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    Default Situational Openers

    I personally think direct openers are extremely outdated because most girls are familiar that their meant to pick up. Instead, I prefer situational openers because they are not from complete left field. For example, I was at the beach yesterday and noticed this cute girl with a tattoo. I opened saying that it was quite interesting and we had a whole discussion about tattoos. Eventually the conversation died (a typical [problem I have). However, something like that is a lot less shady then going up to a random stranger and asking something regarding your friend's ex girlfriend.

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    Default Re: Situational Openers

    I think I see the problem with the beach setting, and the cause for the regular convo burn out....

    You skipped the attraction phase & went straight into rapport, by having a big discussion about tattoos.

    Attraction is increased largely through body language, but also through flirting/bantering/teasing. THEN, you want to shift to rapport; followed by seduction.

    When you approach a girl, how often do you find a commonality & immediately begin a conversation about that specific topic?

    If that's the frequent pattern, then you know where the problem is, and how to correct it.

    Basically, don't rush yourself into a full conversation. Hold that back until you've had time for the playful stuff of attraction.


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    Default Re: Situational Openers

    Interesting. Can somebody provide me with an example of this sequence of attraction, rapport, and seduction? I am still new to all of this and don't quite understand how it is done.

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    Default Re: Situational Openers

    I'll give it a shot...
    The first stage is "Introduction".. which actually begins BEFORE you even approach her. Introduction is the very moment she notices you, so Body language is important.

    Then the approach & initial opener transition to the attraction phase, where you want to increase her curiosity & start teasing & flirting. Again, body language is still important here.
    You don't want to give her too much positive body language & subconsciously make her see you as needy or clingy. So occasionally turn away for a moment, or step back...etc.

    THEN is the rapport/comfort stage. This apparently is your strong point. But again, don't go into rapport until AFTER the attraction phase.

    The next stage is seduction, where you begin to express your interest & escalate the touching.It's also a good time to introduce sexual innuendos & gradually steer the conversation to that of a more sexual nature, & really pay attention to her body language & attraction cues, so you can get the kiss. (and so on.)

    The FINAL phase is the "relationship stage" ... which is how to keep it going & going for years to come. (If that's what you're looking for).

    But again - a quick review:
    1. - Introduction
    2. - Attraction
    3. - Rapport/Comfort
    4. - Seduction
    5. - Relationship


    That's a brief explanation for ya!
    Now, you can dig into each individual stage to learn what to do & how to do them. Like, which techniques are successful & whatnot.



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    Default Re: Situational Openers

    I would of still gone with tattoo but kept it short "that looks like an interesting tattoo and I have seen some very nice tattoos in my time, like my best mate has one of the statue of justice, we both believe in same things like justice for all... sorry I'm going on too much, whats your name?" *hand out to shake* and then I run my usual routine of asking what she does, Fluff for a bit about your professions and say "You know talking about work is boring, what do you do for fun?"


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