Ok, today at lunch I decided to try the "dog crap" opener that I jokingly threw out in a post. (You can read the entire thread here)
I was feeling the mood & decided it was the best time to give it a go.
The Attempt: (Her: About 5'5", thin, brunette with shorter hair & a couple visible tats. Looked like an aspiring model/hipster type in her mid-late 20's - So I thought she would have a sense of humor & not take offense if this bombs. I'd rate her an 8 - 8.5)
The whole conversation was about 2-3 minutes)
As I approached & started to speak, I had a quick flash of anxiety & thought to myself, "Am I really doing this?? Too late to stop now because here come the words..."
**the conversation isn't exactly word for word, & I don't remember everything.. but the context & overall flow went like this**
I couldn't remember exactly what I planned on saying. My mind sort of blanked out & I only remembered it had something to do with "crap" & "being lucky". So I basically bumbled my way through it, half laughing at the same time.
"You're pretty lucky.. you stepped right over that pile of crap back there" (again, I'm sort of giggling as I'm saying it) She looked puzzled & confused for a second & then looked back to where I was pointing.
That's when my memory returned & I realized my next line was supposed to be "Oh, my bad, it was just a leaf. But from here it looked a lot more grotesque."
However; there was no leaf.... In fact, there was nothing but a flat, completely debris-free section of sidewalk.
So now the full blown wave of laughter sets in... which thankfully, laughter is contagious, and SHE starts laughing because I am.
So I was thinking at this point, "aaahhhh fock it! Just wing it from here genius..."
I said, "Ok, here's the deal... I really just wanted to stop you because you caught my eye. I'm Mark."
Her: (laughing) "Hi, I'm Kate."
Me: "Hello Kate, It's very nice to meet you, & lucky for you, you did NOT step in a pile of dog crap today. I hope your lucky streak continues."
Her: (still laughing) "Oh me too!"
Me: Ok, as long as I'm harassing you at the moment & you're being a good sport about it, you wouldn't happen to do any modeling do you? Because, you have that sort of model-ish look about you.."
Her:"Actually yes... but just part time. nothing serious though. Mainly just local stuff & just to update my portfolio."
Me:"Very cool! It's good to have ambition & do things you enjoy. You seem to have a great sense of humor too. I mean, you're laughing & smiling even after I made up some (air quotes) crappy story.."(laughing harder now)
Me:"Well, I better let you be on your way... Besides, I actually have more responsible things to do than harass people. haha! But lets swap numbers really quick. I'd love to find out if you make it through the rest of the day with clean shoes." (wink)
Her:"Yeah! I'll let you know how I do! hahaha!"
Me:Awesome, it was a pleasure to meet you. Have a fabulous rest of the day."
**Insert friendly hug**
Her:"Thanks, & you too.. see ya later."
So, I start walking back to my car, shaking my head in partial disbelief & laughing.... I say to myself, "How in the world???.... "
Once I realized I messed up my "script" & started laughing, I just felt more relaxed. Especially when SHE started laughing too.
So, everything from that point on was just genuine, natural personality coming through. I didn't even think about body language or what to say next. I was simply "IN STATE".
I definitely want to try this one again, and see if I can keep more composure, just to see if that changes the reactions/results.
But... it did show me that sometimes, we make too big a deal about the "opener"itself, when what matters more is, what you do AFTERWARDS.