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    Lightbulb Social Dance Game - Approach, Attraction & Comfort

    Hello PUA Forums,

    I've been working on this one since December 2011. I'm defining social dance as swing, salsa, bachata, blues and other partner dances. There are just a couple of steps that change a social dance into a great opportunity for pick-up. When I first started, it was easy to ask a girl to dance with some basic skill, but I was really struggling to build attraction beyond dancing one song per girl.

    1) choose your target (don't get distracted)
    These are very target rich environments. Generally gals are more interested than guys in learning how to dance. It's easy to get distracted dancing with whoever is standing nearby.
    2) ask the same girl to dance multiple times (but not in a row)
    With the exception of tango, you only dance one song in a row with a partner, unless you are working on a new move. This give you the opportunity to re-approach throughout the night and gradually build interest.
    Now that I'm taking classes I have the excuse of practicing the new moves for two songs in a row, but still it's better form to ask the girl to dance later that night. Sometimes I'll even tell the gal that I want to dance again later that night. I've asked gals to dance right before the end of the song, and I'll still respect the custom and thank her for the dance after only dancing for 30 seconds.
    3) find out who she's there with
    My wing Ray pointed out the corner where my target's friends were hanging out while she was out dancing. I went in and started talking with them giving me lots of social proof when she came back from the dance floor to rejoin her friends.
    4) alternate between dancing and chatting
    The biggest mistake that I made with social dance game was focusing on making engaging conversation while dancing. Unless you're really in touch with the music, it's better to focus on your dance moves while you are on the dance floor. You can easily move back and forth between chatting off the dance floor and dancing on the dance floor. Building attraction (kino of dancing) and comfort (conversation).

    A couple of other notes:
    Don't follow the gal around the dance. Give her space to socialize and take the opportunity to chat with other guys and gals.
    Show confidences. Even if this is your first time, you can dhv by showing that you have the confidence to try new things.
    Many dance studios offer beginner's classes before the social dances. This is a great way to find the style of dance that works for you.

    Since December, I've been going to dance socials at least once a week and taking at least one dance class a month. Let me know if you have questions. I'm happy to help. I'm a big fan of dancing in general, so being able to practice PUA is just an added bonus.

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    Default Re: Social Dance Game - Approach, Attraction & Comfort

    Using dance in your game is a great tool. You can use dance to stand our from the rest of the AFCs that just sit at a corner or stand at the bar with a beer in their hands and look around. This is specially when you are at place with loud music, your only way to dhv is through your body language. And what better way to demonstrate body language than trough dancing.
    You have to demostarte tha you are the man, since you enter the club! By dressing like you are getting laid; personally I dress like a Cowboy-rock star. Girl and guys complement my style, specially my hat. I enter, the venue with a smile, moving and shaking! Most of the time, girls approach me..and say that they like my energy or that they like my hat. Which in that case I look at them with a knowing look, and smile...yeah of course! Grab their hands and spin them...and begin dancing. And in other occasions, when I know that the girls want to dance with me, since they are looking at me, and just call them with my finger to the dance floor, most of them obey. A few are too shy..that I have to get to them and grab their hand and walk them to the floor. All girls want a guy to lead them through the "love dance". You don't have to be the best dancer that ever live, you just have to have the confidence, to say " let's go dancing"!

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    Default Re: Social Dance Game - Approach, Attraction & Comfort

    Wow, Conquistador82! It sounds like you're ahead of me on this front. I was talking specifically about the swing/salsa dance, but it looks like you've been able to take it to the next level at the night clubs with Top 40 music. Are you guy doing the standard bump and grind or have you come up with some better Hip Hop moves? I watched a series of YouTube on dubstep dance tutorial move, so I'm finally feeling more confident with pop music and hip hop.

    Great that you've found some peacocking that works for you. The cowboy outfit would not be congruent on me. I might try going for the poet's/philosopher's cap, or maybe just something Latin and flashy seeing as I am trying to attract Latinas. I keep forgetting that style is a key component of dance game. My wardrobe is only alright as of today, so maybe this will turn me into the memorable guy who gets return phone calls and same night hook-ups.


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