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    fatboyxxx is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default should I ask the hot bartender out again? help

    One of my friends started tending bar,so I went to see her. after her shift was over she got relieve by this hot girl, my friend left n I started chatting with the hot bartender got lots of ioi from her ( laughing at my stupid jokes, neglecting other customers, she give couple free beers and else I was able to get her to come out from behind the bar and play some songs on the jukebox while I place my hand on her waist). A week after I went to the bar with a friend ,the bartender gave me some IOI again (trying to get into our conversation, kept looking at me, laughed at stupid jokes I was telling to my friend), when my friend went to the bathroom she comes over n asked me " so its dat u girlfriend", I told her she was just a good friend of mine, I wanted to ask her out dat nite but she got busy n I left cause I had some stuff to do. last week I went to a football game organized by the same bar, they had a bus, I got really wasted n I was talking to this girl on the way back from the game, we got back to the bar, hot bartender is working she saw me talking to this other girl for a while the other girl left , n I try to tell a joke to the bartender she didnt laugh n says " I hear lame jokes All day" I then handed her my number n told her " I would like to take u out for a motorcycle ride give a call ( she mention once dat she want it to go for a ride when she saw my helmet) , she then said to me " don't ask me when ur wasted n at least write your name on the paper I get a lot of phone numbers". Couple days ago I went to the bar with a hot friend dat was in town, All I said to the bartender " I apologize if I was mean or acting stupid last week, I was really drunk " she said " I was being mean to u too so we r even" . Well she never called me, should I just let it go?

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    Default Re: should I ask the hot bartender out again? help

    yeah i would let go, she WAS interested, but i think since she saw you with different HBs, you didn't immediately try to ask her out or something but waited for couple weeks, she maybe lost her interest or is jelous of those HBs..

    i would leave her be, but thats just me
    The Worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I'd Hate that!

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    Default Re: should I ask the hot bartender out again? help

    You fool - I have made the same mistakes when younger many of us have
    You had her and lost her. NEVER APOLOGISE TO A WOMEN.
    You ahd a chance to tell her you were taking her out long before you did - that was another mistake. You dont ask a girl out you tell her where you plan to take her. As a bar tender she probably does hear lots of lame attempts to chat her up everyday. Be more confident and quick off the mark next time.
    Be ALPHA thats what a woman wants as an alpha will be the best provider for her give her the best child all of which she wants to boost her ego. Women are about what you can do for them and how you make her status better and her life better they are genetically made that way. Everything is about her...

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    fatboyxxx is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: should I ask the hot bartender out again? help

    Thanks for the advise, Yeha dats what I tough, should had pull the trigger sooner.

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    Default Re: should I ask the hot bartender out again? help

    Always always always....ALWAYS get the girls number. Only give your number away for business. For pleasure ALWAYS get their number - even better their business card which usually has email, full name etc.

    Secondly a motorbike ride is not the best idea for a first date. Sure its exciting and she has to grab onto you but it also involves a fair amount of trust and effort and little chance for meaningful conversation.

    The good news is, as she said, she has a lot of guys giving her numbers and she also said 'we are even'. Take that in an optimistic light and start from scratch. Go in sober and develop some rapport again. Make sure she is in a good mood that day. Subtley ask her for her number or ask her directly out. She gets a lot of guys giving her numbers - how many actually ask her out with an attractive date offer that is realistic to her schedule and fatigue? If she still likes you she will give it to you. Wait a few days and don't visit the bar but ensure you generally know when she's at work and when she is likely to be at home or in her own time. Write her a message outside of when she's working and act more mature and dignified. Don't text her silly bar jokes. Write something that will inspire her. It could be something that is complimentary like 'I like the way you walk when you cruise around the bar' or 'I like chatting to you' but avoid saying 'your beautiful' or bringing up being drunk. She works at the bar, she understands full well there is nothing to aplogise in that...its her income ultimately.

    Get into her mind. It could even be a simple thoughtful thing 'Hope you had a good day and weren't too rushed off your feet at the bar '. You don't want to be overly AFC but in your situation you can be a little complimentary. Most guys will be cocky. Actually you can often be as nice and romantic as you like with a women so long as you do it without giving a sh1t about the consequences and say it with 100% confidence. You could also send her something humoress like 'help me there's vampires out tonight chasing me!!' especially if it is a full moon. You can also try draw her in with some talents that are universally appealling like send her a pic of your bike, something beautiful in your area like a sunset or better still send her a pic of what you cooked for dinner. I can cook pretty well and lately Ive been using that a lot as an opener. I take a really good picture of what I have cooked and send it to a girl. My food looks like its out of a fusion restaurant so I know its going to be apetizing. They always reply back with a drool symbol or something along the lines of 'I want! I like! Im hungry now'. If you are good at something girls like show it off. It could be a photo of anything really. There is nothing written in stone that says you have to open with words. Pictures can do all sorts of things. If you can draw, draw her something memorable and quick on a napkin at the bar. Anything to be different, smart and creative. Dare to soar where eagles fly rather than being a barfly.

    See how she responds outside of working hours to texts. She may not be a texter of course.

    The thing Ive found with bartenders is they can actually be rather dull deep down outside of work. It's like they are enslaved to the bar and its culture. They get all this suface attention from customers but somehow end up hiding away their heart and many quite frankly do not have good sex lives or partnerships because of this and their hours. Their hours suck if you yourself work during the day. They serve food. Its bland tiring work. I don't bother with many bar girls anymore. They waste lots of time and at the end of it you realise all you've gained is a beer gut haha.


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