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    Default Time constraint issues....me or her have to leave :/

    Right, basically I quite enjoy approaching girls at bars in clubs....busy clubs mind sorta fight your way to the bar busy. So at the bar I end up next to some HB and open, start chatting to her never really turn to face her, just a bit of flirting cocky funny stuff and normally neg her about not offering to get me a drink....this normally results in a friendly punch or indignant exclamation.

    Then the problem is either my drink is done or hers is, then of course because it's busy you can't stay chatting at he bar.......I normally leave on a high note telling her 'maybe I'll let you dance with me later....if you keep being nice ' or something like this.....but clubs are busy and crowded and I rarely find them again :/

    anybody got anything I could transition with to maybe getting her to wait for me by the bar till my drink is done or vice versa without having to ask directly as I feel asking 'will you wait for me please ?' dlv's you a bit :/

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    Default Re: Time constraint issues....me or her have to leave :/

    If this is a chick you're wanting to fclose that night, you need to change venue, particularly if the bar is busy and all that.

    Finish your drink while you qualify her, diss the bar/crowd and get her laughing, then pull her to another bar/restaurant (calibrate so you know what she'll like better) and work towards Isolation. This works great if she is there with friends, as you can invite them along, and invariably a few will stay behind, thinning the herd.

    If you want to continue at that venue, or don't feel the fclose, then get her facebook/im and move on.

    Oh, and don't buy her drinks unless you get her to do something embarrassing or otherwise jump through a hoop. Buying a girl's time is beta as hell, and almost ensures there will be no fclose.

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    Default Re: Time constraint issues....me or her have to leave :/

    Your not quite understanding the problem I don't think........what I'm saying is in relation to a situation that happens regularly not a specific chick. And the problem is that I can only talk to her until the barmaid has made mine or her drink, then have to leave the bar......(by this I mean the drinks bar...not the actual venue). This is because it's always a student night soo the queue is not a queue soo much as a free for all of pushing and shoving to reach the front normally abou 6 people deep. Really not sure I'm explaining this brilliantly lol.

    Sooo the issue is........how to get her to wait for me once shes got her drink (away from the queue) or how to wait for her without it looking needy. Lol

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    Default Re: Time constraint issues....me or her have to leave :/

    This is logistics. You gotta get the bartender to give *you* the drinks (order for her.. It looks gallant) and then say c'mon and walk to a place to sit carrying both drinks. If its that busy I'd pick a wing to hold a table and then casually move off as you're headed to it with her in tow.

    Don't buy a drink for a girl and let her take it and walk off! That should never be an option. If she tries to take it anyway, bust her balls on it. Claim it's yours too cause the drinks are so weak you have to double-fist them for a buzz. Claim one is for all your dead homies. She knows the drink is for her since she told you what she wanted, she will probably laugh and follow you as I described .. As long as you own the line, smile, and say cmon and walk to the table without looking back at her for approval.

    Chicks typically know they trade time for free alcohol.. These chicks sound like they think they are entitled to free alcohol period. So you are trying to trade in a currency they have already devalued. This won't get you any further than the other dudes trying to do the same thing.

    I wouldn't buy them any drinks, personally, on those terms. I'd work in cracking them up and negging them playfully while buying my own drinks and use the buy me a drink line for further comedy. "today is Buy a Guy a Beer day, didn't you hear?" "Buy me a Corvette." "Buy you a drink? Are you really old enough to drink.. Wow that's obviously a fake license"

    Another good one in a situation like that is to refuse several of the less hot ones just to fuel the chick metagame of "let's see who can get him to buy her a drink". Of course this only works if you're circulating and talking to hotties for a few minutes, making them laugh, and then bailing to another group of hotties ... You are doing that, right?

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    Default Re: Time constraint issues....me or her have to leave :/

    Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh everyone keeps misunderstanding lol, I'm not buying them the drink.......not a chance :L I'm just flirting whilst we are both waiting for drinks.

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    Default Re: Time constraint issues....me or her have to leave :/

    It's annoying because I get them interested without buying them drinks and quite often because I refuse to, but then lose them because it's busy lol

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    Default Re: Time constraint issues....me or her have to leave :/

    Forget about what's happening with drinks and the bar. If it's a moshpit you're not neccessarily being needy by asking them to stay with you while you get the drinks. If you are 100% confident in who you are tell them you want to chat to her instead of being pushed around by a bunch of idiots and drunk chicks or for her to wait there with you. That's being strategic and better than being a loner at the bar thrusting out a bill to the barmen. It also becomes a qualifier in itself. How she responds will give you a clue to what she initialy thinks of you or her personality. At the end of the day it is going to be your conversation, interesting personality and attractiveness that gets them wanting to hang out with you. I'm not sure why you are so focussed on talking to girls right at the bar drink serving area. It's much better to grab a drink and then go mingle around the rest of the bar. If the bar is so busy everywhere, those girls are going to be elsewhere in the bar anyway. You could be seeding a whole bunch of potential girls while buying your drinks - just chat to them and forget about who leaves first. All you are doing is introducing yourself to a bunch of potential women and later when you see them again its easier than going up as a stranger. Just be the guy out having a blast and as you would anywhere. try get the girls to come to you. Also try being in the cue with a mate. I used to hate my turn for a shout at bars when I was younger because you would have to go off on your own and stand in a shitty line. I then started twisting my friends arms, especially if they were female, to join me in the cue. I mean its a bar...its not a football stadium where you have no chance of seeing them again. track them down later. If you have already made a good impression at the serving area likely they ask you to join them or oblige when you ask her to join you. Its conversation that forms the connection, not location.

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    Default Re: Time constraint issues....me or her have to leave :/

    It's not that I'm fixated with pulling at the bar......it's just generally a bit quieter than the rest of the club, I find it quite easy to approach and it's something to do whilst I'm waiting god knows how long to get a drink :L but thanks....I will try just asking them to wait for a minute till my drink comes next time and problem with finding them again is they are normally big clubs...sorta 3000 students or so in the biggest I think lol. I do mingle and chat to girls pretty much everywhere I go at the moment in order to improve my game as quick as possible...so this is just another aspect thanks for all the replies.

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Time constraint issues....me or her have to leave :/

    It's not that I'm fixated with pulling at the bar......it's just generally a bit quieter than the rest of the club, I find it quite easy to approach and it's something to do whilst I'm waiting god knows how long to get a drink :L but thanks....I will try just asking them to wait for a minute till my drink comes next time and problem with finding them again is they are normally big clubs...sorta 3000 students or so in the biggest I think lol. I do mingle and chat to girls pretty much everywhere I go at the moment in order to improve my game as quick as possible...so this is just another aspect thanks for all the replies.

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