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Thread: need help with a woman who seems super into you..FLAKES!

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    Default need help with a woman who seems super into you..FLAKES!

    Ive been Texting with this one girl, using Rob Judges Magnetic Messaging key sequence program and shes been very engaged in my texts, saying how much fun I am (from the night we met in person) to how funny I am via text.


    When I go for the meet up shes always very excited and accepts without any hesitation but last couple of times due to logistics on both sides we havent met up. Well this thursday I did the key lock sequence which engaged her and going for the meet up for that same day and she accepted for 730pm. I send her a text at 5pm to confirm time and place and she goes MIA just dissapears. I thought maybe phone issues but well she hasnt texted me back this whole time.


    I actually do like this girl compared to others im talking to and Shes been extremely responsive since I got her number and even saying things like "your a keeper' among other flirtations that it seems hella weird she just dissapeared & i know from facebook she wasnt kidnapped or anything lol. What should I text her next, or whats my next move? I honestly am a bit curious as to what happened. Should I try to change my gameplan a bit what should I text her now to get things going again? Havent texted her since thursday, Let me know what my next move can be?

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    Default Re: need help with a woman who seems super into you..FLAKES!

    Hey,

    Sorry I don't have much advise beyond a timeline. A similar thing happened to me. I texted about 2 weeks later, by then everything goes cold.

    Cheers
    Harrison

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    Default Re: need help with a woman who seems super into you..FLAKES!

    Don't say anything. She showed a complete lack of respect by not letting you know. If she's really super interested she will contact you again and initiate another meet up. If she flakes twice move on or only accept a third date if she makes the effort to come pick you up or come to your place.

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    Default Re: need help with a woman who seems super into you..FLAKES!

    I had some girl do something similar to me. We had a planned date, but not on purpose she had to cancel..it was sort of up in the air plans, however I was set in stone to meet up. So I was sort of pissed.

    Well I flaked on her the next time as she was straight foolin' about the plans and I ended up being out and about and not able to meet up when she was finally available. She was shocked/offended and left me a message about how she was upset on breaking plans but her attitude was a more of disbelief that I mirrored her action, to let her sort of know how it feels and at the same time "where Im at" when it came to getting together with her. That i was serious and not just ego boosting by talking to her only.

    She straightened out after that, dates were on cue after that.

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    Default Re: need help with a woman who seems super into you..FLAKES!

    I have a dozen or so girls I keep in my regular social circle. But there are always a couple of them at any given moment who I haven't heard from in 2-3 weeks, or maybe even longer.

    All I do to re-engage the conversation is, send a quick funny text to make her laugh.

    I don't mention anything about how long it's been, and I don't text anything like, "I wanted to say hello" or ask how she's been.

    NOTHING AT ALL to indicate it's been a while.

    I WILL send something like, "There may or may not be a briefcase full of money in my trunk... what do you think the odds are? "

    OR.. "Why do sandwiches always seem to taste better when someone else makes them??"

    Or.. "Hey Chowder-head, I saw you peeking in my window last night... The Pirate costume didn't fool me! ~ "

    OR.. "I'm gonna need a stick of butter, a midget & some sand-paper..."

    Using these kinds of texts to re-initiate contact after an extended period of silence, have been 100% effective in getting them to reply back to me. (Most of the time in less than a minute.)

    They work for a couple reasons.
    -They're silly & pretty random... especially for a message out of the blue.
    -We have some degree of history together, so we're already familiar with each other.
    -They make her laugh! (or at the very least smile).
    -They don't make her feel guilty about going silent, and they're not apologetic on my part about not keeping in touch lately.

    It's a subtle way of demonstrating confidence by initiating the conversation AND by having a fun, upbeat vibe.

    I'd just let some time pass & see if she texts you. If so, then carry on!
    If not, then after a week or two shoot her one of those types of messages.

    When she replies back, DO NOT wait to respond! Really!
    Fire a response right back immediately. Get into a "Rapid Fire" session for 10-20 minutes. That helps re-establish momentum & rapport quickly. Use that to your advantage.

    It will be fun & entertaining for HER, as well as quite beneficial for YOU.



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    Default Re: need help with a woman who seems super into you..FLAKES!

    Great advice T-Mal! I actually engaged her again weeks ago and set up another date...flakes again in the exact same way! Shes either playing games or ex walked back into her life. Should i try one of your texts in a few weeks or something different? Keep in mind I called her out on her behavior the second time around but in a playful way.

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    Default Re: need help with a woman who seems super into you..FLAKES!

    Man, I like reading threads and and trying to help I really do (and lord Knows I NEED as much help as the rest) but you thread starters need to include more details. Sometimes I feel like I'm reading the same threads because they all sound the same...

    Sorry for the rant riffman... nothing personal... BUT I bring it up because it would seriously help if you had more details. If you have been JUST texting this girl for two weeks without TALKING to her, you probably won't get very far. Texting is AWESOME for building attraction but have you had a meaningful convo with her after your initial meeting? Because not all girls will respond to a date request unless SOME form of communication other than texting happens first in between... it builds comfort. If you see her at work or in class, you can do it face to face.

    I mean, to her you are just another bunch of words on a screen... fun, exciting words... but still...just words. She is engaged by the stuff you text but hasn't necessarily linked those FUN WORDS to YOU in her mind because YOU are NOT THERE saying it... her SCREEN IS. You would be SURPRISED how much comfort and rapport you can build with your actual voice over the phone. People can actually hear you smile when you talk over the phone while smiling. You really can't replace that by texting (again, I love texting alot but talking is soo much more important when you are starting to game a new girl).

    If you thought her EX might be an issue you really should have stepped up in the calling department quickly.
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
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