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The Pick-Up Artist's Field Guide
Mastering the Art of Pick-Up
Turn Your Hobby into a Habit
As an aspiring pick-up artist (PUA), I have searched for a definitive guide to pick-up. I came across the Venusian Arts based on the Mystery Method, neurolinguistic programming (NLP) and Ross Jeffries, David DeAngelo and cocky/funny among many other techniques scattered on the internet and in bookstores. Though everything we needed to learn was dispersed among countless DVDs, books and ebooks, what we wanted was one source that we could turn to in the field as a comprehensive guide. This book is intended to be a reference. You should read it through and then come back later as needed. As the pickup arts and sciences evolve, I intend for this book to keep pace. I mainly promote the Mystery Method. Erik von Markovik has singlehandedly done more for male-female relationships than anyone or anything since the birth of the internet (ok, with the exception of Viagra). He has thoroughly studied human dynamics, backing up his textbook research with years of field testing, to create a model that time and time again proves to be effective. For those aspiring to become PUAs, I hope this ebook will help you reach down inside the AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) and find him. For those who consider themselves already competent in the seduction arts, I hope this book will be a good manual for you to employ while teaching others. But wherever you find yourself in the Game, I hope you'll remember the first rule: Leave her better off than when you found her. Now plow on!!
Table of Contents
Semantics and Practical Points
Communication and Subcommunication
The Mystery Method (M3 Model)
Identity, State and Frame Openers
Routines, Gambits and BOBs
AMOGs and Boyfriends
Phone, Net and Text Game
Bibliography and Suggested Readings
A Crash Course to Learning Pick Up
Semantics and Practical Points
The HB Rating System The term HB has been used to stand for Hot Babe or Honey Bunny. Women are rated according to appearance from 1-10, where HB?s can be 6 or higher, and 1-5 are considered ugs (for ugly). A subset would be the fugly, who is a so woman so undesirable, she's fucking ugly. Some have argued that this number system is not an accurate or fair approach to rating women. The reason for its use is that in the field all a PUA has to go on when targeting a woman is her appearance. The assumption is made that the more physically attractive a woman is, the more she has been approached by men, and thus the more jaded she will be. Hence, picking up a 10 may for example require more negs than picking up a 7. It should be noted however that not all 10s see themselves as 10s, and not all 6s see themselves as 6s. Many beautiful women have issues of selfesteem, and many less attractive women consider themselves far more attractive than we would assume. Therefore once a PUA has opened an HB, he must get a sense of her self-worth and calibrate his approach accordingly. You may open a 10 with a neg, only to find she has low selfesteem, at which point you may decide to reduce or eliminate the use of negs from your pick-up so that her ego isn?t further crushed. The 1-10 scale does not take into consideration other aspects of a woman such as personality, humor, kindness or intelligence. Its purpose therefore is merely in summarizing a woman?s appearance on first approach, and may have little impact on your ultimate attraction to her. Mystery has described a stoplight system: red for men and women you don?t consider attractive, yellow for attractive but not hot girls, and green for 9.5-10 girls. Sometimes you may hear a PUA refer to an HB as ?HB KatieHolmes?, ?HB Bubblebutt? or ?HB White-sweater? which are ways of using some physical or other characteristic instead of a rating, that is more descriptive of what the target looks like or reminds you where they met ('HB Lighthouse'). Likewise when you enter a venue, you may use clock positions, as in ?HB at your 9 o?clock? to indicate to your wing whom you wish to sarge. This tends to be a better way of communicating than yelling ?Check out the chick with the big jugs to your right!? A cougar refers to an older woman (generally 40?s and above), out looking for a younger man. An HG is a Hired Gun, as in 'that HG8 who works at Hooters.' Girls who are under age are referred to as JB, or JailBait. Stay away from them.
Financial Investment in the Game Running game should generally not be an expensive pastime. You can minimize your overhead by doing the following: 1. Peacock with inexpensive but attention-grabbing items. You can get a lot of mileage with some cheap finds, as opposed to trying to get blinged out with gold chains and wrist watches. 2. Don?t buy her drinks and if you go on a ?date? make it something that is cheap or free. Girls respect men who consider themselves the prize, and step all over guys who squander their hard-earned money in the hopes of 'gettin some.' 3. Don?t buy yourself drinks. Drink nothing, or else club soda or soda at the bar. 4. Go to clubs and bars that don?t charge covers. 5. Sarge venues that aren?t too far a drive. You?ll use less gas. 6. Don?t buy expensive gifts. Women like knowing you were thinking about them, so an inexpensive gift can carry just as much or more meaning as a high-priced item.
On Gaming Drunk Girls When girls go out to a bar, pub or club they often drink, and many times get drunk. If you want to run game on drunk girls, you must take these factors into consideration:
1. Drunk girls may ping kino and IOIs but often they are insincere or fleeting. That is, at some point their rational mind might kick in and you?ll sense an abrupt IOD or kino withdrawal. It?s not that they become disinterested in you, it?s that the alcohol made them artificially interested to begin with. 2. You may think you?re running tight game on a drunk girl, but don?t be surprised if an hour later she doesn?t know who you are, or if a few minutes later she?s gotten just as cuddly with another AMOG in the bar when you stepped away. 3. Flake rate will probably be higher. 4. Drunk girls throw up, making F-closing awkward or less likely. 5. Drunk girls are typically easy to open. Stupid openers work fine, and kino escalates rapidly in the first minute. 6. Trying to have sex with a drunk girl for the first time can be maddening. You will nearly enter, then get LMR, then freeze her out, then start over. Because she's drunk, this cycle can continue endlessly, and she won't be able to know what she wants or how to articulate it.
The Close and the 'Date' The point of opening a set, building mutual attraction and finding rapport is to ?close? the target. This might come in the form of a number, an email, a kiss or a fuck (known as #, @, K and F closing, respectively). Your goal for learning the seduction arts may be to screw a lot of women, to create a social circle, or to get married. There's not a right or wrong choice; it's your preference, so don't feel like your game is off just because you don't find yourself sleeping with tons of women. Maybe you're highly selective, and that's just fine. Though it is tempting as you start to apply your new skills to collect as many numbers as you can, it is advised that you only ask for a girl?s number if you are truly interested in following up with her. Kiss closing has not been exactly defined (can run the gamut from a quick peck to a full make-out), but is any form of mouth-mouth contact that implies something beyond just friendship. By comparison if you kiss her cheek, there is not necessarily romance implied (as her grandmother probably kisses her the same way). Hugging is a perfectly good way to close, as it implies intimacy and trust without being creepy (unless you make it creepy). Going for a kiss-close can be an art unto itself, and more information is provided in the kino chapter. PUAs have noted that many girls will make out with many guys on a given night and think nothing of it, but chances of a date (called Day 2 by PUAs) become unlikely because the girl then assumes you're just trying to get into her pants. Therefore, if you want a date with a girl, you may want to avoid making out. As for 'dating' PUAs avoid the term because going on dates falls within a female agenda/frame of having a man jump through hoops and pay for things with the expectation of rewarding him with sex. This sort of frame control is what AFCs gladly submit to, and PUAs overcome in order to control the frame. By making the girl the sought-after prize, the man's value drops relative to her's, and if sex happens often it is because she is now indebted to him for all the things he's bought her. Women use sex as a bargaining chip against men in relationships; having sex with her will lessen her power over you. When she does come over for Day 2, you may want to invite her into your home/apartment briefly, to desensitize her for when you bring her back later. You can give her a quick tour of the home, very matter-of-factly with nothing that implies sex or romance (lights on, no candles or music). See The Judge's chapter on Day 2 for more advice. Eventually, you may decide to enter into a long term relationship (LTR) or short term relationship (STR) with a girl. While monogamy works for some, keep in mind that as you stop gaming, your skills will probably get rusty and your Approach Anxiety may creep back. It may therefore be worthwhile to continue gaming, though not fully closing. All the above being said, there are purists in the community who feel that only an f-close constitutes an actual close. When you start collecting #s you realize that getting a #-close can often be worthless if she flakes, so it is only a tool of timebridging. And kissing is simply a step in kino escalation ending in sex, so the k-close is also fairly meaningless. To actually 'seal the deal' you need to go through the entire seduction cycle, meaning you have hooked, built mutual attraction, generated rapport, blown through LMR and had sex (S3).
On Flaking Girls flake. A lot. Never assume it?s you or your game, because many times there?s something going on in the background when you met her that you?re not privy to (for example, a boyfriend). Assume all closes will flake and never take it personally. As your game improves, you may find # closing is not the problem, but getting them on the phone afterwards is.
Several solutions have been offered to try to minimize flaking: 1. Leave them with your strong identity, particularly that you: are funny, entertaining, warm and sweet, never run out of interesting things to say, and can be vulnerable and soft. 2. Consider running some A2 and A3 after you?ve been in comfort, just to re-establish your prizability. 3. Stay in set long after you # close (at least 5 minutes, but longer if you can hold her interest). # close in A3 or early comfort and then try to get as deep into comfort as you can (or seduction, though you risk buyers remorse). Spend at least 30 minutes in comfort on Day 1. 4. 'Cocky funny' master David DeAngelo prefers email closing. He goes first for the email, then as an ?afterthought? asks for the phone #. He has found that email correspondence first will compel her to respond on the phone later. 5. Have them suggest the # exchange as opposed to you asking: ?I think we?d really enjoy each other?s company. How can we go about seeing each other again?? 6. You can ask for the # under the guise of some other reason besides dating, but we do not suggest this. For example, ?Oh you sing? Well I manage singers? or ?You have a great voice and I?m looking for girls to do voice over for a movie.? When they give you their # and then realize you?re running game, it just looks sleazy and repels them. 7. Have them pinky promise they?ll answer when you call. This can seem try hard, but women often do consider pinky promises sacred. 8. Tell them you want to continue the convo later when you get to your car, and do call them that night. They might get accustomed to your phone call if it immediately follows the pickup. 9. If you get the voice mail, always appear non-needy. Better than asking her out on a date, just leave a funny message or opinion opener type of message. This way she gets used to your calls as a regular part of her life. 10. When calling, continue to apply FTC and be the one who ends each call. Do not spend an eternity on the phone with her. Get the date established and then end the call. You cannot effectively run game over the phone. However, out of necessity, comfort-building can be done in part over the phone. 11. Text messaging and email are preferred by many over phone messages. You can spend more time carefully wording and responding, can ask others for advice on how best to respond, and can time your responses to play with her emotional state. You should try to imbue a sense of intrigue and mystery into the TM/email. ?Hey, it?s Decibel. Wanna
go out?? doesn?t grab as well as ?Hey, rocker girl. Do you like dogs?? or ?Did I miss your birthday?? 12. If the 1st call doesn?t get a response, many times the second will. Two strikes, they're out. Move on to the next target and maybe return to this number in a week or two. Some PUAs are more persistent, but sometimes it's best just to take the hint. 13. Using a time bridge during the initial pickup is more effective than leaving things up in the air. Have a specific pre-existing plan and invite her along, as opposed to a ?hey, we should hang out sometime? statement. Make the first meeting interesting; movies and coffee are out. Walks on the beach, window shopping, dog park are things that are preferable. Many PUAs recommend not even having a ?date,? and certainly don?t spend money on her until she has earned it (with at least a kiss). David D recommends making it clear to her that the point of the first date is for YOU to qualify HER, and that flaking is unacceptable. He ends the calls with something along the lines of ??and if nothing else, we can just be friends.? 14. Solid A3 helps reduce flaking. 15. She should always be chasing you at every stage of pick-up, or at least that should be your frame.
Wing Rules Wings are fellow PUAs who assist you in field to open sets and distract the obstacles so that you can run game on your target. You may try to recruit one of your AFC friends to wing you, though frequently in explaining these tactics to them you will be met with highly judgmental, misinformed reactions. Often times, AFCs will generate a litany of reasons not to learn or apply these techniques, and it primarily comes from a place of fear. Fear of approaching, fear of getting blown out, fear that everything they know about dating is wrong. If an AFC is not interested in learning pick up for whatever reason, or if they blow you out of sets in field, abandon them until they are more receptive, and find a genuine, capable wing to assist you. Now, the rules: 1. The one who opens the set owns it. Let him pick his target, while the wing occupies the obstacle. 2. The wing should enter later, not with you in A1. He should wait for IOIs from the set. Entering together appears predatory. 3. Wings take priority over the set. If the wing enters, face him and greet him. Don?t reduce his value by talking with the set in spite of him.
4. The Michelle Gambit. When the wing enters he should ask you if you?ve seen Michelle, while he ignores the set. You respond No and then as he leaves to ?find Michelle? you grab his arm as an after-thought and say ?Hey, man you should meet these girls. They?re cool.? Neg the target to identify her to the wing ('...except this one, I'm still not sure about her'). Next, the wing introduces himself and asks how they know you. He then occupies the obstacle(s) (the one you aren?t negging). 5. As an alternative to #4, run an AI (accomplishment intro) for the wing and then introduce him. 6. The wing can occupy the target for a few minutes to in essence AI you, then pass the target back to you. 7. Newbie trick #1: You can setup the wing by sending him into a set as a pseudo-AMOG. He runs game, then you come in and purposely blow him out. This will raise your value and make it easier to game them. Newbie trick #2: A wing can enter a set and devalue them by grossed-out facial expression and then eject. You then enter, looking like a hero. 8. When asking permission of the set to isolate the target, your wing should be the first to say yes, so that the obstacle will likely go along with it. 9. Once the target is isolated, the wing should stay away. 10. Always take the wing?s side in an disagreement. 11. If later kino escalation is timed such that you and the wing are escalating similarly, compliance will improve. That is, often a girl will feel like less of a slut if her friend is complying. In contrast, if one has escalated faster than the friend, they may both reject the escalation. A pivot is like a wing, but is an HB who does not necessarily have a romantic or sexual relationship with the PUA. She is called a pivot because when entering a room, attention goes to her first because of her looks, and then 'pivots' to the PUA. Pivots are useful in establishing preselection.
Hired Guns The reason to run game on hired guns is that often they are the most attractive women at a venue. In contrast, there are many reasons not to run game on them, or at least many issues you should understand before undertaking this mission. The following is by PUA StrongPersuader: Here are a few of my thoughts on hired guns and the problems with them (in no particular order). I'm focusing more on bars and nightlife venues rather than day game here, but a lot of it can be applied there. 1 - They get hit on all the time This is very, very true. Be original, be unique and be fun to be around. Canned material from the community, in my opinion, will not work, they will have heard it all before when sober and, while they can't call you out on it publicly, your community generated DHV routine will actually DLV because you are showing her that you lack originality. I have a number of routines and stories based entirely on displaying wit that get good results, your delivery must be spot on and congruent. 2 - False IOI's, concealed IOD's Remember why, especially in the US, the hired gun is being nice to you. So, how can you tell if the IOI's are true or not? You need to be more situationally aware than ever here. Watch her without watching her. Like anyone, hired guns have tells that give them away, you can gain calibration through watching her with other people. Is she pushing for you to have another drink or talking to you when it's clear that you've finished your coffee? I was in a restaurant sat at the bar planning on using the barmaid to get warmed up. I'd finished my dinner, my wine and coffee and she was stood there talking to me while I just wanted my check... She'd spend longer with me than the other people at the bar (guys and girls), so I was able to figure out (almost) exactly what were IOI's and what were not. IOD's from hired guns are different too. She CAN'T ignore you, you're the customer. If she ignores you, she runs the risk of getting fired, losing her tip or missing her sale. So, how do you spot IOD's? These will, in my experience, typically be situational IOD's, things like pushing you into another beer, another shot or anything where you have to purchase something while you're talking. What is her motivation? What does she gain from the interaction? More sales, a bigger commission or a bigger tip. 3 - Interrupts Hired guns are there to make a living. In a busy bar, for example, they will constantly be running up and down to get people drinks. When they do stop to talk to you, you only have a few seconds, so keep the routines short. If the bar is quiet, you can run longer routines. If you pace it wrong and run a long routine when she's busy, you would need seriously strong frame control to avoid looking like "that bum at the bar wasting her time". Your routines have to make her want to be with you and be realistic. Do you really want to be "that guy" lingering at the corner of the bar leering at the girl you wish was your GF? Would you do that to any other girl on your side of the bar? Open sets around you and build heavy social proof. Being the center of attention at the bar (in a positive way, not falling down drunk or something) and she can justify spending more time with you. There are routines you can use to do this. Go to YouTube and search for "how to get free drinks". There are a load of videos there from "The Real Hustle" showing you proposition bets and tricks to run at bars. 4 - The all-seeing eye Hired guns see all and hear all. They will see you crash in sets and they will see you open sets. Live with it, accept it and be damned well aware of it. Be as congruent as you can be through out the night. Pre-selection, social proof and being a true Alpha male will get you a long way here. 5 - Financial motivations I'm not saying hired guns are just talking to you for your money, but you are the customer. For example, in a strip club, you wouldn't pay for a lap dance etc if you actually wanted to hook up with the stripper, you'd no longer be a cool guy, you'd be part of her rent check. Now, in bars, you have to buy a drink from her, but don't over-tip unless you've got a wallet the size of Donald Trump. If you drop a big tip, the hired gun will see you as another part of her rent check in the same way that Wiley Coyote often saw Roadrunner as a roasted meal. 6 - Who is this girl? Would you care if you crashed and burnt with a girl this side of the bar? Heck no, you'd pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on. There is no reason why a hired gun should be any different.
Inner and Outer Game Ok, so you walk into a club and see the hottest girl on the planet. You approach and run game. This is your outer game. Now, on the inside you could be: 1) trembling with fear because you don't want to blow it with this HB22, or 2) confident that you'll sleep with her because you're ENTITLED to sleep with her. This is your inner game. If your inner and outer game don't match, we call that incongruent, and chicks will smell it and blow you out. So, many many guys who get into pick up are AFCs. They're smart, funny and confident in many ways, but don't feel entitled to or capable of picking up high value women. So no matter how good their outer game gets, their inner game will keep them from getting what they want. Working on inner game means proving to yourself that you deserve everything life has to offer, and then learning how to embody this confidence and project it to the world. Perseveration: 'The uncontrollable repetition of a particular response, such as a word, phrase, or gesture, despite the absence or cessation of a stimulus, usually caused by brain injury or other organic disorder.' (The American Heritage? Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition.) Those afflicted with AFCism will tend to perseverate over one or a few personal traits that they have concluded makes them unattractive to women. This may be height, age, weight, income, living condition, acne or any other perceived flaw. The AFC will then become convinced that because of this quality, he should not approach or pick up women. Despite this belief, he experiences no actual evidence that women are rejecting him because of this characteristic. To break out of this frame, the AFC needs to shut these negative thoughts out and stop perseverating.
The Dance Floor ?The dance floor is a trap? says Mystery. You can't run suitable game unless it's dance floor game (the heavy kino bump and grind variety). It's too loud to hear or be heard. If you leave the dance floor out of your night's plans and focus on the rest of the club, you will find your success at gaming will improve. That said, if you like to dance you can throw it into the middle of comfort to add some easy kino.
Dancing By The Sheriff The dance floor has DLV written all over it. 1) You are putting all the control in the girl's hands. 2) When girls dance among themselves they are there to jerk off their egos by luring in guys and burying them - this is how they DHV. 3) You are going in with no way of ejecting in style. 4) You are giving her the power to seriously DLV you in front of God and Country by spinning off with another guy. The bitch will do this if she wants the ego boost. 5) The dance floor is a high visibility area and prowling for ass in front of the entire bar screams low value. 6) The dance floor provides no good way to DHV and is mainly a distraction from gaming. 7) All the AMOGs hang out on the dance floor. She is flaunting her sexuality and you are feeding into it. Yes it's an opportunity to spin her around and have a little fun but it's much more about A3 than A1 or A2. If a girl asks me to dance, I sit down, pull her between my legs and say 'okay, I'm ready.'
Communication and Subcommunication
Levels of Communication The PUA identifies 4 main forms of communication, which can be verbal or nonverbal: 1. IOI 2. IOD 3. DHV 4. DLV An IOI is an Indicator of Interest. The man is enjoying the woman's company, or vice versa. An IOI can be verbal or nonverbal and include: Shit tests (look like IOD's but are IOIs) Body language Attempts to qualify Pinging occurs when you throw out an IOI such as an opinion opener. The pang is the target?s internal emotional response to your ping. Her pong is her external response which can either be an IOI (answers your opener honestly) or an IOD (looks at you like you're nuts and turns back to her friend). An IOD is an Indicator of Disinterest and may include false time constraint, a neg, or a change in BL that reflects this disinterest. This can be used as your response to when the set throws you an IOD. It can take the form of a body rock out of the set at an emotional peak/DHV spike in the convo (after they laugh from a punchline) to take away the good feelings and make them chase you for more. IOD's should be calibrated with an IOI before or afterwards. For example, neg and then tell her you love her and give her a hug. A long pause waiting to see if the target will pick up the convo is an IOD compliance test (restarting the convo is her IOI pong, versus her turning away and talking to a friend is her IOD pong). DHV and DLV. DHV (Demonstration of Higher Value) should impress the target without seeming try-hard or bragging. A good storyteller has innate DHV qualities if he can captivate, emote and take the audience on an emotional ride. In addition, he can spike the story with more DHV points that hit attraction switches. A guy who is telling jokes and seeking approval, or obviously ?performing? is called a dancing monkey. This is a DLV (Demonstration of Lower Value) and should be avoided. Confidence is a DHV, but being bold or bragging is a DLV. According to Tyler Durden, the four main ways to DLV are: 1. Convey nervousness. 2. Convey neediness. 3. Try too hard to gain approval. 4. Try too hard to convey value.
The Neg: Tease her to please her Aspiring PUAs often get the neg wrong, and wind up insulting the girl. Negs should always be playful and end with her chuckling. Shake her sweaty hand and go...'Ewww...where has that hand been? No wait, I don't want to know!' Negs disqualify yourself (she's icky or has made some social faux pas and therefore not appealing to you), and drop her relative value. Negs generally aren't used once you get into comfort, but you can use them clear up to that point, including in the BHRR technique. Mystery?s Neg Warfare Get a volley of negs going between you and the target until she gets irritated and the mood gets uncomfortable. When the target sends the third neg, go for a hug and qualify her for her prowess, then physically IOD. If others are in the set, disarm them after the second neg by whispering something like, ?this is called flirting.?
Shit Tests A shit test is a woman?s attempt to see how resolved you are to stand up against her active disinterest, or to see if you'll buckle like an AFC when she challenges you or throws disingenuous seductive language at you. The AFC might assume these are IOD's but in reality these are a form of IOI because she is taking the time to see what kind of man you are (instead of walking away, which is an IOD). Your response should be an IOD, often cocky-funny, in the form of a reframe.
Multiple Thread Theory Conversation should incorporate multiple thread theory. You should have several stories running at once. For example, you start a story about going on a trip with your friend Barney. You and he visited New York City. So somewhere before the end of your NYC trip story, you can break off and go into a story about Barney. Let?s say he is a horse trainer. So you start a story about him and his horses, then break off and go to a story about you getting thrown from a horse as a kid. Now before the end of that, maybe pick up your NYC story again, then jump back to your Barney story, then your horse accident story. Multiple threads running at once give the feeling to the target that you?re covering a lot more ground, compared to going to the end of one thread and then picking up a new one. This is how old friends talk to each other, and it conveys this kind of familiarity.
Interrupts If your are running a thread and get interrupted, do not try to get back on track and finish up the thread. Cut that thread and begin a new one. Returning to the original thread appears try-hard, though you can get back to it later as the convo dictates. This is called snip-and-stack. Handling the external interrupt by Mystery: Step 1. Say to the target (assuming she?s the most attractive of the set), ?introduce me to your friend. It?s the polite thing to do. You can dress her up but you can?t take her anywhere? (directed at target). Nobody wants to appear socially inept, so this phrasing forces the outcome. Step 2. Introduce yourself to the interrupt even without an introduction. Shake hands. Step 3. Stack into new routine.
Push/Pull Dynamics This concept cannot be emphasized enough. Push a woman away with your words and kino, and pull them back. Say ?we should be friends? while you pat her butt. Tell her ?You?re so smart?I hate you? while you hug her. Be a hard-ass verbally but affectionate physically. Don?t call them at the exact time you said you will. Never be afraid to end a convo or encounter early, even when you two are having the time of your lives. Send mixed signals constantly, be unpredictable, don?t let her ever feel secure in knowing she's totally won you over. This technique is extremely powerful.
What (not) to Say There are certain words and topics that may shut your set down if you aren't feeling out the waters carefully first: skulls, death, destruction, sickness, illness, plague, 9/11, disaster, violence, conspiracy, religion, politics, guns, crime, rape, torture, molestation, abortion. You can discuss these issues or use these words, but do so with caution, because they could easily lead to a dark, depressing convo. In general, there is never a good reason to compliment a girl about her beauty or any of her physical features. The same applies to tattoos. You might say ?Oh, this is a cool tattoo? but since guys have probably used that one a million times, you should neg with something like ?is that supposed to be a map of Utah?? Likewise, if a girl has some physical imperfection, DO NOT bring it to her attention, and stop your eyes from wandering to it. You must at all times show indifference to her physical appearance, and always instead emphasize other positive features like her laugh, her humor, her ability to walk in high heels, etc.
Vibing When two people are out socially having fun, vibing occurs. A good PUA is able to step outside his head and enjoy the convo, bouncing back comments that indicate he is there enjoying himself and his company. The ingredients to vibing are: 1. Push/pull. Send playful mixed signals, be hot and cold, keep her guessing about your intentions and meanings. 2. Exaggerated remarks such as ridiculous accusations, misinterpretation of comments you hear, making outlandish comparisons. Reframe so she appears to be chasing you, even with innocuous comments like asking where you live. 3. Let others impress. Don't frequently take people's comments and try to out-do them, impress them or add your own advice and perspectives.
4. Be playfully aloof. If she asks a question, don't always give a straight answer. If she challenges you on it, don't become defensive. Just have fun with her. The caveat to the above is sometimes you need to turn off these tactics and just 'be yourself.' If a girl wants you to be serious, sometimes it's best to go that route. The bottom line is that by vibing well, you show you are non-needy, don't seek the approval of others, aren't overly analytical, are sure in who you are, have a strong frame that isn't easily shaken, and are just a fun guy to hang out with.
Body language is so important that it is given its own chapter.
More important than verbal communication is non-verbal subcommunication, or body language (BL). This can take the form of facial gestures, hand and body movement, and vocal tonality. Research has shown that the content of what a person says represents about 7% of what is interpreted, with the remaining 93% going to non-verbal cues and vocal tonality/sounds. Women have an innate advantage over men, and it is thought in part to be due to their need to non-verbally communicate with their newborn. Hence, women are hard-wired to interpret BL in ways men are not, for the survival of the species. The three key points are: 1. BL occurs in clusters or 'sentences.' Look at the big picture, including their facial expression, head position, arms, hands and legs. 2. BL should be congruent with the words being spoken. 3. BL should be interpreted in context to the environment. For example, a person may cross their arms because the room is cold, not out of defensiveness. 90% of your opinion of somebody will be formed in the first four minutes of contact, so it is important to start off on the right foot so to speak. The Cowboy (Decibel) An IOI compliance test. A sexually aggressive posture will either cause a defensive response or a welcomed response. Hook your thumbs in your belt and point down such that your private parts are framed by your fingers, legs apart. A tight grip on the belt implies a stronger signal. Elbows held out to the sides shows a man is trying to enlarge their appearance which women may find attractive (AMOGs are comfortable taking up space and being heard, while betas try to take up little space and avoid being heard). If she IOD's (e.g. crosses her arms) then she does not accept your demonstration of sexual aggressiveness, but if she IOIs, then she does. The female counterpart to the cowboy occurs when she places her hands on her hips with elbows out. This position draws attention to herself, emphasizing her fertility by increasing her hip-to-waist ratio, and is an IOI. A woman who does a cowboy posture may also be considered sexually assertive. Vulnerable/honest posture: Hold your palms open with forearms exposed to disarm defensive posture, or look for it in the target as a sign of vulnerability or honesty. For example, if she makes a statement but conceals her hands, she may not be telling the truth, or conversely if she shows her open palms, you may assume what she says is honest and she has nothing to hide. Defensive postures: When you were a child you might have hid behind objects like mom, a couch or a chair out of fear. As adults we continue to hide but in more subtle ways. A woman who crosses her arms may be showing a defensive posture, which means your IOIs are too strong and you need to recalibrate (e.g. show IOD's). Even worse is if her fists are clenched as well. A woman may also grip her arms in this position, which also telegraphs a negative attitude. Though less obvious, when a man holds his drink in front of him, or is fiddling with the ring or bracelet of the opposite hand, he is creating a defensive barrier that women may interpret as fearful. Do not therefore carry your drink in front of you or play with your adornments. A man who stands with his hands together over his crotch is trying to defend his manhood, so avoid this posture as it conveys fear. Unlocking a woman's defensive posture requires IOD's, using a vulnerable posture (arms and legs uncrossed, palms exposed, chin slightly up to expose the neck, head tilted to the side) and DHVing, preferably with humor. You also can physically unlock her by asking her to hold something such as your drink. Once she unlocks, you can proceed with standard gaming, but be cautious if she locks up again. Trying to close when she shows a defensive posture will probably lead to being blown out or a flake. Legs: As in the cowboy posture, keeping your legs apart telegraphs confidence and superiority (a willingness to expose the genitals shows a man is not feeling vulnerable about having them attacked), but can be overly aggressive if used on a woman who isn't yet attracted. Crossing the ankles while standing, on the other hand, indicates insecurity and defensiveness (hides the genitals) and should be avoided. If a woman is standing with her legs crossed, it indicates that she tends to stay put and that access is denied (symbolically closes entry to the genitals). Pointing your feet towards a woman (or her towards you) is an IOI. If pointed away, particularly towards an exit, it is an IOD.
Thumbs: If your thumbs are sticking out of your pockets, this conveys attraction in that you're trying to look cool, so unless that is your goal, be careful. If she's doing it, consider it an IOI. It can also convey a sense of superiority if clustered with other similar signs, which can be interpreted negatively by a woman. The finger: Pointing creates negative feelings in listeners and can be considered intimidating, so in general avoid it when you are making a point. Instead, pinch the thumb and index tips together. The picker: Someone picking imaginary lint from their clothes does not approve of what is being said, but wishing to suppress their opinion. Ask that person their opinion to disarm them. The nod: People tend to speak longer when the person they're communicating with slowly nods during the convo. Fast nodding creates the opposite effect. Nodding in general creates positive feelings and rapport in the observer, and it is good practice to periodically nod during convo. If you want another person to keep talking, slowly nod (once per second for 5 seconds) and put your hand on your chin to stroke lightly. This will encourage the other person to continue speaking. Head positions: Head slightly up means a neutral attitude, though if the chin is jutted forward this can indicate arrogance or superiority (they aren't afraid to expose the throat, and are gaining height while looking down their nose). Generally, avoid too much head up position, and look for it in others (men and women) as a possible sign of aggression. If the head is tilted to the side, it shows vulnerability. This may be helpful in unlocking another person's defensive posture. If a woman is tilting her head to the side, she is showing her submission and may be interested in the man. A person who has their head tilted downwards signals aggression and criticism. You should work to unlock this position into a more neutral or submissive angle. The face platter: A woman may rest both elbows on the table and rest her chin on her hands (palms down, one on top of the other) in a platter position. This is an IOI. Hand shakes: How you shake hands says a lot about you, and whether you consider yourself dominant, submissive or equal to the other person. Appearing dominant over an aggressive AMOG may be useful in that context, but doing the same handshake with a girl may telegraph the wrong feelings. Tilting your palm down will assert dominance, up will assert submissiveness. An AMOG may grab your hand and try to force it into a submissive posture, but you should either maintain dominance or go for a vertical equality shake. If you wish to befriend the AMOG, a vertical shake is best to create rapport, and equally important, your grip should match his. If an AMOG approaches with an aggressive palm-down thrust, you can use your other hand on top of his to force the shake vertical. Sitting postures: People make decisions with their feet on the ground. The figure 4 position occurs when someone (generally a man) sits with the legs crossed and the ankle over the knee. Someone who grips their leg in this position is displaying a stubborn attitude, which may not be desirable if you hope to gain their trust. Sitting with ankles crossed, man or woman, indicates that person is trying not to display a negative emotion such as fear, guilt or doubt. A person who is engaged in the convo will tend to put their feet outwards, while someone withdrawn will pull the feet back under them. The PUA should generally not lock ankles or withdraw feet, and on detecting this in a woman, should work to unlock this posture. Sitting down with your crotch exposed to a target you just met is a good way to turn them off, as it?s a very sexually aggressive pose. The catapult: When a man leans back with his head resting on his hands, it is likened to a catapult. This is often clustered with an open crotch position such as figure 4. Overall this telegraphs an attempt to assert superiority and is a turn-off. If an AMOG presents this posture, unlock it by standing, or by forcing him to lean forward by asking him to look at something (or by indicating your need to whisper something to him). You also can mirror the catapult to him as this indicates equality. Seated readiness: A person who is ready to proceed will lean forward, legs apart, one hand dangling in crotch area, the other palm down on thigh. If a person places both hands on their knees or chair, leaning forward, they are eager to leave the convo. An important aspect of BL is congruency. If you show a lot of interest with your BL, you need to have verbal communication that reflects this, as in a verbal IOI or a direct opener such as ?I had to come over here and find out what you?re all about.? If your BL is that of disinterest, you can IOD or use an opinion opener. Likewise if you're dishonest, your words and body language or tonality may not match. These incongruent signals can be detected by women, who will tend to rely more on non-verbal communication if having to choose. Mirroring: Mimicking a person's gestures can create a sense of rapport. Women tend to mirror other women far more often than men mirror other men. A man tends to use his body more than his face to indicate his attitudes. This has an evolutionary reason, in that a man who expresses his emotions on his face may be taken advantage of by an enemy. On the contrary, a woman primarily uses her face to express her feelings, so a man should emphasize mirroring her facial expressions. In addition, mirroring can include one's inflection and rate of speech, so a PUA should typically speak at a rate equal to or slightly less than that of the target's speech. If you need to assess whom in a group is the leader, look for who is being most mirrored, and that will typically be your leader. Body pointing: Pointing one's feet or entire body while standing, or one's knee while seated, can convey interest or lack thereof. Make sure how you point towards or away from a target reflects your desire to IOI or IOD, and interpret the target's responses similarly.
The Mystery Method (M3 Model)
The purpose of this chapter is not to reiterate the Mystery Method (MM), but to embellish upon it. Those reading this who are unfamiliar should first go and learn the MM, either via the printed 'Mystery Method' or the ebook 'Venusian Arts Handbook.' The MM is also called M3 because there are 3 primary sections: Attraction (A1-3), Comfort (C1-3) and Seduction (S1-3). These are broken down as follows:
A1. The Approach The PUA enters a set (can be a 1-set HB, a large mixed set (men and women), or anything in between). PUA says something that captures the set?s attention, called ?hooking.? They now want the PUA to stay in set with them and make further convo. David DeAngelo estimates that only 30% of women are interested in meeting someone new on a romantic basis. This means that 7 out of every 10 women you talk to may blow you out, even before you run game on them. You will get blown out by sets?often a LOT of sets. Expect it and don?t take it personally. Don?t let it affect your state. Even if you get a phone number or an email address, many times you will be blown out the next day. Sometimes women give their numbers out like candy, or do have a fleeting connection with a man in a bar, but convince themselves not to pursue it the following day (called backwards rationalization). Approach anxiety (aa) can be crippling to many guys and is hard-wired in our brains, even for those who are wealthy, successful, generally comfortable with women, and good-looking. It is a self-imposed disease that defies logical explanation. And yet there is a cure, and it requires diving in, set after set.
On AA By The Sheriff I approach by finding something to neg them over. Hopefully something that can go on for a while. But the key is that I use openers that overwhelm the set and almost force them to hook to my opener. One time I heard this girl telling some guy stories about when she was young. On my way by I looked over my shoulder with feet pointed down the isle and told the guy, "don't believe a word of it." Now how are they not going to hook on that? Of course they did and I went on with a "I just don't know if I trust this one" shtick. So why didn't I have AA? I didn't have AA because I had a back door and didn't care how they responded - it simply didn't enter into my plan. Had they responded unfavorably I would have just stacked to "well, suit yourself but don't say I didn't warn you." And I would have continued walking toward the head. Now if the same people were sitting at a table in the corner of a restaurant and I had to walk into a dead end area to run an opener that would be a different story altogether. Same group, same opener, big difference in AA level. Why? Because in scenario A my approach had two key characteristics. 1) It was covert and subtle - nobody was observing it. 2) I didn't get myself into a sink or swim situation I didn't commit myself to the approach and I had an exit strategy before hand. Anybody will have AA when they start the long, obvious walk toward a do or die situation with no back door. In doing this you are putting yourself directly into a situation in which you might find yourself walking back with your tail between your legs with everyone watching. And this is made much worse if you don't have a great deal of confidence in your opener and in your inner game. Plus, in approaching without an exit strategy you are putting control of the entire situation in the hands of the set and giving them the power to seriously DLV you in front of everyone. I guess if you are going to do that you ought to have AA. In fact, I now suggest a new PU rule. Never approach without an exit strategy.
Finding an HB can be a challenge, and it may take a month or more of searching to figure out the best times and places to meet the highest number of targets. This is referred to as a target-rich venue. If you were a game hunter you could either search all over the plains for the wandering single prey, or you could find out where many of the prey gather and then hunt there. For the time expended, it makes more sense to sarge targetrich environments, and in the dating world this is typically late at night at bars and clubs. If you are the kind of guy who does not frequent these venues or goes to sleep at 9PM, you?ll need to now become somebody who does stay up late (3-4 AM sometimes) and goes to these places. Your training will be vastly accelerated if you consistently put yourself in these target-rich venues. Avoid the obvious when you approach. Tall girls get comments about their height, beautiful women about their beauty, girls with tattoos about their body art. It won?t stand out in the crowd and probably will send the signal you?re trying to hit on her. Asking a girl if she saw the fight outside or if the venue still has puppet shows will be totally unexpected, and will better allow you to stack into a DHV routine without getting blown out. 3 second rule: If you identify a target, give yourself no more than 3 seconds to approach. If you identify her and then go stand next to her without opening, you?ve communicated too much interest (even subconsciously) and have already lowered your chances. It is better therefore to go right into a set rather than stand or sit next to it for a noticeable time. Advanced tactic: Open the obstacle when the target is not present. If you identify a set you want to open, you might wait until the target goes to the bathroom and then open the set. When she returns you?ve made yourself part of the set and she will never suspect it was because of her. Likewise if you see the obstacle at the bar, you can befriend him/her there and then follow the obstacle back into the set as a new friend. Typical A1 to A2 Transition: 1. Run opener. 2. The set will either IOD or IOI. 3. If IOD, try a different opener. If still IOD, eject (generally IOD is because a BF is lurking or they're sushi). Sushi means 'cold fish,' where the set just isn't willing to talk to you. A 'closed' set means you won't be able to run game, such when you are met with sushi or boyfriend-girlfriend.
4. If IOI or neutral, run the thread a bit more or cut to a new thread. If still IOI, then you've entered A2. There is no time frame for this, but typically keep your intro short. Double Hook Theory By Hengman Every PUA talks about the hook theory, but what if the girl shit tests you right away and doesn't bite the hook? Especially if this was on a single hook. Example: "Quick question, but what is that you're drinking?" She could shit test with a, "Figure it out for yourself." Now, in double hooking, the target would have two options. She would either bite one side of the hook, or bite another side of the hook -- thus, double hooking. Double hooking should be BOTH a situational and opinion opener. It can be direct or indirect. Example: "Quick question, but what is it that you're drinking? (situational) And is it good? (opinion)." She might shit test one, but she would have to answer the other one, by which double hooking is effective because it would throw her off guard. Opinion openers can feel awkward. Let's face it, it's strange for a guy to walk up to a set in a bar and ask their opinion about something like midgets or falling from a building. So Decibel came up with 'the cushion.' Instead of starting with an opinion, you can introduce some unrelated topic briefly meant to lessen the weirdness of the opinion opener. The cushion is a dead-end opener that is intended only to make the opinion opener seem less awkward. It typically doesn't hook, but is socially acceptable as a doorway into the convo. An example of a cushion: 'Hey...I heard this club used to be a pet store/bank/post office.' Then go into the actual opinion opener before they can respond: 'Hey guys, let me ask you something...' This brief statement cushions the set from the strangeness of the opinion opener, which then seems more like an afterthought. It is recommended you use a false time constraint (FTC), which can be verbal as in 'I need to go rejoin my friends in a second, but...' or non-verbal, as in body rocking away from the set, or holding your car keys as you pass by and open the set over your shoulder.
A2. Getting her to Chase The PUA demonstrates higher value, primarily to others in the set besides the target, called befriending or disarming the obstacle(s). The PUA will convey disinterest actively to the target by his BL (e.g. feet face the obstacle) and by negging the target. The goal of A2 is to inspire the target to begin sending the PUA IOIs. Typically 3 IOIs are needed to progress to A3, but actually the strength of the IOI is just as important as the quantity. For example, 3 weak IOIs (e.g. verbally showing slight interest though BL exudes disinterest) may not carry as much weight as 1 or 2 very strong IOIs (e.g., verbally showing mild interest but BL conveys very strong interest). When a target asks you for your name, it is an IOI. Your goal in A2 is to look for IOIs, so why squander a perfectly good IOI when you could wait and see if she gives it to you? So offering your name is not necessary. If you?re asked your name, give it to the set, and that might be a good time to introduce your wing or pivot if he/she is floating around outside the set. The wing/pivot could then get to work in distracting the obstacle(s) while you game the target. The 3 minute rule: You have 3 minutes to lock in. That is, if someone else in the room looked at your set, it should appear as if the target or set is gaming you, and not vice versa. It is acceptable to violate the 3 second rule if you don?t think you?d be able to honor the 3 minute rule, because of probable interrupts and the like. Attraction switches should be embedded in the convo. The key attraction switches according to Mystery are: 1. Willingness to emote, and to do so appropriately. A man?s emotional circuitry needs to fire appropriately, as in not getting angry over trivial things, and as in defending her when she is attacked. A PUA should be passionate about certain things, and should demonstrate it in his speech. 2. Protector of loved ones, such as good friends, animals, kids and family. 3. Pre-selection. If you have value for other women, you have value for the target. Make the target see or know that you have many women in your life. Saying it is not enough; there should be evidence of it that makes her feel a pang of jealousy: a text message on your phone, pics on your phone of you with girls, a blond hair on your coat or in your car, and a solitary bottle of
nail polish on your bathroom shelf mixed in with your stuff. If you want to be even sneakier, make the nail polish 'disappear' before her next visit to your place; it'll look like whoever owned it had come by to reclaim it. Be prepared to give a reason why it's not there anymore! Put an opened pack of sanitary napkins under your bathroom sink. Jealousy plotline is a variation of pre-selection. Willingness to walk away is a subset of preselection; a roll-off is an example of this. 4. Leader of men. Can be something simple like running a meeting. 5. Risk taking. Not just does risky things, but has the daring to pull off stunts. According to David D, the features that attract women are: 1. Means (material items/wealth) 2. Power 3. Fame 4. Looks and height 5. Exclusivity (off limits such as married, hard to acquire such as royalty) 6. Personality The Slut Offensive (Decibel) This is the equivalent of a carrot dangled by the woman, or cock teasing. You approach a girl and realize she is absolutely bombarding you with sexual gestures and convo. Do you play along or continue to show active disinterest? Why it happens Woman may seek validation or may want you to buy her a drink. How to recognize it. Some examples: Sexually provocative talk (she may mention people she's slept with - completely irrelevant to the convo) "I'm so drunk" (sometimes this is an invitation for you to seduce her - a disingenuous plausible deniability) Sexual gestures (she may make blow job motions or massage her own ass) Showing or hiding sexual pics (may act like she has explicit pics on her phone and hides them from you) How to respond 1. Compliance testing. A girl who really values you enough to sleep with you right now will ping kino and comply with your hoops. She may not comply with even the most basic requests such as to sit or walk somewhere in the bar. She does not ping kino either, in spite of her out-pouring of IOIs. In contrast, women who want to get laid don't just talk the talk, they walk the walk. 2. IOD/neg/shift body language away. Do not IOI in response to her seductive talk. The results HB drops the overt sexual behavior, but stays in set and moves into comfort once you qualify her. This girl might seem to suddenly lose steam, but is interested in you because: a) she tells you, b) she does not wander off to talk to another dude, c) she opens up her life story to you.
A3. The Art of the Compliment The PUA has gained sufficient IOIs from the target in A2 and can now isolate the target while qualifying her. Two things need to happen during A3: first, the target needs to qualify herself, and second, the PUA needs to validate the target's attraction. There are many ways to qualify the target, but the end result of A3 is this: she believes that the PUA was initially disinterested in her, but clearly now she has demonstrated she meets his high standards and expectations, and he is consequently pursuing her. The point of A3 is to get the target to feel like she has successfully demonstrated to the PUA that she is worth his time and attention, that she meets his high standards in choosing women. The PUA is allowed to compliment the target. A WILKY is a statement that explains Why I Like You. ?You?re pretty? doesn?t suffice. ?You carry yourself with a lot of poise and I find that attractive? is better, and if you want can be followed by a release: ?too bad you?re such a nerd.? BHRR (Bait-Hook-Reel-Release): An example is the following dialogue: PUA: (bait: a hoop for her to jump through) So do you cook? HB: (hook: she qualifies herself) Yes, I make the best meatballs. PUA: (reel: you reward her IOI with IOI) Awesome, I love meatballs. PUA: (release: you add an IOD calibrator) Too bad I only date tall girls.
Qualifying takes three basic intensities: 1. Subtle, as in having her jump through mild hoops: 'here hold this,' 'do you cook?' 'are you adventurous?' 2. Medium level: Examples: BHRR; 'What are you most passionate about?'; or ?Who are you? What?s your story?? said not in an antagonizing way but with a sense of genuine interest. ?I?m drawn to you?it?s weird.? 3. Slam dunks: 'I never expected to find a girl in a bar with so much depth and intelligence' or ?I don?t know why, but I?ve become very fascinated by you,? ?why am I so drawn to you?rationalize this for me.? Use a slam dunk to seal the deal before you get too deep into comfort, just so there is no doubt in her mind that you consider her uniquely qualified far above all the other girls in the room. Or use them to have her start qualifying herself. The Yes Ladder is a series of questions or commands that quickly tests compliance. For example, if you want to get a girl out of her seat so you can sit down you can use the following Lovedrop ladder: 'Let me ask you something. Are you smart? Let me see your hand. Ok, hold it up like this. Now stand for a second. Ok, now spin around for me.' You then IOI for her compliance, such as praising her spin. Questions that qualify (be prepared to answer these yourself): What's your motto in life? If your life had to be rated like a movie, what rating would it get? Do you consider yourself adventurous? What one magical power would you most want and how would you use it? When you get into a cold pool, do you wade in slowly or jump right in? What's your worst phobia in life? When you go out shopping do you ever get buyers remorse? How are you with kids? Animals? What were you like as a kid? What kind of guys do you date? Who's shower curtain would you most like to be? How would you rate yourself as a kisser, 1-10? Hoops are tasks you ask her to perform, or vice versa. You can jump through her hoops, but it should be on your terms. For example, if she asks you to buy her a drink, you tell her to buy the first round. If she wants you to go somewhere with her in the club, you can ask her to first answer one of the above qualifiers. If she asks your age, make her guess. If she wants to have sex, ask her to say 'please' first. By having her jump through your hoops, you are maintaining frame control, and this shows your alphaness. The hoops you ask her to jump through in comfort are smaller than those in attraction (e.g. holding your drink is a big hoop, kissing you first is a smaller hoop, letting you have sex with her is the smallest hoop). If she is truly interested in something you have to say, then you can respond directly without considering it a hoop.
C1. Friendly Convo The PUA has accepted the target as living up to his standards, and she is still interested in him as a potential mate. He isolates her to show he is truly interested in her beyond bar chatter. The two now enter the comfort or rapport-building stage. Conversation ensues that highlights common interests. Use techniques that include jealousy plotline, vulnerability and grounding sequences. ?My brain has been hijacked? should start here to help with LMR. That is, she should know you are entering this relationship for reasons other than just getting laid, and that you already miss her when she?s away. Starting this approach during S2 is too late to be effective. It may be hard for nice guys to use jealousy plotline. A man finds a woman who?s interested in him, and his instinct is to preserve the bond that is forming. It seems mean or risky, but the man should establish jealousy and demonstrate preselection to his target. This can be done both by making mention of women in his life, or by running game on other women in proximity to the target. Preselection/jealousy is arguably the most potent of the attraction switches.
C2. The Game is On The PUA and target have passed basic friendly convo and are now engaged in an interaction (both physical and verbal) that is not sexual but is intimate. There is no confusion that either party has the intent of ?making a new friend,? and it is understood that the end result of this encounter will be sex or romance. Time bridge to a pre-established event for Day 2. Tell stories. Engage your friends to show how respected you are in the tribe. Multiple venue bounces. Push-pull continues.
Key aspects to continue during comfort include vulnerability, being upbeat, showing passion and purpose in life, hitting the attraction switches, identity grounding, and being cool, intriguing and mysterious.
C3. Deep Comfort Bounce or time-bridge to an intimate location where sex may occur, such as your home. A far more intimate exchange unfolds where sex can realistically occur. Deep Rapport Builder (IN10SE) This is a rapport builder as well as an opportunity for anchoring. In addition, it really shows that you GET IT, when it comes to "relationships", when a chick brings it up. I had to come up with a good response on the fly when a few of the gals I have been out with lately have asked me what I'M looking for in a "relationship". I normally don't like to bring up the "R" word, but when a gal brings it up, you have to have a good reply...one that will show them that you are intelligent, that you have it together, that you are sophisticated, and that there is more to you than meets the eye. Now the context of using this is that I have only used it with gals in a casual environment, (a bookstore, coffeeshops, restaurant). Haven't tried it in clubs nor do I think it would work in a club setting. This is for when you are alone, having one of those one on one, deep rapport conversations, as a prelude to (a few steps before) the full close. Here was my response... and every time I've used it so far, it has gotten deep levels of rapport (it became about them seducing ME) as well as broken down any resistance. As far as anchoring, I used my fingers (pointing to them). Actually using my fingers as an anchor was kind of a subtle sexual signal, because I would put my 3 right hand fingers up (one finger for each value, as if counting), and point to them with my left index finger and then would form a "ring" with my thumb and index finger of my left hand that would encircle the two fingers of the other hand... and as I talked I subtly slid my encircling hand up and down over my fingers (first each of the 2 together and then the 3 all together at the end).
?I have a new theory about all relationships and what makes up the ideal one. First of all you need PASSION. This is where you have a physical chemistry with this person, where you feel drawn to this person that you?re with, you may even feel a warm feeling right here in your stomach and maybe it spreads all over your body when you're with this person? where you can lose track of time and give yourself completely to this experience? Next you need INTIMACY. This is where you feel an emotional connection with this person, like you?ve known them before, and like you were always meant to know this person? like this was meant to be and where you feel completely comfortable and close? and you may feel it right here in your heart? Then you need COMMITMENT. Philosophers have called this a sense of ?duty?? where you feel secure, knowing that this is someone that is here for you, that we both choose to be together? and this is someone that you can see yourself with now and in the future? Now, all relationships are based on varying degrees of each one of these elements. For example if you have just passion, but no intimacy or commitment, then that would be like just physical infatuation. Like a one night stand or something? nothing more, nothing less? If you have just intimacy, but no passion or commitment, then that would be just friendship. And we all have those? If you have just commitment, but no passion or intimacy, then that would be an empty relationship. Like a lot of married people out there? so sad. Then you can have passion and intimacy, but no commitment. This is like a ?Romantic affair?? and maybe the knowledge that it is something that's now or never? or that you have no guarantees about, makes the passion and intimacy even more intense? And you can have passion and commitment, but no intimacy. That is like people who stay together because they really like the sex. And you can have intimacy and commitment but no passion. That would be like grandma and grandpa who are together for companionship, but cant remember the last time they did it.
And of course the ideal, as with all things? is about balance, where you can have just the right amount of passion, just the right amount of intimacy, and just the right amount of commitment? well? now that I think about it, an extra little bit more passion would be nice? what do you think??
S1. Pre-sex Physical intimacy such as foreplay, but short of sex. The PUA can look for IOCs in determining when it is appropriate to go from C3 to S1. IOCs: Indicators of Consent (Decibel) IOIs are a way a PUA can tell when it is time to move into A3. And when a girl qualifies, he can initiate comfort, technically speaking. But the cues that enable the PUA to move from comfort into S1 have never been defined. For this purpose, Decibel has created the IOC, or Indicator of Consent. While it is obvious the girl is interested, an IOC goes beyond this and gives indication that she may be consenting for him to start the seduction phase. It is not however consent for sex, merely seduction, as there still is the issue of LMR to address. Here are some IOC examples: 1. Any attempt by the girl to initiate seduction. This may include her removing his clothes or her own clothes, or getting sexually intimate. 2. If he calls her in the middle of the night and say he's bored, and she agrees to come over, there is an implication that it might be for more than casual convo. 3. She starts making possessive comments. As an example of a mild degree, if a man continually gets phone calls from other women during a date, she has a right to become irritated. He owes her that time while they're together, and essentially for that date she possesses him. This form of possessiveness is generally acceptable. At the extreme, she may become extremely jealous and overly possessive. All of these degrees of possessiveness are IOCs. In essence, when a girl is only interested in friendship with a man she won't care about him as a possession. But when she is ready to move into
seduction, she will start making it clear that he is now her's and other women should stay away (whether in terms of a date, a ONS (one night stand), or a LTR (long term relationship)). While it is felt that 3 IOIs permit transition to A3, there is no set number of IOCs a PUA looks for. Instead, he needs to calibrate according to the context of the IOC and the quality of it (a girl removing her bra is a stronger IOC than her asking why there's an earring on the night stand). Further, IOCs are date and time specific, so that if a girl gives off IOCs on one date, on another, she may change her mind and the window may close. The girl may give off IOCs but not be willing to act on her desires right then and there; rather than go AFC and ask her to define her feelings, the PUA should add another IOC to the stack and then tally up the results when S1 may be an option. If the girl has given sufficient IOCs of adequate intensity, seduction may begin when the time and place are right.
S2. Last minute resistance (LMR) A woman?s anti-slut defense (ASD) comes up and the PUA must work to move beyond this. Men don?t understand the fear women feel during S2, but it is comparable to the anxiety men often feel on the approach in A1. Having sex for a woman is hard-wired as a high-risk behavior that could lead to a lifetime of consequences. Giving the line 'you've hijacked my brain' will help defuse this situation, but this must be a routine that runs from attraction clear through to this point. Starting it at S2 is too late. For example when she comes back from the restaurant bathroom say, 'Wow, you're gonna think this is weird, but I actually missed you.' Show throughout the pick-up that she is hooking you emotionally, so that sex is a natural part of the attraction you feel towards her and not the main motive. Other tactics include freezing her out. So if you get LMR, get up and surf the net. Don't do it because you're angry, do it because you have a lot of things you need to take care of, and since she's not in the mood you might as well do it now. Never answer LMR with an emotional response.
6 Types of LMR (Magic Man) LMR #1: She Hardly Knows You This is the most common form of LMR, and it occurs on almost all one night stands. The girl likes you and wants to hook up, but ultimately doesn?t know you very well and has concerns ? are you just using her for sex? Will you think she?s a slut? Do you have any STD?s? This form of LMR is totally natural, and is built into each girl from a young age. It can happen at any point during the hookup ? from you kissing her, to you touching her breasts, to you to trying to take her pants off. This form of LMR can be penetrated. The girl likes you and will have sex with you, but only if she knows there will be no repercussions afterward and she won?t feel bad about herself. There are 2 strategies to combat this form of LMR: 1) Strategy to Overcome: Agree with Her in an Honest Manner Difficulty Level: Easy Her: ?Oh my god, this is so bad, we hardly know each other.? You: ?You?re right, this is bad. We do hardly know each other and we should stop.? Agreeing with her that you shouldn?t have sex sounds like a risky proposition; you are confirming that her doubts are indeed valid, so what?s to prevent her from just ending the hookup there? Fortunately, it doesn?t work that way. By agreeing with her, you?re showing her that you?re not all about sex, which means that you aren?t using her for sex, which means that you won?t think less of her for having sex with you this soon. On a subconscious level it might even go further, that because you?re not all about sex, you probably haven?t had that much sex, which means you are clean (STD-free). This might explain why girls don?t always require condoms, even after giving a guy LMR for the very reason that he might not be clean. 2) Strategy to Overcome: Agree with Her in a Joking Manner Difficulty Level: Easy
Her: ?Oh my god, this is so bad, we hardly know each other.? You: ?I agree, we should, so I?m going to stop unhooking your bra with my teeth.? By agreeing with her in a joking manner, you are not taking her comments seriously, and by not taking her comments seriously, you?re showing that sex isn?t that big of a deal to you. A guy who instead rationally argues for why a woman?s LMR is unfounded is showing that he cares about sex, and thus might be using her for sex. The first method is about neutralizing her LMR, while the second method is about being non-reactive. What the two methods have in common is that they both show (in indirect ways) that you are not all about sex, which is the root cause of LMR. Which one you choose doesn?t matter. If one doesn?t work then switch to the other. If using them both doesn?t work then do a freeze out, but make sure to never show any annoyance. If the freeze out doesn?t work then go to sleep and try again in the morning. LMR #2: She does Push/Pull on You This is never-ending LMR; the girl resists your advances one minute, attacks you in a fit of passion the next minute, and then pushes you away a minute later. It?s a continuous cycle, beginning the moment you kiss the girl and continuing up until the moment you climax. You?re constantly moving 2 steps forward and 1 step back, and then the cycle starts over the next time you hook up. These girls are generally very confident and outgoing, and derive more pleasure out of the game aspect of the hookup than they do the actual sex. There are 3 different strategies to overcome this kind of LMR 1) Strategy to Overcome: Do Push/Pull on Them Difficulty Level: Fairly Easy This form of LMR is a direct shit-test that girls consciously attempt. They want to know that you?re manly enough to see through it and not be broken down. The best way to overcome it is to neutralize their push/pull by doing it back to them. When
she pulls away, attack her. When she attacks you, pull away. By doing this same thing to her (which probably no guy has in the past), she?ll view you as having equal status to her and she?ll also see you as someone that she does not yet have under her sexual spell. The only way to get control of you is to give you sex and make you come back for more. 2) Strategy to Overcome: Push until the Very End, then do a Freeze Out. Difficulty Level: Medium The pushing will progress you slowly towards sex, but then at the very end she will most likely freeze you out and end the hookup. To counter this, you need to freeze her out first. This strategy should also work, but will take much longer and will only break down her resistance in the end, whereas the first strategy completely neutralizes her resistance from the start. 3) Strategy to Overcome: Put the Condom on and Fuck Her Difficulty Level: Medium This strategy is controversial for obvious reasons, and not advised. Subconsciously the girl wants you to physically overpower her. Her attacking you is a test to see if you?re strong enough to overpower her, both mentally (by not being phased) and physically (by overpowering her). By physically overpowering her, you prove your strength as an alpha male, and these girls only want to fuck the most alpha of males. Also, being rough is what turns these girls on sexually; kissing does not go as far. By being rough with her, you reach a point where the girl is so turned on that she can?t say no. LMR #3: She Wants to Know that She's Different This LMR happens when the girl wants to make sure she?s special to you. This could be because she feels a real connection to you, and thinks it could blossom into a relationship. In this case she doesn?t want to potentially jeopardize something good by sleeping with you. It could also be because she knows you?re a player and doesn?t want to give herself away like all those other girls; she wants to know that she means more.
Strategy to Overcome: none Difficulty Level: Hard This LMR is not spontaneous the way the other kinds of LMR are; it is strategically planned ahead of time by the girl. In that sense it isn?t really LMR at all; it?s only included here because you never know when it might occur. This is the kind of LMR that Style got when he told girls he?s a PUA, and even he couldn?t overcome it (not in the short term at least). The good news is that if you continue to have tight game then she?ll definitely have sex with you eventually. In this sense, it?s probably best to just wait until a Day 2 or Day 3. LMR #4: She?s Prudish This LMR has little to do with typical anti-slut defense and more to do with her lack of sexual experience and prudish nature. Some girls, no matter how tight your game is, will simply not hook up with you the first night. Because of their lack of sexual experience and introverted personalities, these girls are overly self-conscious and take longer to get out of their comfort zone. A typical HB party girl will rarely fall into this category, as they?ve had enough social interaction and sexual experience that they are comfortable. On the other hand, a young girl that you met in the library might fall into this category. She has fewer guys hitting on her and is still not fully comfortable around the opposite sex. Strategy to Overcome: Build Deep Rapport and Mix with Kino Difficulty Level: Hard Stay in comfort as long as possible with these girls and build a lot of rapport. Go heavy on the routines and cold reads. Go light with kino at first and then slowly build it up. Mix the kino in with your routines; if you touch her when she is having an emotional realization, it will be ingrained in her subconscious and she will feel more comfortable around you. Ultimately, this probably won?t be enough, and she won?t sleep with you for the same reasons that your high school girlfriend made you wait 6 months; she?s just not comfortable getting physical. One more warning: do not push too hard! If you do too much to
bring a girl out of her sexual comfort zone, she?ll be gone forever. It?s your job to heed the warning signs and decide when to shut down and wait for another night. LMR #5: She Doesn?t Want to Screw Over Her Friend This LMR occurs when her concerns about a good female friend outweigh her concerns about hooking up with you. It can happen in any of the following instances: 1) You previously dated her close female friend 2) She knows your girlfriend personally 3) She doesn?t want to leave her female friend alone with your creepy roommate #1 is the most serious kind because the friend will probably find out about it, thus putting their friendship in jeopardy, which matters more to her than you do (at the moment at least). #2 is less serious because the girlfriend is less likely to find out, and #3 is the least serious. Note that this form of LMR does NOT include instances where a female friend tells her that you?re an asshole and that she shouldn?t hook up with you. People don?t like to be controlled, and this will mostly likely make her want you more. Strategy to Overcome: Take Full Responsibility Difficulty Level: Medium/Easy If the LMR involves #1 or #2, do not rationally argue that the female friend in question isn?t a big deal, and that she won?t find out. Instead, agree with the girl that what you?re doing is ?so bad?, but that it just ?happened?, and that if the friend finds out that you?ll take full responsibility. If the LMR involves #3, then just make sure the friends are as comfortable as possible in the living room. Chat them up before you take your girl in the bedroom. Have them play with your puppy. Once you have your target isolated in your room, then come out of the room to get a drink, ask how the movie is, then go back into your room.
LMR #6: She has a Boyfriend If you meet a girl in a bar and she has a boyfriend, she may or may not tell you. If she does not tell you then that?s a clear indication she?s willing to hookup, and this form of LMR will not happen. If she does tell you then it?s harder, but not impossible. This form of LMR will be similar to the first kind of LMR (she hardly knows you), as she will say things like ?this is so bad? or ?I can?t believe I?m doing this.? Strategy to Overcome: Pretend that you have a Girlfriend and Take Full Responsibility Difficulty Level: Medium By pretending that you have a girlfriend, you are relieving her of some guilt. She?s not the only one cheating; you are too. Take full responsibility for all escalation and talk about how much she turns you on. Chances are her boyfriend isn?t giving her this much attention, and you?ll look better as a result. Do not justify why she should cheat on her boyfriend, and do not discuss similarities between your mutual predicaments. Frame the hookup around you being the bad one, and that you were just so turned down by her that you couldn?t control yourself and one thing led to another and it just happened. No LMR: Most guys think only more experienced women who are comfortable with their sexuality do not give LMR. This is not true; there are actually 5 different types of girls who do not give LMR: 1) Cougars; older women who are single and don?t get out much. They have outgrown any slut complexes they used to have, and are just out to have a fun time and satisfy their own needs. 2) Unattractive girls, particularly ?fat chicks.? These girls never get hit on and have few opportunities for sex. To make matters worse, they constantly see their hot friends being hit on and hooking up. If an opportunity does come up, they don?t want to squander it.
3) Younger girls (18-19) who have not yet acquired a slut complex. These girls have only had sex with a couple guys in their life, and they?re horny for more. The problem is that they have few opportunities for sex because guys their age suck at pickup, and the girls aren?t old enough to go to places (bars, clubs) where they can meet older, more experienced guys. 4) Girls on vacation Girls on vacation have no slut complexes because they know they?re never going to see anyone again. Thus they have no reputation to worry about, nor do they have worry about the guy calling the next day. Also, this is one time when it?s deemed OK and even traditional to hookup (i.e. spring break, Vegas), so girls can drop their guard for a few days without fear of consequence. 5) Girls who are on the rebound These girls just got out of a relationship and want to go crazy for a night. This is another rare time where it?s deemed acceptable for girls to hookup, so they temporarily drop their anti-slut defense, as well as their standards. If you?re a guy who hooks up with these girls, you?re getting ?lucky.?
S3. Sex Having known her briefly, for the majority of girls sex should initially establish a connection, not be perverse, if you intend on having a LTR. This takes 4-10 hours, or 7 hours on average, to get from meeting to sex, including dates and phone calls. Buyers remorse occurs when she impulsively consents to sex or even foreplay, then develops regret and vanishes thereafter, not answering your calls. Advanced Tactic: Shock and Awe (S&A) (Ciaran) An SOI is a statement of intent or interest. In S&A the interest is your desire for her. Keep the delivery humorous but never joking. Never show any actual hostility or anger. 10% of what you say is telling her how hot she is, the other 90% the ?blame frame? of telling her how she is affecting you because of her
hotness. Success depends on maintaining this congruent frame. She is hot and you?re upset about how it?s breaking you down, and she?s being unfair. You can?t stand up to all her artillery. If she apologizes for being so hot, you blast her that she isn?t sorry, that she?s deliberately trying to tear you down with her looks. Insist on wanting to get to know her, and not giving in. 1. Open with an SOI, then stack SOIs. Example: ?Excuse me, but WHAT? What do you WANT? Do you want me to just walk on BY? I mean, you're absolutely STUNNING. Do you want me to just PRETEND like that doesn't affect me? I mean, HOW? I'm just some GUY. I can't turn it off. What are you trying to DO to me, woman?" 2. Constantly escalate kino. Make it obvious that you?re fighting the intense desire to touch her, and barely keeping it together. Blame her for this. 3. Continue to express desire, give advice on how she can make herself less hot like putting a bag over her head or gaining 20 pounds, so then maybe you can talk to her without being so turned on. Explain how out of character it is for you to feel and act like this, but again it?s her fault. 4. If she gets offended, make a sincere apology for your disrespect, but never the SOI or kino. 5. Repeat the above until you have sex with her. The entire process should take minutes.
Somewhat similar to Shock and Awe is TD's sexual predator routine, which puts all the blame on the girl. See the routines chapter for more information.
Identity, State and Frame
The AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) You will be a thing of the past, replaced by the PUA You. When learning the pick-up arts, you have the option of creating a new identity. The old you was just fine, a nice guy who has lots of interesting things to say. The new you may be similar, just repackaged and marketed correctly. This 'inner game' should be on all the time, though you may turn your 'outer game' on and off as the environment dictates.
Identity development 1. Who are you? Meaning how do you want to be perceived by others? Find a stereotype to exploit, then create a sound bite that conveys this. 2. What kind of woman do you seek? What?s important to you in a woman? You must develop your identity to attract this sort of woman, so #1 should complement #2. 3. What is your avatar? Does your look reflect the identity you?ve chosen? They must be congruent. 4. What is your social circle? Do you hang out with people that enhance your identity and respect you as a tribal leader? 5. What props do you take into the field that demonstrate your identity? You can have pics on your phone to show sets. Props may display sexuality, or that women are a part of your life. Have a story behind each prop. Be the observed. 6. How will your wing introduce you? This is known as an AI, accomplishment intro.
State Your state when running pick up should be that of a confident, happy and out-going man. Listen to your internal dialogue, and if you notice a lot of negative thoughts, fix it. Your outward appearance will not be appealing to others until your internal dialogue is optimistic, enthusiastic and positive.
Push all negative or self-defeating ideas out of your head, and replace them with thoughts of success.
Frame When we speak of frame, we mean your attitude and beliefs. You must convey non-neediness and willingness to walk away. You must not be seeking validation from her or anyone else. If you make a funny comment, you don?t care if she finds it funny; you don't look to make sure if she's laughing at it, because you simply don't give a crap. If you?re wearing something interesting, you might ask her opinion on it, but aren?t emotionally directed by her response. These alpha qualities ? that of a leader and not a follower ? should be conveyed in your body language and what you say. Anything that makes you seem validation-seeking, insecure, attention-seeking, indecisive, try-hard, dependent or unsure will be a turn off. In short, this is your world and though she is welcomed to enter it, you?ll be just fine without her. Along these lines, always be in control and pull her into your frame. In milder forms this can take the form of ending all phone calls and interactions before she does. A more obvious version of frame control is puppet kino, where you are physically forcing her to behave as you desire. Note that these are characteristics you cannot fake. You must internalize these beliefs and become that person. Women will see through a fa?ade. Have no expectations for outcome. Don?t care if a girl doesn?t laugh at your joke. Don?t care if she doesn?t pong IOIs. Don?t care if you get blown out of every set tonight. Don?t care if you number close. Don?t care if she doesn?t call you back. Don?t care if she flakes. Don?t care if you have a one night stand. Don?t care if she shit tests. Don?t care if she buys you a drink. Just run game. If she shows interest, tomorrow she could completely disappear and never respond to you. If she shows disinterest now, in a week she might be blowing your cell up trying to get a date. Girls send mixed signals and play games all the time, so don?t be thrown, and always have no expectations. Emotional investment by the girl is important. Even if it?s jealousy or irritation, if a girl has the option to walk away from you but stays in there, it?s an IOI. Use that emotional investment to get her more attracted to you, and do not respond emotionally back to it.
Be relaxed and comfortable as if you?re at home and not a bar.
Frame Control and Storytelling By The Judge It?s time to write on one of the biggest problems/obstacles PUAs of all skill levels run into: Effective DHV story telling. There are two recurring fatal mistakes I see happening repeatedly: 1) Stories are trying so hard to hit DHV points, they completely undermine and destroy your frame/congruency, and 2) Stories lack any subtly and are no better than blatant bragging/lying. Before I go into the theory on this, I want to demonstrate my point by relating something that happened to me in-field. Okay, I sarge in Manhattan and usually go for high end chicks (8s and upward) usually at classy bars/clubs. So, as you can imagine, I?m constantly competing/gaming against AMOGs and, in particular, older, richer Wall Street AMOGs (lets call them Alpha Streeters). So one Thursday night, I?m out with my wing and we?re gaming a decent 3-set. As I?m stacking, I notice in the corner of my eye a cock-pack of 10 Alpha Streeters rolling into the club. While most of the Alphas wandered over to the bar, the two most Alpha guys planted themselves in front of our set. Not letting this phase me, I continued to stack but kept hearing snip-its of phrases like ?? FINALLY all moved into my place on Fifth Avenue? or ??going back to the old alma mater for the Harvard Yale game?. They were running the equivalent of MM for guys on Wall Street: DHV about money as loud as you can. After about 5 minutes of this, a couple of the Alphas by the bar came over to our set and offered us all an expensive round of drinks. Of course, we had to accept, allowing the 10 Alphas to move in on our set and effectively blow us out. The way I felt as I ejected was like a little kid who?s playing a Nintendo game and can?t beat a level while he watches a bunch of older kids do whatever they want because they?re using Game Genie.
I was pissed. Frustrated. Embarrassed. I still am. But thinking back on it, those guys may have blown me out, but they set a horrible frame. Let me explain. Say the Alpha Streeters never showed up and I had successfully #-closed, got a Day 2, and took the girl(s) to McDonald's. It wouldn?t really be a DLV because I was strictly selling the girls on my personality, gaming skills and stories. I didn?t buy them drinks. I didn?t tell them I live on Fifth Avenue. Taking those girls to McDonald's would?ve been completely congruent with the frame I established. However, imagine if one of the Alpha Streeters got a Day 2 and he took her to McDonald's. MAJOR DLV. The guy established the frame that he?s rich. His Day 2 HAS to be at a very expensive restaurant or else it?s NOT CONGRUENT. Winning girls with money is great if you?re ready to spend money all the time, but if you?re not than it?s no different than the smooth PUA who freezes up in the middle of the set. You?re blown out once you contradict the reality you initially put forth. Over and over and I see posts like this: ?I broke down the bedroom door and grabbed him by the neck pinning him against the wall lifting him up. Must have been the adrenaline of the moment because I can not normally lift a big guy with one hand. I looked him in the eye and told him, if he ever did that again I would kill him.? I know a lot of red-faced ?PUAs? want to grab me by the neck, pin me against a wall, and tell me ?Hey bro! I?m showing that I PROTECT MY LOVED ONES!? No, you?re not, bro. What you?re showing is you?re a typical tough guy. Which is fine if that?s the frame you want to set. But just like the Wall Streeter who sets his money frame, you?ve now set a ?tough guy? frame. So, when an AMOG comes over and tries to steal your girl, you have no choice but to fight him. Think about it. If you?re the big ?protector of loved ones? and you?ve ?demonstrated? that with your story, you can?t try to out smart
the AMOG because it?s not consistent. Your ONLY consistent choice is to get that adrenaline pumping and start fighting everyone who threatens your target. Because I encounter so many typical AFC tough guys, I go OUT OF MY WAY to set the frame that I?m NOT a tough guy (so when I use my wit to outsmart them, it?s congruent and I?m not obligated to man-dance every loser AFC with crab hands?) Here?s what I was doing for a while (feel free to use at your discretion): Part of my peacocking is I sometimes put a band aid on my neck. It sounds stupid but so many girls will open you with: HB on Trial: OMG!! What happened? The Judge: Bar fight. HB on Trial: (Giggles) The Judge: Yeah, you should?ve seen the other 5 guys. (NOTE: This must be delivered with James Bond-like demeanor. If you say it like a goofball it?ll come off sounding like a joke your corny uncle would make?) The whole reason this is ?funny? is because I?m a skinny 5?8, 145-pound dude who dresses like a dandy...
Prizability Prizability is expressed in the PUA text by Swinggcat, ?Real World Seduction.? Swinggcat speaks of frames and meta-frames, and your goal generally is to maintain your frame as the prize, and make her pursue you. Girls will often expect the man to assume she is the prize and that she should be pursued. The PUA does not fall for this, which will often take HBs by surprise. On Being the Prize By The Judge I feel like a lot of guys get into this community, read about something like setting a "prize frame" and then get carried away with it, letting it mutate their personalities. While these "expectations" might establish yourself as a "prize" in your head, it won't do anything but make you seem like an arrogant prick to HBs. At the end of the day you have to ask yourself: Am I trying to convince myself I'm a super high value guy OR am I trying to close HBs. For me, I wish every HB I called would "pick up all my calls or call me right back", but that doesn't always happen. So I ask myself: What did I do wrong? Can I still correct the situation? Am I willing to call her again and/or try a different route? Maybe the difference between PUAs and AFCs is PUAs ask questions and AFCs make statements, expecting everyone to conform to their reality. (For example, the "nice guy" thinks by being agreeable that everyone will love him. He doesn't question reality, he simply states: "I'm nice. Love me." The PUA asks: "Why isn't being nice working? How can I change this?") If every HB you meet is spoon feeding you or answering all your calls then you're a mPUA and there's no reason for you to even ESTABLISH your expectations (people should just understand them). But I have a feeling you think by outlining your "prize frame" you're attempting to establish a reality you believe people should conform to (because it makes you appear high value). However, all it's really doing is souring any opportunity you have to improve your game by tweaking your sticking points (i.e. if a girl's not calling you back immediately, you did something wrong in an earlier stage). Therefore: improve your game and these expectations will be implicit.
Peacocking Successful peacocking gear will: 1. inspire targets to open you, and 2. be ridiculed by AMOGs.
Do not feel upset if you get put down by AMOGs; turn this around and consider it a marker of good peacocking. Some useful peacock items include: scarves, hats, rings, wrist bands, and necklaces. If you don't to wear earrings, look for magnetic earrings online and put 1-3 in your earlobe and/or cartilage of the left ear. Some PUAs use makeup, or color their hair. Often it is helpful to think of a celebrity you resemble and try to look like that person. Even if on a subliminal level, the comparison might garner you attention. Remember it is always better to be observed than to observe. Belt buckles are great in that they can be flashy as they draw a woman?s attention close to your private parts. When a girl refers to your belt buckle turn it into a classic sexual predator comment: ?Hey, my eyes are up here! What are you doing looking down her, you naughty little girl. I swear, girls are such sexual predators...? Try to have a story behind each prop, as in its significance to you. When asked why you have a particular necklace on, you can joke: ?Because my face is a work of art and I needed a beautiful frame around it.? Platform shoes give the illusion of height which is important if you?re short. If called out about them, use Style's response: ?Because they get me 3 more inches of woman...and I like woman? (said innocently, not seductively).
Shit Tests Women will often use shit tests to see what you're made of, to push you out of your frame and possibly into her's. Don't answer these logically. Make your responses fun and reframe her statement so that she understands this is your world and she is lucky to be welcomed in. A shit test isn't an IOD (when a girl turns back to her friends or walks away...that's an IOD). It's an IOI, because she's investigating how strong your backbone is. If a woman finds out you can't even stand up to her, how will you protect her from all of life's other threats? Examples: ST (shit test): Why are you talking to me? RF (reframe): I lost a bet.
ST: Are you gay? RF: Yeah, I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body. ST: Buy me a drink. RF: Is that your best pick up line? ST: I don't date short guys. RF: Hey, me neither. ST: How big is your penis? RF: How good is your dental insurance? ST: I need a sugar daddy. Are you rich? RF: For sure. I just added a new wing to my cardboard box. ST: So you're a bisexual? RF: Buy sex? Why would I buy sex when I get it for free? ST: A lot of guys hit on me because of this tattoo. RF: Really, guys hit on you for that? I figured you'd get more lesbians. ST: I can email you nude pics of myself. RF: Hey! Slow down there, young lady. We just met. Buy me a drink first if you're gonna hit on me like that!
Openers, Routines, Gambits and BOBs
Openers and routines are grouped together because technically there is no reason why you can?t open with a routine or stack to an opener mid-pickup. For example, if you sense a lull in your convo during comfort, there?s nothing wrong with tossing in a canned opener to liven things up. In general it is best to keep your routines and openers brief to begin with, then stack later to longer ones as you hook the set. Reserve kino routines like palm reading for your target. When opening, use ?hey guys? because it?s not gender specific, as opposed to ?hi ladies? or ?hi girls.? This will help disarm the set. Or just run the opener without this intro. The classic work is Thundercat's The Art of Approaching. The key to these is: 1) be funny and/or fun, 2) be succinct, 3) be unique, 4) don?t look like you?re trying to run pick-up, 5) ground your story with details to make them believable. Don?t run routines as if they?re scripted. Your delivery should seem spontaneous, so crack yourself up in the middle, put in false pauses to 'think' about your phrasing or to recount details. FTC (False Time Constraints) are important during A1. You should communicate either verbally or by body rocking that you have somewhere else to be and you won't be there in set for long. The openers and gambits described below are just backbones on which you should hang a story. Your story should captivate, be full of details and hit attraction switches, and may run 5 minutes or more. Use multithread theory to tie various gambits together. The following is a collection of original gambits and those that have been massively field tested over the years. BOBs are Bits of Banter which are neither openers nor routines, but contain some comebacks or reframes that might help you in field if you ever encounter a similar situation. If you have a good BOB, opener or gambit to share, email it to Decibel at PUAFieldGuide.com.
Ideally, you can start with these, but should develop your own unique openers and gambits as your game improves. Essentially, even though you might think it will be a challenge to open sets, you will find even stupid openers like puppet show have the potential of getting HBs laughing and moving into A2. Man Hands/Monkey Fingers Helpful if an external interrupt tries to carry your target away, or at any point in the game to up kino. Makes a useful lock-in prop routine. Use man hands if she has larger fingers (don't imply FAT, however), or monkey fingers if they're like most girls and are thin. Sliding a ring on and off her finger has subtle sexual tones to it and is a mild form of kino. ?Hey, has anybody told you you have man hands? I bet your ex-boyfriends hated when you gave them a massage because they felt like another man was touching them...almost like they were going gay. I dunno, just for shits and giggles, try on my ring and see...you DO have big hands, jeez. Hey, I'm gonna go check in on my bros, and I'll see you in a few...? Conversely, you can use, 'Hey, look who has monkey fingers. You really need to put some meat on these bones. Here...' and so on. More than likely she'll look for you later to give you back your prop, and the game resumes. The Puppet Show 'Hey, are they still doing those puppet shows here? Last time I was here there was this nice old man doing puppet shows. He had marionettes and a little Chihuahua dog with a pink skirt on. It was kinda weird though. Some of the puppets were like Mexican day of the dead skeletons, and he made them do some freaky stuff.' Classy Bar Neg PUA: Bars can be such meat markets. HB: Blah blah, it depends on the people. PUA: Some bars attract a lot of drunk horny guys, but other places ? like this one ? are much classier and attract a more sophisticated crowd. Which is why I?m so surprised to find you here. 9s Routine How many 9s are there between 1 and 100?
There are 20 9s between 1 and 100. 9, 19, 29, 39, 49, 59, 69, 79, 89, 99, 90, 91, 92, 93, 94, 95, 96, 97, 98. Count them?what, you only see 19 9s? Count again. 99 has 2 9s in it. Mystery's Snapple Routine 'Do fish cough? Yes, they do. I read it on a Snapple lid. Growing up I acquired all these bizarre facts by reading Snapple lids. Then I come to find out some of these facts aren?t real, you have to go to their website to see which ones are real and which aren?t. Do fish cough or don?t they? Nah, just kidding, they?re all real. Fish do cough.' Blond(e) Spelling Opener You can use this while futzing around on your cell phone pretending to text message someone. This is a variation of the blond hair opener. ?Hey, do you know how to spell blonde? Does it have an E at the end or not? My friend ? we?re in a rock band together ? wants me to color my hair blond. But I?m not sure that would look so great, so I was texting my exgirlfriend who is a model, to get her opinion. But since you?re here, I might as well find out what a woman thinks.? The answer is vague and few people seem to know it. Blond is an adjective, as in ?that blond girl.? Blonde is a noun, as in ?I dated a blonde once.? However, the usages are blurring and many are using blond for all meanings. 11s Routine Helpful if written down, but not necessary. 'What?s 11x11?121. 111x111? 12321. 11111x11111? 123454321. See the pattern? It?s a phenomenon built into nature. And I learned it from a homeless guy named Chuck. See, I was waiting on a movie line one day?' School Bus Needs to be drawn. 'So they asked 100 kids to look at a picture of a school bus and to say which way it?s driving:
Can you guess which way? It?s going left. Why? Because they said you can?t see the door. It?s on the other side.'
Angel vs Devil Here?s a snippet of banter PUA BangBang got into one night. PUA: (to external interrupt) Oh hell, here comes trouble. Interrupt: Who me? Trouble? HB: Can't you see her halo? PUA: Yeah, it's balancing quite nicely on those horns. You know what I hate, you know the little angel and devil? The guys on your shoulders. Everyone says you should listen to the angel. Well don't trust either of them. Mine have been switching clothes just to fuck with me, so I listen to the angel who's actually the devil and I get in trouble ALL the time! DAMN IT, it just happened again, I shouldn't have told you that! HB: So how long have you been rehearsing that one? PUA: Rehearsing? Oh, about the last 5 seconds or so, why? HB: That just sounded rehearsed. PUA: Hey, don't be hating on me because I'm good there missy. Good one, Bad one Cold Read To a 2 set: 'You?re the good one and you?re the bad one.' Make the target the good one and the obstacle the bad one. This is a subtle neg because nobody wants to be ?the good one.? 1-4, 1-10 'Pick a number between 1-4 but don?t say it. Visualize it. It?s 3. Now pick a number between 1-10?it?s 7.' If you fail to guess the right number, say something like 'I never believed in ESP anyway.' 4-Set Archetypes 'In each group of 4 people, there are 4 archetypes represented. So these are the king, the queen, the court jester and the wizard. For example in the Beatles, John was the king, Paul was the queen, Ringo was the jester and George was the wizard. So let me figure out who?s who in your group.' (Then do a cold read on the 4 set, ending with the target being the jester). Grade School Crush Have your wing write on a piece of paper something like ?My friend has a crush on you. He wants to know if you?ll talk to him.? When your wing slips the note to the target with a very serious face, it?s bound to get a laugh. He can then bring you into the set once she agrees. This cheesy approach brings back memories of grade school and hits a sentimental note that girls love. The Smelly Girl This is a funny opener that hits the preselection and willingness to walk away switches: 'This place is pretty mellow, a lot different from last night (take a pregnant pause, let the line hook). I was at this party in (nearby city). Now, I?m used to girls hitting on me and that?s cool (preselection). But this woman comes up to me, and she must?ve been I dunno 50 years old, 5 feet tall at most, and around 300-400 pounds. And she starts trying to make out with me. I struggled to push her off and get away. And the worst part was she smelled terrible. I guess it was her perfume or a skin condition or something. But she smelled like she just got in a shit fight with a baboon (pause). And the baboon won. So I push her away and try to run towards the door. But she runs after me, and since she?s wearing this weird low-cut blouse, her booby pops out while she?s chasing me. And I?m like ?see ya? and bail. I wound up at this dive bar on (street). That was no better. I met a nice actress there, but after a couple glasses of wine she became really offensive and obnoxious. So I left her on the sidewalk with the DJ and called it a night. I mean, I have high standards and if somebody is being rude I think it?s fine just to walk away. Don?t you think so?' Peeing Dog 'Did you see that dog outside? I think it was a Labradoodle. I went over to pet it, and the bastard tried to pee on me. What do I look like, a fire hydrant? But I guess I should feel flattered because he was probably trying to mark me as its own.' Mall Opener Said over the shoulder as HB walks along your path: 'Hey, is it just me, or does nobody in this mall smile? Even the dogs are mean?' stack to peeing dog. This opener gives the target the impression you?re a happy smiling guy, even if you?re not. Nun and Priest 'What would be fun would be if you dressed up as a nun and I dressed as a priest, and we went to the mall and started making out like a couple of teenagers.'
Who would you rather date? 'Which guy would you want to date most?' Then, go with some group of male characters, for example: 1) the skipper, Gilligan or the professor? 2) Reggie, Jughead or Archie? 3) Lincoln, Kennedy or Reagan? Et cetera. Puppy Role Playing 'Aw, you?re adorable, like a puppy I just rescued from the pound. I would put you on a leash and walk you around the park. And then I could teach you a few tricks, and if you were good, I?d rub your belly and let you sleep in bed with me. But if you have an accident?you?re sleeping outside. Bad dog!' (and do roll off) The Lemonade Stand (Wolf) 'Me and my buddy were walking down Wilshire last week and we saw the craziest thing. We hear this little kid saying ?lemonade, lemonade for a buck.? We see it?s this adorable little kid selling lemonade, so we went over. An old lady was there and wanted a cup. So the kid takes the dollar and reaches under the stand and pulls out this jug of 7-Up, and pours some into this tiny Dixie cup. The old lady was like ?that?s not lemonade. Just give me back my money.? But the kid started arguing with her. He said, ?nahah look here, it says ?Lemon-Lime flavored.?? And he wouldn?t give her the dollar back. I felt so bad for the old lady I gave her a dollar.' Dream interpretations For some reason there is little mention of dream interpretation in pickup, but the possibilities are enormous. Here's one we?ve developed called the Catcher in the Rye Dream Gambit: PUA: Hey, you seem like you'd be good at dream interpretation because you're a very visual kinda person. I'm in this field of rye, on a cliff, and kids are playing. It's my job to stop the kids from falling over the cliff. What do you think this means? Target (option 1): Hey, that's the dream from Catcher in the Rye. PUA: Wow, you caught me. I just wanted to see if there was anything else to you besides your looks. Target (option 2): I dunno. PUA: I think it means I'm a protector of loved ones (i.e. hit attraction switch here).
You can take a dream you?ve had or thought up and do the same, such that the ?punchline? is an attraction switch. You can make the dream as absurd and comical as you want to get the set laughing, but stay clear of anything violent or too disturbing. Eighties Dogs (Swinggcat) 'Hey guys, I need a quick opinion about something. My friend just got two puppies, a Pug and a Beagle. She wants to name them after an 80?s pop duo? she wants to name them? DURAN DURAN? I think that?s a horrible idea... you can?t have two dogs with the same name. Do you guys have any ideas? I was thinking Sonny and Cher would be a good one, because the Pug dog is a male and the Beagle dog is a female. But they?re 70?s, not 80?s, so that won?t work. Maybe Axel and Slash would be good, but they?re rock n? roll hair band style. Milli Vanilli was a thought, but those are both guy names. We need a female name. Plus, Milli doesn?t fit a Pug or a Beagle.' Fashion Tip (Kooper) Just go up and just tell them how they would look EVEN BETTER to you. "Wear your hair open" "open that up one more button" or just fix their clothes. Tell her what would look amazing on her. Train your eye to look for imperfections and what to do against them. For the clueless, get two-dozen model magazines and look through the pictures SEVERAL times so you get some idea. Try to make up negs for these girls and point out what would look better on them. This sets an interesting frame. First of all, you are teaching her how to please you, if she reacts well, praise her for being a good puppy. Second, it is obvious that you are the prize, that you have standards and that you know what you want. Third, it establishes that women are a regular part of your life (preselection). This is *not* delivered playful or c&f or anything, just a genuine comment. Jealous Girlfriend (Style) ?Hey guys, I need a female perspective on something. This?ll only take a minute. My roommate?s girlfriend just found a shoe box he keeps hidden in a dresser drawer, and she?s really upset about it. It?s nothing bad, just pictures of him and ex-girlfriends on vacation and old love letters he got in high school and stuff. But for some reason his girlfriend is freaking out about this and wants him to get rid of it or she?s threatening to break up with him. So now she wants him to burn the box or she?s leaving him, isn?t that fucked up?? Is this normal female behavior??
Girls Fighting Outside (Mystery) "OMG!? did you see those two girls fighting outside? Like right outside the club... they were totally going at it; one was pulling the others' hair, and the other one drew blood with her nails. And they seemed to be fighting over this short guy; he was standing near them just totally laughing!? Two-Part Kiss Opener (Style) PUA: Hey guys, we're having a debate and need a quick opinion on something. If a guy is dating a girl, and she goes out to a bar with her friends one night and makes out with a guy just for fun, is it cheating? GROUP: Yeah, it's cheating. PUA: Okay, that makes sense. So here's the real question. And I'll tell you why I'm asking in a second: If she goes out and gets drunk and makes out with a GIRL for fun, is it cheating? GROUP: (the responses will vary, but if any guys say "no," you can bust on them for having a double-standard etc.) PUA: Okay. Interesting. The reason I'm asking is because my friend over there has been dating this girl. And she likes to go out and get drunk and make out with girls. Now, some guys might be into that, but it pisses him off and he thinks it's cheating. She says it isn't. So we were trying to figure out who was right. Blond Hair (Tyler Durden (TD)) YOU: Guys.. get this.. I need an opinion.. THEM: What??? YOU: I'm thinking of dying my hair, TOTALLY BLONDE THEM: no.. yes... no.. (they debate) YOU: how about like this.. streaks.. etc etc G-String Opener (Badboy) PUA: Hey girls, I need female opinion on something...My friend totally fucked up his relationship with his girl. Actually they are still together...in love with each other... Set: What, what? PUA: Last month, he cheated on his GF with another girl from college, and his GF found a g-string from that girl in the bathroom the next day. After a big drama, he told her that he actually has a fetish of dressing in girls underwear... Now. A month later, my friend tells me that his GF found that a total turnon, and she requests from him almost every night to dress in her underwear....he told me he feels really stupid walking around his house in girls underwear......what do you think he should do now?? Is it time to tell her?? Cause they are totally in love!! Girl: You are actually asking for yourself, aren't you?? PUA: Yes...wow...yes I am shy... anyway... what kind of panties do you have on yourself now?? What color.. I really love pink ones..show me.... Sincere Compliment (Papa) PUA: Hey...are you someone confident enough to accept a sincere compliment? HB: Hee...hee. Sure. PUA: Cooool. Me too!! Hey, you go first. [pointing back to me] Fire away. Do I look Gay? Preferably used with a wing and with a game-show host/party host attitude. [a] "I need your honest opinion on something... do I look gay?" Some chicks will bust out laughing when you ask this. "...Because something really funny just happened, this dude was hitting on me in another bar!" [b] Better is to use this with a wing and change it to: "Does MY FRIEND look gay" because it eliminates the self-conscious aspect. The person who was supposedly hit on must play it off as something totally funny and even flattering. David Bowie (TD) "Guys, do girls think that David Bowie is hot? Get this...my roommate?s little sister, she?s 7 and half years old, has a HUGE picture of David Bowie on her wall. I?m not talking an 8x10; I?m talking a 4-foot by 6-foot POSTER! It?s like the first thing she sees when she wakes up in the morning. David Bowie is a freaky looking OLD MAN! She?s like 7 and he?s like 70. I?m seriously worried about my roommate?s little sister?? Wheelchair (TD) "Hey guys, would you date a guy in a wheelchair? What if it was a REALLY NICE wheelchair?? Thug Lovin (jlaix) ?Hey guys. I'm doing a poll. Which is superior... which do the ladies prefer more... THUG LOVIN'? or... GANGSTA LOVIN'? Well, my ex said gangsta because its more hard-core whereas thug lovin is more like a hobby. But my other ex said gangsta would be disrespectful, like they'd pistol whip you and run a train on your ass, whereas thug lovin, the dude is hard, but when it comes to the ladies, he's smooth and sensitive...he knows when to step up his love game.? This is one of Decibel's favorites. If you're talking about thug vs gangsta love and you're a short white kid with acne, it's so incongruent it's bound to hook. You also can say you're writing a song and couldn't decide which direction to take it. My Little Pony (jlaix) 'Remember that shit 'My Little Pony'? Well, I was thinkin about this today, and I can't remember... did they have powers? Like, I remember they could fly, but I thought they also had little symbols on the hip or something that gave them powers, but they were like, lame-ass powers like Sharing and Honor or some shit. My little sister used to have them and I'd play GI Joes with them, like, GI Joe would fly into battle on My Little Pony, then blast Cobra with a fuckin machine gun blah blah blah...' ARE YOU SHY? 'Are you guys shy? I?ve been standing here talking to my friend for like 5 minutes now and you still haven?t said ?hi'.' Alternatively: 'Hey, you know why you suck? I?ve been standing her 10 minutes and you haven?t come up to me to say hi.' COLOGNE OPENER In a mall put on a different cologne on each wrist and ask girls which one smells better on you. Go back and forth several times between arms. DATING FOR DUMMIES (Herbal) Go find the Dating for Dummies book. It's bright yellow and black. Find the page that has "NEVER USE THESE LINES" on it, and keep the book open to that page. Walk up to a girl BLATANTLY and hold the book up in front of your face so she can easily read the title. She might start laughing, depending on how you do it. Then slowly lower the book and read the lines. "So... come here often" in a super player voice. She will crack up and answer you. Break your "smooth" look on your face and quickly bring the book back up and read the next line "What's your sign?". She will laugh again and probably answer. Then say "Wow... this works great. Your turn". It puts her on the spot. You can flip to random pages and do tons of roleplay... the breaking up stuff is great.
DENTAL FLOSS (Style and Mystery) 'Hey guys, I need to get your opinion on something. It's very important, and we need a woman's perspective. It's a matter of life and death.. My friend and I were having a debate and your answer could completely change my entire life....Do you brush before floss or floss before brush? No one knows?' DON?T TOUCH ME (David D.) When a girl bumps into you in a crowded club tap her on the shoulder and say ?don?t touch me? ? have something to immediately follow up with. Alternatively, you can whine?'owww, that huuurrrt. I hope you have a good lawyer, sister.' 80's Music (Twentysix) 'Hey guys, help me out, I have this song stuck in my head ALL day and I can't remember who sings it. it goes "you spin me right round baby right round like a record player right round, round round, etc...." who sings that??? I was talking to my mom earlier today and she said its Lionel Richie? but I KNOW that isn't right!' Song Stuck in My Head A favorite opener by Decibel is similar to 80s Music. Approach and say 'What is the cure for a song stuck in your head? I have the song...'Rollin' Rollin' Rollin'...What's the name of that one?' (It's Rollin' by Limp Bizkit). She'll probably say, ?Listen to another song.? To this you say, ?That WAS the other song. The first song was <insert some lame unpopular song here>.? Sing that song, then say, ?Oh great, thanks a lot. Now I have that song stuck in my head again.? ELVIS OPENER (Mystery) 'Did you know that Elvis dyed his hair black? What was his natural hair color? Dirty Blond. Did you know that Priscilla Presley also dyed her hair? I don't know what her natural hair color was, I'm not Cliff Claven, but can you picture that these two every couple of weeks would dye their hair black together around a dirty sink in some sick mass-appealing ceremonial ritual? I bet people never considered that before ... did you?' FAT ELVIS (Wilder) PUA: Hey guys, if you were going to hire an Elvis impersonator for your friend's birthday party, would you hire a young Elvis or a Fat Elvis?
HB: Blah, blah, blah. (if she says young Elvis bust on her for being shallow) PUA: Get this, my roommate lived in Graceland for a year and he said the craziest thing. He told me that the fat Elvis impersonators always got the hottest chicks, and the young Elvis's were always alone. I couldn't believe it at first, but I thought about it, and it kinda makes sense. I guess women just lose all control when the see a fat Elvis impersonator doing "hunka hunka burnin' love." KHAKI OPENER (superfly) 'Hey, guys, my friends and I were making fun of some frat boys, and got into an argument...is khaki a color or a fabric?' (The correct answer is that khaki is a color of fabric, and most girls know this.) 'See, I was thinking it was a color, but the thing is that you never see a khaki car or wallpaper color or anything like that!' KINO OPENERS (TD) Pushing girls, grabbing drinks out of their hands, lightly hip checking them, snapping bra straps, grabbing hats off heads, poke her, tap the opposite shoulder, etc? I'M LOST (TD) 'I'm lost... I can't find my friends and I'm scared... Remember when we were kids and you could just make new friends whenever you wanted... and you said 'want to be my friend?' Do you guys want to by my NEW friend?' INTRODUCTION OPENER (ijjjji) PUA: (grab unsuspecting HB by the arm and point at a random dude) "OMG, that guy is PERFECT for you - let me introduce you!!" (start moving towards the guy) HB: What?! No.. NONONO.. haha.. Help! PUA: (to guy) This girl is so shy, but she really wanted to meet you! HB: (Giggling hysterically) No no no... its not true! PUA: Awww come on.. don't be shy... NEVER BE A COUPLE (ijjjji, TD) "Aww - you are soo cute.. but you make me SO SAD! (HB:WHY?) (pause with puppy dog face) Cos we could NEVER EVER be a couple! (HB:WHYYY???) Nooo.. we are too similar.. IMAGINE, we would be SO IN LOVE.. and the next moment, we would be fighting and screaming and
throwing things.. and then we would have HOT MAKE UP SEX all over the place.. and then fight, makeup sex, fight, make up sex.. after a week we would both be in psychiatric care due to emotional drainage!" PICKING UP CHICKS ?Hi, we?re picking up chicks? RICKI LAKE (Mystery) This one is used to wing your buddy, especially if he's in a two-set and the obstacle needs to be kept occupied. Use some alternative talk show currently on the air. "Hey, my friend here just got invited to be on the Ricki Lake show. But the theme of the show is Secret Admirers. They told him he's got an admirer, but he won't find out who until he's live on the set. So maybe it'll be someone cute, but maybe not; it might even be a guy. What would you do if you were him?" SEATTLE GF (TD) "Hey guys, I need an opinion. My friend met this girl in Seattle, and they really hit it off. They wound up hooking up on the first night, and he even hung out with her in L.A. over the next week. So he's up visiting her in Seattle last week, and they're out on a walk. He takes a few pictures of them together. Like really cute ones with them together. Some of them they're just hanging out, and a few of them they're like kissing or whatever while they're out walking. Anyway, the next morning he wakes up, and checks his camera. He looks at the pictures, and he sees that she's woken up before him and gone into it and deleted the pictures where they're kissing, and left the ones where they're just hanging out. He goes to her and says 'Are you psycho? Why are you going into my camera?' She says its because she thought she looked bad in the pictures, and didn't want him to have them. But he can't figure out if she's psycho or if its legit that for girls they just hate having pictures out there where she doesn't look good. He just really liked them because he likes her and doesn't judge the pics like that." The girls will either say: "It's totally natural. I hate it when pictures make me look bad, especially with a digital camera where you can just delete them and take more." (They also sometimes say "But he's only known her a few months. I wouldn't do that on a guy I just met.") -or"She has a boyfriend!" Your immediate reply would be "He doesn't care about that. He's busy. He just doesn't want her deleting his pics!" SEXY MONKEY (Tenmagnet) 'Do you think Curious George is a sexy monkey? 'Cuz my little cousin was watching Curious George on TV yesterday, he's two and a half and he pointed at the screen and said "Sexy Monkey". Like WTF?!? I didn't teach him that... NO REALLY I DIDN'T.' SPELLS OPENER (Mystery) "Do you think spells work?" Sometimes this will send the woman off on a long blab, but if the conversation needs to be kept going, the follow-up routine is: "The reason I'm asking is because my friend over there met a girl in a club last week. He wasn't interested in her sexually, because she wasn't really his type." (Here the woman might say "Sure," in which case you reply "No, really!" and touch her arm or waist.) "Anyway, she hung out at his house and after she left, he found a metal ring wrapped around a scroll and some feathers under his couch. Well, he took it to a magic store and they said it was an attraction spell. And now, the strange thing is, he can't stop thinking of her. Do you think it's the spell or just psychological?" Alternative: 'Do you believe in spells? My friend Johnny woke up one morning with his new gorgeous girlfriend, and he finds this bag of bones under the cover. So he takes the bag to a woman who sells all that hocus pocus stuff, and she says the bag of bones is a spell used to generate attraction in men. Now, the girl was absolutely stunning, but before the bones Johnny wasn?t that into her, but after he found the bones, he?s been madly in love with her. So do you think the spell worked, or is it all nonsense?' TATOO OPENER 'Hey guys, would you ever get a tattoo? Here?s the deal?my nineteenyear-old sister wants to get her boyfriends name tattooed on her shoulder. (HB: no, no don't let her do it) See that?s the problem she's really strong headed and when I tell her not to get the tattoo it just makes her want to get it even more. How do I deal with that and let her really know its mistake?' Embellishment: 'And the worst part is his name?s Herman. Would you ever date a guy named Herman? Don?t you think Herman is a deal-breaker name? I had a friend named Herman and he couldn?t for the life of him get a girlfriend. So he decides to start calling himself Troy, and now he?s getting laid like a rock star.' TEXT MESSAGE BREAK-UP Is it OK to breakup with someone with a text message? (Then make up a good back-story for this) TWIN BROTHERS (Ross Jefferies) 'You're at a club and you meet twin brothers; they are absolutely identical, physically. ONE of them has the best hands of any guy you've ever met. The other is an incredible dancer. Which one do you pick? Same scenario. Again, the two guys are identical. One makes you laugh more than anyone you've ever met. The other is the most incredible kisser you could ever in a lifetime encounter. Which one do you pick? Same scenario: One guy has more money than Bill Gates. The other makes you feel like you are the most beautiful, desirable woman who ever walked the face of the planet. Which do you pick? WHO LIES MORE (Chris Rock version) 'Hey guys, I need a female opinion? who lies more Guys or Girls?? The way I see it guys tell the small lies like ?you?re ass doesn?t look fat in those pants? but girls? they tell the big ones... like... ?It's your baby!?' C and U shaped Smiles (Style) Style: Smile again for me. HB: um, okay. Style (to wing): See, she's a U. HB: ???? Style: I dated a girl who wanted to be a pop star. And she had a theory that people with U-shaped smiles were perceived as unfriendly. And people with C-shaped smiles were perceived as friendly. HB: So what's a U then? Style: A U is when your teeth go straight back in your mouth (can add "kind of like a horse" if she's a SHB). A C is when there's a big row of pearly whites in the front. And to my ex, it was more than a theory. She actually got her teeth surgically reshaped from a U to a C. HB: No way. Style: And she had me go look at pictures of like Christina Aguilera, who is a U, and Britney Spears, who is a C. Look at the cover of Us or any magazine, and you'll see that it's always a C smile on the cover.
From here, me and the target start inspecting the teeth of random strangers looking for the perfect C or U. It's fun. Jealous Cat "My friend has been going out with a girl for about three months and they get along really well, they love each other heaps, but her cat hates him. Like whenever he tries to pet it, it will just look at him like he's an idiot and walk off and one time he left his shoes by the door and it pissed on them. What do you think he should do? We've thought of four things : 1. Just be nice to it even though it's going to hate him. 2. Ignore it. 3. Say to his girlfriend : It's me or the cat. 4. When she's not looking 'accidentally' (two fingers motion) run it over with his car ..." PVC Devil (TD) "Oh, you're getting feisty, huh? You know what I would do with you? I would dress you up.... in a red.. PVC... *devil* outfit.. You'd have little horns like this... and a tail... bitch boots, and..... a pitch fork. Now your friend here.. I'd dress her up in a similar angel outfit.. with wings.. and a fur halo.. and I'd roll with you guys on each arm down the street.. Every girl would be jealous of you.. And whenever I'd have to make a decision.. I'd let each of you fight over which decision is the most fun.. and whatever one would be the most fun.. we'd do that." Negs Collection Aww.. your eyes are lovely.. especially the left one! Aww.. nice teeth! Are they real? Wow.. you work out.. now and then.. Wow.. you could ALMOST be a stripper! You are pretty.. you could have been a model.. if slightly taller.. and slimmer.. You could be a model...like a HAND model, I mean. You are pretty.. are you an EX model? I had to come talk to you cos you looked so cute.. from over there! (point) You look really sexy.. from behind! Aww.. nice hair!!! Is it real? (pull) Hey it moved! ... Wow.. you could be a hair model.. if you lose the split ends! You are cute.. in a kinda strange way! You got an interesting figure! You have something on your nose.
'Cool perfume. I think my granny wears the same.' "Your hands are so SOFT and GENTLE,.. Like toilet paper". "You look very stunning, must be the lighting" "You have some real beautiful, gorgeous hair, like Lassies" The Cutest Little Kid My buddy and I were rolling down Sunset yesterday and we saw the cutest little kid. She looked like she was about 7, and had on this adorable little pink skirt and white tap shoes, and a bonnet. She looked like a little stuffed doll. So my bud says we should adopt this kid because she?d be a great chick magnet. So I roll down the window and say, ?hey kid, what?s up?? And the little girl looks at us and gives us the finger. That?s LA for you. Best Friends (Expanded) (TD) You guys are best friends aren't you? You have exactly the same facial expressions. And how I know you?re close is every time you start to talk, or I'm talking to you, you guys keep looking at each other first. It?s like girl code. Sexual Predator (TD) The method: Show that girls are sexual predators, and then while chatting, keep going back to showing them why what they're doing is just designed to take advantage of you. That's it. Step 1 - EXPANDED SEXUAL PREDATOR ROUTINE Lay a STRONG humor anchor. They have to be laughing out of their minds, so that you can keep re-using the callback humor through out the pickup. "You know what? I can't even trust you guys. Girls are predators. Girls are SEXUAL predators! Guys think that they seduce women and have all this power. Yeah right! Girls choose. They choose. The guys just dangle themselves in front of them *thinking* that they made it happen, but they don't realize that its the girl who chose THEM. Girls are predators.. They hold the cards.. Examine the evidence. First, when a guy gets mad at his girlfriend, can he strap on his bitch boots, shove up his pushup bra, do up his hair and makeup, and head out to the bar and pull a girl home in under five minutes? Yeah right! It's GIRLS. YOU GUYS have the power to do that, not us guys! (wait while girls laugh).. What percentage of guys can do that? Look at them (point at guys).. They're leaning in and touching, making the girls all uncomfortable, but some of the girls like them anyway.. But the guys THINK its that they were aggressive.. So what, like 5% of guys TOPS can do what 100% of girls can do. Second, girls are the only gender with one organ designed for NOTHING ELSE but sexual pleasure. (wait while girls laugh) And on that organ, there are ten times more nerve endings than anything a guy has. (wait while girls laugh) That's why, when GIRLS have sex, they go (put hands onto hair, and do the following very convincingly, like Meg Ryan "When Harry met Sally" style) "uhhhhhh.... oooohhh.... uhhhhhhh.." (wait while girls laugh hysterically screaming their heads off) IDEALLY, THE ROUTINE IS SUPPOSED TO DO THE FOLLOWING: -sets a humor anchor that can be re-used to keep them giggling throughout the duration of the pickup -gives you fodder to do "busting them on their mannerisms" stuff.. You can now tease them on their actions, and tease them on what they say, showing that its all designed to take advantage of you -provides a C&F roleplaying frame for them to play in, that results in them seducing you -makes the obstacles/peer group love you, because they think you're really fun, and it makes them trust you with their friend that you won't be pushy -establishes a frame that girls are meant to seduce guys, and its normal/cool/fun -conveys that you know the deal about social interaction -conveys that you know not to make girls feel uncomfortable by being pushy or trying to "seduce" -conveys that you probably ARE one of the 5% of guys who can pull a girl home, because just implying that you know what's wrong with other guys' approaches, suggests that you know how to do it right -mindfucks her into a frame where she's becoming more sexually aggressive STEP 2 - MISINTERPRETING THEM AS TRYING TO PREY ON YOU Point out real IOIs (there will be a lot), as well as MISINTERPRETING things that are not IOIs, in order to mess with girls in the set who are not as into you. -(point) "Hey, you just licked your lips!? (back off like you're scared) -"Hey, you're touching me.. Hands off the merchandise.. I'm just trying to talk to you.. I just want to talk, and you're just SITTING THERE WAITING for me to talk so I can feel ready for you, and you're not even listening to what I'm really saying... You're just biding your time until I feel comfortable with you."
-"Hey, stop giggling at me.. It's making me feel really good.. Stop it.. Stop being so attracted to me" (this must be in deep attraction, or sounds lame.. if it's in deep attraction, it makes her REALIZE that she's attracted -"Hey! YOU'RE ATTRACTED TO ME! STOP IT! I JUST WANT TO TALK, STOP BEING SUCH A PREDATOR!" -"Hey! You guys think it's all fun and games.. Like you can just do this, and everything will be FINE.. But you probably didn't even know about the hidden damage you're doing.. Did you know that 99% of all college-age males who get date raped commit suicide within 1 year? Did you know that when you're taking advantage of a guy for your own pleasure that he walks around depressed and alone for the rest of his life! I don't want this to happen to me! Stop it! No no no, now you're licking your lips again.. Stop stop stop (engaging the group, so you're saying stop to everyone in the group individually).. ?Help!" -For girls who aren't as attracted in the set: "Hey, you're leaning away but your knees are pointing at me.. You're trickier than your friends.. You're trying to go in under the radar but your knees are giving it away... OK she's scaring me the most.." STEP 3 - JUST CONVEYING PERSONALITY SO THE GIRLS GET TO KNOW YOU, QUALIFYING YOUR TARGET, BUT ALL THE WHILE REINITIATING STATE WITH CALLBACK HUMOUR The idea is that you're running a normal pickup, but using callback humor and the cocky & playful role playing stuff. So this gives you the maneuverability to run a nice normal conversation, but keeping the interaction charged with this stuff. -Use "reverse-EV" type stuff, so that she's finding out positive things about you and building trust. The whole pickup lasts usually around 4-7 hours, start to lay. You're supposed to be conveying personality during this time. The accusing-them thing is something you do as their state drops, or when you see a good opening to do so. It's not the entire method, since just teasing won't get you laid except by party girls. With party girls, just tease the fuck out of them, that's it. -Qualify her to you, and every time you act impressed lean in, and then say "wait a minute.. what are you doing.. I can't talk to you anymore, you're trouble" -Ask her arbitrary questions about herself, and then pretend like you're hitting buying temperature, but then cutting it off because you're afraid that she'll take advantage of that. "PUA: What's your sign? HB: Libra. PUA: OMG I love you (take hands).... Wait, I can't talk to you anymore.. You're trouble.. Go away (push her away and turn your back on her and face her friends and say "she's trouble")" -If she does something really impressive, pretend like you freaked out and hit high buying temperature, and jump in and kiss her, then go "aaaah.... what are you doing to me???" and turn around and move away from her like you're scared that she manipulated you to do that. -Condition her (like Pavlov's dogs) to keep doing things that will seduce you. She'll grab you, etc.. Reward her with kino, or whatever. But then also run away when she escalates it too much. Mindfuck her into trying to seduce you. The girls seem to think that this is really fun, because they feel safe and on their terms, and also they seem to find it a turn-on. Bear in mind, you're coming in super-confident (you opened them, you held court in the set), so its obvious that you have alot going for you. STEP 4 - LAY LOGISTICS -Start acting possibly convinced. Her friends will start trying to convince you to stay, and they'll start qualifying your target saying that "she's safe PUA.. don't worry.. you can trust her.. go with her.." etc etc.. -When you walk home together, don't be too eager to keep the joke going. At the same time, when you get her home, walk past your bedroom, and one last time say "Hey! See this is exactly what I'm talking about.. Wait in the TV room.." -Then, grab your blankets, and run into the TV room.. Throw them on her like its all funny and jump on the couch in a way that makes her laugh (humor disarms escalation to pickups.. if you escalate a pickup, but make the girl laugh while you're doing it, she'll backwards rationalize that she wanted you to escalate). Then say "C'mere c'mere c'mere.... it's cold it's cold it's cold..." (in a funny way so she laughs that you're basically putting her in a very compromising position). -Once she's on top of you, STOP TALKING.. It starts getting heavy.. Breathing starts synchronizing.. You're breathing in her ear maybe and fingers are interlocked and you're getting closer.. Then say "uhhh ohhh.. mmmm... ummm.. this is OK I think... uh oh.." and start kissing her. -Take it from there.. If the joke is still working (it may be SO PLAYED by this point, but if it is STILL WORKING), feel free to make liberal use of callback humor to disarm any last minute resistance (misinterpret her LMR as her just trying to get you more comfortable) **NOTE: If the joke has become PLAYED, then don't insist on pursuing it. The whole frame/routine is always good, but don't be routine dependent and insist on pursuing it. If its fading a little bit, just move onto something else. If its working consistently the entire time, then keep using it. Just common sense. Gay Cats (Wilder) Initial hook: Start the story with, "Have you ever met a gay cat?" After this, you'll have the undivided attention of your audience. PUA: Ok, get this, my friend Sara, bought 3 cats some time ago. I don't know what she was thinking when she bought them, but she bought all three *male* cats. It was so funny. When I would go to her place to visit her, I would see the cats spooning each other, sometimes even licking each other. HB: smiling PUA: No Really. I told Sara "you know what, I think they're gay, I mean not gay by birth, but maybe prison gay...you know. I mean they haven't seen a female cat in months...what are they supposed to do" So Sara started getting freaked out, its amazing how she never thought about it. And we decided one day that we're gonna do something about it, coz the last thing Sara wanted were gay cats. So we embarked on a mission to find a female cat. HB: hehehe PUA: And Sara had a neighbor that she really hated, he had a female cat, so once while the guy was away, we stole it and put it in the room with three male cats. Only God knows what happened then. HB: LOL!! Punchline: "So now her neighbor's cat is knocked up. So pretty soon I think I know where you can get your very own little gay kitten!" Masturbating in the Shower You: Did you know that 93% of girls masturbate in the shower? Her: No You: The other 7% sing. And do you know what they sing? Her: No, what? You: Oh you must be one of the girls that masturbates. Fuck Marry Kill (TwentySix) You play it by pointing out three guys in the club and telling her ?You have to fuck one of them, marry one of them, and kill one of them. Which one would you do what to??
Typewriter Fun The top row of the typewriter is QWERTYUIOP. If a girl says 'My parents were gonna name me Betty,' say 'My parents were gonna go with Qwertyuiop. It's the top row of the keyboard...they were real computer nerds.' It's impressive that you can remember the top row, and pronounce it as if it were a real word. (credit an old Woody Allen stand-up bit). What 10-letter word can you get from QWERTYUIOP (repeating letters are ok)? 'Typewriter', of course. Michelangelo Joke 'Hey I like your tattoo. Did you know Michelangelo was into body art? He painted the whole Sistine Chapel on his back...get it?' 3rd Hand 'Hey, what do they call the 3rd hand on a watch? The 2nd hand. What's up with that? That's pretty...FUCKED...UP !' 20 Dollar Bill (Magic Man) PUA: "You guys won't believe what just happened" HB's: "What?" PUA: "This guy next to me dropped a $20 bill on the floor as he got up to leave. He didn't notice and just started walking to the door. So I'm just about ready to pick up the money and claim it for myself, when my buddy here [he's standing next to you] taps the guy on the shoulder and tells him that he dropped the money. I'm so pissed. What do you think of that?" (The HB's usually respond "awwww, that's sooo nice" and give your friend kino, which is money because it puts you right in a play-fighting frame with the girls. The rest of the interaction usually goes something like this HB's: "Awww, that's so sweet. You so did the right thing [to your buddy as they kino him]" Me: "You want to fight?" HB's: "Yeah let's go. I'll take you down." Me: "You kidding? You'll be on the ground in 30 seconds." Then thumb wrestle with one of the girls. Ask Her Age Look at a girl in the bar and bet your target you can guess the other girl's age. Before you go up to ask the girl her age, your target may get a look on her face like you're about to jump from a plane. This is because it is generally considered dangerous to walk up to a woman and ask her age.
When you run this bet, tell the target you do this all the time and girl's don't mind it; going up on a dare is a DLV but looking like you're socially savvy and know what you're doing will be a DHV. Jezebel Closer As you're exiting a set and you haven't done a name exchange, rather than ask for her name, say 'It's Jezebel, right?' This gets beyond the AFC formalities of a name exchange while implying you've met someone named Jezebel recently, and shows your indifference. The Midget Marriage 'Hey, what do you guys think of midgets? Because my sister...she's getting married to a midget. And if they have kids, won't they all be midget kids? I feel bad saying this, but midgets really scare me...and clowns. Clowns and midgets scare the living crap out of me. Does this make me a bad person? So how would you feel if you were me?' Backwards TM Routine This one demonstrates preselection. Have a friend text message (TM) you this message: 'FWD: Did i like fuck dumb another to it send retard a like this reading time ass sweet your took u since. (Read it backwards).' Say, 'Hey I got this TM from a chick I met. She keeps bugging me with these messages and calls, but she's not my type.' Reframes and other BOBs Her: ?You?re not drinking anything tonight?? You: ?No, girls take advantage of me when I drink.? Her: ?I like your pants? You: ?Thank you. But just because you like my pants doesn?t mean they're coming off.? She spills: You: ?See this is why we can?t have nice things.? If she?s singing along to the music: You: ?Who sings this song?? Her: ????.? You: ?Oh really? Let's keep it that way.?
These routines involve cold reading a girl or set. If you tell a girl something about herself, which honestly will be a statement that is so vague it would apply to most people, she'll get turned on big time. Some famous examples are The Cube and Strawberry Fields. Other forms are astrology and for some added kino, palm reading.
Strawberry Fields (Maniac High) This is a game to find out some things about how chicks see sex. It is a good state transitioner - from fluff to sexually charged conversation. Intro: Hey, lets play a game! Imagine you are alone in a field, and see a strawberry field in front of you with tasty strawberries. There is a fence around the field. How high is it? (= how easy is this girl to take sex) Now you are in the strawberry field, how many strawberries do you take? (=how many partners that person wants) Ok, after you have finished enjoying the strawberries, how do you feel about the farmer who's field you took them from? (= how you feel to that person after fucking them)
4 Questions Game 'These questions will tell you a lot about yourself -- it's amazing how it works, you might even find things about yourself you didn't even know. I'm not sure that YOU REALLY WANT TO DO THAT.' The 4 questions are: 1. Imagine yourself in a white room everything is white -- wall, ceiling, floor. Describe your experience. 2. What is your favorite color ..describe it , what feeling does it have? 3. What is your favorite animal.. Why? Describe it. 4. Imagine yourself near a large body of water .. describe your experience? What do you do?'
Answers: 1. That is your perception of death and dying. 2. You see yourself with the qualities that you answered to the question. 3. This is how people see you, with those qualities. 4. That is your view of sex. Now obviously you have to probe a little deeper when asking the questions so you can guide them into giving you the answers with enough depth to analyze it and give them a core in-depth answer. Now because the first few questions are very fluffy and general it's easy to get it right and get them amazed at how accurate the answers are so by the time you get onto the sex one (no. 4), you have got a huge rapport. They feel like you know them an a deeper level. So when you get to question 4 because you have been right for the last pacing statements about who they are as a person on a deep level and I reframed that they may be surprised and find out things about themselves that they didn't know themselves. This opens the gate to be able to fill this last statement with leading assumptions instead of pacing and they will totally agree, and obviously this is where you take the opportunity to lay it on thick about their sexual belongings, desires, etc. Here is an example to clarify things: Imagine yourself in a white room. Everything is white -- wall, ceiling, floor. Describe your experience. Her: Peace, calm, relaxed What is you favorite color ..describe it. What feeling does it have. Red, fiery, stands out, passionate What is your favorite animal.. Why? Describe it. Dolphin is smart, free, fun, cute. Imagine yourself near a large body of water .. describe your experience? What do you do? I jump in and swim Answers That is your perception of death and dying you feel at peace you feel calm & relaxed. That is how you see yourself: passionate, fiery, you feel you stand out in the crowd. People see you as free, smart, cute, fun. That is your view of sex, love, excitement, etc. When you are with that certain guy and you just know deep inside that this person knows you at a deeper and a much more intimate level. You just find yourself wanting to just let go to all the passion and excitement and the deep connection you can experience.
The Cube (Organic) The cube is a game of questions and symbols. It is five simple questions of imagination that will allow you to lead a woman deeper and deeper into a seduction. For the origins of the Cube a person could read through The Secrets of the Cube, by Annie Gottlieb. But, the pick up artist will find that he doesn?t need to understand the traditional use of the cube. He only needs to know how to use this secret seduction weapon. Now, the Cube can be used at anytime in a seduction? It can be used as a playful game to build attraction (by teasing a girl for her answers and making your interpretations funny and unrealistic.) And, it can also be used in the deepest phases of seduction to lead a woman?s mind into her sexual desires (by making your interpretations sexual and erotic). However, what we are going to focus on here is using the cube to build trust and comfort. Most pick up artists will agree that the cube serves the greatest purpose for developing this kind of real connection with a woman you just met. It starts fun and playful as a game, and it ends by leading the conversation into deeper and deeper levels of rapport. Building this type of rapport is the real strength of the Cube. The Design of the Cube By now, it should be obvious that the details of the game are not nearly as important as how you play. The structure will have many variations, and everyone will play it differently. And that?s fine. Notice, the power of the Cube isn?t to ?be correct? or to give ?the right interpretation.? - There are no right or wrong Cubes. You can structure it how you like, and find what works best for you. ?Have you ever done the cube?... Ok? I'll ask you a set of questions, and when I'm done I'll know everything about you. Are you ready? Do you have a good imagination? ?Good.? ?Now, imagine in front of you is a landscape? (I?ll usually gesture with my hand for them to imagine it in front of them). ?And in the landscape there is a cube. Notice what size is it, what color is it? What is it made of? Where is it? ?Ok, next you see a ladder. Notice, where is it in relation to the cube? What is it made of? What size is it? ?Next there are flowers. Where are they? How many? What do they look like? What color are they?
?Next, there is a horse. What does it look like? Where is it? What is it doing? ?And, last there is a storm. Where is it? What is it doing? What does it look like?? When she has visualized the entire image, then you can tell her the meanings. They are: Cube = Her Ladder = Her aspirations Flowers = Her friends Horse = Her ideal lover Storm = Her challenges and problems You can use a desert or a movie theater instead of a landscape. You can introduce it by saying ?I?ll know more about you than even your best friends know.? Or ?have you ever been cubed?? You can have her close her eyes, or draw it out. Some people may also use different meanings. (Ladder = family, or coworkers, etc?) It?s all fine. Just remember, you want to talk about things that will invoke the proper emotions in her, so avoid talking about things like children or enemies. Unraveling the Cube So, it is one thing to know the rules of the Cube. It?s one thing to know the meanings, and the images. But, the question remains: ?What do I do? Just make stuff up?? Well, what DO you say? * You can be vague and use generalities ? Just talk about women in general, and this will still have a powerful effect because she will relate to it. And, she will realize that you understand people, you understand women, and you understand her. Example: You?re cube is xxxxxx. You are a very sensitive person. Probably you are a very good judge of character and you can tune into those times when people just want something from you. While other times you can really feel when a person is being sincere with you. (This describes any socially aware woman.) * You can ask clarifying questions. Ask her, and she might tell you exactly what something means, doing your job for you. Ask her how she feels about the objects, or ask how they relate to each other. Example:
Her: ?My horse is leaning against the cube.? You: ?Really? Why is it leaning against the cube?? Her: ?Well, it?s just not strong enough.? You: ?Oh, I see. It seems like the men in your life haven?t been strong enough. You need a man who you can just look into his eyes and listen to him talk, and you know that he is strong? Etc? etc...? * When you find aspects of the interpretation that really fit her, go into greater detail. Tell stories from your life that relate to her, or give her examples of how she might experience it in her life. Example: ?You are a very creative person, but you?re not at a point in your life right now where you are really using your creative abilities. It reminds me of how I felt a couple of years ago. I was working in this job that just wasn?t creative, and I?. Etc?? * Use things that you already know about her. Example: I met two girls the other night. One was bouncing around dancing, and the other (the one I liked) was standing calmer. Later, I ran the cube on her, and she said that her cube was blue. I said ?A blue cube means that you are often calm and relaxed. And, sometimes your friends even come to you just to absorb your calm energy when their lives are more hectic.? Of course, she loved it. * And? you can?. use your? intuition. Yep. Go for it. Be like the enlightened master who has become one with his weapon and allow the force to flow through you. You might not only surprise her, but yourself too. * Keep your statements positive. In general, you want to phrase everything as a positive statement. If you really want to tell a woman that she has low self-esteem and that her life is out of control and hopeless, go ahead. But don?t come asking me why she was suddenly turned off and depressed! It may take some creativity to keep things positive, but it can be done. I?ll give you an example. If she says she doesn?t like the cube and she doesn?t think it belongs in the scene, you might be thinking ?oh crap, she hates herself?? No. You can tell her ?well, when people see you they often want you to fit you into a category with defined boundaries and hard edges, but that?s not who you are. You are independent and when you find yourself being put into a box, you know that it?s not where you belong.? * One trick for keeping the interpretation positive is to interpret her ideal as being the opposite of what she describes. For example: a weak and sickly horse means that she has had too many weak men in her life, and she really needs one that is strong and healthy.
* Add lots of Kino and strong Eye Contact. When you are bonding with a woman on this level, it is important to keep enhancing this experience by getting physically intimate with her. * Take advantage of the horse. It is a great time to demonstrate that you know what women want. If her horse isn?t ideal, then tell her it is an image of what she has attracted to her in the past, and what she really wants is actually the opposite. As you describe her ideal man, and get her thinking about it. Look into her eyes and take on that character as yourself. She will naturally start to see you as that man. * Burst the tension now and then with a little cocky and playful comment. By making a joke or teasing her, you will keep it fun and keep her interested. Just be careful because she may be in a very vulnerable state to be sharing with you, so don?t over do it. An example: ?The Cube means that?. (pause) ?. You want my body. (smile)? * Start the interpretation with a bold (but irrefutable) statement about who she is and where she is in her life. This can be powerful and will demonstrate your authority and understanding. * Use all of the little parts to get a bigger picture of her. Try to get a broad sense of who she is as a person, and then you can use that understanding to lead your interpretation. * Lead her into emotional states. Using descriptive languaging, you can get her thinking and feeling on a deeper level. One way to do this is to take a general statement like ?you are adventurous.? And then go on to describe what it?s like to be adventurous and how it feels. ?You are adventurous. You know, like when you are in the middle of an adventure you really feel alive. As the excitement builds, you become focused on what you?re doing, and you get totally wrapped up in what is happening?etc.? * Share with her, and get into the state yourself. If you get into a vulnerable state and reveal things to her, she will follow your lead. As part of this you may want to relate stories that are meaningful to you. * Share your own Cube. Do the cube on yourself and be ready to share your answers with her if she asks. * When getting started, it may help to memorize a few ideas that you can use every time. For example, you can always talk about women?s intuition, or how she wants a strong confident man. As you do the cube more and more, you will begin to develop your own interpretations that always get good responses, and you can have these in store for every time you use the cube. * Work with her, and go with what she says. You can use everything that she gives you, no matter what she says. If she says that the horse has a great cock, tell her that her ideal lover will be a great fuck. Go with it.
* Set the mood so that she feels good sharing. There is no need to rush the cube or feel awkward in anyway. Use your calm trust building tonality, and keep her feeling comfortable. * Find commonalities and develop your connection with her. Since you are learning about each other, this is a great time to find out what you have in common. * Don?t fall into the trap of being the entertainer. Don?t proceed to cube all of her friends, and her little sister. You?re not her novelty psychic friend. * Practice to get better. The more you do it, the better you will get, because you will find that many responses are very common. Cube your friends, your mom, your mailman, whoever? * Tell her that her cube is unique, and you can even say ?well, usually, that would mean this? but with you, I think it?s a little different.? or? ?Wow, that?s such an interesting image.? Then, she will really feel special, and she will think that you are giving her a very special gift. *Don?t reveal everything. Leave parts out, or hint that there is something more. Always leave her wanting more. Further interpretation: THE CUBE Represents the woman's conception of herself. A huge cube covering most of the scenery means she's got an inflated ego, a sense of high selfimportance. Other features of the cube could mean: Tiny cube => feels small, insignificant, ignored, modest Cube resting on the ground => generally has a firm foothold on reality Cube far away in the distance => Feels left behind by life Cube flying in the air or levitated => daydreamer, imaginative but unrealistic Cube partly above the horizon line => ambitious Cube below the horizon => not very ambitious Cube resting on its edge => metastable life, perhaps? Cube made of solid material => good sense of self-worth, well-grounded personality Cube made of gold => Thinks of herself as extremely precious Cube made of glass or transparent cube => Considers herself pure Cube full of slimy stuff => Hates herself completely Cube hollow inside => feels hollow, unfulfilled in the extreme [interesting example: one woman know very well imagined the Rubic's cube, being twisted and turned by a child. I was not surprised because she has a sever persecution complex and total paranoia, considers everyone else stupid and childish (has a holier-than-thou mentality), feels attacked by the world, and is an emotional basketcase]
THE LADDER: Represents her close social support structure (friends; family in some cases). Long ladder with many rungs => big social circle, has many friends, outgoing personality, sociable Ladder made of some odd material => feels her friends are weird, very different from normal people Ladder with few rungs => has few close friends Ladder in a less than good condition => believes people around her are fucked up Ladder far away from the cube => Does not let people get too close to herself; keeps aloof, has a hard shell around herself Ladder leaning against cube => Feels she does a lot of things for her friends, supports them more than they support her, feels she has some codependent people around her Ladder on top of cube => Feels her friends/family are overbearing, feels oppressed by them Ladder much bigger than cube => feels small in her social circle\ Ladder supporting cube (like, ladder under the cube) => feels her close associates support her in her accomplishments Strong ladder => is surrounded by strong people, feels secure in them Burned up ladder => Feels surrounded by totally fucked up people who are ruining themselves THE FLOWERS Represent the place of children in her life. Number of flowers => children she has or wants to have, or has/wants to have around (See * below) Flowers close to cube => Feels very close to the children she has or will have Flowers far away => Does not want children Flowers blooming well => Feels positive about her children's lives Flowers messed up => is surrounded by screwed up children * Lots of flowers everywhere => Probably works with children, or would like to; (One chick I know had this; she is a grade school teacher) Flowers shaking in the wind => feels children in her life have hardships Flowers all around/over the cube => Feels overwhelmed by kids Flowers separated from cube by the ladder => feels her friends/family (do/will/might) interfere in her relationship with her children Beautiful flowers (roses, poppy etc) => Finds children very beautiful THE HORSE Represents her thoughts about her lover (or the lover she thinks she wants or will have). Strong, large horse => Wants a protective, strong man Color of horse => Possibly the race of the lover she wants (the teacher chick mentioned above has a "Latin thing" - her horse was brown) Horse close to the cube => Wants the lover to be very close to her emotionally and physically Horse well separated from cube => Is reserved about opening up completely to lovers Horse licking/sniffing the cube => Imagines/wishes she's being doted on Small, submissive horse => Wants a lover she can dominate Wild horse => wants a guy who is not tamed and will not be tamed Tethered horse => Wants to keep him very restrained/restricted Horse stomping on the cube => Has been or feels extremely abused by lovers Horse destroying the flowers => Feels the lover will not be good towards her children (single moms probably have this thing more often) Horse messing with the ladder => Conflict between her lover and her friends Horse far away or walking away => Feels abandoned Horse separated from flowers by the cube => feels she will have to take care of the children and manage her lover's relationship with them Weak horse => envisions being (stuck?) with a wimp [example: one chick I know had a horse running around in a confined arena. She is a controlling, limit-setting type chick who likes to watch her man react to her experiments with his emotions/behavior.] THE STORM: Represents her ideas about troubles in life. Storm in the distance => Troubles are not overwhelming her presently Storm approaching => Fears crises in future Storm receding => Has had troubles recently but feels they are over Huge, dominant storm => Feels her life is in deep shit Storm in the distance, passing away affecting none of the other four things in the scenery => Feels her life is relatively trouble-free, has few problems around in her life. Small storm => Feels secure about problems she will face
Three Smiles (Magnus) Any time the chick smiles, you can run this routine. It's best used once you've established that you are cool, and that you are quite attractive to her. "Hey... you know... you have three smiles." (usually, she'll smile in response to this) "and there's a fourth!" (she'll probably ask something, and then you improvise along the lines of the following) "Yeah, that was your 'I'm flattered' smile, and then you have a... um, not fake... but a polite smile... then there's this really genuine smile when you laugh, and your whole face lights up. Then there's this smug, 'hey this guy fancies me' smile. I've a feeling I might see that a lot." Guaranteed to make girls fall in love with you. This is the sweetest thing anyone has ever told them. They will remember it and think about it when you are gone.
Palm Reading Palmistry is a complex field, and only some of it would help the PUA in field. The following are some key points that can be useful in kino escalation; pick and choose the details that appeal to you. This is a kino routine, so be sensual with your touch but not creepy. The major (or dominant) hand tells you what she is doing in life currently, and the minor tells you what she?d like to be doing in her life. There are 4 main lines. At the base of the fingers runs the heart line, then the head line in the center of the hand, and then the life line running along the base of the thumb, and then the destiny runs down the center from fingers to wrist. Heart line indicates passion and emotion. Follow the line from the pinky side to where it ends. The line often curves to end up at the base of the index or middle finger, or in between (have her cup her hand to accentuate the line). If it stops at the index, she is the type of person who mainly thinks of the well-being of others. However she can be idealistic to the point of expecting too much and become disappointed. If it stops at the middle finger, she is more concerned about her own state over that of others (mnemonic: think of flipping the middle finger to others). If the line ends between the index and middle fingers, she is a well-balanced person; she considers equally her own needs and the well-being of others. If the line doesn?t curve but stops short at the middle finger, she is a person who has difficulty expressing her feelings and will often let her emotions build inside instead of venting them. Head line is the cognitive, problem solving, reasoning stuff. It cross the middle of the palm, starting at the thumb side. If it is not distinct, it is because the girl is not using her mental capabilities to her fullest. The length of the line has nothing to do with her intelligence. A shorter line means she is a quick-thinker (shrewd) though often at the expense of overlooking details. A long line indicates a girl with a more complex thought process (often over-thinking things). Life line runs along the base of the thumb and represents not just health and stamina but a girl's attitude towards her life. The length has nothing to do with a person's life expectancy. The farther the line wanders away from the thumb, the more adventurous that person is in life. The mount of Venus is the mound of muscle at the base of the thumb. The larger and spongier it is, the more sensual a person. Low, firm mounts indicate a person with little passion. Destiny line goes straight down the palm towards the wrist, though not all people have one, and they can appear later in life. This line represents a strong purpose in life. If a person knows their goals in life early and are determined to achieve them, the line will be well-defined. The line does not mean financial success. Test elasticity. Take her hand and try to bend her fingers backwards at the knuckles. If they go back easily tell her she is elastic, or has a go-with-theflow attitude in life and adapts to change easily. If she is stiff, tell her she is stubborn and doesn?t change her mind easily. Skin color. If the palm is pink, she has a good temper, is sympathetic and loving. If her skin is red, she can have a bad temper and is very emotional. Fingers. If a girl gives you her hand to read with fingers apart, she is confident and not trying to hide anything. If the fingers are closed, she is insecure or trying not to disclose information about herself. Longer fingers are a sign of greater patience, shorter fingers represent impatience or impulsiveness. Now you can comment on rings, using the finger they wear a ring on as an indicator of what kind of person they are (the Ring Routine). From thumb to pinky: Venus, Jupiter, Saturn, Apollo, Mercury. These gods represent in order: beauty/art, power/confidence/authority, bounty/harvest/sexuality, healing/helping, and wealth/commerce. Compare by looking at the back of the hand the length of Jupiter vs Apollo. They should be the same length. If Jupiter is longer, that person is very driven but maybe overly so. If shorter, that person may have been pushed around in life, though can also take a break and relax easier as a result of not always being in charge. The base of the hand opposite the mount of Venus is the mount of Luna. A large mount indicates a strong imagination. If this mount is very large, it means the girl has her head in the clouds much of the time. When done, have them make an OK sign and ask them what God this is? Uranus of course (think about it).
Circle - Rectangle - Triangle - Zig/Zag (Magic Man) Take out a piece of paper and draw a circle, a square, a triangle, and a zig/zag line all next to each other. Make the zig/zag line like a diagonal W. Give the girl a pen and tell her to draw a vertical line through one of the shapes, it doesn't matter which one. Then tell her to draw a vertical line through another of the shapes, then another, and finally through the last one. Each shape represents something different in life, and the order that she drew the lines is the order in which she values each in her own life. Here's what each shape means: Circle - Sex The shape of a circle makes up an O, like the O in orgasm or the O a woman screams when she's having sex. Or the vagina. Rectangle - Money A rectangle makes up the shape of a dollar bill, a check, or a credit card. Triangle - Security A triangle is the shape of a roof on a house, which represents shelter, protection, and overall security in life. Zig/Zag Line - Creativity A zig/zag line with no defining shape represents her creative pursuits in life. This could be her career, her community service projects, her artistic endeavors, her book, her real estate project, etc. So if she draws a line through the circle first, then the rectangle, then the triangle, then the zig/zag line, it means she values sex most importantly in life, then money, then security, then creative pursuits. So then you can bust on her for being a sexual predator. Even if she picks the circle second then you can still accuse her of trying to pick you up. If she picks the rectangle first then you can neg her for being a greedy money whore. If she picks the triangle first then the routine will make sense because security and shelter is generally the most important thing in a girl's life. Very few girls will pick the zig/zag line first, but if a girl does then she will at least partially identify with it as being very important in life. The routine is a win/win situation because if she chooses a realistic order of shapes (triangle or creativity first) then she'll identify with the routine, and if she chooses an unrealistic order (circle or rectangle first) then you can banter and roleplay with her that she's using you for sex or for money. From personal experience, girls usually choose the circle or rectangle first, so get ready to banter. Works best during day game or on a Day 2. Tough in noisy bars and clubs, mostly because you need pen and paper.
Kino is an abbreviation of kinesthesia, which refers to touch. Escalating kino means starting with very innocent slight touches (briefly putting the back of your hand on a girl's shoulder), to more intimate touches. Kino lets the target know your goals are more than just seeking friendship, and you can't run game successfully without escalating kino. You know when you can introduce more invasive kino because you test compliance, or her willingness to accept or pong your escalation.
Buying Temperature You?re running game, telling cocky funny stories, disqualifying yourself, doing push-pull kino. Now you have her emotional state pumped, which is known as the buying temperature (BT). If you haven?t DHVd, then you really haven?t generated true attraction. BT is not enough to rely on to move into comfort, but it does facilitate larger escalations in kino or bounces. An AFC may think BT is enough to gauge when deciding to # close, but the PUA knows flake rates are high and more work needs to be done. In addition, one PUA tactic is to wait until another AMOG raises the target?s BT, such as after dancing with her, and then enter the set and build kino easier. In short, BT is just currency with which to buy more comfort or attraction.
Plausible Deniability (PD) PD is a way for a woman to justify to herself the escalation of kino, all the way to sex. So for example, if you run a role-playing gambit that involves kino, the girl can use PD to justify her compliance. That is, it?s part of the story you?re telling that he puts his hand around your shoulder, and therefore she allows it. Likewise, if a man says the girl has ?hijacked my brain,? she may not feel as anxious about sleeping with him, because he has become deeply emotionally invested in her and likely will stick around afterwards. This is the girl using PD to justify sleeping with him.
Escalating kino You can?t walk up to most women and start touching them in ways that violate their sense of comfort. Opposite of this, the AFC may delay touching or kissing until he gets the boldness to escalate, but by then it?s too late and feels awkward. The PUA tests compliance and escalates kino accordingly. For example, pretending to brush a lash off a girl?s face is one way to see if she willing to allow the man to touch her face. Her PD would be, ?he was being helpful and brushing a lash off my face, so I allowed it.? Typically, short touches are used first, and then longer touching can be introduced. Similarly, areas of less intimacy such as the back of the shoulder and the hand should be touched before more intimate places like the thigh and knee. Kino can be escalated via calibration, with hand holding, gentle shoulder touches (first using the back of the hand, then the palm), both shoulder grab while turning her to face you, and arm-in-arm walking. You can spin a girl out of the blue, which is ?flashing? your social proof to the rest of the room in anticipation of gaming others. It is critical the PUA demonstrate an IOD after escalating, and it can include body rocking away, gently pushing the girl away, throwing her hand away, or a verbal IOD such as ?ok, get off me,? ?don?t get any ideas? or ?that?s all you get for now.? This motion or remark is called a calibrator, and it helps defuse any unease the target may feel after the escalation. Glancing away during early kino can also defuse the touch, though looking at her during touch is expected while in deeper comfort. Negging during the kino move can disqualify yourself. Pushing a girl away during kino will generally be better than pulling her towards you.
Evolution Phase Shift (EPS) (Style) 1. Tell her that she smells good and ask what she is wearing. Then lean in, brush her hair aside, and sniff her slowly, moving up from the shoulder to the ear. "Mmmm, that smells good. People don't pay enough attention to smell. But you'll notice how animals, before they mate, will always smell each other. Evolution has hard-wired us to respond to certain things. You are wired to respond when someone smells you."
2. "It's like when someone pulls the back of your hair. You'll notice how lions, when they mate, always bite and tug at the end of each other's mane, right here." (Since I'm shaved bald, I'll add here, "This is what I miss the most about not having hair"; if you have hair, say, "This is one of my favorite things".) Then I run my hand up the back of her neck and grab a fistful of hair at the roots and pull it, downwards. She says "mmmm..." And I say "see." 3. Then I talk about how "no one knows this, but the most sensitive places on the body are places that are usually hidden from contact with the air, like the back of the elbow (touching it) and knee (touching it). Any place where your body bends, twists, or folds, there are millions of sensitive little nerve endings that release endorphins.? Then I take her arm, bend it a little, and erotically bite the area on the opposite side of the elbow (that crease where it bends). She usually gets the chills, and I have her ratify how good it feels. [NOTE FOR THE LESS EXPERIENCED: If you don't know how to erotically bite a girl, learn before you do this. You want to take a big chunk of skin -- not a little pinch! -- and slowly and firmly slide your teeth together until they meet and release the skin. You may want to practice on your own elbow first.] 4. After, I say, "But do you know what the best thing in the world is?...A bite...right...here. " And I point to the side of my neck. (Every now and then, I'll add, that "this has to do with the fact that it is where the jugular vein is most exposed, and since most sexual fantasies have to do with submission and vulnerability, it sends all the fantasy signals flying.?) Then I'll expose my neck and say, "Bite me right here" as if I EXPECT her to do it. Fifty percent of the time she will. If she doesn't, I just turn away calmly (punish), wait a few seconds, and then turn back and repeat, "Bite me right here." Usually here she will. 5. Half the time, her bite is lame. If so, I correct her and say, "That's not how you bite. Come here." Then I give her a good bite on the neck and instruct her to "try again." This time, she ALWAYS does a great job. 6. Now you look her in the eye, smile mischievously/approvingly, and say, very slowly, "not bad." Then glance down at her mouth, back up at her eyes, and...yes...finally. ..you...may...if you want...and if she's ready...um...kiss!
Pinky love/pinky promise/pinky orgy Girls take pinky promises very seriously, so if you ever need to seal the deal, try to pinky promise it. When a girl requests a name exchange, you can offer your name but do a pinky shake instead of the usual formal handshake. If it?s a larger set, yell out pinky orgy and engage everybody in 2-handed pinky love. This is a good time to bring in your wing if he?s been hanging around outside the set.
Girlfriend Test (Juggler) A great way to qualify girls and escalate. When a girl checks your status, "Do you have a girlfriend?" Say, "To be my girlfriend (or lover) is a prestigious and exclusive thing. There's a test." Curiosity being what it is, she will want to take the test. There are three multiple-choice questions. Take out a pen and write the correct answers on her palm but forbid her to look. Then ask her the questions while you hold her hand closed. You should make up your own, but here are some example questions: 1. Which do you enjoy more? A shower or a warm bath? 2. What is the sexiest food? Whipped creme, chocolate syrup or strawberries? 3. What feels better? Kisses on your neck or nibbling on your ear? The correct answers are bath, strawberries and kisses on the neck. Most times she will answer the first two correctly. The last question is up for grabs. The crucial thing is that the last question is some sort of intense kino or kissing that you can do right then. If she gets it wrong: Whisper in her ear "I can't be with you if you really believe this (nibble ear) feels better than this (kiss neck)." If she gets it right: "I'm glad you like this (nibble or kiss). It is so much better than this (kiss or nibble)." Make sure you kiss and nibble before you let go of her hand. If she gets all the questions wrong give her a playfully hard time about it. This test is used mostly after you have some connection. If a girl checks your status it usually means she is interested. The purpose of putting the answers in her hand is so she knows, as she is taking the test, that there are correct answers which she may or may not get right. She will also respect you for putting the interaction at risk. You are further demonstrating
you are not just accepting any girl. If she cheats by feeling out the letters then she really likes you. You don't need to call her on it. Just proceed. But if you want you can just write it on a piece of paper, put it in her hand and then close it with your hand on top.
Thumb wrestling Good for early kino. Lead the girl through the moves to set up the match. Cheat to win because it drives them nuts. This one and Style's 5 Questions Game can be used together. So if she loses at thumb wrestling, you can let her try to win at 5 Questions because you feel bad about her losing. Of course, she'll lose at 5 Questions also, and will owe you that kiss or beer. Another tactic is when a girl gives you her hand to shake on a name exchange, take it and immediately declare a thumb war.
Shared Drinks or Food When a girl offers to let you try her drink (or actually you get her to let you do this through subtle suggestion), this is an intimate hoop that she is jumping through. That is, letting a man she just met in a bar share a beer, suck on a straw or take a bite of pizza may be a stepping stone to a kiss. Calibrate and go for the kiss if you feel it?s on.
Stolen Kisses If a target asks for a drink and you?re in a large venue with lots of people, say ?ok, well normally if I buy a girl a drink, she first needs to give me something. So pucker up.? You can get a kiss from her, then disappear ?to buy her a drink? and never return. Or if you are running a good set, you can buy the drink as a reward for the kiss.
Hug Dynamics Hugging is an important form of kino, and a lot of info is subcommunicated during the hug. Hugs can be given during the pick up as a way to release possible anger after you overneg the target. They can be done at the
conclusion of a pickup to solidify the emotional connection that has been created. As with all kino escalation, you need to be the one to release first. A woman can IOI or IOD during a hug. For example, a ?pity pat? occurs when a girl pats you on the back during the hug. This subcoms disinterest or that you have hugged too long, and the PUA may respond by pushing her off and going into a DHV routine. When she hugs breasts first she is probably sending an IOI, as opposed to when she avoid chest-to-chest contact, which may be an IOD. If a hug is accompanied by her touching your neck or hair, of if she presses her cheek to yours, or puts her head on your chest, these may be IOIs. The Extrahug (Decibel) You may find at the end of a date a girl will give you a hug...then after 5 seconds she may tighten her hug for another 5 or so seconds (and mmmm a bit). This is the extrahug. This is a great tactic that subcoms a whole nother level of affection than a friendly hug. If you as a man aren't in tune with female emotions you'll miss this (you should comply by tightening your own hug, unless of course you never want to see her again). Likewise, at the end of a date you can initiate the extrahug. Careful to calibrate well or it can be seen as needy. If she complies she will reciprocate by giving you the extrahug, and if not compliant will just hug or try to release or pity pat you (all IOD's). So again, make sure you have solid rapport at or after C2 to try it.
Trust Test (TD) While speaking to her about anything else, run this compliance test. Place your hands out palm up. If she puts her hands out palm up, it is a form of compliance but an IOD, compared to if she places them palm down in your hands. Next, squeeze a little to see if she will squeeze. Step back a little and see if she steps towards you. Lower your open hands and see if she lowers her hands. Move her hands in circles in the air or back and forth like a choo-choo train and see if she?ll move with you. IOD by throwing her hands away either at the end or if there is lack of compliance at any step.
Tension test (TD) This can follow the Trust Test. Rub her shoulder and look like you?ve discovered something interesting about her muscle. Say ?that?s interesting, come her for a second? and put both her arms on your shoulders. Reach down to her back and pull her in while glancing away from her. Start massaging up her back as if looking for something you just discovered in her shoulder. Roll off and talk to someone else in the set, and give a pity pat to disqualify.
Anchoring This is a technique where you can attach an emotion to either an object, or a touch you give her. For example, if every time you say something funny, you touch her arm briefly, she will start to associate laughter and the positive emotions it brings with your touch at that point on her arm. So if in the convo there is a lull, you can touch that point and start a new thread, and she will instantly recall those feelings again even though you are saying nothing funny. It is a form of Pavlovian conditioning. You can also anchor an emotion to an object (see the Girlfriend Test gambit).
Pulling Her Hair Other than EPS, you can use any gambit that would create a reason to pull the back of her hair. While speaking, run your fingers up her nape, lightly take some hair in your hand and yank her head back slightly. This is a powerful point on the body for a girl.
The Touch Kiss-Off A girl might touch a guy before ejecting, just to soften the blow of rejection. Look for it and interpret it as a lost set. You can use a pity pat as a form of IOD similar to the kiss-off.
Tic Tac First Kiss Routine (Craig) PUA: Do you want a mint/piece of gum? HB: Ok. (Place a Tic Tac or piece of gum in your mouth, but do it in a way that your fingers enter your mouth seductively. Then place the Tic Tac in her mouth in a similar sensual manner.) PUA: So, I admit I am an Indian giver. I'd like my piece of gum back. (Go for the kiss).
Mystery's Kiss Gambit PUA: 'Do you want to kiss me?' Option 1: HB: No. PUA: Well, I didn't say you could. It just looked like you had something on your mind. Option 2: HB: I don't know (or) maybe. PUA: Well..let's find out. (go for kiss) Option 3: HB: Yes. (go for kiss).
Monkey Feet and Back Walks If a girl is not that heavy and if you're in good shape, you can ask her when you get to your place for her to walk on your midback to help crack it. Ask her to grab your muscles with her toes like she has monkey feet. You can then walk on her back. This is a form of kino that is both intimate and yet not. Of course, be very cautious with this one, because one or both of you can get seriously injured (you don't want to pop one of her breast implants on the first date).
Massages Once a girl lets you massage her, or if she really digs massaging you, then chances are this is an IOC. Most girls will allow the upper back to be massaged. Escalation will include the lower back and eventually the butt, and going under her shirt and closer to the breasts (massaging what are called the lats). If you aren't too heavy, you can sit yourself on her butt, and this will create some sexual stimulation for her. Don't forget to keep warm the parts you aren't working on, and avoid tickling too often as it will eventually redirect the massage from sex to childlike playfulness. Don't stay on one area too long, nor move around too fast. Keep movements consistent, somewhat firm and medium paced, moving on to the next area every 30-60 seconds. Mix it up with deeper massage in thicker muscles, and light touch in places like the back of the neck. Tug on the earlobe periodically. Read up on giving a massage if you're not presently too good with it, and you can conspicuously place an erotic massage book on your coffee table and say it was a gift from an ex. If she opens it open and seems eager, this is an IOC. You may want to have massage oil around, though it can be messy and is not needed. A lot of girls like foot massages, but you probably should ask first, since some don't. In some cases, rubbing a girl's dirty stinky feet can look tryhard and is a DLV. So probably the feet aren't a good place to start. During the massage you can get more and more intimate, though you may wish to avoid her genitals unless it's clear she's ready for S1. Going for petting when she isn't ready can lead to buyers remorse, though at the moment she is enjoying the feeling. Your goal will be to start kissing the back of her neck and shoulders, and if she is receptive (moaning and slow wriggling are good IOCs to look for), you can try to get her on her back and proceed to S1.
Butts Women are attracted to a man's rear end. Specifically, the three areas of a man's body that women find sexually appealing are the legs, butts and chest/arms, with butts barely winning out at 40%. This may be because a strong gluteus implies deeper penetration which may lead to greater odds of impregnation. In S1 or S2, it may be wise to focus a girl's attention to your rear.
Earring Kiss Gambit (Decibel) Works to get a first kiss if the two of you are sitting on a couch, maybe watching TV. You: Hey, do you have ear piercings? (she shows you the ear on your side, you touch her ear). Hmm...let me see the other ear. (she turns her head towards you to show her other ear, at which point you kiss her).
Cell phones. A fantastic prop that can be useful in many situations: Takes photos, stores numbers, displays photos for the purposes of preselection, protector of loved ones, adventurousness. However, resist the temptation to take your phone out to fiddle with when you should be getting into set; it is not an DHV to have a phone out as if you're receiving a message, it just looks lame when everyone else at a venue is socializing and you're standing alone with your phone out.
Lost cell phone Approach You spot a couple HBs sitting at a table, AMOGs all around them. Walk up, looking around the area as if searching for something, and then ask if they'd seen your cell phone, since you've just lost it. They'll help you look around, won't find it, and then you 'realize' you hadn't brought it into the club with you. By then, they are hooked and it didn't look like you were sarging them (stack to some fluff about cell phones).
21st Century Photo Routine Here is an update of Mystery's photo routine (he has since started using his iPhone for the same routine). Go get your cell phone and start taking some good pics: have some adorable kid or puppy pics, a few pics of female friends and you laughing it up, and some pics of you doing sporty or adventurous stuff. Scroll through them with your target, casually passing by the pics that hit triggers, and wind up on the one you want to show her (a cute dog you saw today). If she asks who ?that girl? is, just say, ?oh, that?s a girl I met.? ?Really, is that your girlfriend?? ?Yeah, one of them?? Always blow it off as no big deal, which will play into the jealousy plotline and create intrigue. When she shows you pics on her phone, go ahead and type your phone number in, and ask her to do the same in your phone. You've just number closed, run some jealousy plot and shown preselection, etc, in a matter of a minute.
IODing with TM If a girl starts texting while you?re talking to her, say ?oh, that reminds me, I need to text my friend. It was her birthday today.? Start texting while you continue convo, looking away and leaning away. This will keep her engaged but ping the IOD she?s giving you. If you just talk to her while she texts you are showing too much interest and it's a DLV. Likewise if you enter a set that you suspect might blow you out, try a similar approach. If she shows IOIs, close your phone and engage.
The Dog Contest You and your wing have pics of a dog on your phones, and run a competition to see which one is cuter. This never fails to open many sets if the dogs are particularly adorable. You can then ask her if she knows what kinds of dog are safe with children because you might get another dog and there're always kids around in your life (hitting provider of loved ones switch).
Take My Picture, Blondie A commonly used opener is ?I am thinking of dying my hair blond.? If said to a blonde, you can ask her to put her hair over your head for a photo that your wing will take with his camera phone. This allows for kino as you can smile, cheek to cheek, your arm around her shoulder, her hair over your head. When your wing shows you the pic and says ?Ahhh, you two look so cute together? you neg with ?well, at least I look cute? or ?Adorable, aren?t I?? This neg can be used without the blonde routine; instead, you can have her plant a kiss on your cheek. Another way to end is with the neg: ?Ewww...ok, whatever. I hope you like this one, cause it's gonna be all over the internet by tomorrow!?
Three Pics Pics can be taken in a series of three, each of escalating kino, ending with her kissing your cheek (or a real kiss if you?ve established enough mutual attraction). So for example: 1, cheek to cheek, 2, her kiss to your cheek, 3,
mouth to mouth. Before the last pic, your wing can yell out the line ?Hey, do something crazy for the camera!? or 'Hey, you 2 should make out!'
Tell Tarantino he can shove it! You can walk around pretending to talk on your phone anywhere you may find yourself, to give the illusion of social proof. Particularly helpful as a girl walks up to meet you on a date. Or if you're in a crowd you can walk by a set and yell, ?No, we're not doing it HIS way. You can tell Tarantino to go shove it!?
Photo Routines, CrazyWilly-style You might get asked by a girl to take her pic. You can whip out your own camera and take her pic as she's turning her camera on. This will confuse her. If someone takes a pic of one of their friends and the flash goes off, yell ?Hey, you flashed me!?
Group Photo Approach a set where one of them is taking a pic of the others, and offer to take their picture. Aim really carefully, then take a stupid picture, like of their knees, or the background with maybe some hair showing. Do it a couple times. Go into a story about how you asked a dude you met on vacation to take your pic, but he grabbed the camera and took off with it. Embellish what happened to him.
Hengman's Camera Routine PUA: (after FTC) I was just wondering if you can take a photo of me/us real quick? HB: Yeah, sure! (Smile when she says this. She's going to tell you to get ready to take the picture. When she tells you to smile, don't smile. She'll ask why. Just ignore her and see how the picture came out.)
HB: You like the picture? (Neg her on her picture-taking teasingly. Remember when I said don't smile? Well, ask her why she took it when you weren't smiling).
Lock-in Props A lock-in prop allows you to wander away or talk to someone else in the set while you show disinterest during A2. Generally the target will hang around to give you your prop back, and while standing there will overhear your DHVing to the obstacles. Lock in props can belong to the target. If a target is wearing a scarf or hat, try to borrow it for a bit. This will serve as compliance testing, but also lock her in because you can now wander away and she must find you eventually to get her item back.
Other props: Bottle Caps 'Men can easily get a bottle cap off their forehead without using their hands. (Demonstrate how to stick a cap on your forehead, then wrinkle your forehead so it falls off.) But girls don't have this ability. Once I stick this thing on your forehead, you'll NEVER get it off without using your hands.' (Hold the cap to her forehead but then remove it so she doesn't notice. She'll now try to get the cap off her forehead, though it isn't there. Works especially well in larger sets who will laugh at her). See the chapter on identity, state and frame for more information on peacocking and locking in.
AMOGs and Boyfriends (BFs)
AMOGs are alpha males of the group. Any guy should be considered some form of AMOG at first, unless you have evidence he's gay. AMOGs can present a lot of challenges to your game. Some of these men are desired by the target (boyfriends, lovers, husbands) while others hang around but aren't desirable (brothers, co-workers or other guys called orbiters). If the target desires the man, you can continue to run game and you may still close (see Boyfriend Destroyer techniques by TD). But if you don't want to bother, eject from that set and move on. Orbiters are often easy to blow out if you build enough attraction with the target. The Judge makes an important distinction: true AMOGs aren't worried about you or threatened by you as a male in terms of competition. A true AMOG like Tom Cruise will saunter into a bar, grab a girl and befriend you, without exhibiting hostility towards you. It's the BMOG (beta member of the group) who often tries to mess up your game by mocking your peacocking attempts, getting mad when you start talking to their target, and picking a fight with you when you crack a joke at them. For the purpose of this chapter however, all these men will be categorized as AMOGs.
Handling AMOGs Several issues arise in field regarding other men interfering with your ability to successfully run game. Unless you sarge female-only venues, you need to be able to adapt to AMOG interference: 1. Mixed sets. AMOGs might try to push you out of a set once you get in, but likely the bigger issue is a PUA talking themselves out of opening a mixed set because they assume the AMOG is dating the target. Never assume this unless you witness evidence of intimacy, in which case you still can open the set for social proof but should opt out of running game on her. Read her BL before entering to see how she is responding to his IOIs. 2. AMOGs enter a set and then try to blow you out or drag away the target. Regarding external interrupts, you may opt to completely ignore the AMOG and continue to speak to the girl (disacknowledgment). This will lower his
value. You can wildly but positively misinterpret his comments so as to negate whatever belittling tone he may have thrown at you (positive misinterpretation). For example, you can twist comments to imply he is gay and hitting on you. The key is to be humorous and to not become emotional, defensive or offensive with your response. You can turn AMOG into a dancing monkey. Example, Vibe gets compared to Barry Manilow often: AMOG: Hey, it?s Barry Manilow! PUA: Hey, how ya doing, captain! AMOG: (singing) I write the songs that make the whole world? PUA: Awesome, man! Hey, give us a dance with that song! AMOG: (starts dancing) PUA: Aw, sweet! Look at my little dancing monkey, everybody! Example, compare him to a comedian or other entertainer: AMOG: Hey, it?s Barry Manilow! PUA: Hey, it?s Robin Williams. Tell us a joke, Robin. AMOG: Blah blah blah (PUA gets distracted, looks around room, checks his phone, etc) PUA: Huh? That wasn?t very funny, Robin. What else ya got?
Types of AMOGs There are 3 varieties of AMOGs and your approach to each should be different. 1. The bully AMOG who is jealous and tries to blow you out. You can take TD's approach and be the friendlier guy, which is more appealing to targets. This is the easier AMOG to handle. 2. The really (or really really really) friendly AMOG. Some AMOGs enter at such a high level of energy (kino, joking, voice projection) it is impossible to out-alpha them. Getting louder or friendlier would just be received well by them and inspire them to raise their energy. One approach with this is instead to fly under the radar. At some point this energy becomes exhausting to others, and it may be best to stay low key as a relief. Often wonder out loud to the target how these fellas can keep up such an extreme level of energy, joke it's like having free entertainment (makes them dancing monkeys).
3. Quietly confident and wise / solitary yet not needy. Making the target laugh and being higher energy will often take care of this guy. When a touchy feely AMOG tries stealing your target, you can usually detect the discomfort in her response (caveman works if you've run a good game and calibrate). Try not to worry about this, as it actually makes your gentlemanly kino much more appealing to her. She becomes even more receptive to a man who isn't so bold and who understands boundaries. You can also do a protector of loved ones line "If that guy's bothering you, I can take him outside and learn him a lesson" (said without any hint of jealousy). The Decibel AMOG Challenge Normally I'll get a target to buy me a drink, but once in a while AMOG comes into the set to take your girl. Try this diabolical idea: what if you can get the target to tool the AMOG into buying you a drink? It is funny seeing your target trying to tool the AMOG to do your bidding. So here's the Decibel AMOG Challenge: See if you can get the target to convince AMOG to buy YOU the drink while he's up getting hers (he has to be hitting on her, not just some nice fella in a bar).
Handling BFs Girls will often not disclose their boyfriend, or will do so as a signal to you that she is willing to see you on the side if you're discreet. If a girl mentions a BF, you need to decide if it's because 1) she doesn't yet feel attracted to you (in which case it's an IOD), or 2) she is attracted to you but wants you to be discrete (an IOI that communicates logistics). Her level of kino and other IOI pinging should help you determine which of these is the case. If you think it's an IOD, you should ignore the comment and stack to another bit of DHV convo. If it's an IOI, you can tell her 'Yeah, I've always found extreme discretion to be important in any kind of relationship.' From there, do not continue to acknowledge her BF, just plow on with your game. Here are other scenarios: 1. If she says he is helpful and very sweet, start calling him nice. If a guy is nice, he becomes less appealing. 'So that's great, you like nice guys. Well, I guess you and I wouldn't work out.' 2. She says she would feel bad if she cheated on him. Respond: 'I have
open relationships in my life because I haven't found the girl who has hit all my switches. I appreciate your honesty and am honest with all my girlfriends.' She now understands that she can have a no-strings-attached relationship with you (though you don't say it) and imply your standards are high and she has qualified. 3. She hopes you can still hang out. Tell her you understand, that she is attracted to you but you wouldn't want to be 'that guy' who breaks up a relationship. This makes it clear that you are onto her and our feelings are mutual, so she won't put you into LJBF (let's just be friends) zone, but you two can still hang out and see how things go.
BF Destroying Techniques (TD)
A topic of raging debate in the PUA literature, Tyler Durden's boyfriend destroying techniques can potentially lure a woman away from her current mate. Admittedly, these will not work if a woman is content in her relationship in all regards. Background - a few things to remember: 1) When BF destroying you walk a tightrope between evoking too many bad feelings and having them anchored to you, and getting the chick to want to dump her BF. Don't forget that your end goal is to f-close, not to break her up for some other dude to enjoy. 2) It is preferable that you don't make it appear that you want her to dump her boyfriend. Rather, make the idea appear to be something from within her. 3) While BF destroying, you must direct the convo to make her prompt you to tell her how you would treat a woman. Make her work it out of you, because she's worked up, and wants to know if she's got a fair deal or not. 4) You must REFRAME all behavior to appear like insecure nice guy behavior, as someone who is too afraid to be decisive and go for what they really want, since they are too afraid that they will lose it once they've been emotionally vulnerable (as will be explained below). All behavior can be REFRAMED. 5) By making the guy look like a "NICE GUY", you are making him the most sexually unappealing guy conceivable. Once you've done this, there is NOTHING that he can do to get back into her good books, as you've put him into a predicament where anything that he does will be interpreted by his GF as being insecure. So, if he's too distant, and he makes up for it by buying her flowers -> he's insecure. If he's too needy, and he makes up for it by getting a life -> he's insecure. You are trying to DIFFUSE his outer glossy shell, and give the girl a window into his inner workings, so that he no longer appears "mysterious" in any way. You make her understand him so well, that she likes him more as a person,
but no longer has any sexual desire for him. 6) "A major point though is that if her relationship to her boyfriend was so good, what is she doing sitting out for coffee with you? This does not need to be stated by you. It is obvious. Your job is to find out what SHE wants from you and how you plan to demonstrate that you can provide it to her through your stories about yourself. Of course you need lots of stories about yourself dealing with women in the same fashion that she likes to be handled herself. This stuff seeps in and makes her think of you as "her type" without you even complimenting her once." (MrSEX4uNYC) The tactic: What you're looking to do here is tear the guy down to a NICE GUY, while making it look like you're actually STICKING UP FOR HIM! Your goal is to make him one of those guys that a girl would go out on a date with, like as a person, and feel bad for having to LJBF at the end of the night when he tries to kiss her at the door. So how do you do that? Almost invariably, LTR's have certain problems (which any of you who've had LTR's are morbidly familiar with): -jealousy related spats (KEY) -neediness -failure to commit or being too distant -abusive behavior (be it physical or mental) -psychologically withdrawal, to gain certainty in the relationship (i.e.: in LTR's each party will withdraw to see if the other will pursue periodically, to assure themselves that the LTR is solid. This is dimestore psychology, and easily observable in any relationship). -being irresponsible (not holding up share of chores, etc.) -not being assertive in bed (KEY) -being into S&M and other stuff in bed, that the girl thinks is too far out -getting angry/frustrated when he initiates sex and girl is not in the mood (KEY) -being too predictable, not passionate OK, there are some basic ones. I will now break these down to show you how I would roughly respond to any of these complaints, in a way that I appear to be sticking up for the BF, but am inadvertently BF destroying him. This is not the sum total of the routine, but simply the raw fuel that you are employing. Remember, that you may not necessarily want to start escalating your sexual state, until she is convinced that her BF is lame-ass; otherwise she may potentially realize that you are trying to pull one over on her. This is not the rule, but simply something to be considered based on your evaluation of the circumstance. Jealousy: "You have to understand that this guy really appreciates you, because you're probably the best girl that he ever got, or ever will get. I know that you care about
this guy but there's just a certain equilibrium where if you've done this guy a favor by being with him and he's not equipped to handle it, since he knows that he'll never get a girl like you again if he walks out, that he's just constantly frustrated and panicked that you'll leave. It's not his fault.? Neediness: "You've got to understand that for this guy you are his entire world. He cares about you so much, that everything else in the world is meaningless to him. You are his only source of pleasure, and without you he knows that he's nothing. You can't blame him, he just doesn't have anything else going for him, so he needs you." Failure to commit: "It's not that this guy doesn't love you. He does. Its just that deep down he has a fear that you're too good for him and that you'll realize it and be like, you know....you just have to dump this guy.... and then he'll be left emotionally destroyed because he made himself vulnerable. Yes yes I know that you wouldn't do that to him, but its just that with (x,y,z into consideration - bring up imbalance struck earlier in the convo) he knows that you could get other guys...like me. I just think that he's not an emotionally secure person, and you've gotta cut him some slack." Abusive behavior: "It's not that this guy doesn't love you. It's that he loves you too much, and just can't handle it. He's not emotionally available, and because he knows that you're the best he's ever had, he can't handle all of these things that he's going through emotionally. All his life he probably wasn't very good with women, and women weren't interested in him. So now that he's got this girl, he doesn't know how to handle it. (plus use the he doesn't want to be emotionally vulnerable, because he's such a loser ass that he can't handle it as per above etc.) Periodic Psychological Withdrawal: "(use combinations from material I've written.. Rather than downplaying it for the perfectly normal behavior that it is, magnify it by making it appear to be a sign of insecurity, that is typically displayed when nice guys who can't get girls get stuck into a relationship with a girl that is too good for them)" Being Irresponsible: "It's not that this guy doesn't want to do these things. Its just that he's so overwhelmed by all of the things that are going on, that he just can't keep up these responsibilities. Yes yes, I know that x,y,z aren't that much, but he's not in an emotionally healthy place right now, and he just can't handle it (you mirror this against yourself, the image of a REAL/STRONG/COMPETENT man, basically trying to make him seem like a little boy)"
Not being assertive in bed (THIS IS KEY, AND IS VERY OFTEN THE BEST ONE TO USE - VERY COMMON): "It's not that he doesn't want to excite you. It's just that he's so overwhelmed being with a girl like you, that he's not equipped to handle your sexual needs. It's like the typical case of the rich daughter who marries the laborer. At first the laborer is so ecstatic to have this gorgeous girl (point to her) wanting him.. But in the end, he cheats on her with some white trash mullet haired girl, because he knows that that's who he really belongs with, and that's who makes him feel good about himself. You shouldn't hold his lack of assertiveness in bed against him, because its just a reflection of his insecurity. With the right girl, any guy can be a stud in the sack. It's not hard, you just have to take CONTROL (perhaps show some controlling kino here, to get her turned on then transition to some HOT sex talk, where you inadvertently spill how much you need to take control in bed.)" Guy into weird stuff in bed (S&M etc) when she hates it: "It's not that this guy doesn't love you. It's just that he uses these things to objectify you, because he knows that he's never had a girl like you, and probably never will once you're gone. So he doesn't want to "make love", because he doesn't want to make himself emotionally vulnerable to you. But he still wants sex, so he has to turn it into a perverse game, to keep his insecurities from overwhelming him." Guy gets angry when he initiates sex and she's not interested (ANOTHER KEY ONE TO PECK AT. VERY COMMON): "The thing is, that this guy loves you, and he's just exasperated that he's completely impotent to turn you on. He just can't turn you on, and he knows that, so he gets frustrated. It's like when you want to have sex...with me.....it's like, I know that it's my job to get the girl turned on. Girls need a man who knows what they want, and how to give it. When a girl says 'no', but at the same time she loves this guy, it often means please turn me on more... please, I want you to be more attentive to me. (this totally mindfucks the girl, as it is an EXTREMELY COMMON part of the LTR cycle, that once sex becomes stagnant foreplay nearly ceases. I'm amazed by how much girls in LTR's PERK RIGHT UP the second that you imply that you're attentive even in LTR's.) Being too predictable, not passionate: "It's not that this guy doesn't love you. He does. It's just that he's so comfortable with you now and feels so close to you, that you're more like a sister to him. Like a special sister, but someone who he doesn't feel that he has to do all these things for anymore, because your relationship is so secure and so predictable. There's no need for all that excitement, because he knows that nothing will change. Some guys deal with true love that way. I dunno, for me, I think that if you really love someone, you have to do x,y,z (established earlier in convo) to keep it fresh. But really, it's not that he doesn't love you, it's just that he loves you so much that he doesn't see the need." Conclusion: So, remember that you are focusing on destroying the guy's sexual appeal, by making him seem too familiar and easy to understand. People generally get 'one-itis' for those who are challenging and hard to understand. By making the BF seem both easy to understand, and very insecure/nice/beta in the meantime, the relationship will likely not last the week. Just remember not to be the LJBF who counsels her on her problems. Ideally, she must be getting both turned off the guy by what you're doing, and getting turned on by YOU, and the conversation NATURALLY LEADS TO HOW YOU ARE DIFFERENT, AND -IDEAL- FOR WHAT SHE WANTS. The natural flow of conversation must indirectly lead to exposing your highly desirable qualities. She is getting turned on by the DIRECT CONTRAST between you and her boyfriend. You do not offer your qualities directly, but highlight them by pointing out that you understand where her BFs negative qualities are insecure. Getting her to beg you to tell her how you treat women is all the better, and if it is going well can likely be expected.
With so many women out there, you may want to think twice (or thrice) about gaming a girl who's in a relationship. As PUA BangBang says: ?Any woman I'm with must have baggage that fits neatly in the overhead bin.?
Phone, Net and Text Game
Once you've had a Day 1, you will out of necessity move into the realm of phone/text/email game, before the two of you can meet up for a Day 2. A lot of potential relationships crash and burn in this netherworld, often because of backwards rationalization by the girl, but many times because the man is not skilled at this part of his game. Typically, you should call or text 1-2 days after the pick-up, and often it's a good idea to do this the night of the pick-up so you can either continue the convo, or keep yourself fresh in her mind and used to your calls/texts. Some PUAs prefer texting first, then calling later that day (whether she responds or not to your TM). Use a FTC during the call, and be the one to end the TM or call. Give enough time between your TM responses or calls to establish your non-neediness; calling/TM too quickly or frequently may project neediness. Waiting too long will allow her buying temp to drop or for her to backwards rationalize your encounter and blow you off. Keep your calls and voice messages brief. Maintain your prizability (say things like 'You can see me tonight' or 'You can call me back' versus 'I hope you'll have some time for me this week.') Your voice messages should be no more than 5 seconds long, unless you are creating intrigue with an opinion opener sort of message ('Hey, it's Decibel. Is khaki a color? Because I was just having this discussion with my friend, and we couldn't decide if it was a color or a fabric. So I thought I'd see if you knew the right answer to this one. I'll talk to you later.') If there is some possibility she doesn't have your number, leave it, but otherwise avoid leaving it in your message. Introduce yourself not by 'Hi, it's Decibel. We met last night' but with a tease or reminder that had been established. So for example if you gave her a nickname, you'd say 'Hey, Ms. Elf-ears, it's me, Decibel. I'll talk to you later.' You don't need to ask her on a date during your first call. In fact, just getting her talking about unrelated topics will make you a part of her daily life, so when you do ask her out, there will be a natural feel to it. Always speak slowly, clearly and with a deep voice. When setting up the Day 2, try to always invite her along to an event or a plan you have previously scheduled. It is best to time bridge to a specific point during your original pickup, but if you can?t you should attempt this over the phone or by text/email. If a couple weeks pass between pickup and Day 2, mention you may not remember what she looks like 'so wear something distinct'; you are going out with her because she made an impression on you, not because of her looks. There are several key elements that need to be explored: 1. Non-neediness. If you've been maintaining the frame of an independent man with a full plate of people to see and things to do, and then suddenly on the phone you show an excess of neediness, you're done. Calling once a day is needy, making comments about having lots of free time is needy, picking up your phone the moment she calls back (particularly on a Friday or Saturday night) is needy, and calling her right back is needy. You need to remain slightly unavailable and aloof. Busy guys don't tend to sit around waiting for their phone to ring. Using a FTC during your call will also give the impression you're a busy guy. Similarly, she may try the 'well call me the day before and I'll see' tactic; don't fall into this. Your time is valuable and you need a confirmed day and time you two can meet. Otherwise you are inviting the flake. The bottom line is you are choosing to speak with her and set aside time with her not out of desperation or loneliness, but because she is special and worth it. 2. Intriguing. You've taken care to build attraction by DHVing, and build comfort with identity grounding. Do not at this point slip back into your AFC ways and make fluff talk or be any less fascinating. Continue to open strong, carry your alpha frame of self-confidence and mystique, employ push-pull, and leave her wanting more. Think back to the old cliff-hangers where the film left you with unanswered questions. You should do the same with your texts or calls. A text that reads 'OMG I just thought of the best nickname for you!' will create intrigue and inspire her to respond. As opposed to 'Hey Sally, my plans fell thru 2nite, so if U R free give me a call. Ok?' 3. Timing. If you call or TM too soon, it can show neediness. If you wait too long, her buying temp will drop. In short, there is no right answer to the question of when to re-initiate the convo, and you will have to learn from your experience. Advice has been given ranging from the same day to one week later. Regardless, it is typically safe to not use the first re-connect as a way of asking her on a date; instead, call just to tell her about something funny that happened to you today. If you call, leave a message and don't just hang up. She may be able to ID you on her cell, and it'll look weird that you didn't follow through with a message. Unless she responds, don't even think about calling or writing more than once on a given day. And often wait 1-2 days before your next attempt (or even longer). Though some are more persistent, if she doesn't respond to 2 attempts, she's likely not interested anymore, so move on. If she does respond, look at the amount of time it took her to call or write back, and use this as a gauge of how long you should take to send another message. If it took her a while to get back to you, never call her out on it or antagonize her about it. 4. Build comfort. You can use phone calls to get a woman comfortable with you, though don't expect to build more attraction. Face-to-face interaction is the only reliable way to know if your DHV's are hitting, and the only way to get her used to your touch. Still, you can build rapport over the phone if getting together will not be possible in the near future. This will contribute to the seven hour rule needed before sex.
Internet Gaming Though not considered 'going into the field,' online dating has helped PUAs supplement their real-world gaming. Some guys have had remarkable success with it. What follows are some tips in building your online technique: PUA Gaash lives in New York and wings The Judge: For me, online game is so much easier than real life sarging I can't even compare the two. I usually talk about f-closes when it comes to closing, but if you expand that to makeouts, fooling around, etc. I would say my success rate is at least 80% on a first date. And I could fill my calendar from today to the end of the year with a new date a day, and that is not an exaggeration. Here are my simple "rules" of online game: (1) Have a great profile. I basically brag like crazy in my bio; I don't talk much personal stuff, mostly just cocky funny things like "I went to UPENN and even managed to graduate" and I do this and that. Also, keep it relatively short. (2) Focus on those who contact you first (obviously not the spam/Russian golddiggers). (3) Chat online/phone/etc as little as possible... ask to plan a date more or less on the first or second e-mail and if they start dragging it on with online chatting/phone convos etc... move on. And keep e-mails you write to girls SHORT. VERY SHORT. Nothing pisses these girls off more than long winded e-mails from 45 year old guys who want to marry them from 2 pictures off the internet.
I have the honor of introducing New York PUA The Judge, who is currently working on what he calls his Master Theory. I have no doubt this theory will alter your game substantially. The Judge is a writer, and so naturally his attraction and comfort material is top notch. By his own admission, he has gotten his pick-up down to a science. In particular, he has perfected his Day 2 to the point that f-closes are all but inevitable. Here now is The Judge's method for Day 2s:
Alright, I'm going to outline MY D2, however don't feel you have to get locked into copying the EXACT locations or events. For example, where I bounce her back to my apartment after grocery shopping, you could bounce her back to your car or wherever else you plan to use as your sex location. Essentially, all you need to make this D2 to work is the underlining structure. The locations, activities, and times are completely arbitrary. Location 1: The Attraction and Comfort phase: The first hour of your D2 should take place here. Ideally, you had her meet you at or near your place (despite what a lot of PUA literature advises, I find it's better not to invite the HB in right away. I usually have girls buzz my apartment and I come down). When you see her, give her a hug, exchange cliche pleasantries, then IMMEDIATELY stack into a story. Just like in phone game, taking the awkwardness of the first 2 minutes off the HB's shoulders is super important in preserving her comfort. I use either the "Grabby Homeless Man" story or I improv a story about something that happened at work that day. The sushi place is 2 blocks away and the story fills in the gap between my apartment and the sushi place. Once we get to the sushi place and we sit down (By the way, if the hostess says sit where you like make sure YOU choose where you sit. In fact, if she starts sitting down somewhere say, "Sit over here, the view is better"...remember you made the plans, she's in YOUR reality). When the waitress comes over, I ask, "You like beer, right? A round of Sapporo." If she objects, fine (some girls won't drink beer), but most are fine with it. Once the waitress leaves, begin running attraction material. Again, I'll cover this in the "Master Theory" but you should have 10-20 canned stories about your life that you're ready to bust out during dinner. All these stories should communicate various aspects of your personality, where you've been, what you're interested in, what your friends are like, etc. LET HER INTO YOUR REALITY. Also, in between telling these stories, you should be constantly qualifying her and baiting her to tell you interesting things about herself. However, ALWAYS maintain a strong frame (the first half hour is where she's going to shit-test you and try to steal the frame...it's key you constantly remind yourself to act like a guy who has scores of women in his life and she's trying to win you over). Some of my favorite "D2 disqualifiers" are: - "That was such a funny response. My little sister would say the same thing! In fact, you sort of remind of my little sis! That's so cute" - "What happened to that nice, sweet girl I met at the bar? Who IS this person sitting across from me?" - "Hmmmm...I don't know about you, I don't know if this friendship is going to work out..." - "You know what, I don't care about that. Tell me about..." Hold out your hand on the table palm up, and demand "Hand." When she complies, inspect her hand, message it a little, run your nails over her palm, then push it away, "Man hands. It'd never work between us." The key is constantly push/pull and qualify her. Usually after every neg or IOD I hit her with, I immediately stack into a funny story or something that won't let her respond to what I said. This creates a nice "roller coaster" effect, where she gets upset but then is laughing a few seconds later. Also, the way you should tell stories on your D2 is very animated: SUCK HER INTO YOUR REALITY (can't stress that enough). When the waitress comes to take your order, ORDER FOR BOTH OF YOU. I found ordering something to share is infinitely better than ordering 2 separate dishes. 1.) It'll save you money, 2.) It's a romantic thing, it'll trigger attraction switches in her brain, 3.) She'll eat less and be more in the mood to get naked than if she'd eaten a huge meal. Throughout the meal, keep threading between DHV stories, qualifying and baiting statements, push/pull material, re-framing you're the prize, and neutral topics. Again, I'll develop all this in the "Master Theory" but talking about neutral topics (general interest stuff) is just as important as telling her the hilarious DHV story about the time you went to Germany for a writing assignment. It allows some space for her to process her emotions and shows you're not trying too hard to entertain her. Some topics of general interest I like to talk about are 1.) Monopoly (the board game), 2.) Genderrelated issues, 3.) My idea for a Kevin McCallister home security system, 4.) That guy who found his true love on the New York subway. Get the ball rolling on these topics, spend about 3 minutes discussing them, then interrupt her mid-sentence and stack back into a qualifying question or a DHV story. Example: HB: Oh my God? A Kevin McCallister home security system? Like from Home Alone? That is too funny! The Judge: Yo, I had my house burglarized when I was 8. They took a bunch of my shit and I never forgot that. If my dad had installed some swinging paint cans or left some micromachines by the stairs that shit would've never happened... HB: Hahahaha, oh my God. How did they break into your house? Like did they The Judge: Wait, I don't want to talk about that anymore. Okay, if we were going to rob a house together how would we do it? And don't say something stupid or I'm gonna rat you out to the cops before our glorious life of crime even begins... You've succeeded in phase 1 (which is really the only phase you have to do any real work in) if: 1.) You're in the restaurant for over an hour and she's not looking around or getting restless (also, if you finished your meal but the waitress is not bringing the check, that's a huge IOI as it's obvious to an outside observer that you and your "date" are having an awesome time and they don't want to interrupt); 2.) she's continually qualifying herself and when you neg her or IOD her she says, "Nooooooooo" or "Stop! Don't think that!"; 3.) She's telling you how funny/entertaining you are. Oh, and one thing I left out. When she gives you a good answer or is IOIing you it's perfectly fine to give her an IOI, SOI, or compliment (just not on her looks). Here are some I found work great: - "You know I'm glad we met. It's cool we got together like this. I'm having fun." - "I love that about you! Nice, this friendship may work after all." - "Okay, you're cool. High five."
- "Awww, are you nervous? Don't be nervous, you're doing fine so far. I liked when you were telling me about..." - And my all-time favorite (reserved for girls I'm very interested in after they give me an awesome answer qualifying themself): "You know why this is awesome? Because I NEVER meet people like you. I mean, look around, this is Manhattan. There's so many people you could theoretically have sushi with a new person every night. But you know why I'd never do that? Because most people say a lot of shit but never get off their lazy asses and do it. And even more people go through life with no idea what they want or what they're passionate about. When I meet people who aren't like that, like you, I make sure to keep them around. So, we may just have to do this again sometime..." One and a half final points before I bounce you guys to the next location. Point 1: Toward the end of the date, start seeding and hyping 2 things: 1.) Your next location, 2.) Your long-term lock-in prop. The second point only applies to girls you actually want to see again. The first applies to girls you want to f-close. Okay, the next location should be a bar or coffee place, or somewhere that you can talk and get some kino going on. I usually play up the "ultimate white trash" bar down the block from my apartment. Since I make it sound really funny and describe it very vividly, HBs ALWAYS want me to take them there. As for the long-term lock-in prop, if you want to secure a D3 with this girl, start talking about a book or movie (that you own) that you are REALLY passionate about. For me, I usually over-hype my favorite book as this divine entity that if they don't read they'll be incomplete. I seed the sex location as well by saying, "Oh, you want to borrow it? Maybe. It's back at my apartment, if you're good I'll grab it for you later." Alright, you get the point. Now, Point 1/2: I know all you PUAs are waiting to hear what I say about the check. Just pay it. Usually, HBs will pull out their purses when the check comes. Honestly, if I was really running low on cash and let them pay, I don't think it'd hurt me. However, (and maybe this is still an AFCism left over) I just feel better paying for the first date (also, when they pout about it, I say, "Okay, you can buy me a white trash beer at the white trash bar.") Location 2: Demonstration of Non-neediness Phase: Phase 2 is simple, but implementing it is critical. So, as we're leaving the sushi place, she thinks we're headed to the white trash bar. Right as we walk out on the street, I go, "Oh shit. I need to pick up some things from the grocery store. Okay, you can come with me and we'll have a little adventure. Come on." (holding out my arm). Once we enter the grocery store, I start walking toward aisle 2 and she always follows. Then I turn around, smile, and say, "Stop stalking me. Go to aisle 1 and pick me out a nice batch of strawberries. And seriously, if they suck, you're fired. Go!" And I playfully push her away. I usually grab a few things and then come find her in aisle 1. It's funny because every girl I've done this to is always concentrating really hard on the strawberries as if their life depends on picking the best batch (I take it as a huge IOI). This is a perfect chance to act all "loverly" and sneak up behind her, put your arms around her, and ask how she's doing. I usually like to smell her and compliment her on her perfume. Once she turns around smiling, I quickly push her away, "Come on, let's go. I'm thirsty for some white trash beer" and I walk away from her. Location 3: Sparking the Sexual Tension: Now, since you have some groceries, you have a reason to bounce her back to your sex location. For me, this is my apartment. So, at this point, she feels really comfortable with me, is giving me tons of IOIs, and I'm starting to escalate my kino. When we get into my apartment, I start putting the groceries away and invite her to, "Look around". (Keep in mind, my apartment is decorated with all kinds of chick crack: From French foreign film posters to my original artwork on the walls to my guitar propped in the corner.) Girls always bombard me with tons of questions which I never answer. Instead, I put my finger over their lips, go "Shhhhhh", pull them into me and kiss them. Usually, the girls get really into it and we start having a little makeout session. I start kissing them a little on their neck and ears, and, once they start getting turned on (after about 2 minutes), I pull away and say, "Come on. White trash bar. I'm thirsty and want to see some mullets." Expect the girl's eyes to go really wide as if saying something like, "What the fuck?" because they've probably never had a guy walk away from them when they were ready to fool around. However, I'm hypothesizing that IF I simply started escalating sexually at this point, I may be able to get her naked and fool around but I doubt she'd bang me at that point. I feel by having the chance to fool around but walking away, you give her the final push she needs to overcome her ASD. When you're ready to pull her, you'll have created all the space you need for a D2 f-close. Location 4: The Foreplay Location: No, the name is deceiving, I don't actually advocate any genital stimulation - even if I did bill location 4 as the sex location. You don't need to do much at this point because the HB will be so turned on, you can literally say ANYTHING. At this point, she should be looking at you with the doggy dinner bowl face, agreeing with everything you're saying, and qualifying herself to you HARD. At this point, I usually just make her work a little harder and frame myself as the prize a few more times, just so she doesn't get buyer's remorse later on. However, two of the biggest traps/shit-tests usually surface at this point. HB: You are such a player, aren't you? HB: How many girls have you slept with? If you answer either of those questions seriously, pack it in brother because you're not getting laid. Honestly, answering a question like "Describe your nastiest shit" would be more attractive than answering either of those questions. Usually I ignore it the first time she asks. If she brings it up again, here's how I respond: HB: You are such a player, admit it. The Judge: (Smiles) Pa-lease, what would give you that impression? HB: Because you're a smooth talker and The Judge: (Puts finger over her lips) Shhhhhh, I was just starting to really like you and then you went and ruined a moment. (She'll shut up) HB: So tell me, how many girls have you slept with? The Judge: Stop asking, I'm a virgin. You know that. HB: SHUT UP!! Tell me!! How many? I'll bet it's like a million. The Judge: A million? Oh my God, you're retarded. That's humanly impossible. Who would have the time to have sex with a million peoHB: Ahhhhh! Stop you know what I mean! The Judge: Okay fine, since you're being so bratty about it, I'll tell you. Is that what you want? Fine. Hold on, let me know do some mental math here....(holds up fingers as if counting) Are we counting just girls or guys and girls...wait, wait, and what about goats? Oh man, and there was that time in Vermont when I had that cow orgy..shit, this is gonna be a hard tally... HB: Hahahaha, stop!
The Judge: You stop! (Tickles her, starts making out in the bar) Okay, enough with the white trash. I need some classiness. So here's what we're gonna do. I have to be up tomorrow early for work, but let's go back to my place and we'll have a glass of wine and I'll explain the picture/play you that song on the guitar/give you that book I was telling you about. Location 5: Sex: At this point, it's on. The only final caveat I'll give is I've found the majority of girls I've brought back have said at one point, "We're not having sex though". This is probably the most hilarious statement in the female idiolect because, if she says that, you might as well put a condom on and put a stopwatch on it because you're having sex within the hour. In fact, I got so accustomed to hearing that (usually at the exact same spot, too: As we're climbing the stairs to my walk-up apartment), that on my last D2, I actually beat the HB to the punch and said to her, "Hey, we're not having sex tonight." HILARIOUS! She agreed and then later begged me for sex. I wouldn't recommend using that line the first time you try this D2 structure but try it after a few.
Bibliography and Suggested Readings
Palm Reading for Beginners, by Richard Webster. The Game, by Neil Strauss (aka Style) Mind of Mystery (DVD), by Mystery, Lovedrop and Matador The Mystery Method or The Venusian Arts Handbook, by Mystery The Layguide, by Tony Clink Interaction Ritual, by Erving Goffman The Red Queen, by Matt Ridley NLP: The New Technology of Achievement, by Steve Andreas and Charles Faulkner Comedy Writing Secrets Revealed, by Mel Helitzer The Definitive Book of Body Language, by Barbara and Allan Pease Double Your Dating, by David DeAngelo Real World Seduction, by Swinggcat The Art of Approaching, by Thundercat Art of Seduction, by Robert Greene Intro to Seductive Reasoning 101 Video Series, by Johnny Soporno And every Snapple lid you can get your hands on!
A Crash Course to Learning Pick Up
The following suggested agenda is intended to help instructors provide a learning framework to help teach aspiring PUAs. This course focuses on night/bar game. Between each lesson there is a one- to two-week period in which the student applies the prior principles by solo sarging or taking a wing in field. While bootcamps that occur over a few days can be helpful in initiating a student to these techniques, evolution out of the long-held AFC mode takes weeks, and therefore instruction is most effective if it is presented in short lessons over a longer time period. Before the night?s sarge, the instructor will review any sticking points or questions the student may have up to this point. Comfort routines aren't covered in this introductory course because many AFCs are good at comfort ? so good in fact that they've made a career out of LJBFing. Getting skilled at comfort routines is reserved for a more advanced course. 1 Introductory seminar/lesson. Review the M3 model, frame control and peacocking. Homework assignment: Read the MM and this field guide. Internalize the concept of being alpha and controlling the frame. Collect peacocking that fits the identity you wish to project. 2 In-field lesson one. Overcoming approach anxiety, learning openers. Homework assignment: Approach as many HBs as possible over the next two weeks. Go to malls and open all the HB hired guns, asking for advice on peacocking accessories. Go up to random HBs in the mall or on the street and open using some of the openers presented. Try both situational and opinion openers. Go to a bar and run openers on as many sets as you can. 3 In-field lesson two. Routines. Homework assignment: Open and run routines on as many sets as you can. Sit down and list all the major events in your life or moments when you made epiphanies, and try to pull out stories you may be able to embellish upon.
4 In-field lesson three. DHV, kino, negs. Homework assignment: Take the stories you developed from the last assignment and spike them with DHV's. Start incorporating kino into your approaches. Get the feel for negging without insulting. Become perceptive to IOIs and IOD's. 5 In-field lesson four. Moving within a venue, isolating, locking in, qualifying. Homework assignment: Run game in various venues and incorporate isolating the target, locking in to sets, moving your target within a venue, and qualifying. Understand the fundamentals of A3, including compliance testing. 6 In-field lesson five. timebridge/bouncing. Body language, #-closing, more kino,
Homework: Escalate kino through compliance testing. Understand how to project and interpret body language; review the chapter on BL and spend time in social gatherings observing how others interact. Start collecting #s. Attempt to set up day 2s or bounce to a new venue.