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    just_my_luck is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Girl that I like won't look at me when I look at her?

    There is this girl that I'm trying to initiate, but I'm having a difficult time. When I try to look at her she constantly will stare in the other direction. Even trying to get a glance back my way to say hello is very difficult. There are sometimes that I'm no more than five feet from her and she won't look at me. This is making the situation very tense and awkward. My question, if somebody could answer. How should I perceive what is happening. I have noticed her playing with her hair a lot when I'm around. I catch her looking in my direction when I'm a good distance away. She also gets kinda fidgety when we are close to each other. Any advice?

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    Default Re: Girl that I like won't look at me when I look at her?

    Do you know for sure if she is seeing anyone? Women who are devoted to their relationships will avoid eye contact because they know it can be a big signal to a man to approach.

    If she is single then it is possible that she is not interested. However that doesn't mean she can't be. It just means that you will have to come "under the radar" so that her attraction to you grows naturally. Mystery Method is good with an under the radar approach.

    If you haven't actually spoken to her and you have been trying to catch her looking at you, chances are she knows what you are doing. So you want to just start a casual conversation and disqualify yourself within the first couple of minutes. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: Girl that I like won't look at me when I look at her?

    I know that she was married and something had happened. I have said hello a couple of times. She did respond back once with a hello and a smile, but I got really nervous and walked away. I have this feeling that we both get worked up around each other. Is this a possible reason for her not to look at me? Can you like someone so much that it becomes hard for you to make contact with them?

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    Default Re: Girl that I like won't look at me when I look at her?

    There's a concept about emotional states and how they are contagious. Usually the stronger emotional state wins. If you are feeling nervous and your emotional state is stronger than hers at the moment then she will feel that and will make her nervous as well. This is whats called "state transfer."

    If you ever been in a bad mood and someone who was in a good mood tried to cheer you up, if their emotional state is stronger, then what will happen is you will find yourself slowly getting into a better mood. Unless your mood was too strong (like if a loved one passed away for example) then you would have the stronger emotional state and the other person may now get upset along with you.

    Take this concept and then you want to already assume attraction. By assuming she is already interested you will find that it is no big deal to talk to her and your behavior would show how comfortable you are around her.

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    Default Re: Girl that I like won't look at me when I look at her?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    By assuming she is already interested you will find that it is no big deal to talk to her and your behavior would show how comfortable you are around her.
    Whoa! You just summed up something I've always subconsciously felt. I can't imagine she is already interested if she hasn't seen me. This is why cold approaches bother me. I like to get a proximity alert or at least one solid moment of eye contact before I dive in. Otherwise I feel like the predatory stranger.


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