Three Strikes Rule
Three Strikes Rule
Personally, I do not like negging a girl too much. There’s just something about it that does not feel right to me. Sometimes I’ll throw one or two in but for the most part, I can’t get myself to do it. It’s just the way I am. However, it is still important to get a girl to qualify herself to you. Make it seem like she has earned you, not you earning her. In the past, negging has been the way to do this. Throw an insult at a girl and she’ll try and redeem herself and regain her “perfect” image. But how do you get her to do this without a neg?
It’s quite simple, actually. Everyone knows three strikes in baseball and you’re out. And I’m sure most have heard it used in a context outside of baseball (i.e. a parent telling you that’s strike one or two when you’re misbehaving). You know that getting to strike three is bad. So I have developed the:
Three Strike Rule
A girl gets three strikes before I walk away. If there’s something that she does that can be taken negatively, I tell her simply, “that’s strike one.” For example, I find out that she likes drinking. Obviously, most people do. However, I’ll still tell her, “Oh, you’re a drinker? That’s strike one.”
This is always met with shock at first (a guy telling her that she has three mistakes before he walks? No one has ever done that to her before). Then instantly she’ll qualify herself. “What?! No! That’s not what I meant!” etc.
There is a catch that you tell her when it comes up though. Personally, I prefer dark liquor over light (i.e. rum/whiskey over vodka). If she’s the same, I’ll tell her she’s redeeming herself. For every two redeeming things, one strike goes away. Make sure she knows this after the second redeeming quality. This way she knows that you aren’t only counting things against her, you’re weighing the good and bad to see if she’s “good enough.”
I have field tested this with incredibly positive results. The girls always instantly qualify themselves when you tell them it’s a strike and always are happy when you tell them that they’re redeeming themselves. The most important thing though with this is if she gets to strike three, walk. Just simply tell her, “I’m sorry, but that’s strike three. It was nice to meet you, but I have to get going now.” Either one of two things will happen now:
1) She’ll let you walk. If she does, oh well. She was just another girl for practice. There will be plenty of others.
2) This is most often the response. And that is she won’t let you leave. “Nooo stay! I swear I’m not that bad!” etc. When this happens, obviously you are in. The only time you’d ever beg for a girl to stay is if you REALLY wanted her to. It’s the same for girls. If they beg you to stay, they REALLY want you to stay.
For the most part, you won’t reach the point where you will need to walk. Once you get to two strikes, the girl will be constantly qualifying herself trying to get rid of those strikes. Either way though, the outcome is positive (unless you get to strike three and she lets you walk, but that has been extremely rare).
One last tip with this – do not start giving her strikes right away. Do it once you have a good conversation going (a minute or two after hooking the set). If you start too soon, you will not have built enough interest for this to be effective. Employed at the right time though and it works wonders.
You are the prize. She needs to earn it.