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    Default New girl at work - Just not happening!

    Hey everyone,

    Just an advance apology, sorry for the long-as-eff post.

    New to the forums and new to the game really. I had previously never really thought about all of this, but after being told about The Game by Neil Strauss, I was instantly hooked to the topic.

    A little background:

    I'm 20, I live in Canada, and I'm a new car salesperson (boo, I know). I am not the most attractive guy, but I've had a touch here and there of success with women. I am working on my physical appearance, not only so women are more interested, but so I feel better about myself, in turn being more confident.

    So there's the back-story, here is where the problem comes up. There was a new girl at work who started just a couple of months ago, as a service call-center receptionist. She is probably an 8/10 by most standards, she's been in the car business collectively for about 3 years doing what she does now, she is a year younger than me, and she appears to be interested in cars (I caught her checking out Audi's on our website one day when I approached her).

    I had actually ignored her from day one, mostly because of what I had learned from The Game. She ignored my existence from day one, and I ignored hers. But, I would have conversations near her, sell myself to her indirectly; make myself sound like an interesting and relevant guy.

    A little more back-story, the first week she worked there, probably 8-10 guys went and introduced themselves and blatantly showed interest in her. Being it already as it is, she is a girl in a man's world (car dealership) so her guards and shield instantly went up from day one. She had actually told 2 of them off (I was standing close-by when one of them happened, fellow salesperson who is a squeaky youngin with an over-the-top personality who would join her for lunch everyday). He asked, in a cheesy soft way, as always, if he could join her for lunch. I watched her roll her eyes and proceed to say roughly the following:

    No, I'm sick and tired of you and a select few others hitting on me, like you're extremely blatant about it and I have no interest. Please leave me alone.

    So, probably a month in, she started saying "Hi, how are you" to me, in passing by, I'd literally just raise my eyebrows to say "Hi". This went on for about 3-4 weeks, with the occasional, non-enthusiastic, work-related visit to her desk. I'd take my opportunities to schedule service appointments for sold-clients just to talk to her. But again, showed no interest, etc. So, as of recently, she started showing more and more interest, ioi's if you may. She'd look at me as I walked by to the key machine, she'd smile, she'd have a quick word with me during lunch, such as "I'm finally trying the Thai Soup you guys are all so crazy about". And in the last couple of days, there have been two instances where it got to a pretty wicked point of IOI.

    I dropped off some message slips for her from reception. She says "I keep on getting calls but they keep on getting sent back to reception, I guess they don't want to talk to the bitch in service, hey TheDrive?" She's using my name, fark yes! "Just kidding, I'm totally not a bitch" I just laugh, while staring into her eyes. She gasps "what was that laugh for, TheDrive?" I shrug my shoulders while kind of being in another conversation. She goes on to VERY flirtatiously say "TheDrive, were you laughing at me, or with me?". I couldn't handle it, way too effing hot, I just shrugged the gesture "I don't know" and walked away calmly, yet nervously.

    We've had pretty standard conversation from then on, like I'll go to her desk and talk with the guy she sits with who does the same thing. Who I think of as her protector. I've made friends with him, he likes me, I'll talk with him, and she'll want to be in on it.

    So how in the world do I take it to the next level? How do I Isolate her without hitting on her? How do I get her number? How do I get her to want to actively seek ME out, rather than me coming to her desk?

    Questions, questions, questions. I know you guys will be able to help me out, and for that, I thank y'all in advance.

    TL;DR:

    - Girl at work is annoyed by guys hitting on her
    - I have denied her existence since day one
    - She started opening me, saying hi, how are you, etc
    - I approach her for work related stuff, and she kind of flirts, as if to tease
    - WHAT DO I DO NEXT?!

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    Default Re: New girl at work - Just not happening!

    I have been here before, it was 2 months ago when I first started my job. I met the most attractive girl out the whole office. I ignored her the first 4 weeks and we began flirting and made small talk and I went in and ask her out for happy hour.

    Well at happy hour it was good, and I went boldly in and ask her out. It wasnt "Do you want to ...", it was more along the lines of "I am doing [this], I know you want to come ..." and she said I was sweet and confident but she had to decline.

    I think I played into her game/web. She knows she was hot, she was approached by tons of guys, some who are currently in the friend zone looking for one day to be the one. I didnt want to be the friend-zone guy so I approach her quickly and boldly.

    We currently say hello to each other but I dont talk to her about anything apart from work topics.

    My personal advice go hard or go home? You have nothing to lose you already ignoring her, why go through the torture of the "What if". Set something up sooner or later. If it doesnt work then move right along.

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDrive View Post
    Hey everyone,

    Just an advance apology, sorry for the long-as-eff post.

    New to the forums and new to the game really. I had previously never really thought about all of this, but after being told about The Game by Neil Strauss, I was instantly hooked to the topic.

    A little background:

    I'm 20, I live in Canada, and I'm a new car salesperson (boo, I know). I am not the most attractive guy, but I've had a touch here and there of success with women. I am working on my physical appearance, not only so women are more interested, but so I feel better about myself, in turn being more confident.

    So there's the back-story, here is where the problem comes up. There was a new girl at work who started just a couple of months ago, as a service call-center receptionist. She is probably an 8/10 by most standards, she's been in the car business collectively for about 3 years doing what she does now, she is a year younger than me, and she appears to be interested in cars (I caught her checking out Audi's on our website one day when I approached her).

    I had actually ignored her from day one, mostly because of what I had learned from The Game. She ignored my existence from day one, and I ignored hers. But, I would have conversations near her, sell myself to her indirectly; make myself sound like an interesting and relevant guy.

    A little more back-story, the first week she worked there, probably 8-10 guys went and introduced themselves and blatantly showed interest in her. Being it already as it is, she is a girl in a man's world (car dealership) so her guards and shield instantly went up from day one. She had actually told 2 of them off (I was standing close-by when one of them happened, fellow salesperson who is a squeaky youngin with an over-the-top personality who would join her for lunch everyday). He asked, in a cheesy soft way, as always, if he could join her for lunch. I watched her roll her eyes and proceed to say roughly the following:

    No, I'm sick and tired of you and a select few others hitting on me, like you're extremely blatant about it and I have no interest. Please leave me alone.

    So, probably a month in, she started saying "Hi, how are you" to me, in passing by, I'd literally just raise my eyebrows to say "Hi". This went on for about 3-4 weeks, with the occasional, non-enthusiastic, work-related visit to her desk. I'd take my opportunities to schedule service appointments for sold-clients just to talk to her. But again, showed no interest, etc. So, as of recently, she started showing more and more interest, ioi's if you may. She'd look at me as I walked by to the key machine, she'd smile, she'd have a quick word with me during lunch, such as "I'm finally trying the Thai Soup you guys are all so crazy about". And in the last couple of days, there have been two instances where it got to a pretty wicked point of IOI.

    I dropped off some message slips for her from reception. She says "I keep on getting calls but they keep on getting sent back to reception, I guess they don't want to talk to the bitch in service, hey TheDrive?" She's using my name, fark yes! "Just kidding, I'm totally not a bitch" I just laugh, while staring into her eyes. She gasps "what was that laugh for, TheDrive?" I shrug my shoulders while kind of being in another conversation. She goes on to VERY flirtatiously say "TheDrive, were you laughing at me, or with me?". I couldn't handle it, way too effing hot, I just shrugged the gesture "I don't know" and walked away calmly, yet nervously.

    We've had pretty standard conversation from then on, like I'll go to her desk and talk with the guy she sits with who does the same thing. Who I think of as her protector. I've made friends with him, he likes me, I'll talk with him, and she'll want to be in on it.

    So how in the world do I take it to the next level? How do I Isolate her without hitting on her? How do I get her number? How do I get her to want to actively seek ME out, rather than me coming to her desk?

    Questions, questions, questions. I know you guys will be able to help me out, and for that, I thank y'all in advance.

    TL;DR:

    - Girl at work is annoyed by guys hitting on her
    - I have denied her existence since day one
    - She started opening me, saying hi, how are you, etc
    - I approach her for work related stuff, and she kind of flirts, as if to tease
    - WHAT DO I DO NEXT?!
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    Default Re: New girl at work - Just not happening!

    Damn man, that's exactly the boat I'm in except I'm holding off asking her out. That is the transitional phase where I don't want to fark up. Because if I do, it's done.

    I'm sure there is some way, or opportunity that will arise, but I just don't know what to look for, or when/how to do it.

    Edit:

    Didn't see your edit.

    See, that's where it's tough. I don't want to lose the opportunity, I feel like she'd be an awesome girl to get to know, and she's also beautiful. I really don't mind waiting and taking opportunities elsewhere at the same time.

    I want to delay action for some time so it gives time for her to build interest in me, but I also don't want her to lose that fire she's been showing to me recently.

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    Default Re: New girl at work - Just not happening!

    The thing what most guys suffer from is putting women on pedestals. She is not the only beautiful woman there is. You live in CAN. The ratio of women to men is high. So the odds are in your favour.

    What guys like you need to do is talk to more than one good looking HB. Imaging already talking to a girl who looks like Jessica Alba, Kathy Perry and/ Megan Fox. If you try asking out on a date say ... Charlize Theron or Scarlett Johansson and they politely say 'NO'. You wouldnt care would you? Because you already have other HB at home waiting for you.

    The point I am trying to make is dont limit yourself to this HB at work. Go out and do happy hours and go out at other places while you sett your game up for the girl at work. This way if it doesnt go well you dont care because you already have other HB to attend to.





    Quote Originally Posted by TheDrive View Post
    Damn man, that's exactly the boat I'm in except I'm holding off asking her out. That is the transitional phase where I don't want to fark up. Because if I do, it's done.

    I'm sure there is some way, or opportunity that will arise, but I just don't know what to look for, or when/how to do it.

    Edit:

    Didn't see your edit.

    See, that's where it's tough. I don't want to lose the opportunity, I feel like she'd be an awesome girl to get to know, and she's also beautiful. I really don't mind waiting and taking opportunities elsewhere at the same time.

    I want to delay action for some time so it gives time for her to build interest in me, but I also don't want her to lose that fire she's been showing to me recently.
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    Default Re: New girl at work - Just not happening!

    Yeah for sure, I will certainly be out there working game wherever I can, but I want to know what to do with this girl while I'm doing that.

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    Default Re: New girl at work - Just not happening!

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDrive View Post
    Yeah for sure, I will certainly be out there working game wherever I can, but I want to know what to do with this girl while I'm doing that.
    Dont worry someone will come and give you more advice who has more experience in this area.
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    Default Re: New girl at work - Just not happening!

    Quote Originally Posted by topgunningit View Post
    Dont worry someone will come and give you more advice who has more experience in this area.
    That's certainly what I'm hoping for!

    Let's say for simplicities sake, I want this to somehow end in her being okay with being somehow 1-on-1 with me, away from her service desk, as it is completely out of the way for a salesperson, unless I'm making an appointment for a client, or a number-close where it's okay for me to text or call her without seeming too forward, or getting her to add me on Facebook.

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    Default Re: New girl at work - Just not happening!

    You want to unqualify yourself first before asking her out. Drop some hints that you're really not in the mood for dating right now, and you actually made a girl sad last week-end because of that. Then later invite her to a really non-date thing, like an outdoor thing, or something you would share with a bro or an old high school friend. Build some rapport during this "date", learn more about her, and then use what you learned to target more your conversations / invitations later

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    Default Re: New girl at work - Just not happening!

    Quote Originally Posted by Mikalichov View Post
    You want to unqualify yourself first before asking her out. Drop some hints that you're really not in the mood for dating right now, and you actually made a girl sad last week-end because of that. Then later invite her to a really non-date thing, like an outdoor thing, or something you would share with a bro or an old high school friend. Build some rapport during this "date", learn more about her, and then use what you learned to target more your conversations / invitations later
    Thanks, Mikalichov,

    That is certainly an interesting approach that I'd not though of yet. That's definitely going to be in the process, but I simply do not know how to even build enough rapport or get her comfortable enough with even going out with me. Regardless of the set-up or plan.

    Edit:

    I want to somehow get on a daily talking basis with her, about stuff other than work.

    I'm having a tough time trying to explain which transitional phase I'm struggling with pertaining to the situation, so please bare with me!

    The biggest thing is that there is no common ground, I know very little about her, and she knows very little about me, besides what I indirectly sold her about myself. She works in a different department all together and she is "protected" by this guy that sits at the 3 person desk (only occupied by 2 most of the time).

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    Default Re: New girl at work - Just not happening!

    You have some interest from her so that is a good start. If she likes you she will date you irrelevant of how you ask her out so try find out more about her behavior around you by observing her body language in particular. If you don't have much chance to talk at work and other guys are hitting on her perhaps your best way to get her to like you is to gently tease her. Not in a sleazy or downgrading way but position yourself as a fun playful guy. Chances are deep down she's utterly bored at work anyway so remain uninterested in her specifically but forge ahead that you are a guy who makes work a fun place. She will then hopefully start seeking you out to relieve her boredom and because you are different to the other guys you can retain mystery, intrigue and she will have to work for your attention making it much easier for you to judge her body language and level of interest. Build trust with playful confidence and a little teasing to deflate her ego for working in a male dominated place. If it's hard to talk to her at work try engineer situations where you leave or arrive at work together - she might have a pattern you can sync with eventually leading to rapport and a Number Close. Being work colleagues you can safely do an informal date like lunch or drinks and if there's really not much chance to talk get her email (do you have access to what her work email is?) so you can communicate another way. The main thing is to get her attracted to you so you already knows she will say yes. You can do this through teasing, asking qualifiers to her or uplifting her day by being fun. Or even saying you might be leaving ('I've had enough of cars so im thinking about moving to paris for a year to become a poet') and gauge her reaction to that (you could say it jokingly so you don't have any real work repercussions). Also try befriend the 'protector'. Make him your ally not your enemy.


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