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Thread: Specific or Vague when asking a girl out?

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    Default Specific or Vague when asking a girl out?

    Two questions here

    So an acquaintance of mine suggested that when asking a girl out you want to be specific about what you want to do with her so instead of "grab a bite" be like "grab ___ food at _____ place". In the past I had sort of been more vague ie "lets chill" "grab some food" etc. Thoughts?

    The other part is more specific. Long story short, hit if off with a HB 8 bout two weeks ago. First time we met she was drunk/tipsy, we had a 2 hour conversation with some touching. I ended up walking her back to her place and ended up turning down an invite to her place down (Yes I'm retarded) but got a #. We chilled next day for a bit I made no advancement (once again, I'm retarded). Texted her about last weekend, she was out of town. On Monday texted to see if she were around this week, she said she was busy.

    I see her twice a week at work and doesnt even look my way, not in a bad way but just doesnt look. I'm guessing she has/had some level of interest when we first met cause she wasnt hammered and was obviously giving off signs. After Monday I was planning on giving up but I quickly realized I have no other weekend plans. For now my plan is to make one last push using a new approach to see if she wants to do something this weekend. If this last one doesnt work I'm done for a while.

    Question here is if I should just forget about her and move on or try one last time?

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    Default Re: Specific or Vague ?

    With regard to your first question, I like being specific. You can sell the idea with one or two enticing details that make it sound fun.

    Secondly, why not try re-building attraction before asking her out again? It sounds like she's cooled off from the initial encounter and you've got to "heat her up."

    Just run game to get her attracted, then qualify her with a date.

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    Default Re: Specific or Vague ?

    Yeah, that is sort of my goal. Re initiate game. But if I cant even just get a face to face then it poses a problem.

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    Default Re: Specific or Vague ?

    You have the right to walk up to her and say "whats up," so I'm sure you can find a min at work to do that.

    If you absolutely cannot, then initiate text game. GunsNGlory has an awesome guide stickied in the how to text section.

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    Default Re: Specific or Vague ?

    Quote Originally Posted by bighugewildRicky View Post
    You have the right to walk up to her and say "whats up," so I'm sure you can find a min at work to do that.

    If you absolutely cannot, then initiate text game. GunsNGlory has an awesome guide stickied in the how to text section.
    Yeah, not gonna be at work from this point on. Guess I can give the text stuff a shot (though she has never initiated the texting which is a pain) at least for the weekend or till I ask her out

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    Default Re: Specific or Vague when asking a girl out?

    she was attracted to you a lot at the beginning. She gave you TWO opportunities to escalate sexually and you turned her down. she feels extremely REJECTED and thats why she turned cold. SHe doesn't see you as a man who will take her sexually so her interest is lost.

    You have to now start again from the beginning. good luck

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    Default Re: Specific or Vague when asking a girl out?

    Quote Originally Posted by inter1010 View Post
    she was attracted to you a lot at the beginning. She gave you TWO opportunities to escalate sexually and you turned her down. she feels extremely REJECTED and thats why she turned cold. SHe doesn't see you as a man who will take her sexually so her interest is lost.

    You have to now start again from the beginning. good luck
    Haha really digging through the archives.

    Follow up, three months later, she has a "boyfriend" who may not be on the level. For now, done with her


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