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    Default Three Strikes Rule

    Three Strikes Rule

    Personally, I do not like negging a girl too much. There’s just something about it that does not feel right to me. Sometimes I’ll throw one or two in but for the most part, I can’t get myself to do it. It’s just the way I am. However, it is still important to get a girl to qualify herself to you. Make it seem like she has earned you, not you earning her. In the past, negging has been the way to do this. Throw an insult at a girl and she’ll try and redeem herself and regain her “perfect” image. But how do you get her to do this without a neg?

    It’s quite simple, actually. Everyone knows three strikes in baseball and you’re out. And I’m sure most have heard it used in a context outside of baseball (i.e. a parent telling you that’s strike one or two when you’re misbehaving). You know that getting to strike three is bad. So I have developed the:

    Three Strike Rule

    A girl gets three strikes before I walk away. If there’s something that she does that can be taken negatively, I tell her simply, “that’s strike one.” For example, I find out that she likes drinking. Obviously, most people do. However, I’ll still tell her, “Oh, you’re a drinker? That’s strike one.”

    This is always met with shock at first (a guy telling her that she has three mistakes before he walks? No one has ever done that to her before). Then instantly she’ll qualify herself. “What?! No! That’s not what I meant!” etc.

    There is a catch that you tell her when it comes up though. Personally, I prefer dark liquor over light (i.e. rum/whiskey over vodka). If she’s the same, I’ll tell her she’s redeeming herself. For every two redeeming things, one strike goes away. Make sure she knows this after the second redeeming quality. This way she knows that you aren’t only counting things against her, you’re weighing the good and bad to see if she’s “good enough.”

    I have field tested this with incredibly positive results. The girls always instantly qualify themselves when you tell them it’s a strike and always are happy when you tell them that they’re redeeming themselves. The most important thing though with this is if she gets to strike three, walk. Just simply tell her, “I’m sorry, but that’s strike three. It was nice to meet you, but I have to get going now.” Either one of two things will happen now:

    1) She’ll let you walk. If she does, oh well. She was just another girl for practice. There will be plenty of others.
    2) This is most often the response. And that is she won’t let you leave. “Nooo stay! I swear I’m not that bad!” etc. When this happens, obviously you are in. The only time you’d ever beg for a girl to stay is if you REALLY wanted her to. It’s the same for girls. If they beg you to stay, they REALLY want you to stay.

    For the most part, you won’t reach the point where you will need to walk. Once you get to two strikes, the girl will be constantly qualifying herself trying to get rid of those strikes. Either way though, the outcome is positive (unless you get to strike three and she lets you walk, but that has been extremely rare).

    One last tip with this – do not start giving her strikes right away. Do it once you have a good conversation going (a minute or two after hooking the set). If you start too soon, you will not have built enough interest for this to be effective. Employed at the right time though and it works wonders.
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    Default Re: Three Strikes Rule

    This is good. Personally I use the points system a bit more - "ok you just lost 3 points...". It's a little more open ended for you to adapt how you want, but same effect

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    Default Re: Three Strikes Rule

    I like the concept but it gets convoluted when u start removing strikes and keeping track of the 'score.'

    Negs are fun becuase you can throw one out there and forget about it for a bit. Then talk about other fun stuff Then use the neg again later. Keeping strike count is a little too unnatural (to me and my style). Maybe im bad at math lol.

    To me a neg sounds like something you may say anyway. The strikes thing probably works on HB 9 or HB10.

    Also, you are basically negging them with this technique so i am confused as to how this is different than a neg.
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    Default Re: Three Strikes Rule

    I like the idea for sure.
    Especially when it's something you came up with for yourself that you can use congruently with your personality.


    I'm not big on cocky-humor or negs either.
    I'll use them, but a little bit goes a LOOOOOONG way!! Some guys go overboard with them; usually to make up for lack of real confidence. (I say that from personal experience early on in my learning! LOL!)

    But the strikes, or points, or any sort of "assumed Takeaway" really does work well. Especially of you're doing it in a playful way, like it's a little game you two are playing.

    Girls love to be a part of some "inside joke" or "private game" like that! They like having that special status.

    So I gotta give you props!


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    Default Re: Three Strikes Rule

    Lockdown, the way I see negs is that if not taken right or not delivered right they can be taken as an insult. I do more teasing things that couldn't be taken as an insult.

    T-Mal, isn't it amazing how something so little works so well? It's just something I started doing one time while I was out and the girl went crazy not wanting to get to three strikes so I had to share it haha
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    Default Re: Three Strikes Rule

    Quote Originally Posted by The Red Baron View Post
    This is good. Personally I use the points system a bit more - "ok you just lost 3 points...". It's a little more open ended for you to adapt how you want, but same effect

    I'm going to post a link here on my qualification guide
    i give them stars (30)
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    Default Re: Three Strikes Rule

    You guys are nice. I have a 1 strike rule. If there's something I don't like, I walk. Lol

    And I feel the same way about negs. That's why I wrote this (a long time ago).

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    Default Re: Three Strikes Rule

    Cody, I remember reading that post. It's what first got me really thinking about negs. I never really liked them before that but just thought they were a part of the game. But one strike is a little harsh give them some chance! Obviously there are some things I just wouldn't go for (smoking for example, I'm not a fan and don't want someone who does it). For the most part though, it's more just a way to tease and play around and, as tmal said, get them in on little game, which makes them feel special.
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    Default Re: Three Strikes Rule

    in psychology / biology I think they call it 'operant conditioning'. I naturally use it because it was meant for that moment. If she talks about something like sports I give her a +1. If she gets a little boring or off topic I will say 'You losing me here, thats so bad ... hahaha thats so much a negative'.
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    Default Re: Three Strikes Rule

    I also do the point system, I like saying " you're losing major cool points with me" they usually say something on the lines of " how can I get them back?" or " whats happens when I get a certain amount of cool points" but there is some good stuff on this thread
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