1) If you are to ever hope to be smooth and charismatic you have to understand the one and only rule of frames and that is....that everything is a frame.
Every word, thought and action is a frame. By seeing the world this way you put yourself one gigantic leap ahead of everyone. When an average person hears gossip and the gossip goes unchallenged it becomes the frame, but if you realize that this is nothing more than a view. Than you have the ability to keep control of your meta-frame and change other peoples views about the subject. No longer is there fact in your world, every word out of someones mouth is an opinion and is open to suggestion and revision.
*a little tidbit, if you vocalize an opinion to someone and its something that that person had no prior views towards and they don't verbally challenge it than it becomes appart of their frame*
2 In a conversation there are two overlapping frames that are constantly sliding over one another.
A) emotional = the emotion of the underlying conversation
B) situational = worldly views
Why don't you date monogamously, your probably just immature.
There are two ways to respond to this that will change the frame. One I can change the emotion of the conversation, i could be happy at my current situation as opposed to how she expects me to act, sad and guilty. Or I could change her situational frame, explain to her why I'm not dating singularly and why its better the I'm dating polyamorously.
These are just my theories and I'm open to revisions from fellow puas. These are more or less my notes on the subjects and things I've found to be true in my situations. Sorry, If this was put together sloppily but I've never written down my views on this or ever tried to explain this to anyone.