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Thread: Best thing to do when a girl approaches YOU..?

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    Default Best thing to do when a girl approaches YOU..?

    So last night out at this bar, I'm standing up at the bar ordering some drinks with my friend (HB8 but just a long time friend). One of the other guys in my group starts talking with these two girls, then shouts my name "Randy! come here"... I step back for just a moment and lean in by them and my friend says "this girl thinks your really cute" (says it right as the girl is sitting there, all of them looking at me). I just say "nice, hold up a second I just ordered a drink, I'll be right back" and stepped back to the bar.

    Next the girl gets up and walks up to me while I'm leaning over the bar (I already ordered my drinks and needed my card back), introduces herself, I introduce myself, but then I say "hold on just one second I gotta get my card back". I turn around and the girls walk off... looked for them a bit later but they were gone.

    Do you guys think I did something wrong here, or does this girl just need a little more patience? I think she might have thought I was d1cking around with her because I was with this other girl at the bar (my friend). Oh well.

    But this also brings up a bigger question. Whats the best way to handle it when a girl approaches you, comes straight up to you and says something like "you're cute, I'm ______"? Sounds pretty simple, but it happens to me fairly often. Sometimes it easily goes into a conversation, other times it kind of throws me off and I don't exactly know where to go from there.. its like "umm thank you, sooo..?"

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    Default Re: Best thing to do when a girl approaches YOU..?

    My friend, the point is you engage yourself in a conversation. Whether you initiate it or not, is not big deal. After you begin talking to each other, you can apply everything you know of the game. If a girl makes the first step, then this should be a huge ioi! Keep that in mind and just have fun!

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    Default Re: Best thing to do when a girl approaches YOU..?

    Right, I know I should just converse, but I guess what I'm asking is if there is any better sequence of getting into the conversation?

    For instance: Would it be best to lightly neg her as soon as she makes the move? Give her a clear ioi as well (great to meet you, you have great eyes..)? Try to move her and Isolate her for a better conversation? etc

    What happens on occasion for me, is that I'll introduce myself back, go into a little small talk, then it goes flat. I find it weird to transition into a story or gambit right away. I know I'm over thinking this one, just want to see others thoughts!

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    Default Re: Best thing to do when a girl approaches YOU..?

    I guess my thought is that if I just quick accept her complement, then start acting overly interested in her to quickly, it will lower my value. But at the same time I don't want to act disinterested, because I am interested!

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    Default Re: Best thing to do when a girl approaches YOU..?

    Since she left her friends to come and talk to you, I believe isolating is half done and you should take it a step further.

    Then, choosing between giving her an ioi on NEGing her, it depends. Personally I'd keep the cocky behavior for later on, but wouldn't give her a clear IOI either. And that's because I believe that the pick up is reversed in such a situation.

    When a guy approaches a woman and he is trying to dhv, it may seem that he's making the girl to try and prove herself to him, but in reality he is still trying for her approval.

    In a situation like the one you describe, if your value is indeed high, she has almost approved you and you need to give in.

    Thereof, if I MUST choose between IOI or NEG, i'd go with a light NEG right away. Otherwise, I'd NEG her later and in the meantime I'd jsut talk to her while Kino escalating.

    What's most important though, is that you look like you're expecting such behavior from girls and not look surprised but smile at her!

    Hope this helps,
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    Default Re: Best thing to do when a girl approaches YOU..?

    do what she would do in reverse, act a little uninterested, lean back, , look around abit, be and make her qualify, then Isolate and game.

    the game doesnt change you just add n subtract steps depending on the situation.

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    Default Re: Best thing to do when a girl approaches YOU..?

    I like this topic, I hope others provide more info.

    Every guy gets this reaction from potential women, mostly aggressive women every so often, some most than others. In a nutshell, it depends on if the guy fits what the target sees as their ideal partner.

    When this happens you have to know that you have to k-close, n-close and if anything f-close quickly as possible. Remember the target sees you as a prince\superhero, you can get any HB10 you want to if you choose to and you are also charismatic and charming. So you do not want to destroy that high value or ioi she has about you.

    In my psychology class my professor said women builds this super awesome mental image about a guy that they deemed attractive. Now she imagines how your voice will sound, how charismatic you will be, how charming you will be, how of a gentleman you will be, and how of a ladies man you will be. Keep in mind, no female want a guy other females do not want, if they do they had no other choice, and that guy was their last choice.
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    Default Re: Best thing to do when a girl approaches YOU..?

    I agree with topgun 100%.

    Girls i work with have often said the same. They hover around cute guys to see what the guy has besides looks. Then, they disqualify him as soon as he opens his mouth for a ton of things like his voice, conversation skills, bad gaming etc.

    If she shows that much initial interest to flat out tell you she likes you, you really have to pick up your game. Its like her disqualifying factor goes up to 1000%! I would def call her a player right off the bat and run some role reversal.

    But good job on getting this kind of attention! You must be doing something right with your fitness level lol!
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