I understand Approach Anxiety. I think a lot of PUAs reach a point of success where they forget what it was like to be completely terrified of women. They say they get it and to a certain extent they do, but not the piss-your-pants/fetal-position-in-the-corner anxiety that many guys face (that THEY used to face). I’ve read a lot of really great stuff on obliterating your aa—that is if you’re an average AFC. And that’s fine as long as you are appealing to majority, but that’s not what this post is about. This post is for you guys who sweat through your clothes at the thought of a beautiful woman.
I could tell you what everyone else says.
I could tell you what I do.
But neither of those would help you.
So this is tailored specifically for you.
At every girl you walk by. It doesn’t get any simpler than this. You probably walk by dozens, if not hundreds of women a day. Some of them are texting. Others talking on the phone. Most are simply walking. It doesn’t matter. Smile at them. This is also a great way to judge their receptivity. If she smiles back, awesome! If not, who cares?! You smiled because you are a happy guy and just want to share your happiness with the rest of the world. Actually, smile at everyone you see! Everybody needs a smile to brighten up their day. Some will be so receptive as to even say…
Once you’ve become comfortable with smiling at women you can then begin to say hi, first to those who open you, then to those whom you have to initiate the vocal exchange with. Heck, after that you can say hey or hello to the people you smile at that don’t seem receptive in the least!
#3. “How are you?”
This can be a transition IF YOU WANT IT TO BE, it doesn’t have to though. It’s just a friendly gesture that comes after a greeting. People often ask each other how they are will no real interest, but it carries as much weight as you want it to. You’ll learn that with the right look you can completely change the dynamic of your interaction from one of no intent to a fully charged state. Once you understand the basics of this common and simple interplay you can begin to tweak it as you see fit. Eventually you will emit such a strong aura of masculinity that women will smile and greet you as you pass. Grin a little, pause, then ask her, “How are you?” Do it right and you can stop women dead in their tracks.
Like a f*cking champ.