Note: Most of the routines you will find in this post are taken from Mystery's work. Since his show The Pickup Artist aired, a lot of these are now well-known and will get you called out if you try to use them word-for-word. Please mold/fit/tweak to fit your own style.
Sarging, for anyone who doesn't know, is the word used for going out into the real world to specifically pick-up women (or at least attempt to). Many people have different interpretations of what sarging means to them - some believe that sarging is primarily based on a sexual outcome, going out in a bid to get laid that night, some believe that it is focused on separating the wheat from the chaff in order to find the partner that suits you, while still others believe in using it as a tool to simply overcome their approach shyness, to become a world class PUA, to make money from it. Whatever your interpretation of it is, it is integral to your game, and your evolution in the seduction community - if you want to get better with women, your going to have to sarge at some point, and yes - that means going into the real world and approaching REAL girls!
This guide will take into consideration the following:-
o Your style, whether it be Direct or Indirect (ie Natural or Canned)
o Your current level
o Obviously you will be over the age to sarge in clubs
o Positives and Negatives of clubs
o Do's and Don't Do's
Ok, firstly - before entering any clubs with the intention of sarging, you must be in the correct frame of mind. Going out with the Mindset of 'Oooh, I'm not too sure I can do this, what if I get rejected, what if I get scared and stall out?' is unacceptable. If you BELIEVE you can't do it, then you won't - its time to break free of the cozy little comfort zones and start becoming a man by taking what you want, when you want it!
When you lack flow, you CLING to this dream... "Im not ready for this yet.. My confidence is too low. I must wait and later this will be easy." But its just a dream. Flow doesnt come from a thing inside you. Inner game/confidence doesnt exist. Flow comes from actions alone.
ACTIONS!! ACTIONS!! That is the only way you can learn, that is the only way you can evolve, you cannot progress by sitting in your bedroom wanking over porn, you cannot get the girl(s) you want by constantly reading these forums and NOT putting the things you learn into ACTION!! In the real world is where you learn and progress.
Ok, so you're in the club, you spot the most amazing female you've ever seen - What do you do?
A - Approach without thought
B - Analyse the surroundings for 5 minutes and then approach
C - Sit back and play it cool with your drink
D - Walk away
If you didnt say A, then slap yourself now! Hesitation is masturbation. What's the worst that could happen - that harmless girl tells you to get lost? Oh my! What on earth are you to do??? Oh yeah, turn around and approach someone who is actually worth your time!!!
But you can't, because you're too scared to approach - WAKE THE F**K UP!!!
Next time you feel insecure, you will remember what I told you: -you lack nothing inside you. You are FINE. -all you lack is a little FLOW and this is perfectly normal and OK. -flow comes from actions alone.
Now that your eyes are open.. you will find many GREAT NEW WAYS of building flow.. You fill find your own unique ways that work especially well for you. You will not have to analyze or study. You will simply start noticing how certain actions create flow in your life, and you will know how to use them at times when you need more flow.
I call this STACKING - do a tiny thing to build some flow, and then do the big/hard thing at once afterwards, or schedule many things after one another, preferably starting with the smallest/easiest.
Ever get nervous before a big test or before taking an interview - you know how you think about blowing that test/person away and get really pumped - do the same here!!! Fire yourself up!!!
E.g. if I stall out in a pub and suddenly feel insecure about approaching, I do a tiny dance or even jump around a bit, and then approach immediately.
Approach Anxiety is normal. It's hardwired into our genes since birth, it goes back to the caveman days when getting rejected by a female could result in humiliation and expulsion from your tribe - but this ain't the Stone Age, your friends aren't going to stone you or throw you out their circle. They might rib you a little, but you'll survive. It's about time the Gene Pool got a little Chlorine in it, don't you think?
What we do is joke around, so that we're just having fun and nothing is taken too seriously. We also appear to be having more fun on our own, which comes across unneedy, rather than staring at the room in awe. Here are a few things we do.
These aren't things we consciously do, but just jokes that I see happening all the time when we're out.
- "The precious LIKES it.. it LIKES it.... It WANTS it.. the precious WANTS it.." (Golemn imitation from The Lord of the Rings, referring to our ****s wanting the girls and being in control of us - but you guys already knew that, didn't you?)
- Singing: "Who's that giiiiirl?.... she's a SPECIAL girl... she's a DIFFERENT KIND OF GIRL... she's a SNOOOWFLAAAAKE... I wanna MEET her.. she's SPECIAL... (whispering) She's the ONE." (done to Backstreet Boys singing style).
-Joking that we already got laid. Twentysix will come back from the bathroom and say **** like "I just fclosed that girl while you guys were gone. I got 8 numbers."
-Joking around that we're girls. If the Outkast "Hey Ya" song comes on, we'll start screaming and yelling "MUST DANCE!!!"
-Walking up to old sets that we don't really want and pretending like we're shooting guns at them as we reapproach so they're laughing, and then grabbing them and cavemanning them over our shoulders and walking into the next set with them screaming (in a good way, I swear).
The point that I'm trying to make is that we go out to have fun, and we joke around with eachother the entire time. Those are just examples of jokes that I remember we've done at times. I see guys going out and having approach anxiety, and I think that its because they're caring too much what other people think of them and not going out to have fun with their friends. If your skillset is developed, then success will happen on autopilot, so I think the best thing to do is just go out and have fun and allow it to happen, rather than focusing on it. If you focus on doing well, then it just obstructs it. If you go out and have fun, then whatever is there just naturally comes out.
This is a very important thing, because the girls pick up on the vibe that you are having fun on your own, and they will say things when you approach like "You are the coolest guys in here. We've been hoping you guys would talk to us all night." I get that in set all the time, but only on nights when I'm having fun independently of the validation that I'm getting from girls.
FUN - That is the key word here. FUN!
I you aren't having fun while you are out sarging, then it becomes a chore. Put everything aside, all egos, all cares and throw caution to the wind - nothing astronomically bad will happen - guaranteed!
Ok, so you've lost your Approach Anxiety and your ready to approach that hottie, what do you say/do???
You: Hmmm hey, hmmm how, hmmmm you doing?
NOooo, NOooo! Thats a sure fire way to rejection-ville, unless you happen to look like Johnny Depp or have the most amazing frame ever.
If your a natural and you don't favor the canned stuff - heres how you do it:
You: Hey love/girl/sweetie i just saw you from across the club and i thought you were amazing so i came to talk to you.
Here - your frame HAS to be strong, you have to ASSUME ATTRACTION and Believe that you are going to get this girl and rock her world - otherwise, you'll go down like the Titanic.
- Good Posture
- Good Eye Contact
- Strong Tonality and Projection of Voice (Be Clear)
- Dont Rush your words - Nice...even...pace
- ASSUME ATTRACTION!!!
What do I mean - Assume Attraction?
Do I mean 'Assume that you are handsome'? YES!
Do I mean 'Assume that you are capable'? YES!
Do I mean 'Assume that you are funny'? YES!
Assume EVERYTHING that is positive, and what would truly endear you to other people!
Being Attractive is not necessarily being Handsome, Funny or Capable, being Attractive is the way you carry yourself, its the way you treat other around you, it's the outlook you have on life, you are the positive one, the risk taker -the one who is unafraid to embrace his masculinity to get what he truly wants and deserves.
From the Opener - you have to keep going, just telling the girl that you want to meet her isn't enough, you have to stack some stories and start building some VAC (Value, Attainability, Comfort). After all - this girl doesn't know you, so you're just another schmuck trying to get some ass from her!
Vibing is mostly a process of topic association. With everything she says, a girl will give you a number of potential directions in which to take the conversation. Good vibing is the result of being aware of these directions on an unconscious level, and taking the conversation down the best path.
Let's take an easy example. Suppose a girl said to you "At this party last night, I got really drunk and started grinding with my girlfriend and making out with her."
Possible topics for you to vibe off of are:
1. The party last night
2. Parties in general
3. What you did last night
4. Getting really drunk
5. Girls making out with other girls
6. Her girlfriend
8. Dancing at parties/clubs
This is the easy part. Just by recognizing what a wealth of topics she presents you with every time she opens her mouth, you'll solve the problem of "stalling out" and having nothing to say.
There are multitudes of topics you can use to vibe, the best are usually those which most people can identify with:
Don't you just hate...
- expecting something and then not getting it?
- when you get a text message, and you run all the way upstairs only to find out it's just a phone company update?
- when you're waiting for a bus/train and it's delayed?
- when you hear a song you love and you can't remember who sings it?
- when you're about to get into the house and you can't find the keys, so you're stuck waiting outside?
- laying in bed, 5 minutes left, and then you have to get up?
Look for commonalities and attempt to let the conversation flow, get that rapport and show her what a great guy you are.
Vibing is integral, but it is only a small part of what you are going to do to get the girl - as a natural you must be able to 'Take nothing and turn it into something', you must be able to create stories that depict moods, evoke feelings and create emotional bonds to get you what you desire.
Nightclubs can be intimidating places, smokey, alive, packed to the rafters with guys just wanting to get laid, so you do have competition; but knowing what you read here will put you far and above those other guys. You dont have to drink, you can sip water - allow your true confidence to seep thru, oftentimes you'll notice that the pure rush from the atmosphere is enough to keep you motivated and pushing those sets further.
98% of the people in the clubs will be drunk, they won't know what they are doing and most will become ultra-friendly, easily beguiled and manipulated. Here's your chance to generate maximum social proof - so what you dont know anyone in the venue? You will in 10 minutes! Simply go around high-fiving and shaking hands with every guy in the venue, you can do this to girls, as well - this is what TylerDurden calls 'Short Set Method', it's easy and everyone in the club (unless they are assholes) will give you a warm handshake or high-five - instant social proof, easier openings!