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    Default Probably the worst club night of my life.

    Okay, so it's 3:30am and i'm writing this completely drunk out of my mind so bear with me and ignore any grammatical or spelling errors... that is, if you even give a fark. Now on to the story.

    Okay so I just moved to a whole new country for college, that's Bristol in the UK and the way people do things in general here is way different from what i'm used to. I've only been here two weeks and I decided to go out to a club with a couple of friends.

    We entered the club and the first thing I notice is about 80% of the people there go to my uni. Problem is, I don't really know them, I've only seen them around so i brush it off.

    By the way, I don't really have a problem with aa. It may creep up once in a while but I recently learnt how to leave my farks at home.

    Next thing I do is try to look for sets to open. They are basically non-existent. By this, I mean that there are female groups. Every girl was either already dancing with a guy or a group of guys whom it strongly looked like they already new personally (same social circle). The ratio of guys to girls was ridiculous! It was packed plus moving around was near impossible.

    I brushed it off and decided to look harder and finally found a set. I tried to open them and this is where things really went to shit..

    The music was too loud for them to hear me. Even when I tried to speak louder, it was no use. The music was basically cockblocking me. So i stood there trying to shout the opener and even moved closer and still nothing. It pissed me off. Then the girl I was closer to gave her friends a "why is this weird guy talking to me" look and moved away from me and closer to them. Same thing with 2 other sets I tried to open.

    So I said fcuk it and went back to my mates and we drank ourselves silly!

    I couldn't even say anything clever because she wouldn't hear it either way.

    So my first question is,

    "how do you deal with the music cockblocking you?"

    and in general.

    How do you do club game?

    Second thing I realized was I didn't have any social proof. Noone there knew me and striking up conversations was impossible. Most of the people there new each other so obviously the music wasn't much of a barrier for them.

    I then deduced with my drunken mind that to have the maximum amount of fun at this club, you had to already know enough people, girls especially who can introduce you to more people making the interaction less painstaking.

    Back in my own country, there were always a number of people who I knew in almost every club I went to. I never really realized that this was the reason for most of what little success I had until now.

    In uni, the social circle is key. Which brings me to my next questions.

    "What is the best way to increase your social circle and proof in college?"

    and besides that

    "How do you game college girls?"

    I know it's too general and I have recently finished reading, "conquer your campus" but besides what's in the book. Do you guys have any other advice or gambits?

    P.S. It's killing me I went from feeling like a king in my country to a loser here . hahaha


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    Default Re: Probably the worst club night of my life.

    How slyly avoid cockblocks from the music?take her outside, or just go for the k close without even talking to her. How do you do club game? Get her attention, look for am ioiand go for the k close. Best way to increase social proof?be friendly and pretend you know everybody but in the club I haven't really needed it. How do you game college girls? Depends on the girl, good girls you should be spontanious with, spontanious girls you should be mysterious with. This is all just what I do, and my general rules of thumb
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    Default Re: Probably the worst club night of my life.

    Kino has written some pretty good threads regarding club game that addresses all the issues you had. Look them up, they'll be a lot of help.
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    Default Re: Probably the worst club night of my life.

    Hey,

    I totally hear you. I had to move a lot lately and once across the globe; you are right, people are different! I am originally from Europe, now I live in a rather small town in North America(Canada)!

    One advice would be to build your game around the fact that you just moved. I know, that sounds lame, and don't over do it and don't rely on it forever, but use it for a while.

    I have a strong accent so it is usually really easy for me. After a sentence or two girls usually drop the "Oh wow, you have an accent where are you from?" - This usually leads to them introducing me to their friends and being super interested. If you don't have an accent but you are from a cool place or far away try to build it in the conversation, but don't start with it. (If you start with it, it will make you look douchy and needy)

    "Oh, you are going to University here? Are you originally from this town?"

    Is a good way to find out where she lives and then to have more stuff to talk about and her to ask you where you are actually from.

    Now to your issue of the loud music. I hate this issue to and try to go by it, by talking to girls who are not right at the speakers and by a lot of body contact. Be really close and speak right in her ear. If the music is too loud for this do following.

    Go close to the dance floor and check out the situation. Are there any groups of girls? Do you see any girls dancing on their own? Dudes/Girls ration, etc.

    For every Girl/Guy amount I use a different approach. The easiest in my opinion is when you see 2 girls dancing.
    One of my favorite approaches is the Wingman approach.

    Do you see a guy who seems to be in the same situation as you? Or do you have a buddy who helps you out?

    Alright, first dance a little bit and try to build up Eye contact with your target, (I really like doing this first, because I can usually tell if someone is interested in me or not), then approach her and focus only on her. I usually completely ignore her friend. (Some people might disagree with this step - I wouldn't do this when talking but i think it is fine on the dancefloor)
    Start dancing with her. It is simple as that. Your friend should go straight to her friend. Because the girl will most likely check if her friend is dancing with someone, if she is, she can dance as well. After a while of dancing just with her and you, try to integrate her friend and your friend so you end up in an almost group dancing. Usually you should be able to take it from there. Go somewhere where you can talk.

    Here is another tough but really effective one. - I love this one.
    Approach a girl which you are not too interested in. She should be good looking, but does not have to be stunning. HB7 should do just fine. Now find a HB7 (We call her A) around the girl you are actually going for (We call her B).

    Approach A, while B is not looking and try to start a conversation. Now while listening to A, keep making Eye contact to B. After a couple of Eye contacts you have 2 options either
    1) Hug A and lip "Help me!" to B and hope she comes over
    or
    2) Move away from A and go straight to B

    Either way, you want to tell B that girl A was really nice but you weren't interested but she just didn't want to leave you alone. Now proceed your game with B.
    She will be able to relate, because a lot of guys are probably hitting on her and she will see that girls are interested in you.

    Here another one I described in a different Topic before.
    Walk up to a girl and tell her that you don't really know how to dance and she should teach you. This works best in clubs/bars with music such as Country, where you have a set dance. In case of country this would be the 2-step.

    Now if you are really spontaneous and you have the B*lls to do this you can plant the seed and take it later.
    First you want her to see you and put you in her memory even though you guys never talked. You could do that with some random thing which is rather unusual, for example, walk up to her, give her a hug and keep walking. Super weird, but she will remember you. Now as soon as you walk into her again, you could start a conversation based on that, if she does not initiate the conversation already.

    "What is the best way to increase your social circle and proof in college?"

    I really like this one. Because I had to move so much I had to rebuild friend circles over and over again. The best and easiest and most effect way is joining a team/club or similar. I did that only once or twice but it is a no brainer!
    If you are very outgoing you could talk to people in your class / course. Especially people who struggle with the subject could be your target, talk to them and offer them help later on in the conversation.
    Another one is going out to places other people go. Is there a local volleyball net? Check if you can join a game, or go the swimming pool, try to talk to some people. day game can be used to make friends as well.

    I hope you can take some useful things out of this post.

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    Default Re: Probably the worst club night of my life.

    As far as the early interaction goes when you're approaching & just meeting a girl, it doesn't matter if you can hear each other or not.

    The "words" are not important.
    It's not what your mouth is saying, but rather, what your BODY LANGUAGE is telling her, that actually matters.

    Too many guys are sooooo worried about trying to talk about commonalities & get all kinds of "info" early on.
    Save that for the "Rapport Phase".

    Loud music can actually work to your benefit if you have trouble thinking of things to say, because you don't have to say anything. Just smile, and give off a positive, confident, fun vibe. (This is going to begin building attraction).

    Then, Isolate & move her to another part of the club, or go outside with her for a few minutes. THAT's when you can talk. And by then she'll probably be energized which oftentimes means, SHE will be really chatty & give you plenty of convo topics.


    A lot of Approach Anxiety can be alleviated by realizing you don't have to do a lot of "talking" when you first meet a girl.

    Talking is not the same as flirting... and FLIRTING is what you need to be doing.


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    Default Re: Probably the worst club night of my life.

    "how do you deal with the music cockblocking you?"
    it shouldnt, there are quiet areas of the club

    "How do you do club game?"
    Kino Suave has a manual search the forum

    "What is the best way to increase your social circle and proof in college?"
    Be yourself which should be unique; Be social and establish a great deal of friendship

    "How do you game college girls?"
    Be fun, not clingy; Be direct
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    Default Re: Probably the worst club night of my life.

    Hey ultimateafc,

    I can relate to this. I'm from Bristol too. My main annoyance is the music thing. I'm usually excited to go out with friends to somewhere busy to meet some new, interesting people and have a good night BUT HOW am I meant to talk over music at insane volumes? Most of the venues guilty of this don't even have dance floors. It's absurd. My friend hypothesizes it's to do with encouraging people to drink more, I.E; if it's difficult to hold a conversation and you've a drink in your hand... what else are you going to do?

    But regardless - I'm an energetic guy, I have no problem being appropriately loud & projecting, but I still have trouble speaking at a volume that opens the set rather than a single girl, whom then has her friends cockblock, as I haven't been able to make them feel ok about the fact I want to plow her into next week. It's hard to literally scream at a group of strangers whilst looking composed and in control.

    WAIT A MINUTE! Why don't I just crack out my bad ass dance moves, throw some shapes (mostly thrusting motions) and seduce ladies with raw animal magnetism???

    Well, because I imagine that'd be equally as gratifying as just sitting in the corner and eating my own feces whilst crying, with the hope that a Victoria's Secret model will come and ask me to stop, because it's turning her on too much.

    Regarding the guy girl ratio; I'm also yet to find somewhere that isn't skewed in favour of ladies/gay men. I'm making it my 2013 objective to find more suitable venues.

    I would love to know if you've had any success in finding such a place AND to anyone else reading - any suggestions?

    Best. Relative.

    P.s. I know I could prowl the smoking area but many venues just offer the street as a smoking area and it rains A LOT here. It's less than ideal. But I'm optimistic there's a workaround.

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    Default Re: Probably the worst club night of my life.

    Well to directly address your night club game especially with all of the loud music, this is my advice. When you enter the club you need to make sure that the first thing that happens is that you have a huge smile on your face. Women will both consciously and sub-consciously notice that you are an approachable, smiling guy that looks like he's having fun upon entering the club. I'm in college as well, I can relate. Here's what I do after I've entered the club with a huge smile on my face.

    Get attention from the club by hitting the dancefloor right away and pulling out some funky dance moves, or simply doing something that will garrison attention to yourself. When you see women looking at you, force an ioi by using a strong action, in my case i'll use a big cheeky smile, you can point at them, wave, whatever it is. This will serve a double purpose in that it will be your social proof because people will see you waving or w.e. it is to these hot girls. These are all safe in-case she doesn't react positively, there are so many people in the club that you can play it off as if it was directed to someone behind her. Once a girl I'm interested in has responded, I will walk up, and from the moment I start walking, I will be trying to escalate, meaning I'll look at you, and I'll try to look at her in a sexual way. If she goes with it, and she's comfortable with it, she might get kissed as soon as I get there. If she's not totally ok with it, then you realize that you have to take a little while longer. Slow and tone it down, then build it back up and re-escalate while interacting with her. You really
    get the answer when you escalate and force a strong reaction with your non-verbal opener. Important thing to remember... You do not need any kind of signal apart from the absence of a negative one to approach. All you're look for is a red light. If there's a red light, you stop at the level of escalation you're at..(she moves back, she starts breaking eye contact or starts looking
    for her friend.)

    After you've made eye contact with her, forced an IOI, and walked up to her, I'll open with something like "Hey, how've you been?" loud enough for the entire group to hear(Credit to Gambler for the familiarity opener.) Note, I've never met this girl in my life and I'm asking her how she's been? What does this do? Well for starters, this immediately blows out the entire group because they assume that I know the girl. Think back to the times in your life where you've seen a friend with a bunch of people you don't know, and upon greeting them, the other people in their group back off for at least a few minutes. Same exact principle. so BAM, instant Isolation. From there you'll be immediately physically escalating, make sure to always keep eye contact, triangulate stare (looking from her right eye, to her left eye, to her mouth), slow down your speech, smoooth out your words, and introduce........... ..... pauses when you speak. This will create what I like to think of as a bubble that only the two of you are in, inside this loud noisy club. She's had enough boyfriends and sexual encounters with guys to know the feeling of sexual tension and when it's "On.". Use whatever kiss-close you want from here, and then you're on your own. Don't want to reveal too much of my material. Cheers and good luck gaming!

    P.S.- It's 10X easier to meet girls in your class or through clubs during the day in college, and then pre-game/go out with them to the bars or parties. This will give you instant social proof, and will make women way more receptive to you when they see you rolling through to the club with 4 or 5 cute girls ya diggz. I have about 5 or 6 close female friends that I DO NOT, I repeat, I DO NOT game or try to have sex with. I've actually friend-zoned them, and they are responsible for me getting laid the majority of the times when I go to the bars without even realizing it.
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    Default Re: Probably the worst club night of my life.

    I guess the other members had given you some groovy points on getting attention in the club.

    A club is like a hunting ground. It is your choice to be the tiger (one who hunts alone) or the wolf (one with packs - wingmen). The "hounding" method varies, depending very much on the environment. In this case, I would preferred the non verbal way, using eye contact and lock on, and yes..smile. Proceed to toast her and dance with her a little, so at this stage reassure that she is comfortable (body language). So what does a predator do after it has got its prey? Isolation. Drag it to a remote place and enjoy the delicacy of victory. I am certain that you do not wish your "filthy" act to be seen in the club, so if your hunting failed you could move on to the next target without being called a douchebag.

    Just my 2 cents worth. It isn't the best way but proven to work. You might want to watch the discovery channel and learn some of the hunting skills. Good luck to you.

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    Default Re: Probably the worst club night of my life.

    to avoid cockblock from music take them outside


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