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    Default Dealing with obstacles that come into the set late?

    Hey guys, last night I opened a 2 set, introduced my wing, and about 2 minutes in, these two guys come up to my wing and I, and in a concerted effort, put their hands on our shoulders yelling "HEYYY WHAT'S UP" the subtext being GTFO. I've rescued enough of my female friends from creepy guys to know a rescue when I see one. Being in the position of having someone rescued from me instantly made me feel like a dick, so I figured I would just leave quietly and not cause any arguments or anything. In hindsight, I had the girls laughing, and I'm not sure if it was them, or just the two guys that didn't want my buddy and me talking to them. I'm not sure if these guys were friends or boyfriends or what- I used the 3 second rule and didn't really check the girls out before I went in. But if they were just friends, I suppose I should have tried to befriend them.

    So when new obstacles come into the set that you've just opened, how do you all deal with them?

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    Default Re: Dealing with obstacles that come into the set late?

    Usually if they were the boyfriends they would go up to their girls and either kiss them or put their arms around her in a boyfriend fashion.

    It is good to befriend them. I've actually had guys want to kick my ass because I was talking to a woman they wanted. All you do is show that you aren't a pushover, but don't go looking for a fight.

    One night I was dancing along with my buddy (who also wanted to kick my ass at one point) and this Blonde HB 9 came up, really drunk, and started dancing with me. Then some jock guy came over and grabbed her away. I took it as that was the bf and let it go. Continued having fun. Then she came up to me AGAIN. So when I saw Mr.Jock walking across the dance floor to grab her again, I decided to try and be friendly about it by asking him "Hey is that your girl?" He proceeded to give me this thumbs up about 10 feet away. When he got closer to me to get to her, his thumb was still up and just went a inch away from my face before taking it away in order to grab her. It felt like a "whatever" to the face and I got seriously upset. Especially since he disrespected me in my own place. My buddy said he did something to him to, concerning the blonde, so we were both ready to jump him. But I was determined to not go all caveman about it because my father taught me that "The first one to raise a fist, is the first one to run out of ideas." So I went to order a drink from the bar and low and behold Mr.Jock was right next to me. So I turned to him and said, pretty drunkingly:

    Me: Hey man. You gotta take your girl home. She is DONE and keeps coming up to me and my friends (Said in a half joking way mind you)

    Him: (Extremely drunk) She's not my girl. I banged her a couple of times, but we're friends.

    Me: Well she came here with you right? So she shouldn't be disrespecting that by going up to other guys. I mean....you can't bring a girl like that to mom!

    Him: Nah I don't want her as my girl. I just get tired of the way she be acting sometimes ya know.

    Me: Well anyways... the one I REALLY want is that one over there (I then proceeded to point to a woman I was dancing with earlier. HB8. This was a perfect distraction in order to change the subject. Somehow I managed to be strategic about this interaction while beinng so drunk lol.)

    Him: Well come on I'll introduce you (had no idea she was already opened and I knew I was leaving with her number)

    He literally went all the way over there and I stayed at the bar waiting for my drink. He didn't even realize I didnt follow him. So I was telling my bartender to red flag that guy because he's causing trouble. As soon as I finished telling her he comes back to ask why I didn't follow him to the girl. I then look at my bartender, pointed at him, and blurted out "THIS GUY!! THIS GUY RIGHT HERE IS WHO I'M TALKING ABOUT!!" We both started laughing and high fiving. He had NO idea what I just said about him.

    There's something powerful about pointing out the elephant in the room. Next time someone rescues the girls from YOU, try calling it out. Say:

    "Oooooh the ol' 'rescue the damsel in distress routine.' I used this alot with my female friends. Weird being on the other end though. You guys been friends long enough to be able to do that?" Continue talking and change the subject to distract them.

    If you try to warm up the guys and they still are being dicks, just don't risk your fun and getting kicked out just for a couple of broads. No shame in just walking away, but exhaust your options. Most of the time the guys are cool with it. Just make friends with them and they will realize that you BELONG in their group and aren't the creepy guys from their initial impression. Hope this helps and good luck.
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    Default Re: Dealing with obstacles that come into the set late?

    Batman you are an absolute legend, every time you post I learn something awesome lol...had to be said

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    Default Re: Dealing with obstacles that come into the set late?

    Thanks linking. Appreciate that very much
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    Default Re: Dealing with obstacles that come into the set late?

    Huh. That's good advice- thanks man. You're right, they probably weren't boyfriends (I did catch the two girls making out later, but I didn't get the lesbian vibe from them, so I'm pretty sure it was just for attention).

    I like that pointing out the elephant in the room idea though- that sounds pretty powerful. I think it would only work if it was an obvious-rescue tactic (as in this case) rather than if they were a little subtle about rejoining the group.

    I appreciate the help!


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