Here I go....(this is excellent stuff if you want to see from deaf guy's perspective)
Story background: Me---deaf guy. She-hearing, single mom
I had no problem making myself original from a rest of hearing guys...by asking any gals if they'd like to learn a sign langauge lesson.
It is quite easy for me to use the "natural" material like this to start off with convo w/ any hearing women out there...w/o "being fake." Many of them love to learn the sign language lesson, tho. It is not uncommon for me to find out that they had learned few sign language lessons from elementary school days. It is very easy for me to create a strong sense of "commonality" connection among with these women.
Other advantage I have as a deaf person (note: not all deaf ppl are like me...depending on their level of confidence....mine is more like Tom Cruise's confidence level) .....is that I often touch gals immediately within 2-5 minutes if I spot any fingerspelling mistake (for example, letter p is being mistook for k). I corrected them by re-adjusting their hand shapes. Just imagine yourself teaching someone how to golf the ball. It was just like that. It has very same "touching" material. Their eyes usually lit up when I did the touching. I always love that part! Nice!
Little more about my background....I had dated more than 40 ladies under my belt.. four gf so far. More than 15 kisses from different gals...but I am picky guy. In other words, I know what I want in the certain gal, but am not too crazy about HB10 stuff. I already passed that. I am crazy enough about natural "compatible" communication or chemistry on scale of 9 or 10 as in "C9 or C10." It is just me. Sure, I prefer at least HB7, tho.
Now....let's get on with the hard core material on texting... but I want to explain the situation first.
This hearing lady (HB7 / C10) was hitting on me quite fast (without a warning signal frm her) at the start of our first date......she gave me a hand masseur within 5 minutes right after our first meeting! The fastest hard-core IOI cue I ever witnessed in person (besides her letter in which it also produced many IOIs in it... one example in her writing is that she wants to get "snuggle" from me when I show up at her place (ya, i did play hard to get by stating ...that will cost her 20 bucks for snuggle via email).
Back to where I was about the hand masseur in my car... I did my best to cut off the hand masseur from her less than 2 mins or so....by pretending I need to concentrate on driving (playing a little bit hard to get)....but she still kept doing it. I decided rewarding her by saying that her hand is so warm, and kissed her hand lightly....with my "approval" look directly at her eyes (it worked....as she liked it and she kept continuing the hand touching). I could play the "cat string" much longer if I want to...but I was too busy concentrating on driving (my "deaf" eyes have to be on the road. Safety comes first, u know!)
Before walking off to the destined spot (firework event on July 4th), she immediately surprised me by asking me how old i was (she is 26 and I am 45...but with a look of 35. We met via dating site) and she asked what was the sign word for "sexy" (she was very bold asking this first sign word that she wants to know! Note: We both used the writing pad to communicate with each other back and forth....btw she did the most of the writing...that is very important as I want her to keep her attention on me...as i kept the writing short most of the time). By answering to her questions, I started with the loop conversation (explaining that there are many way to sign the word sexy.....great stuff for me to demonstrate the value.....before answering her sh1t-test question). I used one-liner from PUA by stating ..how much do you weight? in respond to her sh1t q. Her first natural react (very important info upfront.....if ya want to avoid being caught off guarded like this one)---she quoted this "so you want 30 bucks for putting my finger in my your a---hole!" But I somehow couldn't remember what I did said to her when reassuring her with something differently. She calmed cool right away. If ya guys are wondering, ...yes she still "hooked up" her hand that goes with mine at the boardwalk.
FYI, she stated that she had a good time with me at the firework event. She did once remarked this "I am not that easy....when it comes to having a sex." Ya, it was quite surprise (my first time to hear such remark this early! Wondering if she reads this info off frm somewhere). Anyway I laughed naturally, and turned my head to the right as if I brushed her remark off, and reset the conversation. We had lot of laughs and stuff. I did caressed her on and off, including kiss on her head and arm around her shoulder) on all of different part of her body. She did the same, except for a hug, as she is only 5'2 or 5'3 and I am at 5'11. We did this part on side by side, not face to face. Naturally.
She once gave IOI cue (I treated it as "considering" cue) whether she wants a kiss on the spot...but it is not quite romance setting for both of us... as it is a little crowdy on the pier where we watched the firework. We both knew that we need a quiet place to do it somewhere.
This part is interesting....
She was testy (as she asked me this same age-related question, how old r ya?, later on.....fortunately for me....I knew there was other answer to this question.....I stated to her--"U need to get used to it...I will tease u every time you asked me this particular q"......from there she left me alone...but she added this line----you cannot tease me forever.
Boy! She is good! I never will answer it, tho!
Now....on the way to home.....
She quoted this "I do not normally kiss on the first date." I had never heard this remark before after dating 40 ladies on dates...that was my first. No kidding, guys! It basically caught me off guarded (as I didn't except it...as I was going to use that particular line during our second or third date)....but I acted cooly and listened her. Very brief blah about her ex (she is single mom) I was calm about her ex stuff. It was really brief comment. Not nagging type. I just simple nodded here and there... while I was concentrating on driving. Ya...lots of hand masseurs are still going on...but more technical at this time.
She issued a couple of new IOI cues by placing her hand on my thigh and my shoulder.....her head lying on my shoulder.
Arriving at her place, I said excellent closing remark....(refused to say here).....that made her laugh at end of our convo. That was lovely laugh I will never forgot!
The biggest puzzle of all...
Remember she said about not wanting to have a kiss on the first date....however, she did surprised me by kissing me on my cheek...(and there was one more surprise....she did the second take (less than second or two.).....I sensed a very soft kiss at first on my cheek ....but then she moved at the different angle as she moved her cheek to bump mine very lightly......I was puzzled at that point....perhaps indicating me to kiss her cheek once more). I forgot about using sniffing and hair grab material, if I want to proceed the kiss on her lips. I skipped that part...went ahead to kiss her cheek once more.
(Wondering if you guys have experienced something like this when your ladies said something in your ear on your first date...what are the common lines in this case? ...I sometimes wondering if she is whispering to my ear to see if I am deaf....or requesting me to do something....like come to my house inside or kiss me in the front...or else).
From there...she moved back slowly, and glaced at me softly (perhaps a little wet in her eyes)......I suggested her to get back to her home. We waved our good-bye very lightly. She did something that I never saw before among the ladies.....when she walked away...I notice she looked down toward at her body....as if she was analyzing her emotions. My best education guess is that she is surprised that she cannot "control" me (the reason is that she once remarked that her ex controlled her.....perhaps that explains her wet eyes...I guess.
It is possible she is exploring her feeling at this moment....I recognize that it is my job to give her enough space to explore that for few weeks...if needed.
TEXT STUFF MATERIAL EXAMINATION
During the next evening....about 7pm
Here what I wrote to her via email.....
If I kissed your lips accidentally while kissing goodbye last night, would u mind it?
Btw...I'm having a such wonderful time w/ ya. Thank u, Max-y! (Max is her name for short)
end of quotation
I havent heard from her since......I re-read the text material somewhere....and this is big no-no stuff. Mistake number one----No question at the start of texting (save that part for relationship only)....mistake number two---remember cute name. I aware that the text does not need to force her to be anything on the spot. I acknowledges that she probably might be a bit nervous right now, and I will try allow her to take some time to think about an appropriate response, and allows her to consult with her girlfriends.....but what if she doesn't know how.
Folks, this is the first text email after our first date.... so how do I recover from this? Should I Freeze Out? She has the rare C10! And I completely want her ......I know this from experiences after dating w/ at least 40 ladies. Style in particular (PUA) and I think alike...we both know when we found the rare soulmate.
I am about to forward the future text will be something like this...
(Inserted opener) I have few moment to text here before I need to get back to my friends
Me I wish I were there right now...
Her: (Assuming this is her respond) Hi LC ..what? or how r ya?
You: Well I wouldn't kiss you lightly on your cheek.
Her: (whatever her response is)
You: I definitely would move to your neck, and slowly start tracing my way down towards ur breasts
(You guys can improve this area OR.... should I use this one below)
Me: What’s keeping you busy?” (I feel it is not good one....cuz ur guys can recall that she remarked that her ex bf is controlling her....it sounds like BF's style of talking, u know).
Me: I am starving!
Me: Me: Would you let me stick my fingers in your mango jar? (I am referring to the "mango" moon that we saw at firework).
(I like this one...my gut feeling says this is best one ....as it prompts her to a better state of mind)
Me: Did u lose ur sense of humor? U did NOT take that seriously right? I had such high hopes for you...
(I do not know if that is too strong remark...my powerful gut feeling tells me that it is smart to avoid this one....but this one would work at other times...not with first text .....I need something lighter than this one).
Recovery stuff that u guys can think of ..than all three from above.