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    Default how do you emotions/values/etc. when you talk?

    I can't seem to understand this part..how do you use those emotions/values/etc. when you talk to her?I heard there are "hot" words that you need to use,but what are those?I know you need to make statements/take the lead/do conversation threading/ask less questions,but how do you incorporate this?

    Any good examples would be appreciated.I am just trying to find patterns/words that I could use regularly(emotions/etc.) just so I can get better really quick.

    Please help this noob

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    Default Re: how do you emotions/values/etc. when you talk?

    You need to create mix emotions inside the girl's head, make her sad and then maker her happy if shes not into you use some push and pull or fractionatio. Show her your the Alpha-male.

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    Default Re: how do you emotions/values/etc. when you talk?

    There ARE some key words that hit a girls emotional triggers...

    A couple major ones are, "Feel" & Imagine"

    When you talk to her, or text / email etc.... incorporate those words into your convo.

    Like, if she makes a statement about something that you know has some importance, ask her: "How does that make you feel?"

    Or pose a question to her along the lines of, "Can you imagine what it would be like if, blah blah blah...??"

    Those are emotional words, and have a powerful effect on a girl.

    Give it a try & seem for yourself.



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    Default Re: how do you emotions/values/etc. when you talk?

    I guess I will try to abuse those two words when I talk.But then again,it has to be positive.

    I have been trying to use conversation threading,and with this I would try to make statements more often than just questions.

    Her: I go to school in germany but came here to visit my parents for the weekend.

    Words-weekend,parents,Germ any,school

    I could go ahead and talk about beers and going their myself to Germany,is school very serious compared to here(States),Really nice places to go during the weekends/eat/visit/movies/etc.,about parents,I could say I miss my mom's food or just talk about me whenever I use those topics.

    You can see I avoided questions throughout,since people think questions=interrogat ing.Really not sure how to use the questions properly.

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    Default Re: how do you emotions/values/etc. when you talk?

    Quote Originally Posted by andy316 View Post
    I guess I will try to abuse those two words when I talk.But then again,it has to be positive.

    I have been trying to use conversation threading,and with this I would try to make statements more often than just questions.

    Her: I go to school in germany but came here to visit my parents for the weekend.

    Words-weekend,parents,Germ any,school

    I could go ahead and talk about beers and going their myself to Germany,is school very serious compared to here(States),Really nice places to go during the weekends/eat/visit/movies/etc.,about parents,I could say I miss my mom's food or just talk about me whenever I use those topics.

    You can see I avoided questions throughout,since people think questions=interrogat ing.Really not sure how to use the questions properly.
    What your talking about is rapport. First make sure that you have attraction first. Don't instantly go into rapport after you approach, its a quick way into the friendzone.
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    Default Re: how do you emotions/values/etc. when you talk?

    Ok,I see.

    But like I was asking,was my example and way of thinking correct?I understand this is all after attraction(basically comfort) and not something to use from the getgo.

    Wish there was 1 routine I could use top to finish until I get good at this :s

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    Default Re: how do you emotions/values/etc. when you talk?

    Alright man, your use of slashes was a little hard to follow but I'm going to do my best to address them.

    Emotions
    Girls are incredibly sensory creatures. They adore feelings and are have a unique taste for sensations. Anything they can see, touch, smell, or feel (as in emotions) are going to be ten times stronger for them than for us. This is how you get their emotions going. You talk about things, happy things, sad things, serious things, fun things, whatever emotion you want, but you have to make her feel it. Women have incredible imaginations, and a tendency to put themselves in situations to see how it feels. This I why they're more likely to cry at movies (just an example), because they are more in tune with what's happening emotionally. So what you do is you be descriptive when your talking. If your telling her a story, work in how you felt, what you saw, how things felt when you touched them, how it smelled, etc. let her put herself in the situation.

    A slightly more subtle way is to put yourself in the emotion you want to transmit. If you're happy, she'll feed off that happy energy. If your sad, she'll pick up on that too (she may also decide you're a stick in the mud and leave, so be careful with that one). She will feed off your energy, or on a broader sense your frame, and will shift herself to fit it. That's how frame control works.

    Values
    There are several ways to elicit values, and it's up to you to decide how to do it. I'm going to give you my favorite. It's not a technique, it's just something I picked up on to spot future problems. Basically you just have to lead the conversation towards subjects where you can get a glimpse at her values. The most obvious one is sex, but others include crime, family, religion, etc. Basically just bring up these topics and watch her reactions. Is she accepting, nodding, frowning, shocked, whatever. How she reacts to these topics will give you a good idea of what she thinks. If she's got a poker face on, you an straight up ask her (after bringing it up in conversation first). But come on, that's not smooth. And a PUAs gotta stay classy
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    Default Re: how do you emotions/values/etc. when you talk?

    Hey bro take a note pad and start writing random normal conversations and then practice stretching them out and adding in emotions and visuals. Doing this will actually help your mind learn how to do it on the fly. I will give you an example because it's the best way to learn. This one is not an amazing story but will show you the point.

    Normal non-emotional story:
    I work in pest control, and I spray anything like spiders, termites, bees, ants etc. It's a tough job, but hey it's work what are you gonna do right? It's got it's ups and down, my boss is kind of a dick sometimes, but the pay is pretty good...

    Same story a bit more interesting:
    You know... For the last 6 months I've been putting on a white zip-up suit, goggles, gloves, and a high powered squirt gun. My job is a tough one but you know what, someone must do the tough jobs, so it may as well be me.
    I get a call, hey we got spiders on the loose at 555 oak ave s, let's move!
    So I roll up gun in hand, ready for anything that comes at me with more than 4 legs. And when they do I bring it on baby, I'm an orcan man! ("I'd stop here and not go into detail about killing them because it will gross girls out").
    I don't love my job but you know what it loves me!

    So the point is I made this up randomly, but I turned it into something visual that can capture them in your frame, doing this causes emotions.

    A girl asks me, so what are you doing now?

    Normal answer:
    Ah just watching some good ol tv, eating chips....

    Better answer:
    Well I'm leaned back with my head slightly pressed into the pillow, my feet are kicked off the ground, and I got the best bag of chips resting by my side, cheetos to be exact, and my eyes are on the tv! HBO here we come!

    Noticed how I described my situation visually instead of just stating it, it's almost like being a narrator. You'll get good at it by practicing, it really helps a boring conversation last longer, and girls will usually be like wow what's on tv? Then just move on from there.

    Hope this helps!


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