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    Default Deep in the friendzone need help

    Ok. So I have an issue where Iíve known this girl since high school. We had a very brief relationship early on in high school, but ended that quickly and became decent friends after that. Time went on we stayed in contact until freshman year of college where we became very close and have been since then (4 more years, 8 total). Everyone around us always says we should just be together. I have been stuck in the friend zone all along tho. She comes to me when she has problems etc, basically everything define as friendzone stereo type. Since the start of the summer I have started working out tho, cleaned up the wardrobe, and style all that. I have kept my feelings under wraps for the most part. There has always been the underlying thing where she says she is gonna marry me, itís kind of a joke but she says it a lot. I have dated and had girlfriends and what not of which she didnít like most of them, and they hated her and always said she had feelings for me. All along Iíve had more than just friendly attraction toward her but am kind of scared to make a move cuz I have a strong feeling Iíd get rejected. I guess I just donít know how to go about it, but I see her want guys who are jerks to her and it makes me extremely mad cuz I know I could treat her wayyyyy better. I guess what I wanna know is what I could do in this situation???? Because I am deep deep deep into the friendzone.

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    Default Re: Deep in the friendzone need help

    your gonna have to go for it. your the guy so she wont say anything. she wants you to take charge. just be like hey lets have lunch tomorrow and be nice like you look pretty today make her fell attractive to you she might get the hint if your flirting with her
    im on a different level

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    Default Re: Deep in the friendzone need help

    Being friends for so long, this is a tricky situation. You will need to tread carefully and move things slowly. Because of your extended friendship and history (having dated, even for a short time), there is most likely at least a little physical chemistry between you two. Because of this, escalating too quickly can lead to some extreme buyer's remorse and can ruin your friendship as things can become very awkward.

    As for what to do, Hopeful has the right idea in that you should just go for it.However, asking her to lunch is too subtle. You two probably do that anyways. Just be honest with her.

    "Hey, I'm starting to notice you kind of in a different way.. More than just friends, ya know? Our friendship means a lot to me but I feel like this is just something I have to go for, otherwise I'll be kicking myself for not knowing what might happen."

    Because you two have been friends for so long, you can be very direct and just put things out in the open. I wouldn't express yourself as having strong feelings (not sure if you do or not), make it sound like it's just something small, a crush per say. If you make it sound like you have some deep emotions for her that are not mutual, she will start distancing herself from you.

    Best of luck to you!
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    Default Re: Deep in the friendzone need help

    Thanks for the advice. My main concern is I feel like I'm gaining more feelings for her as we hang out and it's starting to become an all or nothing situation almost. And she jokes like oh I'm ready lets date but the way she says it to me seems joking tho she says she's serious... It's tough to read, her lack of showing a definite sign makes it worse

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    Default Re: Deep in the friendzone need help

    Next time she says it, tell her how you feel. Take her up on the offer. She wouldn't be continually saying it if she didn't mean it at least a little. Just say, "Ok, I'm taking you up on that. Next Friday, we are going to dinner together." Or something along those lines.
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