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Thread: Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

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    Default Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

    The Approach - Those are 2 of the scariest words for most guys, when it comes to meeting women.
    (They were for ME early on...)

    Overcoming Approach Anxiety takes time & persistence. You have to get out & just do it. The more you work at it, the easier it becomes.

    Yeah yeah, I know... you've heard that lots of times before. But, the fact is, it's still true.

    However; I'm going to share with you the special little trick I learned, which helped me realize that my fear was all about me, AND how this little trick made me invincible to rejection.

    Now, let me clarify that...
    I'm not saying I haven't gotten some harsh rejections after figuring out this trick.

    I'm also not saying, by using this trick you'll never get rejections...

    What I mean by being "Invincible" to rejection is that, I process it differently now than how I used to, and I don't see anything as "rejection" anymore.

    Because I have a knack for finding humor in everything I possibly can; combined with having a passion for razzing, teasing, bantering; I treat "rejection" as just another zinger that someone might throw out when you're in a friendly trash-talking match.
    (If that makes sense)

    My attitude is this:
    Whatever negative action/reaction I may get during an approach, I treat as them flirting with me in that razzing sort of way.... that's all. (Or at the most, a simple Sh1t Test).

    If a girl says, "Get lost loser!" My brain processes that as sarcastic humor & I laugh. Then I come back with a comment & my own zinger...

    Something such as: "Haha! WOW! that was COLD! Not bad.... Kinda feisty for a little girly dork." (*wink / smile) "I don't know if I should put you in time-out, or just spank you..."

    Or

    "Ohhh no you didn't!! Now it's on like Donkey Kong, little missy!!!" (*Big smile)

    Or

    "You have such a warm, welcoming personality that puts strangers at ease... I can just tell." (*puppy dog eyes & cheesy, devilish grin)

    Since I see this interaction as humor, I'm able to be calm, relaxed & confident.

    Most guys would buckle & cave in if that happened. (I know, because again, I used to)
    But... a Confident, Alpha Man can remain unfazed & even tease her for being so harsh.

    So, having the right "Attitude" can totally change the way you think & react to situations.... Thus, making you "Invincible" to them.

    Basically you don't care, so you're not worried or concerned about WHAT she's saying... so there's nothing to be afraid of or nervous about.

    THIS my friends, is the same principle you need to adapt.
    I'm not saying you have to treat it as humor like I do... (That just happens to work for me, so I go with it)

    But you need to figure out how YOU can make yourself invincible to those imaginary fears in your own head.

    If you can do that, you'll no longer dread "The Approach".



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    Default Re: Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

    Great post! .
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    Default Re: Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

    Good stuff.

    I think that is the BIGGEST thing stoppoing guys from succeeding. I know it was for me.

    You are so right how FRAMING is everything. If she doesnt like u, its her issue... not yours. If u have a balanced Mindset, it wont matter what she says ... the world will not end. You might feel a twinge of rejection but THAT GOES AWAY. It only stays around longer IF YOU LET IT. The only person who can make you feel bad IS YOU. No one else is going to control that but you yourself..

    What u say is a really advanced way of looking at it. Its like 'not only does your negativity not affect me, but i am countering it with some cocky funny.' You show her you can parry (swordfight) her remark. You are displaying ALPHA qualities in their purest form.

    Great job and sorry i didnt friend u sooner bro. Too many buttons to keep track of lol!
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    Default Re: Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

    Wondrous tip mate. I love it because its so true.

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    Default Re: Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

    This is awesome, I love it haha

    Done right, you could even turn a rejection into a PU! I'm tempted to get blown out just to try it.
    Last edited by KnightTurner; 10-21-2012 at 03:24 PM. Reason: wanted to reword
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    Default Re: Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

    You have such a warm, welcoming personality that puts strangers at ease... I can just tell." (*puppy dog eyes & cheesy, devilish grin)

    this is my new favorite crash and burn saving play i love it


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    Default Re: Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

    Another important thing to remember:
    A girl only gives you a Sh1t Test if she's interested.

    If she's not interested, she'll just look bored & then make a fast getaway the first chance she has.

    So don't mistake the tests as being an indicator of "non-interest".



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    Default Re: Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

    Good Stuff T-Mal! In everything I have read and practiced it all comes down a just a few things on the guys part, and this is confidence and how you handle yourself.

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    Default Re: Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

    I always try to give some type of look. Theyll say something totally mean trying to neutralize you and I just dont even flinch and just look back thinking "Is that all you got"?

    If they are in a group, some girl usually likes to pop her mouth and ruin it for you and I just act like I didnt even hear her then say something and turn my attention away from them, it drives them crazy and usually they change their attitude within seconds.

    One of my favorites, a girl who was a bit sparky(and I ended up going out with) tried to make a scene on campus in a hallway setting. I was passing by to class and was in a hurry, I quickly said whats up..she called me a loser out loud and people were looking like WTF is going on and I kept walking then said "Hey I heard that", looking over my shoulder partially while still walking. Any other dude would of had a testosterone break down and been crawling back trying to get her to take back the comment....fark all that, especially when they are just teasing....dont ever take anything out of context unless you deserve it or are acting like a dousche.

    And as above, they usually say this sh1t and give you the eye like "what are you going to do about it" with a challenging gaze....a shit test.... Ill do something about it and its going to involve her getting neutralized everytime.

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    Default Re: Having the right "Attitude" can make you invincible to rejection

    That's a great tip!!

    Telling her, "Hey I heard that".. gives the impression that you just took it as her being playful, AND that she was being a bit of a "sassy-pants" by using sarcastic humor to get your attention.

    And to keep walking lets her know she's gonna have to do better than that.


    NICE!

    Another response for that particular situation would be to come right out & say to her, "Hey now, if you're wanting to get my attention, that's not the right way to go about it. How about asking me for coffee or a drink instead?" *wink & grin

    Using the role reversal / situation flip on her is a pretty successful way of flirting & building attraction.
    (Seeing how it's usually us guys asking to do coffee or drinks.)

    But I totally dig the way you handled that one.


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