yet...but... I know I will be! I see growth in myself even in the little bit of time I've been doing it. I can hardly wait for next year! Heck, I can hardly wait for tomorrow! Good going for starting the process Erixzon. There is a lot of good info, and help here. There are also a lot of good guys here to help you in this endeavour. I myself will read posts that at first might not sound interesting, however I always find some kind of gem in the post. Good luck, and positive vibes. Ciao, FauxPas

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    Default Re: Just To much - I am overdoing evertyhing

    thanks guys i really hope this can help me. what u said is true im a very unpatient guy so im thinking like i read the game now i can get every girl i want. but it really is a big progressing i jsut dont like to wait haha! but still pisses me off to see my friends sucess and i dont... please update here if you guys have any other information or suggestion! you are awesome thank you!

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    Default Re: Just To much - I am overdoing evertyhing

    Erixzon,

    More than anything, you just need to chill man. The Game is fun. That's why it's called The Game. If you aren't having fun then you're obviously doing it wrong, so take a step back and relax. A majority of what FauxPas said is solid, but I woulnd't suggest rereading The Game. You'll start farking your own mind, getting way too into theory instead of just enjoying time spent with women.

    Let me crush your dreams right now before you get any further. You will never be able to get ANY woman you want. I can't do that. Bill Preston can't do that. Mystery and Neil can't do that. There will always be women who plain and simple don't want you. Some are untouchably content and happy. Good for them.

    And if you're having trouble negging, don't neg. You're better than that. Transcend it. Read this.
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