When I first started with PU, approaching was my biggest downfall. I've always been a smooth talker so once got started, it was hard to stop me. However, I rarely really got going because I was too afraid to go up to the girl/set.I was always afraid of being rejected. Then recently, something clicked about rejection.
Let's face it. You've probably talked to more girls in your life than you can count. And how many of them do you still see? Even this year (school year, I'm in college) I've talked to more girls than I could count and if I didn't feel it/didn't close, I haven't seen them since.
Hopefully you all know who Jay Cutler is. For those that don't he's the quarterback for the Chicago Bears. Anyways, he literally doesn't give a fark. He's willing to tell off his teammates and coaches if they're not doing their job right. But what really brings him up in this is the following story about a guy who saw him in the bar once:
"Friend is in a bar in Chicago during the off-season. He goes to the bathroom and sees Jay Cutler, hat on backwards, taking a piss at the urinal. So the guy starts going to the bathroom and says, 'Hey, I’m a huge fan, also went to Vanderbilt…'
Jay throws his head back, still pissing, eyes half-closed because he’s drunk, interrupts him with, 'DOOOONNNNTTTTTT CAAAAAARRRREEEEEE.'"
Ever since hearing this story, it clicked for me with Approach Anxiety. I don't care about rejection anymore. It's going to happen. Until you are a master, it will probably happen more times than not. So you just have to accept it and not care.
My friends now have a running joke about me. Whenever something big happens, they always ask how many farks I give and it's always none. Big project due tomorrow? Ask how many farks I give (side note: always make sure you get your homework done). Big football play? No farks. Three HB10s over there? Sure I'll go talk to them because who gives a fark.
So everyone, just stop caring about the approach! You're going to get rejected, I can guarantee it. But that doesn't mean anything. Because you also will be successful. I guarantee that as well.
Next time you go out, when you're leaving wherever you are just yell at the top of your lungs "DOOOOOOOOONNNNNN'TT TTTTT CAAARRRRRRRRRRRREEEE EEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!"
Make sure people hear you. Make sure they turn and look. Then just don't care about them looking because you're about to have an amazing night, one better than they could ever imagine.