I posted another thread in the texting forum, but I wanted to go into this re-initiating that I did through texting yesterday.
OK so over the weekend I pretty much backed off and gave her some space. It's been a week since our first date, and through the week the communication was light but I felt like I was in it. Early on I got some good mornings from her, some casual texting, I got her voicemail when I called her (only once) and left a short message. Reply text that she was at a friends shortly after. I definitely detect some "hard to get" playing, but I also know she has been genuinely busy. BTW, both of us divorced with kids, her more than me as far as number of kids, and this week was her time with them. I primarily noticed the communication dropped off sharply when the kids came home.
However, I did send a few texts that got no response, and on Friday I initiated a convo by mentioning a band that she had mentioned on the date (asking the name of it as I had forgotten)...she was getting her kids ready to take to grandmas for the weekend because she had to work long shifts. So I wished her a good weekend and left it there. I had made a joke that I was looking forward to a phone convo (hadn't had one since the date) but noted that we both had crazy weeks, I jokingly called her a slippery minnow because she seemed to be slipping out of my fingers when I tried to arrange a time to call.
So Sunday I text "hey little minnow" and I got no reply (I think she was at work).
Didn't worry about it, but yesterday I texted, "hey real important, I'm concerned, you may need to have a doctor take a look at you". (setting up a joke)
A couple of hours went by and she replied "Ok I gotta hear this LOL"
Me: "any blisters in your mouth"? (we had kissed on the date)
Pause about ten minutes
Me: "K Good"
Me: "Cuz the doc said either I was sick or I'd been kissing something super hot recently".
Her: "LMAO I knew there was a line"
Me: "yeah but admit it I made you think"
Her: "I just figured you had herpes, I see a lot of sh1t" (medical field)
Her: "I'm just glad I didn't sleep with you LOL"
Me: "damn that's the first time a woman ever told me she was glad she didn't sleep with me, damn"
Me: "ok gotta go! Thanks for playing"
Her: "Anytime "
So I wait a couple of hours and this may or may not have been good, but I texted "BTW I'm glad you didn't sleep with me too"....background, I really got the impression from our date and other things that maybe she is working at not coming across as easy. I wanted to give her affirmation that I respect that. I'm "guessing" that she recently slept with somebody pretty quick and got burned, based on some comments that were touched upon, without coming out and saying they had sex quickly.
I really think she is playing hard to get but restraining her visible level of interest to test me and see if I'm a player or genuine. And on the forum here I have to say that I'm not one to pursue a woman without genuine intentions. To each their own.
I'm just not historically good with being patient in the hard to get game, though I've been getting better lately. I have to admit, my insecurities always have me guessing that I'm the one being played, held on a string while a woman has another guy more focused in her sights.
How did that exchange sound? I am very analytical, and I question her initial comment that had a sarcastic tone "ok I gotta hear this one LOL"...like I'm just another chump trying to impress with stupid lines and jokes. ... But then it seemed like she appreciated the attention and the little game. I've never been good at reading all this. I'm trying to work up to that second date, already mentioned it but because of her schedule the past week I haven't pushed it, waiting on sports to end with one of her boys(soon) and this week she is alone so maybe more interaction.