How to close Japanese girls in Japan?
First some background.
I met her last year in the USA studying English, we hit it off but I didn't try anything heavy with her as it was a bad situation because of a friend (long story). For the way japanese people is, I wasn't sure if I was working her right until that summer's last night we went out partying and she drank a little bit. SHE gave me heavy Kino and faced me 100%, and my friends had to separate her from me. That was 1 year ago.
One [really shy] Japanese guy told me she was the hottest girl he had ever seen, so I think she could be considered a 9/10 easily.
I came to Japan 2 days ago to study Japanese, to know the country and to have fun (including meeting girls). She told me to meet like many times, so I met her this morning. Everything was as hellish cold as it's always with all Japanese people, but I got her laughing all the time and gave a little (too much anyway) kino. We went to a purikura, then to a place I liked from yday which was closed and then to a small restaurant to have some cake and a soft drink.
She mentioned her boyfriend 2 times. First she asked me not tu upload the pictures to facebook because of her bf (just said okay), later when I asked her if she liked to go out to parties in Japan and she told me that her boyfriend didn't let her nor he was happy with we 2 meeting (told her about how things work a bit different in Europe but not blaming the bf).
I've read something about many Japanese girls only kissing bf/gf and that you should say that you have just MOVED, not only TRAVELING, as this makes them think they have a chance for a long term relationship so they are more likely to go further. She asked me how long I was staying and I said 1 month, but she knew that already.
When we were at the subway station, I wanted to give it a try. So I did a 'would you like to kiss me?', getting a 'no' and some smiles/small laugh (pressure relief? It wasn't mean at all). I was cool with it like, step back smiling and 'okay, that's fine, I was just curious. [Pause] but why, because of your bf or because you don't want to', and she only said 'because I'm Japanese and we don't do that'.
Any advice for the future? How should I try to *close her or some Japanese girl in the future? Getting her (or anyone) drunk so they get more comfortable is NOT what I want. Kino is REALLY violent for them if you are not together, and I have not a private room close enough.
I've found a 'decent' opener for Japan, saying that I want to practice Japanese and have a small talk. I'll practice tomorrow many times. It's truth, it's non threatening and it's cool. Most occidental openers don't work here.
The other one would be to ask for directions. That DOES work here with HB 6/7, as they walk with you for a long way so you can speak with them. This one is not 100% effective, but which one is?
PS, reward the few Japanese girls that dare to look in the eyes with a wink. For their f**** big smiles, I know that that made their day.
My English is probably not completely right and you might need an extra effort to figure out what I actually meant. Also I'm not a pro, but I keep practicing and learning almost every day.