Okay so I met this girl, I got her number, I did ioi everything was good, we hold hands. But I don't know how the heck, she lost attraction.
Before all that we hold hands, her friend ask me if I liked her..
I was so confident and I said "I'll be honest with you I like her "
I was sitting beside her and after I answer the question her friend ask me I touch her leg with my hand(we were sitting, and I was beside her)
after that we walked holding hands..
and Hug at the end..
that same day I text her at night, well to set up a date
I said the following thing (I open up with flirty kind of a joke about her phone contacts)
Me: "So does my name have a heart beside it already "?
She: "haha, phil you know we'r not dating, right?
Me: "I know, I wasn't serious about what I said just a joke"
She: "haha,okay good lol"
(By now I knew things were going that well )
(I waited a few minutes and text her)
Me: "Hey, I'll be going to the mall this Saturday, lets hang out down there, I can't promise anything but a nice ice cream "
She: "I'm busy, I can't"
(I waited a few minutes)
Me:"Ah, okay another time then, guess you don't like fun"
She: "Phil, I don't like you the same you do, that why I didn't said it when you said it"
(What I did then was not to act needy but act that I was cool with that)
Me: "Oh okay, you can still be my friend haha"
She: "lol Okay"
Me: "bffl haha"
since then we haven't text again and all this happen yesterday.
I'm friends with her best friend and I'm really good friend with her best friend boyfriend.
I mean we still talk and said Hi to each other.
I think I figured out what I did wrong, It was not talking to her with much confident and maybe saying that I liked her. you see I'm getting better in keeping the conversation flowing. but I still don't really know why after hugging to say bye, for 3 day, after holding hands, and after IOI her a bit.
She acted/reply that way?
I want to regain attraction, I've acted more confident when she is around, I dress nicely and wear cologne and she knows that, I have been really social too.
Okay now my PLAN.
1) I think I should neg her
if someone could give me some examples according to what's happening between me and her, it will be really helpful, thank. (I think I should neg her and kinda make fun the guys she talk to like something like this "You two guys should date, I mean look at him, he's so depress and shy.")
2) Make her jealous, I've done that to her before when I was talking to this other girl and end up hugging.
After that she came to me asking for a hug and wanted to talk to me. (maybe that will work again)
3)Act a little more busy and not give her to much of me.
Please share with me anything I can do to regain attraction with her.
Thanks to everyone for the help.