I met this girl a few weeks ago--really cute brunette--at a bar. At first she was showing a lot of interest, and we went out on one pretty fun date. Then I called her and asked her out again, and she sends me a text like "Oh I cant really get involved right now, bla bla". That threw me for a loop since we kissed the first night and she seemed into me. We ended up going out for coffee another time which was nice, but then she has been kind of flaky. We made plans for a drink, she bailed. Then I tried to make plans for two different nights on a weekend and she first seemed interested and then nixed it. Basically, I was where you dont want to be--on the defensive.
So then I switched up things. I started initiating text convos but not asking her out. But today I kind of demonstrated too much interest, and she stopped responding.
Now I realize what I need to do: neg her. I hav a feeling she is quite insecure, but she is enjoying my pursuit and my attention. I think what I need to do next is text her and say something like, "Do you ever dye your hair blonde?" When she says No, I will text her "Too bad, my type is tall blondes". I think this will put her in her place.
Thoughts from the PUAs on the forum?