I just came back to the world of dating and flirting. I am trying to improve my game. Last weekend I went to a club with 2 female friends and their male friend. I've known this guy for years and he pretty much always annoyed me. I didn't know why until a few weeks ago.
This guy is a natural alpha male. Unconsciously I must have hated him all these years mostly because he's been amoging me and every other men around. Well a few weeks ago (as I was getting back into the game) I AMOGed him and I even kissed the girl he was trying to seduce right in front of him - I think I did get more pleasure from breaking his status than from kissing the girl. hehe
Anyway, I wasn't on the top of my game in the club last weekend - actually I was tired, felt kinda sad and didn't really want to play the game. As I was sitting at a table like a total AFC I realized that I could use the opportunity to OBSERVE the alpha guy and LEARN from him - since I knew I wasn't going to AMOG him on that particular evening anyway.
Here are my main observations:
1) He was standing up and leaning on our table instead of taking a seat. This posture was giving him a dominant look onto the rest of us sitting, and he was somehow taking space in an area where people had to almost get through him as they were moving around the club. All the hot girls that would pass by had him in their way and he used it to his advantage the whole time, initiating quick convos or just smiling at them as they had to press their bodies onto his in order to get through the crowded space. I'm so going to steal this trick next weekend
2) He would talk to everyone, male or female. The music was loud, but he managed to start quick convos with many people during the evening. Later I asked him what he was telling them and he replied by saying: "I'm just acting stupid. I ask them stupid questions like what kind of drink they're having and other random stuff". The music was so loud that nothing interesting could have been said anyway so I thought it was brilliant.
3) At one point, a girl that was being almost crushed by the crowd sat on a chair next to our table but was facing away from us... and he told her that if she wanted to sit there, she had to introduce herself. Again, I realized I had a lot to learn from him!
I talked with him a little about seduction and his social abilities and he asked about mine. We realized that I'm good with girls ONCE I am having a conversation with them, while he's not. He admitted he's only good to attract women and this is where I have lots to learn.
We decided to go out together next weekend to work on our gaming skills
In the end I can say that I managed to get over my hatred of the guy and found a really good teacher. Also, I know I can AMOG him when the time comes... hehe
My point is that it can be a good idea, when you're an AFC and you are being AMOGed, to just observe the alpha male and learn from him, from time to time, especially when you're not in the mood for sarging.