This is a discussion about making easier approaches. Or rather, capitalizing on the girls that are already interested in you.
You see a girl looking at you but you not sure how to approach? Simple. (I believe La Ruina introduced this concept, but I canít find it in his book so maybe I read it elsewhere.)
If youíre out there being social, somewhat peacocked, girls are going to notice you. The only key is that when you see a girl looking at you, you MUST acknowledge her. This can be a wink, a wave, stick out your tongue, whatever, just smile and give some additional acknowledgement. I think La Ruina said he does some type of finger point. The important part is that you give SOME formal acknowledgement. She will give something back. I like to cheers a girl in the air if I have a drink, or give a small little wave with my hand simply halfway up. Trust me thatís the hard part, and itís not that hard, not nearly as hard as a cold approach. The girl should respond with the same type of signal, occasionally something else. If she just turns away then itís still a cold approach. The vast majority of them with acknowledge you.
After that point you go approach (quickly, donít think about it just go). Itís no longer a cold approach, sheís not going to blow you off. Youíve basically said Hi already, now go say something. If you got no idea what to say, fine introduce yourself (not always the best bet but if youíre lost, somethingís always better than nothing). I prefer to just go ask how theyíre doing, or what theyíre out celebrating (Hey girls what are we out celebrating tonight?). Make sure you keep the conversation more interesting than that as it progresses. This is not a thread about the conversation tho, just about opening.
The point is, girls already see you, but so many guys miss tons of opportunities because they donít know what to do. These are the easiest ones. La Ruina says up to 90% of his approaches are warm approaches. For someone who doesnít like to use a lot of canned material, I love these. Itís not always about having the right lines to get a girl, itís about knowing what to do with the girls in front of you.