I was out on Friday night with a mate and had just returned from the airport from a business trip. I was a bit disheveled, sweaty and tired haha, not really thinking about picking up. We started to drink heavily having shots with the bar girls. This got me in a confident Friday mood and I ended up talking to the table next to us who were watching the football. Just friendly chat, no cute girls at table. Then later two good looking girls took the table and planted their hand and shopping bags on the table to have a post shopping drink. I didn't even notice them at first but soon enough leaned into their table to make some chat about what they bought. I noticed the girl furthest away from me was really hot so I suggested we join their table for a drink. I was in a really happy mood and I started getting on well with the hot girl. My friend was tuning the other one but soon had to leave. The other girl just played with her phone while we talked.
The girl proceeded to tell me her age and that she had just broken up with her boyfriend. She was a lot younger than me and very 'sweet' despite being gorgeous. As I hadn't really been thinking about picking up and given the fact I was knackered from traveling I was sort of suprised by her interest in me but the conversation was light hearted at first. After she mentioned her situation I started telling her that I 'probably' could not be her boyfriend with our age gap and seeing as she had just broken up (don't want to be a re-bound). Truth is of course the age gap wasn't too bad and I would happily be a rebound for a girl this cute! So I had almost accidentally made myself unobtainable to her, partly for serious reasons and partly because I didn't care too much being tired and a bit drunk. Saying what I said relaxed the conversation and I was able to compliment her in many ways I wouldn't normally do because I had disqualified myself. Additionally the bar girls saw me tuning her and having just done some shots with them I could see a few of them getting jealous (they know me for quite a while). They were Kino'ing me as they served me drinks. I was making myself unobtainable to them too by getting on well with this attractive girl.
This all made her incredibly interested! I then proceeded to flirt more, social proof myself and build attraction with kino, taking photos (getting her photo and number in the process). Being tired from a busy days travel I left them (time constraint) and later that night and all this weekend she has kept texting me. She is totally chasing me and trying to convince me the age gap is not a problem (it's probably not but it is 13 years) and that it was a clean break from her ex and she has no emotional baggage. This week I have to travel too so I can't meet up. She has been trying to take the lead into organizing when we can meet next a little nervous I may not be interested. It's quite an incredible reversal of how these things normally pan out and in the future I might have to disqualify myself more often by getting into a conversation about something that could be potentially risky for me (you're too good looking, you're too young, too sweet, too tough etc) and that I could 'probably' never be their girlfriend. It's like women want to tame the guy they can't have the most. It can make you incredibly desirable shifting attention away from what YOU want to what THEY want. It forces them to chase if they are truly interested and at the same time takes a whole bunch of pressure away where you don't have to be the player - you become the prize and they have to play you.