Just an advance apology, sorry for the long-as-eff post.
New to the forums and new to the game really. I had previously never really thought about all of this, but after being told about The Game by Neil Strauss, I was instantly hooked to the topic.
A little background:
I'm 20, I live in Canada, and I'm a new car salesperson (boo, I know). I am not the most attractive guy, but I've had a touch here and there of success with women. I am working on my physical appearance, not only so women are more interested, but so I feel better about myself, in turn being more confident.
So there's the back-story, here is where the problem comes up. There was a new girl at work who started just a couple of months ago, as a service call-center receptionist. She is probably an 8/10 by most standards, she's been in the car business collectively for about 3 years doing what she does now, she is a year younger than me, and she appears to be interested in cars (I caught her checking out Audi's on our website one day when I approached her).
I had actually ignored her from day one, mostly because of what I had learned from The Game. She ignored my existence from day one, and I ignored hers. But, I would have conversations near her, sell myself to her indirectly; make myself sound like an interesting and relevant guy.
A little more back-story, the first week she worked there, probably 8-10 guys went and introduced themselves and blatantly showed interest in her. Being it already as it is, she is a girl in a man's world (car dealership) so her guards and shield instantly went up from day one. She had actually told 2 of them off (I was standing close-by when one of them happened, fellow salesperson who is a squeaky youngin with an over-the-top personality who would join her for lunch everyday). He asked, in a cheesy soft way, as always, if he could join her for lunch. I watched her roll her eyes and proceed to say roughly the following:
No, I'm sick and tired of you and a select few others hitting on me, like you're extremely blatant about it and I have no interest. Please leave me alone.
So, probably a month in, she started saying "Hi, how are you" to me, in passing by, I'd literally just raise my eyebrows to say "Hi". This went on for about 3-4 weeks, with the occasional, non-enthusiastic, work-related visit to her desk. I'd take my opportunities to schedule service appointments for sold-clients just to talk to her. But again, showed no interest, etc. So, as of recently, she started showing more and more interest, ioi's if you may. She'd look at me as I walked by to the key machine, she'd smile, she'd have a quick word with me during lunch, such as "I'm finally trying the Thai Soup you guys are all so crazy about". And in the last couple of days, there have been two instances where it got to a pretty wicked point of IOI.
I dropped off some message slips for her from reception. She says "I keep on getting calls but they keep on getting sent back to reception, I guess they don't want to talk to the bitch in service, hey TheDrive?" She's using my name, fark yes! "Just kidding, I'm totally not a bitch" I just laugh, while staring into her eyes. She gasps "what was that laugh for, TheDrive?" I shrug my shoulders while kind of being in another conversation. She goes on to VERY flirtatiously say "TheDrive, were you laughing at me, or with me?". I couldn't handle it, way too effing hot, I just shrugged the gesture "I don't know" and walked away calmly, yet nervously.
We've had pretty standard conversation from then on, like I'll go to her desk and talk with the guy she sits with who does the same thing. Who I think of as her protector. I've made friends with him, he likes me, I'll talk with him, and she'll want to be in on it.
So how in the world do I take it to the next level? How do I Isolate her without hitting on her? How do I get her number? How do I get her to want to actively seek ME out, rather than me coming to her desk?
Questions, questions, questions. I know you guys will be able to help me out, and for that, I thank y'all in advance.
- Girl at work is annoyed by guys hitting on her
- I have denied her existence since day one
- She started opening me, saying hi, how are you, etc
- I approach her for work related stuff, and she kind of flirts, as if to tease
- WHAT DO I DO NEXT?!