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    Default How I Overcame Approach Anxiety

    When I first started with PU, approaching was my biggest downfall. I've always been a smooth talker so once got started, it was hard to stop me. However, I rarely really got going because I was too afraid to go up to the girl/set.I was always afraid of being rejected. Then recently, something clicked about rejection.

    WHO CARES

    Let's face it. You've probably talked to more girls in your life than you can count. And how many of them do you still see? Even this year (school year, I'm in college) I've talked to more girls than I could count and if I didn't feel it/didn't close, I haven't seen them since.

    Hopefully you all know who Jay Cutler is. For those that don't he's the quarterback for the Chicago Bears. Anyways, he literally doesn't give a fark. He's willing to tell off his teammates and coaches if they're not doing their job right. But what really brings him up in this is the following story about a guy who saw him in the bar once:

    "Friend is in a bar in Chicago during the off-season. He goes to the bathroom and sees Jay Cutler, hat on backwards, taking a piss at the urinal. So the guy starts going to the bathroom and says, 'Hey, Im a huge fan, also went to Vanderbilt'
    Jay throws his head back, still pissing, eyes half-closed because hes drunk, interrupts him with, 'DOOOONNNNTTTTTT CAAAAAARRRREEEEEE.'"

    Ever since hearing this story, it clicked for me with Approach Anxiety. I don't care about rejection anymore. It's going to happen. Until you are a master, it will probably happen more times than not. So you just have to accept it and not care.

    My friends now have a running joke about me. Whenever something big happens, they always ask how many farks I give and it's always none. Big project due tomorrow? Ask how many farks I give (side note: always make sure you get your homework done). Big football play? No farks. Three HB10s over there? Sure I'll go talk to them because who gives a fark.

    So everyone, just stop caring about the approach! You're going to get rejected, I can guarantee it. But that doesn't mean anything. Because you also will be successful. I guarantee that as well.

    Next time you go out, when you're leaving wherever you are just yell at the top of your lungs "DOOOOOOOOONNNNNN'TT TTTTT CAAARRRRRRRRRRRREEEE EEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!"
    Make sure people hear you. Make sure they turn and look. Then just don't care about them looking because you're about to have an amazing night, one better than they could ever imagine.

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    Default Re: How I Overcame Approach Anxiety

    Jay Cutler is kind of a douche. But I like the analogy!

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    Default Re: How I Overcame Approach Anxiety

    That is a solid approach. I know rejection doesnt really bother me any more. What drives me nuts is when I assess why I got rejected. Sometimes all this PUA stuff can over complicate things. But yeah not caring about rejection is HUGE

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    Default Re: How I Overcame Approach Anxiety

    Met a beautiful girl at the mall today was an 8 or 9 easily..
    I totally couldn't get the close in.. Of any type..
    Couldn't even get a name.. Just locked up..
    By the time I got my nerve up to try and approach her
    and try.. She was gone.. I was totally kicking myself in
    the back side after that..
    Really need some help to get my confidence up..

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    Default Re: How I Overcame Approach Anxiety

    Jay, just follow the above advice. What's the worst she'll do? Reject you. That's it. And if she does, so what? By not going and talking to her, you ended up kicking yourself and you didn't get her number anyway. So by going up to her, you increase your chances an infinite amount of closing her.

    I'll be honest and say that your first approaches will probably fail as it does take practice. But just keep doing it and you will become successful.
    DOOOOONNNN'TTTT CAAAARREEEEE

    You are the prize. She needs to earn it.

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    Default Re: How I Overcame Approach Anxiety

    Good analogy. Jay Cutler is a douchebag BTW. Don't be a douchebag gentlemen.

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    Default Re: How I Overcame Approach Anxiety

    Quote Originally Posted by jackcade View Post
    Good analogy. Jay Cutler is a douchebag BTW. Don't be a douchebag gentlemen.
    The only part of Jay Cutler that I want people to Take Away from this is his "Don't Care" mentality, still treat those women with respect my friends.
    DOOOOONNNN'TTTT CAAAARREEEEE

    You are the prize. She needs to earn it.

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    Default Re: How I Overcame Approach Anxiety

    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: How I Overcame Approach Anxiety

    Really gotta find a WING to run with..
    Might even take the edge off of that APPROACH
    ANXIETY.....
    If anyone knows if any.. Point them in my direction please...

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    Default Re: How I Overcame Approach Anxiety

    Quote Originally Posted by JayBird12 View Post
    Really gotta find a WING to run with..
    Might even take the edge off of that APPROACH
    ANXIETY.....
    If anyone knows if any.. Point them in my direction please...
    Try it without a wing! Going out alone is better than not going out at all. Like I said in the post, do not care about the outcome. Get practice in and things will start falling into place on their own.
    DOOOOONNNN'TTTT CAAAARREEEEE

    You are the prize. She needs to earn it.


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