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    Default Getting called cocky by girls I meet

    I have a serious issue, girls I have been talking to call me cocky. Is there anyway to combat that? I have very high self esteem and confidence but cocky? what can I do about it? I'm a funny guy too I enjoy having fun and make funny happen out of no where.. but whats wrong with being cocky I'm just confident as heck.

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    Default Re: Getting called cocky?

    maybe you talk about yourself to much or talk about your achievements to much
    im on a different level

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    Default Re: Getting called cocky?

    There is nothing wrong with confidence and high self esteem obviously. Its when you verbalize and try to show it off through your words that it can become cocky. Done too much and it will look like you actually are insecure and are compensating by feeling like you have to talk about your confidence in order to hide your low self esteem.

    I can tell you that when I started being humble, something interesting happened. I got complimented on ALOT more. So when a woman said something nice about me like "I love your smile. Its a Colgate smile," instead of saying "I know" I started to say "Really? You think so?" Then they KEPT complimenting me back to back. Which felt much better than giving myself compliments that everyone would be turned off by. It gives them the emotional space to compliment me without my interruption.

    A nice little trick I use is whenever I want to say something cocky, just attach the words "I like to think that..." which will soften anything you say. "I like to think that I have a big schlong." Notice the difference in how it sounds.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Getting called cocky?

    I found that alot of times its just a test like so many other tests they do...they wanna see how you will react and if they can see a change in who you are by having an opinion about you. Subcontiously that is not what they want. If your into reading check out the book called THE WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN. When women tell me that alot of times ill just say (a quick pull and push) "Finally a women who can be upfront!! I like that in you. You dont meet women like that often!! On the the other hand though, I tend to be viewed as a confident guy...maybe you cant handle me is all, this might not work lol". Just watch them try and qualify lol. Remember women like a challenge so when she states such things she is being challenged to figure out why she feels that way about you and if she finds out within the beggining stages of meeting you then thrill will probably be gone very fast. Just my experience though...

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    Default Re: Getting called cocky?

    Hmm

    Also consider your target.

    Girls under 6ish that i know don't respond well to cocky stuff because their self esteem is lower.

    50 Cent said he got the same problem lol.

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    Default Re: Getting called cocky?

    Lol I feel you guys. I do tend to say cocky stuff when I am complimented. Maybe thats the fault. Thanks for the info though,much props.

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    Default Re: Getting called cocky?

    I consider this a test. If she tells you your cocky, just say (seriously), " Your right. It's a problem i've had since i was a teen. After i had a huge setback in mu personal life..." (she will say "Really? What happened?" Notice how she says this. If its skeptical or really interested in knowing what happened).

    Option 1 (if she is skeptical): if u want to keep the cocky funny going and remain congruent with how u have been behaving (or u are going in for the kill in the same night)
    Say, "i was diagnosed with AWESOME and i havent been able to recover since. I tried everything and it just wont go away. I guess i just have to live my life with my horrible disease!"

    She may roll her eyes at you. Just move the convo into a fun topic. She will not call you cocky again.

    Option 2: if u want to get her to become emotionally attached so u can actually date her: tell her of your first heartbreak. Make it good! Be serious about it! No playing. Engage her as u tell it ("do u know what that feels like? To love someone unconditionally? How someone's smile could brighten your whole day?) Kino when you mention holding hands with your lost love (oh and if your lost love moved away or died, u can use that too).

    OK so as u wrap the story... say "and since then i knew. I knew that i could overcome challenges. I knew that i was strong. I lost all i ever wanted in life and I now i realize there is nothing i cant handle. And nothing would ever shake my belief in myself ever again."

    This little speech will show her a new side to you. Its romantic and will be Double effective if your cocky funny side is always there. NOTE: Tell her its between you and her. This will like form a bond. Also, DO NOT change fron cocky funny. The trick is that you GOT OVER the girl in the story. Its not affecting you anymore. It happened when you were young (mention that btw) and now u are an adult.

    Option 2 gives her a reason to not chalkenge your cocky funny in the future. And shows your humble side. AND never bring it up again! She will think you are an emotional AFC if you dwell on it.
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    Default Re: Getting called cocky by girls I meet

    If a girl calls you cocky there are 2 reasons.
    #1- You ARE... and you need to learn how to dial that back & not overdo it.
    #2- She's testing you.

    If she's just testing you, you're better off doing one of the following things:

    Ignore it completely & direct the conversation to something else.

    Ask her, "Why do you think that?" (And make HER explain herself...)

    Tell her, "You don't even know me... that's not a fair assessment on your part.... You're gonna have to wait until you know me better, if you want to be that much of a smarty-pants!!" (with a wink)

    Smile & say, "OR.... am I just confident?" (again, with a wink) Then say to her, "Hang on for a minute... I'll be right back..." & walk away to do *whatever* for a moment. And when you come back, totally change the subject by making a new statement/asking her a random question."

    Any of these things will express "Dominant/Alpha" qualities, while NOT coming across as a total A$$Bag.



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    Default Re: Getting called cocky by girls I meet

    It is my opinion that as long as the HB is smiling when she calls you cocky, it's a shit test. I always respond with "You're G-Damn right I am. I should be, I'm awesome."

    If she isn't teasing you about it, then you're likely bragging too overtly. Don't disguise it, just make it more socially acceptable. Also, make sure that you are talking about her and how she has affected you at the right times. You cannot seem to care only for yourself.


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