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Thread: A Simple Guide to Being Social (With Anyone)

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    Post A Simple Guide to Being Social (With Anyone)

    On this site we focus a lot on how to talk and interact with women that we want to attract. But that leaves a large majority of people that you will still have to interact with. In order to attract women you need to be social. No girl is going to be attracted to the guy sitting at a booth by himself with only a glass of whiskey to keep him company, no matter how good he looks. Now, imagine an average looking guy who's talking to everyone, jokes around with the bouncer and is on a first name basis with the manager. That guy is going to get a lot of women without even trying. The point is that learning the proper social skills to go out and befriend almost anyone you run into will not only jumpstart your game with women but also give you a happy, more attractive lifestyle. Not to mention a hell of a lot more friends.

    The Benefits of Being Social
    I Covered this a little already, but there are a lot of ways that being more social can improve your life. So let's go to the list...
    1. Social Circle
    2. Business
    3. Friends with Benefits
    4. social proof


    Social Circle
    You meet more people and make more friends, naturally your social circle is going to get bigger. And the bigger your social circle gets the more opportunities you get to meet more people. That can be anyone from HBs to Important Men to just straight up Fun People
    Business
    Imagining how good you'll look if you can sooth an angry customer, pull in a big sale, or have a contact list full of important business partners who are willing to do you some favors? Bosses constantly tell us how important people skills are to almost every aspect of any job. If you can get this part of your life sorted, you can do amazing things.
    Friends with Benefits
    The more you meet people, the more you'll meet people in a position of power. People who are willing to bend the rules or do you some favors because you're a good friend and would/have done the same for them. Just imagine how good it would feel to skip the line at a hot club cause you know the bouncer or manager. And that leads us to...
    Social Proof
    It's not name dropping if you show instead of tell. If you're at a restaurant/party/club/event where you know people, especially the people hosting, your social proof shoots through the roof.

    Ok, obviously I've got you convinced...now how do we do this you're asking? Well, I'll tell you....


    In my next post.
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    Default Re: A Simple Guide to Being Social (With Anyone)

    Quote Originally Posted by Bandit View Post
    Ok, obviously I've got you convinced...now how do we do this you're asking? Well, I'll tell you....


    In my next post.
    ...You whore.

    Lmao

    Got me all excited. Now I'm going to have to wait.
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    Default Re: A Simple Guide to Being Social (With Anyone)

    Quote Originally Posted by Cody View Post
    ...You whore.

    Lmao

    Got me all excited. Now I'm going to have to wait.
    Hahaha cut me some slack. It was like 1 in the morning and I had to be up in 6 hours. Besides, there's a good bit to cover here. It'll take a few posts to get it all out there.
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    Default Re: A Simple Guide to Being Social (With Anyone)

    I'll be bookmarking for the rest of it.

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    Default Re: A Simple Guide to Being Social (With Anyone)

    so.. you ready to make this ? i wanna read what you got in mind..
    The Worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I'd Hate that!

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    Default Re: A Simple Guide to Being Social (With Anyone)

    Working in the nightclub that pretty much everyone in my social circle goes to is awesome. It has its perks when you're not working too because you can stroll up to a bar, declare your undying love to one of your favourite barmaids and she'll serve you straight away because she knows you.

    Life is awesome.
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    Default Re: A Simple Guide to Being Social (With Anyone)

    Thank you guys for being patient. The next posts won't be spaced so far apart. So let's get back to it...
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    Default Re: A Simple Guide to Being Social (With Anyone)

    I am terrible at long posts. This is just such a broad subject that its hard to get it all in there. I promise I will have a post ready by tomorrow night, hopefully tonight. Life get's busy gentlemen.
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    Starting Conversations

    Conversations are the building blocks of relationships. As important as body language and eye contact and all that good stuff is, you can't really get to know people without talking. Now, if you're a normal functioning human being, chances are you know the basics of having a conversation. But very few know that art behind it, the tiny things you can do to really excel. But that's getting ahead of ourselves. Today, we're just going to look at step 1. So without further ado, here's how to start conversations with people you don't know.

    ~An important thing you have to remember is that you are not, I repeat not, opening. This is not game, leave all that terminology~ ~at the door. You're meeting people, not running game~

    There are a million and one ways to start a conversation with people. At the same time, there's really only a few ways to start talking to people. When you meet someone for the first time, all you really have in common is the situation you're in. You don't really know anything about them, they don't really know anything about you. All you know is that both of you are in the same place at the same time, whether that be in a store, on the street, or at the office. So pick out something interesting about the environment, particularly something they are doing or looking at. Try and make it fun and playful, you want to come off as someone who simply wants to share the love. Here's an example.
    [I was in a Hollister store and there was a sales girl folding clothes. I knew from experience that sales girls are hard to game, but I was in a talkative mood. She was folding pairs of bright colored skinny jeans. I walk up, pick up a pair of lime green skinny jeans and ask her with a wink "Alright, admit it. I make this work." She laughed, and we started joking and talking.]

    Another tactic is very similar. Notice something interesting about them, either what they're doing or what they're wearing. People love talking about themselves, so asking a question right off the bat is always good. More on that later.


    The best way to learn how to start conversations with people is practice (specifically, practice with people you won't have to see again). It requires a lot of social instinct, and if you don't have that it will sound slightly ackward and forced. Do not get discouraged if it does. Very few people can get it right off the bat. Just remember, you will never see these people again. There is no pressure.

    An important tip for when you practice talking to strangers is this...smile. Always be smiling, laughing, being playful. It sends off subconscious signals that will make your audience more receptive
    Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “WOW...What a Ride!”


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